anonymouslady
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Virgo Completely Dropped Me?
I don't know about the Virgo side, but I would just drop it personally. If someone's pursuing other people, I'm not interested in competing.
Couldn't you just say you're a little confused? Talk about it?
Couldn't you just say you're a little confused? Talk about it?
I think you have better things to worry about. Amiright?
Honestly, if you like him or you see friendship as an option don't try to meet up with him.
He's the one sending mixed signals, let him be the one to Lock It Down, he can do the leg work while you're the one that's been left doing head miles!
Do you!
Honestly, if you like him or you see friendship as an option don't try to meet up with him.
He's the one sending mixed signals, let him be the one to Lock It Down, he can do the leg work while you're the one that's been left doing head miles!
Do you!
Dont waste your pretty little head over a man that is not pursuing you. If he is not chasing you and doing efforts to get to know then dont allow him to rent a space in your head when he is not paying at all. You have better things to think and pursue, be it career, get yourself anything you want whatever.
Posted by ShadowAbsorber
Ughhhhhhhhhh this is why.. as much as I vibe with Virgos more than Capricorns, I'd choose a Capricorn over a Virgo as a lover, because they're genuine and loyal, whereas a Virgo is kind of a player and/or cheater. I hate to say it, but they usually are.. don't take him seriously, ugh, knowing that you're a Capricorn, I bet you deserve way better. Way better, lady! I take umbridge with the statment that Virgos are a kind of cheaters?Don't know who you have known but we can't be lumped into one.We are different it is placements that make us different.So please do not blend me in with a skanky player.I have never cheated on a lover,im not wired that way,and that is dishonorable for those who have honor.
Posted by anonymouslady
Hello, I am a Cap lady. My story is a little weird but I need some advice. I met this Virgo male in a gaming community. At the time he was in a long term relationship but eventually they broke up and he expressed to me she had cheated. He has been single for around 8 months or so now and within that time he singled me out of the community and began inviting me to 2 player co-op only games. We've had a lot of one on one time texting and voice chatting everyday, and we've played a lot of games with only us. I was convinced we were best friends.
This is where it gets weird. The last 3 months has turned into shameless flirting. I actually started to like him more in a "I'm interested" sort of way and have been flirting back. Then, I have found out recently he is pursuing a girl who lives near him, and he has told many of our close friends yet didn't bother to tell me. So I knew everything about his everyday life except for this. He didn't want me to know about her. Bonus weird: Her name is similar to mine and she has the same occupation as me. He actually hurt my feelings some by saying "Don't worry she's nothing like you."
Normally I would have given up because face to face trumps long distance every time. But The day before he apparently asked her out, he told me he'd be in my state in about a month and wanted to know if he could meet me and we could hang out. In the past three months, He's also brought up weird conversations to me about how dating someone you've met online might work out, when he previously had said he would never date anyone he meets online. He also has this weird ideal that I'd be more 'real' to him if he met me face to face.
The female turned him down, but allowed him to take her on a 'lets go as friends' thing. He says he is determined to not get friend zoned by her. My question is... should I even bother? Should I stop talking to him? Should I even try to meet him in real life? I could brush it off and just pretend we are just friends but the whole situation overall almost seemed like he's been trying to get with me over time. So I feel upset and awkward. I've been reading a bunch on Virgos and it seems like this happens a lot?
If he wanted you, you wouldn't have shared all of ^^that. Be sure, when a Virgo male wants you they make that KNOWN and you would have met him. No guessing on your part.
You are gue
You are guessing..and nothing more than a friend from space.
Thanks everyone for the advice. I'm glad I found this place because I actually didn't want to confront him and cause any drama in case he decided to make it a huge thing in front of everyone, but I wanted insight. The situation overall was very awkward when he randomly started talking publicly about her, and everyone in the community who 'coupled' us together or teased us about being close quit talking and eventually left as did I...
I've decided to stop messaging him, and stop being in solo voice chats with him or really play games or do anything with him. I'm also dropping his plans of meeting me face to face, and hope he really doesn't even bother with sending me the gift he kept talking about getting me on his travel.
