confused by Virgo man

Hello, its my first post up and I need some advice.

My mind has been going crazy over this virgo guy. I have tried reading previous threads and its seems like virgo men are a confusing bunch at times.

Please give me some advice 🙂

Well, met him online and we hit it off. We were constantly texting and had at least one call a day.
He flies for work often and we live in different countries , 40 mins plane ride apart.
By some circumstances, we manage to meet up once over coffee and subsequently a date where he planned to celebrate my birthday.
After the date, he had to fly for work and he is currently prepping for upcoming assessments at work.
We are still in contact, but the text messages seems to die down and the phone calls are just about asking what I was doing the next day and how my day was.
I would ask about his too. Not sure if its due to stress with the assessment or rather no longer interested or we simply have nothing more to share.

I sure hope its not the scorpio in me thats being too oversensitive, but I am wondering if he has actually lost interest.
If he has, I would back off, no drama from me, and to distant myself so as to protect my heart.

Please help!

Sounds like he's only mildly interested in you.

I don't know I'm not a psychic to find out what he's thinking.

You're overthinking let things flow its normal for communication to die down a bit after getting to know each other for a while & he has a life just like you do so live it and enjoy the ride.

Posted by Octoberbaby91
You're overthinking let things flow its normal for communication to die down a bit after getting to know each other for a while & he has a life just like you do so live it and enjoy the ride.

Thanks @octoberbaby91. will just let him decide the course of things. shall get busy and running with my own. 🙂

Im a Virgo and I act this way when Im busy, I try to text out the shortest replies. Hes definately busy, just relax and make him chase you. dont over think or over text.

Posted by wishfulwink_
Im a Virgo and I act this way when Im busy, I try to text out the shortest replies. Hes definately busy, just relax and make him chase you. dont over think or over text.

Thanks @wishfulwink_ . Its good to know. been giving him his space cause I don't like controlling every single aspects. just needed to know if I should stop bothering him, and he was just being nice by replying.

Posted by Octoberbaby91
You're overthinking let things flow its normal for communication to die down a bit after getting to know each other for a while & he has a life just like you do so live it and enjoy the ride.

that is the reason why I dont like texting and calling excessively or at all at the beginning....... you know its going to die down because its inevitable and normal...... but your Scorpio planet would need this constant communication and getting to the bottom of things....

so just chill for now and try to answer the questions about your day in a way that it would tell something about you, prepare some funny/interesting/problematic topics related to your work or everyday life...... ask him for advice..... I am sure your Scorpio can retell your daily routine with a passion, so its not boring 🙂 🙂

Posted by SquirrelFromTheNuthouse
Sounds like he's only mildly interested in you.

Reason why it's driving me nuts is because this is the very same guy who blows Hor and cold. But Guess he wants to call the shots..

You need to relax and realize that not everyone worships Workshnu

Posted by Pandora101

Posted by Octoberbaby91
You're overthinking let things flow its normal for communication to die down a bit after getting to know each other for a while & he has a life just like you do so live it and enjoy the ride.

that is the reason why I dont like texting and calling excessively or at all at the beginning....... you know its going to die down because its inevitable and normal...... but your Scorpio planet would need this constant communication and getting to the bottom of things....

so just chill for now and try to answer the questions about your day in a way that it would tell something about you, prepare some funny/interesting/problematic topics related to your work or everyday life...... ask him for advice..... I am sure your Scorpio can retell your daily routine with a passion, so its not boring 🙂 🙂

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Note taken @pandora101 , just didn't wanna be all hyped up while he gave me mundane replies about his day. Guess I would see how it works. The few signs that leave me clueless..

Posted by Damnata
You need to relax and realize that not everyone worships Workshnu

Thanks 🙂

My advice is to not chase him. Even if it takes awhile. I wouldn't initiate contact. Men seem to like being chased but the virgo is a traditional type so they know it's their "job" to do the pursue ing. I would involve myself in my own activities and I would not respond immediately. I'd be breezy. If he's running cold let him be cold. Distance will warm it up.

Lol that's a cool photo Damanta we are the goddess of multitasking I forgot I have an advantage with 6 legs 😄

I know virgos very well -- I lived with one in the past .... they are the sweetest .... very caring when they really like you but very much connected to their jobs as well -- very focused and don't play games -- at least the ones I know. He is just probably very busy but if it gets to you --- just say bluntly... hey I realize that things have not been the same lately ... is it because you are so stressed at work ? is there anything I can do to help you to not stress so much ? if you don't get a proper response to this then I would suggest you back off and give him the space -- then he would realize that he probably hurt your feelings in some way and would come back and say sorry or try to make it up to you 🙂

Posted by Annie1
My advice is to not chase him. Even if it takes awhile. I wouldn't initiate contact. Men seem to like being chased but the virgo is a traditional type so they know it's their "job" to do the pursue ing. I would involve myself in my own activities and I would not respond immediately. I'd be breezy. If he's running cold let him be cold. Distance will warm it up.

Got it 🙂 thank you !

