Virgo guys help!

I am a cap girl, he is a virgo. We are dating.

Early this week, without any plan a conversation turned into a discussion for physical intimacy.
I never had it/did it, he said he has done it before. He seemed to respect and admire my purity. I feel instant change in his behavior, I see he is more respectful and sensitive. He seems to be treating me like something he does not want to spoil/break in haste. I liked that and made me like him more. He is a nice person and I would like this to work. I do not want to give him a false impression that I would not like having physical intimacy. I would like to wait, before I jump into it with the wrong person.

Do you virgo guys prefer someone experienced per say or given the choice, if all other things are fine would you go for the person without experience? I do not want to give him false signals.

I would like to wait, before I jump into it with the wrong person.

If he cares about you, he will wait...

I don't care about a woman's experience level -- as long as she's a Lady!

I see it as pretty pointless for a girl to be chaste, and to hold onto this like it's suppose to mean something.


If two people met, married for life ... then I could see the benefit of this.


Guys actually don't want a girl who knows nothing, who is clueless about how to get him off ..... his attraction to a virgin is ego-based, bragging rights.


Couples don't marry for life anylonger .. so this kind of purity is worthless because once he bounces on you, and he WILL === this honor was in vain.


To keep a guy interested in you, you'd be wiser to master your sexuality, rather than use it's innocence as any kind tool to capture him, if your intention is to keep him attracted to you.


You can only use it once .. then what?

Seriously ..... once he finds out your a virgin, he will be Mr. Right, even if he's not .. just to have bragging rights .. so wtf?


How valid is that?



And you even have noticed this .. you said that once you told him, he changed.

That ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ should be a light flashing boldly in your face. Once you told him you are a virgin .. HE CHANGED.


He will now be Mr. Right .. even if he's not .. just to pop your cherry.


Tell me then, how is using your virginity to find the right man beneficial to you, as it pertains to the whole reason why you remain pure? Isn't the reason for remaining so, so you can find a man to fulfill forever?


Think about that.

P-Angel: I see it as pretty pointless for a girl to be chaste, and to hold onto this like it's suppose to mean something.

For millions of boys & girls, chastity is a matter of religious faith. I'm cool with it. I'm also cool with sex outside of marriage (obviously!)...

As long as two people are honest with each other about their beliefs, needs, and desires - fuck whenever you want to...

I am a cap girl, he is a virgo. We are dating.

Wow! A Festivus Miracle!!

::JK! (Sorta)::

as long as two people are honest with each other about their beliefs, needs, and desires
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True. Honesty is must.

What does ego have to do with it?

I felt he was happily shocked. I read on the forum, most v-guys are experienced.
For me it is not a religious matter, it is what I personally value. Not that I will force that on any one, but, that's who am I. He did not seem to have problems with it. In fact he said, with two other gilrs, before doing it, he had to take so much precaution for being safe. It did not seem like a matter of ego for him.

The simple question I am trying to find an answer for is, will he wait. I do not have problems with cuddling upto some extent, but, complete "surrender" of the self is something I would like to preserve for the right one.At this point seems like he is the one. However, I am not ready to surrender and he is not forcing or anything. To me that is something very special you do not share with every tom and harry. Call me old fashioned..

I do not understand ego involvement in it, he is a down to earth person.

Wow! A Festivus Miracle!!

HAHAHAHA

It is his subtle indirect way that touched me..

"The simple question I am trying to find an answer for is, will he wait. "

yes he will wait as long as you need him to....

Given the choice, I don't want a girl with any experience.

Posted by cloud


What does ego have to do with it?

For me it is not a religious matter, it is what I personally value.

He did not seem to have problems with it.

To me that is something very special you do not share with every tom and harry. Call me old fashioned..

I do not understand ego involvement in it, he is a down to earth person.

Well, there's your answer .. he'll wait until he gets it, and then the next time he finds one, you can be #3.


I'm sure you do want it to be special ..... but, maybe, just maybe .. you'll will have the ability to comprehend that this special occasion is only one, if both believe it to be true.


I suggest you go to #1, and #2 .. and ask them how special they think they are now to Mr.Virgo.

"In fact he said, with two other gilrs, before doing it, he had to take so much precaution for being safe."




Seriously .... I think in your position, I simply couldn't wait to be #3.

What value, hell yes !!!!!!!!! Number 3.

I'd bet that would make a woman feel so special, for the rest of her life even .... she will always have this memory of how she waited for Mr. Right to come along before giving him her virginity .. and who knows, maybe #4 or #5 or 6 or 7 might come along one day to ask you about it, and then you'll get to visit how wonderful it feels over and over again.

Posted by DyarStra??_e

P-Angel: I see it as pretty pointless for a girl to be chaste, and to hold onto this like it's suppose to mean something.

For millions of boys & girls, chastity is a matter of religious faith. I'm cool with it. I'm also cool with sex outside of marriage (obviously!)...

As long as two people are honest with each other about their beliefs, needs, and desires - fuck whenever you want to...

I can see if it's about Religious beliefs, though, in my world god is evil, so though it wouldn't apply to me, I can see how people would have this view ... however, in this situation, it appears to me as though this chastity is being used to capture, lure .. because seriously if he didn't marry to keep forever #1 or #2 .. then how hopeful can it be for virgin #3.


Oh wait .. maybe he's been promised 70 virgins to please him sexually as a reward .. in which case, I digress.

P-Angel: Seriously .... I think in your position, I simply couldn't wait to be #3.

I don't consider the Taurus Gal back in college as Piece Of Ass #12. She could very well have been Wife #1 -- maybe even Wife For Life, if circumstances had been different for us...

I don't think it's fair to assume that this young VirGuy is simply looking to score - based on what little information we have at hand...

I do not think he is after scoring.

We are in twenties .He told me the other two girls he was with were not virgins when he was with them.
In clear words, those girls were experienced before he met them.

P-Angle thanks for your input but please do not derail the conversation into something it is not. Are you a virgo?
I had asked for virgo inputs, specifically to know their views on the subject.

I do not want to make this a big deal here, I was just trying to understand how do virgo guys think of this situation. As for the virgo guy I am with, he is a very nice guy by all means.When I said he "changed" I meant in terms of more respect for me. He was already a decent guy any girl would like to be with. He did not change dramatically into something he was not. He seems to understand that part of me and do not think that has made him turn away from me. I see that as a good sign.

yes he will wait as long as you need him to....

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Yes- and that is what I have been hearing from lots of people in my circle.

Thank you all for your inputs.