After taking a step back and looking over it all. I had no plans of sharing, and his overall demeanor of rudeness towards me over another female he doesn't know but 'has a pretty face' makes me think perhaps he is actually very shallow and he only got close to me for similar reasons. I actually feel a bit betrayed as someone who has been close to him for over a year, and am not sure if even friendship is an option. Now I'm only seeing him as someone who uses people. >_
I've decided to stop messaging him, and stop being in solo voice chats with him or really play games or do anything with him. I'm also dropping his plans of meeting me face to face, and hope he really doesn't even bother with sending me the gift he kept talking about getting me on his travel.
After taking a step back and looking over it all. I had no plans of sharing, and his overall demeanor of rudeness towards me over another female he doesn't know but 'has a pretty face' makes me think perhaps he is actually very shallow and he only got close to me for similar reasons. I actually feel a bit betrayed as someone who has been close to him for over a year, and am not sure if even friendship is an option. Now I'm only seeing him as someone who uses people. >_
Posted by anonymouslady
I was convinced we were best friends.
I actually started to like him more in a "I'm interested" sort of way and have been flirting back.
Then, I have found out recently he is pursuing a girl who lives near him, and he has told many of our close friends yet didn't bother to tell me.
But The day before he apparently asked her out, he told me he'd be in my state in about a month and wanted to know if he could meet me and we could hang out.
What the hell is going on here?
Not only are you completely out-of-line, you've got these responders in here acting like you should kick a "friend" to the curb for being a friend.
He has no obligation to you, never has. You like him more than he likes you, and you are holding this irrational expectation against him for not catering to your unrealistic stupid bullshit.
You even have people in here telling you you deserve better?
What the holy fuck is the matter with you? ... did your mother's drop all of you on your heads?
the only thing this man has done is act like a close friend to you .... and here you are acting like he owes you his heart. What a fool, the whole lot of you.
Posted by anonymouslady
He also has this weird ideal that I'd be more 'real' to him if he met me face to face.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This weird idea? lmao
I can see people are starting to get rude now even without knowing me or the story.
When I say flirting I mean he initiated ways to get me alone, ways to get a hold of me outside just the games. He would spent work breaks talking to me and would stay up all night texting me after telling our friends he went to bed, because he said he didn't want to stop talking to me. He changed his once opposed idea on online dating and would ask me questions about how people make it a reality. In fact he'd talk to me about all his problems. We've sent actual mail to each other. He openly started complimenting me, and flirting in front of our friends. People began "pairing" us together and he would boast about it. He want to meet up face to face with me and do a bunch of things together. The list goes on.
Sorry if this doesn't scream "I'm interested" or crossing the friend line to some people. But I was pretty upset when I found out he's trying to date some chick and he didn't want me to know when he tells me everything else.
When I say flirting I mean he initiated ways to get me alone, ways to get a hold of me outside just the games. He would spent work breaks talking to me and would stay up all night texting me after telling our friends he went to bed, because he said he didn't want to stop talking to me. He changed his once opposed idea on online dating and would ask me questions about how people make it a reality. In fact he'd talk to me about all his problems. We've sent actual mail to each other. He openly started complimenting me, and flirting in front of our friends. People began "pairing" us together and he would boast about it. He want to meet up face to face with me and do a bunch of things together. The list goes on.
Sorry if this doesn't scream "I'm interested" or crossing the friend line to some people. But I was pretty upset when I found out he's trying to date some chick and he didn't want me to know when he tells me everything else.
Posted by anonymouslady
.... after telling our friends he went to bed, because he said he didn't want to stop talking to me.
In fact he'd talk to me about all his problems.
..... he didn't want me to know when he tells me everything else.
lol, so let me get this straight .... your delusion is so massive that you actually believe that you know what he tells other people AND you believe he tells you everything.
And you say you know for a FACT that he talks to you about ALL of his problems.
The only thing this screams is ..... you're an idiot.
Its a gaming community. We are in public voice chats when he "goes to bed".
