Venus in Virgo man says "lets take it slow as friends"

i am a Capricorn sun, moon& rising Virgo, mars in Aries and venus in sag

He is a libra sun, moon and rising Capricorn, mars in gemini and Venus in virgo.

we been talking for 3 months exactly online and decided to meet for the first time. (8 hour drives away from each other).

when we met the sex was amazing!! lots of sex, chemistry, laughter & clicking good.

when we went home. we went mia on me for couple of days. telling me needs to figure stuff out, he said the distance scares him and becuase i brought up moving closer which i mean down the road of course LOL (i live in Canada and his in the states)



after he "figured" stuff out. he came back asking me if we could take things slow as friends.

usually when a guy says that it means his not into you, but when i looked at that weekend together. i was confused because it was that amazing how much we clicked.



anyways once i said sure i noticed that he msgs me more now. talks more, give me details. tells me random stuffs.



now my question is:::

is this normal for a venus in virgo to do this? want to be friends first? i know they are cautions and slow.

does this mean i still have a chance with him down the road? once i show him who i really am after time?

i really like him and haven't liked anyone like this in my life & agreeing to be friends with someone who lives 8 hours away is different for me yet talk everyday like we are dating.

Posted by simsim88
i am a Capricorn sun, moon& rising Virgo, mars in Aries and venus in sag

He is a libra sun, moon and rising Capricorn, mars in gemini and Venus in virgo.

we been talking for 3 months exactly online and decided to meet for the first time. (8 hour drives away from each other).

when we met the sex was amazing!! lots of sex, chemistry, laughter & clicking good.

when we went home. we went mia on me for couple of days. telling me needs to figure stuff out, he said the distance scares him and becuase i brought up moving closer which i mean down the road of course LOL (i live in Canada and his in the states)



after he "figured" stuff out. he came back asking me if we could take things slow as friends.

usually when a guy says that it means his not into you, but when i looked at that weekend together. i was confused because it was that amazing how much we clicked.



anyways once i said sure i noticed that he msgs me more now. talks more, give me details. tells me random stuffs.



now my question is:::

is this normal for a venus in virgo to do this? want to be friends first? i know they are cautions and slow.

does this mean i still have a chance with him down the road? once i show him who i really am after time?

i really like him and haven't liked anyone like this in my life & agreeing to be friends with someone who lives 8 hours away is different for me yet talk everyday like we are dating.

Hi dear

Well from my experience the one who am dealing with now I like him alot but at first he has put limits between us he wanted to be friends with me, he was calling texting me everyday every hour but then he starred to analyze alot ask questions alot and even he said to me that has feelings for me but indirctily.

Two days back he made me cry he was very cold and rude he said that I don't maintain friendship very well and that am crossing my limits they are rude even if they have feeling for you they will just not show it

Now it's worse he just texts sometimes he don't he is distanced no phone calls and the worse among this all he is working with me.

And even if you just go Mia he will not come and ask about me.

If guys ejaculate it's like the timer restarts at zero. You gotta not make him c'm... Of course that's not common in our culture so everybody's screwed. The gov wants to make everything hard for us. Im on nofap and l ejac as little as possible, and l don't feel a great distance after l've had sex. Not afraid of commitment either.

The best trick is to wait a week or two before having sex...ldk why..honestly!...it just seems to work that way.

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Posted by simsim88
i am a Capricorn sun, moon& rising Virgo, mars in Aries and venus in sag

He is a libra sun, moon and rising Capricorn, mars in gemini and Venus in virgo.

we been talking for 3 months exactly online and decided to meet for the first time. (8 hour drives away from each other).

when we met the sex was amazing!! lots of sex, chemistry, laughter & clicking good.

when we went home. we went mia on me for couple of days. telling me needs to figure stuff out, he said the distance scares him and becuase i brought up moving closer which i mean down the road of course LOL (i live in Canada and his in the states)



after he "figured" stuff out. he came back asking me if we could take things slow as friends.

usually when a guy says that it means his not into you, but when i looked at that weekend together. i was confused because it was that amazing how much we clicked.



anyways once i said sure i noticed that he msgs me more now. talks more, give me details. tells me random stuffs.



now my question is:::

is this normal for a venus in virgo to do this? want to be friends first? i know they are cautions and slow.

does this mean i still have a chance with him down the road? once i show him who i really am after time?

i really like him and haven't liked anyone like this in my life & agreeing to be friends with someone who lives 8 hours away is different for me yet talk everyday like we are dating.

Hi dear

Well from my experience the one who am dealing with now I like him alot but at first he has put limits between us he wanted to be friends with me, he was calling texting me everyday every hour but then he starred to analyze alot ask questions alot and even he said to me that has feelings for me but indirctily.

Two days back he made me cry he was very cold and rude he said that I don't maintain friendship very well and that am crossing my limits they are rude even if they have feeling for you they will just not show it

Now it's worse he just texts sometimes he don't he is distanced no phone calls and the worse among this all he is working with me.

And even if you just go Mia he will not come and ask about me.

