Virgo guys and friendships

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Posted by CopperDove
I have a Virgo male friend who I dated more than 10 years ago, for a short time. He says that he still finds me attractive but he knows that our differences mean that a friendship is best, not more. We've talked about having a physical friendship (fwb as people might call it now) but that's too iffy for me and he respects that.
This guy asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him no. He told me I was selfish and that I broke his heart. I barely hear from him now. I tried getting ahold of him, but either don't get a response or its very short.
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Posted by CopperDove
I have a Virgo male friend who I dated more than 10 years ago, for a short time. He says that he still finds me attractive but he knows that our differences mean that a friendship is best, not more. We've talked about having a physical friendship (fwb as people might call it now) but that's too iffy for me and he respects that.
This guy asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him no. He told me I was selfish and that I broke his heart. I barely hear from him now. I tried getting ahold of him, but either don't get a response or its very short.
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It isn't selfish for you to not want more with him if you don't have romantic and/or sexual feelings for him. Painful for him, sure, but no reason to call you selfish just based on the facts. But I understand that if he feels more for you than friendship it would be too hard to remain friends. He'd probably always want more than that, so it couldn't be a true fair friendship.
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Would you be friends with someone who didn't want to date you?
Yes, if all I felt was friendship feelings.

Yes, If I never ever felt there would be nothing between us.

Yes, If I accepted I would not feel much more than friendship.

No, if I felt that there was potential for more.

No, if I was hoping the friendship would escalate into more.

No, if I had any gut level feelings of wanting more.
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Posted by LadyOfRebirth
I don't believe that's all there is to the story.

You used to be here on this board a lot asking about him. Asking what his words and actions meant. I'm pretty sure you confessed you had some sort of feeling for him.
Different virgo. I have an affinity for them. This is one we dated briefly, while I was off again with the other virgo. He moved away and came back for a visit. He has always said he wanted to be serious. I have tried to have romantic feelings, but it has always felt off. He is a really good man though.