Posted by Aalia
I know virgos very well -- I lived with one in the past .... they are the sweetest .... very caring when they really like you but very much connected to their jobs as well -- very focused and don't play games -- at least the ones I know. He is just probably very busy but if it gets to you --- just say bluntly... hey I realize that things have not been the same lately ... is it because you are so stressed at work ? is there anything I can do to help you to not stress so much ? if you don't get a proper response to this then I would suggest you back off and give him the space -- then he would realize that he probably hurt your feelings in some way and would come back and say sorry or try to make it up to you 🙂

Awesome advice 🙂 he has been very honest with me to date . Different from the Scorpio I was with who was all lies . I Guess besides the stars it's also their personalities to take into account !
Honestly I have always been with a certain type , and he came at the right time I Guess . He differs from the usual types I am with ¬¬ .

Posted by BlackMamba
The Virgo im with was mia for almost a month, true i was also mia as a mirror..but once he took his test (failed yet again)....he has now latched on my like white on rice....

the more he latches on, the more i want to run, and run away with a Leo or scorpio

just for a little while

Hmm why so ? Need the freedom?

Posted by Lambe

Posted by Aalia
I know virgos very well -- I lived with one in the past .... they are the sweetest .... very caring when they really like you but very much connected to their jobs as well -- very focused and don't play games -- at least the ones I know. He is just probably very busy but if it gets to you --- just say bluntly... hey I realize that things have not been the same lately ... is it because you are so stressed at work ? is there anything I can do to help you to not stress so much ? if you don't get a proper response to this then I would suggest you back off and give him the space -- then he would realize that he probably hurt your feelings in some way and would come back and say sorry or try to make it up to you 🙂

Awesome advice 🙂 he has been very honest with me to date . Different from the Scorpio I was with who was all lies . I Guess besides the stars it's also their personalities to take into account !
Honestly I have always been with a certain type , and he came at the right time I Guess . He differs from the usual types I am with ¬¬ .

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Great Lambe.... we just have to always be honest with our own emotions... but in a suttle way... we are selfish beings most of the time and we want what we want but sometimes you just need to say what you think in a nice manner and people respect you more for it... Im sure that lives sometimes takes us to different turning points but its only to help us not to hinder us... Good luck with him and don't stress too much on the signs ... just treat people according to who they are to you .. if they are no good then you don't need them in your space.... let me know how he reacts 🙂

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Posted by Lambe

Posted by Aalia
I know virgos very well -- I lived with one in the past .... they are the sweetest .... very caring when they really like you but very much connected to their jobs as well -- very focused and don't play games -- at least the ones I know. He is just probably very busy but if it gets to you --- just say bluntly... hey I realize that things have not been the same lately ... is it because you are so stressed at work ? is there anything I can do to help you to not stress so much ? if you don't get a proper response to this then I would suggest you back off and give him the space -- then he would realize that he probably hurt your feelings in some way and would come back and say sorry or try to make it up to you 🙂

Awesome advice 🙂 he has been very honest with me to date . Different from the Scorpio I was with who was all lies . I Guess besides the stars it's also their personalities to take into account !
Honestly I have always been with a certain type , and he came at the right time I Guess . He differs from the usual types I am with ¬¬ .

Great Lambe.... we just have to always be honest with our own emotions... but in a suttle way... we are selfish beings most of the time and we want what we want but sometimes you just need to say what you think in a nice manner and people respect you more for it... Im sure that lives sometimes takes us to different turning points but its only to help us not to hinder us... Good luck with him and don't stress too much on the signs ... just treat people according to who they are to you .. if they are no good then you don't need them in your space.... let me know how he reacts 🙂

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Thank you @aalia.will keep you posted !

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Posted by SquirrelFromTheNuthouse
Sounds like he's only mildly interested in you.

Reason why it's driving me nuts is because this is the very same guy who blows Hor and cold. But Guess he wants to call the shots..

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As soon as someone told you the probable truth ... you came back with an excuse, and then backhandedly blame him for wanting control over himself.

A person usually trips up when they are false .. you just have to wait for it.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Lambe

Posted by SquirrelFromTheNuthouse
Sounds like he's only mildly interested in you.

Reason why it's driving me nuts is because this is the very same guy who blows Hor and cold. But Guess he wants to call the shots..

As soon as someone told you the probable truth ... you came back with an excuse, and then backhandedly blame him for wanting control over himself.

A person usually trips up when they are false .. you just have to wait for it.

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Noted🙂 thanks @P-angel . 🙂
My bad for overthinking things.

Posted by Aalia

Posted by Lambe

Posted by Aalia
I know virgos very well -- I lived with one in the past .... they are the sweetest .... very caring when they really like you but very much connected to their jobs as well -- very focused and don't play games -- at least the ones I know. He is just probably very busy but if it gets to you --- just say bluntly... hey I realize that things have not been the same lately ... is it because you are so stressed at work ? is there anything I can do to help you to not stress so much ? if you don't get a proper response to this then I would suggest you back off and give him the space -- then he would realize that he probably hurt your feelings in some way and would come back and say sorry or try to make it up to you 🙂

Awesome advice 🙂 he has been very honest with me to date . Different from the Scorpio I was with who was all lies . I Guess besides the stars it's also their personalities to take into account !
Honestly I have always been with a certain type , and he came at the right time I Guess . He differs from the usual types I am with ¬¬ .

Great Lambe.... we just have to always be honest with our own emotions... but in a suttle way... we are selfish beings most of the time and we want what we want but sometimes you just need to say what you think in a nice manner and people respect you more for it... Im sure that lives sometimes takes us to different turning points but its only to help us not to hinder us... Good luck with him and don't stress too much on the signs ... just treat people according to who they are to you .. if they are no good then you don't need them in your space.... let me know how he reacts 🙂

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