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thanks for sharing this.

mine went MIA 5 days because he needed to figure things out. he really does like me & caries.

the only problem is the distance between us. its unrealistic for him to work out. but what i really think is he just is scared and needs to trust me more. only reason why i said yes to friends.

he wants us to be friends first and take it slow.

but i came to a point where i jsut care anympore. i invested lots in him, and he never texts or calls unless i make the first move.

i decided to go MIA for two days and see if he texts/call....and he didnt lol. F that!

yet i can see him creeping me online to see what i am doing..

people are stupid.. NEXT!

I'm a venus in Virgo & if I like you, I will do everything I can to make sure you're good. We like to serve our partners.

I go after what I want. I love a mystery also. I analyze a lot within the first few weeks & I make my decision after that. If I go cold or ask to be friends, I'm not that into the person ??‍♀️

Being friends takes the pressure off of the romance side & I'll open up like friends do to each other.

I don't think this is a venus in Virgo thing for him, I think it's a 'get what he wants & move along to the next' kind of deal.

But I hope I'm wrong! Good luck —

I had to think bank to the very beginning of my relationship with my Libra Sun, Cap moon, Virgo Venus.

It was fun reminiscing since we are at an odd place now. So here goes:

We started as acquaintances with such a spark between us that people thought we were already in love before we even knew it. It started as flirting in September, by March we were texting constantly, we had our first date in mid April and by May he told me that he loved me.

Right after our first date he got cold feet. He told me that he really liked me a lot but didn't know if we should move forward. I think he was scared. I told him that I felt the same. We went forward, full steam ahead. There were no labels or relationship talks. He just said "you're my girl now, ok?" I said ok and that was that.

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Posted by simsim88
i am a Capricorn sun, moon& rising Virgo, mars in Aries and venus in sag

He is a libra sun, moon and rising Capricorn, mars in gemini and Venus in virgo.

we been talking for 3 months exactly online and decided to meet for the first time. (8 hour drives away from each other).

when we met the sex was amazing!! lots of sex, chemistry, laughter & clicking good.

when we went home. we went mia on me for couple of days. telling me needs to figure stuff out, he said the distance scares him and becuase i brought up moving closer which i mean down the road of course LOL (i live in Canada and his in the states)



after he "figured" stuff out. he came back asking me if we could take things slow as friends.

usually when a guy says that it means his not into you, but when i looked at that weekend together. i was confused because it was that amazing how much we clicked.



anyways once i said sure i noticed that he msgs me more now. talks more, give me details. tells me random stuffs.



now my question is:::

is this normal for a venus in virgo to do this? want to be friends first? i know they are cautions and slow.

does this mean i still have a chance with him down the road? once i show him who i really am after time?

i really like him and haven't liked anyone like this in my life & agreeing to be friends with someone who lives 8 hours away is different for me yet talk everyday like we are dating.

if the distance scares him then; look elsewhere.

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yah thats what i am doing, his making me realize he was a waist of my time.

he knew what he was getting himself into and said its only due to distance and that he likes me alot.

yet im always the one to text first. i decided to stop and havent heard from him in 4 days yet his always creeping my social media lol.

freaking losers. im going to stick with my fire sings lol

Walk away!! He has my ex husbands placements, aside from the moon. If they are into you, they don't do that. When my ex and I were dating, it was me that he put an ultimatum on. I had an issue with putting a label on the relationship but once we were together that's it. When they know they know. He can have casual sex and it's just that..



He dated a girl when I wasn't committing to him, he had ZERO interest in her, it didn't stop him from having sex with her and leading her on. She was so upset when he came back to me. So I would say cut your loss!!

that's just my .02

my ex

Libra Sun

Scorpio Moon

Venus in Virgo

Mars in Gem

Cap rising

myself

Gem Sun

Scorpio Moon

Venus in Cancer

Mars in Virgo

Cap rising

Posted by simsim88

...... it was that amazing how much we clicked.

Above is the problem .. the only one you really need to address.

You clicked, yet, you say "we" to imply that he feels the same as you.



this is something women do to themselves all the time, and they're completely blind to it. They catch a feeling and automatically assume it is reciprocated AND they expect the guy to perform accordingly. Just about every single sob story in here from women, the above applies ... the women assumed the guy felt what she felt, when in reality, it was just her weaving a fantasy about being loved by this guy because that is what a dreaming woman wants to believe.



YOU clicked with him .... he did not. At least not on the level you assume ... because IF he did, then he would act like he did, he wouldn't have pulled back from you.



He is acting like a person who didn't click with you ... so let's see if you hear those words and adjust your sails, or just get offended and pissed at the truth like most women do.

Basically he doesn't want a serious relationship right now. If you enjoy talking to him by all means do so, but try to emotionally detach yourself from the expectation that you two will become a serious couple and he'll one day ask you to move closer to him. If you have that held up in your mind as a goal, you'll have tunnel vision while he's keeping his options open.

Maybe there's a chance with him down the road, maybe there isn't. Do not go through everyday speculating about it, instead, keep your options open too and look at the situation as objectively as you can.

Also, if you're confused about why he said what he said/ did what he did, just ask him about it. So many confusions people have can be sorted out with an honest conversation. It may seem intimidating to say exactly what's really on your mind, or asking what you really want to know, but it's probably what you need to do in order to move forward. (& it's something everyone needs to get used to doing at some point.) Honesty is the most effective method by which you can sort yourself and other people out.