I'm out. I came for help not to be bullied. You have serious issues if you just come on here to make fun of people when they are legitimately upset about something. You seem like a toxic person and aren't doing anything but trying to upset me more about this.
I'm out. I came for help not to be bullied. You have serious issues if you just come on here to make fun of people when they are legitimately upset about something. You seem like a toxic person and aren't doing anything but trying to upset me more about this.
If he told you that he is "determined to not get friend zoned by her" then I don't think his interest in you is substantial. Why would he talk to a person he "likes" about another person he "likes"? Continue to be friends with him if you want to, but I would drop any romantic hopes and/or write him off.
Posted by MiaElixor
If he told you that he is "determined to not get friend zoned by her" then I don't think his interest in you is substantial. Why would he talk to a person he "likes" about another person he "likes"? Continue to be friends with him if you want to, but I would drop any romantic hopes and/or write him off.
This was my issue. He did not tell me about her. I found out in a huge call with friends when he randomly brought it up that he has been pursuing her. From what he was saying I realized he asked her out the day after he asked to make plans to meet me face to face and get closer. He said he was nervous about asking me and didn't want to seem like a creep but really wanted to get to know me better in person. I don't think it matters now. I haven't really said anything on the matter to him. And I haven't initiated contact since I found out and he's not bothered to call or message me like used to daily. So... I don't know.
Posted by anonymouslady
Thanks everyone for the advice. I'm glad I found this place because I actually didn't want to confront him and cause any drama in case he decided to make it a huge thing in front of everyone, but I wanted insight. The situation overall was very awkward when he randomly started talking publicly about her, and everyone in the community who 'coupled' us together or teased us about being close quit talking and eventually left as did I...
I've decided to stop messaging him, and stop being in solo voice chats with him or really play games or do anything with him. I'm also dropping his plans of meeting me face to face, and hope he really doesn't even bother with sending me the gift he kept talking about getting me on his travel.
After taking a step back and looking over it all. I had no plans of sharing, and his overall demeanor of rudeness towards me over another female he doesn't know but 'has a pretty face' makes me think perhaps he is actually very shallow and he only got close to me for similar reasons. I actually feel a bit betrayed as someone who has been close to him for over a year, and am not sure if even friendship is an option. Now I'm only seeing him as someone who uses people.
Tell me...how does one feel betrayed or used by someone they never met? I find it completely dillusional.
Updating this for thanks again to everyone's advice.
I didn't bother to initiate any contact after I found out about this new female. And I didn't tell him I was upset. His daily one on one calls and texts to me turned into two texts over the span of 9 or so days. Tonight in a group call with friends they were teasing us about "being a couple" and he outright said in front of me "let's not do that anymore, I've already changed my interest to someone else now." and then began to talk about how he's still only friends with her but hopes he gets nudes eventually. Which disturbed me lol.
It's the weirdest snap decision I've ever seen. He's not even being my friend at this point and completely cuts me off from anything he can. Being harsh or critical anytime I am anywhere near him. I suppose he did not have the best intentions after all.
Time to move on.
Byyee!
I didn't bother to initiate any contact after I found out about this new female. And I didn't tell him I was upset. His daily one on one calls and texts to me turned into two texts over the span of 9 or so days. Tonight in a group call with friends they were teasing us about "being a couple" and he outright said in front of me "let's not do that anymore, I've already changed my interest to someone else now." and then began to talk about how he's still only friends with her but hopes he gets nudes eventually. Which disturbed me lol.
It's the weirdest snap decision I've ever seen. He's not even being my friend at this point and completely cuts me off from anything he can. Being harsh or critical anytime I am anywhere near him. I suppose he did not have the best intentions after all.
Time to move on.
Byyee!
jfc ... you're pretty fucking dense, considering us strangers in here who knew only a fraction of the situation figured it out.
You .. you had to have him demean you in front of other people, because your mind just isn't sharp enough to put it together.
Perhaps you should work on gaining some common sense.
Posted by VirgoFlirtPosted by anonymouslady
Updating this for thanks again to everyone's advice.
