Virgo Girl with Cancer and Scorpio Men- Help!

Single and not necessarily "on the hunt", I've captured the attention of two men. Granted neither of us are technically "dating" yet, but they are in pursuit and we are in constant communication with each other and it seems as if both are trying to develop something with me- but I'm really stuck as to what to do considering BOTH men are considered great possible matches.

The Cancer Guy- Makes my toes curl just hearing him speak. I appreciate his dominance and the way he makes me laugh, he's also fairly good at bringing me off the brink of "critical breakdown." and we have amazing conversation about a variety of topics. He's educated, opinionated, and can hold his own against me, which makes me totally adore him. The cons? I don't know where we really stand. Sometimes he speaks in riddles. He says things like "I don't just want to be friends with benefits with you." and he's managed to somehow sneak into my life to the point where I'm thinking about him daily and checking in on him to see how he's doing. Sometimes though he goes completely silent and seems terse and annoyed, to which I'll just try to back off and give him his space. But the mood swings sometimes kill me, especially when the next day he'll be all chipper and happy, and just as nosy (man he loves being in my business) as ever.

The Scorpio- I've dated a Scorp before and it ended rather flatly. I just couldn't deal with his issues and there seemed to be a lot of them. This Scorp is open about everything in his life (as opposed to the Cancer, whom I have to pry information out of sometimes)and in our first conversation told me about how he used to have a drinking problem, was attending AA, and had issues with his mom. (The previous Scorp I dated had issues with his mom as well) Why do I like him? Because he's actually pursuing me, he sets times for dates, he's insistent, and when he doesn't answer an email or text right away he apologizes and tells me what's going on. In short, he's just more damned considerate and I like that he tells me things without me having to pry.

Both men have trust issues as do I, so it's almost like we're feeling each other out slowly- but the Scorp is more aligned with my impatience, while the Cancer is more in line with someone I could see myself enjoying life with. The Scorp seems "more fun" while the Cancer seems "more stable and well rounded."

So what would my fellow Virgo girls do? Who would you pick and why?

If I had to choose between the two I'd pick the scorpio. I like when a man is considerate and makes time for me. Another quality I like is his openess. It looks like your cancer talks the talk but your scorpio walks the walk.

no virgo girl here but a cancer man engaged to a virgal..we cancers are scared of rejection hence the speaking in riddles. until we find out how the other person truly feels about us we usually stand on guard. when we give ourselves we give ourselves so we take being hurt really hard. my advice is to just talk to him and find out where you stand. i dated 3 other virgals and i say virgo girl and cancer guy are a good match. going to take work but it is worth it in the end..just my 2 cents.

Not a Virgo girl, but a Virgo man.
From my experiences, both read and witnessed, Cancer men are the #1 choice for Virgo woman.
I have never heard of Scorpio men and Virgo women together, prior to your post.

Posted by Rumi
keep both .. too soon for elimination round 😉

yep, too soon

co-sign on this statement

keep them both

Elimination complete, albeit somewhat unexpectedly. Thanks everyone for your advice but on the update front here goes;

The Scorpio and I went on a date and while I had a good time, I can only imagine us being platonic friends. I just don't feel that spark with him. I feel as if I'd be training myself to be intimate with him and quite frankly that's never a good thing. Parting ways, I did the only logical thing I could think of. I gave him a hand shake. Apparently, that's a horrible way to end a date.

Personally, I am still so head over heels for this Cancer man it's ridiculous. Today I came home and signed online asking him why he wasn't in bed (I had spoken to him on the phone while I was at work and he said he would be turning in a bit earlier then usual so we wouldn't get to chat tonight like we usually do). He says he was distracted. When I asked by what, he said "wild boobies" and nothing else- to which I replied "wow, you really could have NOT told me that..." in which he said he was "joking." I don't know if I believe him and really I can't complain he's not my boyfriend or anything- but it seems as if he says or does things just to get a rise out of me.

