Virgo and financial situations

When Virgos through a tough time with money, even tougher than what they are in, what do they do? Recently, my Virgo bf had to shell out a lot of money for his car. We were on a trip and his battery died. We got another one but with another repair already needed for his car he spent a lot to get the battery and wrenches to get it out. He was already in debt and needed to save every penny and I feel like he blames me a little for it.

The story of the blame... though it is more half his fault and half mine. I drove to the next town, we went to see a horse show and everything was fine. We went shopping and went out to eat but when we headed home he realized he didn't have his house keys. We take his car back to the mall that is an hour away in the town we went to. All was fine until the battery light came on and died in the mall parking lot. He spent a lot of money that day, more than he planned because of his car and I feel like he blames me a little because we could have just driven back in my car that was perfectly fine.

These past two days he hasn't text me much, I feel like he needs time to think about everything and I've given him space but told him I'm there for him. I can't do much for him now. We had a similar situation months back when he lost his job for being late too often but he didn't want to break up. I don't want to lose him but he goes through these cold and distant moods when his finances are really bad.

So aside from the story and blaming, how do Virgos deal with financial situations or anything that really upsets you?

Money isn't that important to me when the things I've spent on is worth it. No matter how expensive it is when I need it, I got it. So if I spent money on things that didn't go as planned It really drives me insane because before I go out, the money on my wallet is divided and organized on which will I spent on. That's how it works for me and I dont think other virgos was just like me.



When Im upset I'll just separate myself to the world and live inside my mind. Until I do really need to talk to someone for distraction.

Hope it helps 😄

^exactly

Posted by yupvirgo
He's thinking about his finances not only for himself... but in the terms of how he can maintain his relationship with you if he can't even support himself. Of course, he would also want to be able to pay for certain things for you or support you more. And also, he may not be as communicative now because he's thinking about how he can manage his finances and perhaps.. sadly... if he should keep his relationship with you.

This is just my guess of course, coz that's what I'd be thinking if I were him.

Honestly I agree with you but he still does have a job and I understand where his thinking of the relationship is coming from. He went through similar things when he lost his job but he didn't want to break up as far as I know. I'm not going to pressure him into talking and I'm definitely not going to suggest going out for anything unless I pay for everything. He has said he has been very happy in the relationship and he has shown his affection like Virgos do so the chances of breaking up are very low. So right now I'll let things settle and him talk to me when he wants, I know he'll feel better after a paycheck or two, he only started to come around until he had a new job so... I'll patiently wait.

How old is this man? Does he have his own apartment and bills to pay? Is he employed full time? Is he overindulgent in other ways or frugal? You mentioned that he is in debt....credit cards? Medical? Student loans?

This is a hard one without more information. A car battery really isn't that much money. Having to shell out $ 100 unexpectedly can be annoying but it shouldn't be enough to send someone into such a tailspin. This isn't about money. You are getting an up close and real view of how this man handles stress.

I asked about his age and situation just to determine how stressful this actually was. If this made him short on rent his annoyance was more justified than if he just had to shell out his fun money.

Sometimes it is an ego thing. Men feel like they need to be the provider and being broke can make them feel like they aren't living up to their job (society's views not

Posted by VirgoGent
Anytime I’m stressed out I will isolate myself in order to analyze the situation and formulate a plan of action to solve the problem. I think it’s a great idea for you to give him space and let him workout this issue in his own way. Sometimes we all need a little space and time to be alone so we can digest and come to terms with our present situation. However I wouldn’t recommend going completely silent with him. I would reach out a couple of times today to gauge his mood and to see if he would like some company later this evening. Cuddle time on the couch can often act as a great stress reliever and calm my nerves.

Why do you think he blames you a little for his financial situation? What has he done to make you feel that way?

You said he is already in debt. Is he reckless with his finances?

Yesterday he was very talkative with me, he texted me first and we talked about the hurricane that came our way and eventually he invited me over to his house. I didn't go because I couldn't make it but the whole day and even when he was at work we talked. He was in a very good mood. His car has been doing better and I knew getting some money would make him feel better. This week for him has just been bad but I'm seeing him tomorrow and I'll do what you said and cuddle and show affection.

As for his financial problems I don't know the full extent of it but I would say its very easy to use a credit/debit card. He won't tell me much besides he's in debt with them. I'm not sure how reckless he is, he does make payments on time (as far as I know) but I'm sure after payments are made there isn't a lot of spending room.

I felt like he blamed me because the whole situation with the car battery could have been avoided if I drove instead of him. But then again if he had driven any other time the battery could have easily given out on him and he might have been stuck in a more worse situation than the mall parking lot. He hasn't done anything though I just felt like somewhere he blamed me but I don't think he does at all.

Posted by Deedee86
How old is this man? Does he have his own apartment and bills to pay? Is he employed full time? Is he overindulgent in other ways or frugal? You mentioned that he is in debt....credit cards? Medical? Student loans?

This is a hard one without more information. A car battery really isn't that much money. Having to shell out $ 100 unexpectedly can be annoying but it shouldn't be enough to send someone into such a tailspin. This isn't about money. You are getting an up close and real view of how this man handles stress.

I asked about his age and situation just to determine how stressful this actually was. If this made him short on rent his annoyance was more justified than if he just had to shell out his fun money.

Sometimes it is an ego thing. Men feel like they need to be the provider and being broke can make them feel like they aren't living up to their job (society's views not

He's 22 and currently still lives with his parents, he did have plans to move out but they fell through. Currently still attending school and does have a job. And just credit card debt as far as I can tell.

Yeah spending that much without planning on it on top of the other expenses that day like breakfast and mall shopping it was more annoying than anything. If he feels like he should be the provider then I do understand but I've said to him that I like to be equal in the relationship, he shouldn't just have to support me in anyway I want to support him back just the same with whatever we did. Having one partner solely care for the other isn't fair. It's like paying for the whole bill at dinner, eventually its annoying and very expensive especially when you do more than fast food.

He's better with the money now, at least he had a better day yesterday than today but this whole week has really been tough for him

my Virgo bf treats me wonderful, always taking me out to eat, lets me use his washer/dryer, lets me drive his convertible, etc. I can tell when at times he worries about $ $ ; he gets EXACTLY as the Virgos here say, moody, withdrawn. Knowing how this is with Virgos, at these times I let him know I can be thrifty & not mind at all. I cook at my house, get a movie & have him over for a cheap date nite. He appreciates it,