I didn't bother to initiate any contact after I found out about this new female. And I didn't tell him I was upset. His daily one on one calls and texts to me turned into two texts over the span of 9 or so days. Tonight in a group call with friends they were teasing us about "being a couple" and he outright said in front of me "let's not do that anymore, I've already changed my interest to someone else now." and then began to talk about how he's still only friends with her but hopes he gets nudes eventually. Which disturbed me lol.
It's the weirdest snap decision I've ever seen. He's not even being my friend at this point and completely cuts me off from anything he can. Being harsh or critical anytime I am anywhere near him. I suppose he did not have the best intentions after all.
Time to move on.
Byyee!
Your point of failure is:
Failing to confront him about his actions (another femal) to you. So after failing to do so, he knows you'll never survive the worse of it ever.click to expand
I don't believe it's healthy to have to constantly confront someone your talking to or even in a relationship with about them dropping you to hook up with or see someone else. It kind of shows they don't care, and after this I'm pretty sure he doesn't. Plus his ex that cheated on him I guess constantly confronted him and accused him of cheating and he hates her for it. But after all this it's possible it was a lie and he was actually the cheater so who knows.
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by anonymouslady
Updating this for thanks again to everyone's advice.
I didn't bother to initiate any contact after I found out about this new female. And I didn't tell him I was upset. His daily one on one calls and texts to me turned into two texts over the span of 9 or so days. Tonight in a group call with friends they were teasing us about "being a couple" and he outright said in front of me "let's not do that anymore, I've already changed my interest to someone else now." and then began to talk about how he's still only friends with her but hopes he gets nudes eventually. Which disturbed me lol.
It's the weirdest snap decision I've ever seen. He's not even being my friend at this point and completely cuts me off from anything he can. Being harsh or critical anytime I am anywhere near him. I suppose he did not have the best intentions after all.
Time to move on.
Byyee!
He's trying to reject you before you reject him, because he sees your silence as a form of rejection. You have to be very clear with a Virgo man. They're dumb as doorknobes.
Miscommunication lead to this conclusion.
funny tho, he'll be back. Mark my words. He's not done yet.click to expand
The sad thing is I would not have rejected him or went silent if he hadn't revealed that he asked some female out the day after I agreed to meet up with him. It was a major turn off that kind of spiraled into him being super aggressive and no longer interested in even friendship.
Posted by PEITHO
How do you know if they really like you? I don't mean in a romantic way. I mean when it comes to friendship.
Posted by Octoberbaby91Posted by PEITHO
How do you know if a Virgo will always come back?
just wait and see 😄click to expand
You ask the same questions over and over.
They stay in contact with you if they didn't want no dealings with you they would say it.
Yes Virgos do come back often but only to start with the "mindfuck" again and get validation not to start sth for real! As long as she lets him come back he will, use her that is. And yes headgames, "mindfuck" is my word for Virgos. I haven't had bad experiences with them as I know them as friends and family but they're an open book to me but I know their dark side and it's not cute. Destructive, self and others. It's tough on them too, Virgo energy is a bitch if they don't do soul searching and healing/meditation.
And Peitho yes you ask the same stuff over and over with that innocent Bambi-like tone. Gahhh! Must be that Pisces Venus, always looking for validation.
And Peitho yes you ask the same stuff over and over with that innocent Bambi-like tone. Gahhh! Must be that Pisces Venus, always looking for validation.
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Normally I would have given up because face to face trumps long distance every time. But The day before he apparently asked her out, he told me he'd be in my state in about a month and wanted to know if he could meet me and we could hang out. In the past three months, He's also brought up weird conversations to me about how dating someone you've met online might work out, when he previously had said he would never date anyone he meets online. He also has this weird ideal that I'd be more 'real' to him if he met me face to face.
The female turned him down, but allowed him to take her on a 'lets go as friends' thing. He says he is determined to not get friend zoned by her. My question is... should I even bother? Should I stop talking to him? Should I even try to meet him in real life? I could brush it off and just pretend we are just friends but the whole situation overall almost seemed like he's been trying to get with me over time. So I feel upset and awkward. I've been reading a bunch on Virgos and it seems like this happens a lot?