The other night he called me "baby" which was so weird and out of the blue. We have nicknames for each other but nothing like "sweetie" "baby" or "honey." it caught me completely by surprise. It's so weird how he remembers everything I tell him, my work schedule, school schedule, what papers or projects I'm working on etc. He even apologized for not answering a text I sent him---which was definitely a first.

So I guess I said all that to say, we'll see where things go *shrug*

Nice to see my statistics hold true.

He'll melt your heart, especially with his "Loving stare" 😉

keep them both 🙂

My POV although the scorpio brings out those friendship type feelings in you it's good to have him around to help keep the focus onto yourself and not onto a man like your cancer whom seems a bit immature, unpredictable and not quite ready for anything with you, the way he responded to you is more like a friendly friendship response, if he senses you are head over heels that's the kind of reactions that can sometimes come out of a man, he will start sending you that vibe to slow you down, it's good to have someone else around other than him which will help ease a bit of pressure he may be feeling.

LOL@hand shake....thanks buddy see ya later Hi-five

I would say to test the chemistry... The 1st kiss never lies!

@Tiki- I'm actually quite focused on myself right now, hence why I'm working tons of hours and getting barely 4-5 hours a sleep per day so I can get the GPA up to a perfect 4.0 this semester. I like this guy, we've been talking for awhile- but when the opportunity arises for me to date someone else, I go on that date. As of right now, my main focus is furthering my career and education.

Now then, personally, I find it a little trashy to "keep a guy around" as some kind of ego ornament when you have no attraction to them whatsoever. I told the Scorpio we could be great friends and we very well could be. He's fun to hang out with- but do I want to see him in the nude? No. Do I have any desire to "date" him? Not really. To lie and do otherwise seems more like doing things for the sake of "having a man" then being up front.

LOL! You're right, the Cancer is somewhat immature, but if my reading on Cancer men are correct bullbutter little tests are what they are known for. It's not like I'm banging this guy, moving on would be as simple as not calling anymore. And truth be told, I'm not really ready for a serious hardcore relationship either, were we to decide to go exclusive it probably wouldn't happen until next year when I've had time to evaluate where I am in life and whether or not someone else can fit in it. At this rate we've been just friends for 7 months now and I'm fine with that. Granted sometimes I want more, but then I have a moment to think about it and realize that no, I really don't right now and the thought of being in a long term relationship scares the living hell out of me.

He knows how I feel and I'm cool with that. If he decides he wants to play games he'll end up playing them by himself. C'est la vie, C'est la guerre.

sounds like a business plan



Both are water, so it doesn't really matter .... soon, whichever is the unlucky guy is going to come to the realization that he It because of a plan, rather then because of feelings.

Word of advice??_.


Loose both of them as fast as possible for they are water creatures —emotionally unstable?? sooner or later you will pay dearly for the wrong choices.

Of course if you are under the age of forty, if you are forty or older you personally give a damn for their everlasting nagging and instabilities.

Posted by P-Angel
sounds like a business plan



Both are water, so it doesn't really matter .... soon, whichever is the unlucky guy is going to come to the realization that he It because of a plan, rather then because of feelings.

Sounds like a business plan? How so? Didn't I just say that I do have feelings for the guy? Oh I'm sorry was I not melodramatic and forlorn enough for you?

In the grand scheme of things my advancement is very important. Feelings don't pay mortgages, car notes, or put dollars in an investment portfolio. So as much as I would like to continue seeing this guy and getting to know more of him, I also have to consider where I am headed in life and if me getting into a relationship really is the best thing for everyone involved. We're both ambitious people, and it'd be unfair for either of us to give up our dreams for the other unless we knew where things were headed. Life without planning often leads to chaos and disappointment, though Hollywood and people who read too many Romance novels would have you believe otherwise.

Also had you read more, you know instead of hopping on my junk to make an asinine point with those twitchy typing fingers, you would have seen that I was completely honest with both men about how I felt- so the Scorpio isn't being strung along and the Cancer knows how I feel about him and things are moving along at a mostly comfortable snails pace. That's one of the things I like about him, how grounded in reality he is as opposed to say...grounded in Disney films.

But to each their own eh?

LOL@twitchy

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