Virgo Male insight /advise

Ok. Its long so I will outline the scenario:

1. I’m scorp who has a bad crush on a much younger Virguy.
2. We both are in committed relationships but not happy.
3. He has never mention his girlfriend around me . (once I asked because the guy I’m with told me in front of him in form of a question , if I knew he had a girlfriend.) at this point I did not.
4. After that every occasion , Christmas , Valentines , when I ask what he did, he will just say that he was hanging out with friends.
5. Seems the only time I see him is when he wants to jamm on drums.(I play but he also teaches me techniques)
6. He displays all the Virgo signs of liking someone , e.g minimal eye contact , nervousness and awkwardness etc but its cold and distance when we are not hanging out. Never replies to my text or advances. Still makes plans to hang out though he knows I like him.
7. We have had deep conversations and have many things in common
8. He is moving to another country at the end of year.
9. I may be painting castles in the sky but something tells me he does like me…. And its going to sound weird but I want an experience with him (take him to a whole new level _rock his world but still be friends FWB )…(me being a typical Scorpio) it like a needed like a spiritual thing!
10. I have invited him to go in the middle of nowhere and talk and he said shouldn’t be a problem , but he hasn’t followed through…..i just invited him out for the weekend and he hasn’t replied .
11. Should I give this up …..or are there any signs of life in this?

Its more complicated than that, if it was that easy and less hearts involved then yeah... but sometimes there are things in life that are just meant to be experienced , for a higher consciousness , for a meaning and it doesn't have to break any hearts .... its being open minded .and I understand society as a whole is in a mold, in a state of should and shouldn't ... and I don't live that way ... I live ....period! But I can understand where your coming from .

Well I'm afraid I already have , because in my book " cheating " is not just physical , the physical is just giving expression to what you already feel. This is why I think rules are bunch of butter, its best to live and not break any hearts , or at least try.

Well, with that being said. Obviously there are things that have nothing to do with this particular subject that define the relationship with my other. People stay together for children , treaties ect.... lets just leave it at that. Sometimes certain things must be experience and release out of your system and carry on .... definition of integrity has to do with individual perspectives and beliefs.... and everyone has a right to create their own. If that wasn't so, art would be dull and songs would have no meaning.... and also the reason why not all could be create something worth feeling and hitting hard on a particular subject. Now, that you know where I stand , could we stay on subject please xx

(((I have never met a mature Virguy that didn't eventually come out and say whats what...I know personally I assess first and then go for it.)))

That's the thing , He posted something on Facebook on Valentines day , it was silly but it said if you like me now inbox me with a ;* and so I did, that afternoon he arrange a jam session with me for the next day ... but would he wouldn't even comment on the fact that I told him I like him ....if Virgo say what's what they why would he just say ... I have a girlfriend or you have a boyfriend ect..... that is what's confusing.... I don't mind being put in place ....but at least I know what he is thinking 😉

Posted by KitMoon
2. We both are in committed relationships but not happy.
3. He has never mention his girlfriend around me . (once I asked because the guy I’m with told me in front of him in form of a question , if I knew he had a girlfriend.) at this point I did not.
4. After that every occasion , Christmas , Valentines , when I ask what he did, he will just say that he was hanging out with friends.
5. Seems the only time I see him is when he wants to jamm on drums.(I play but he also teaches me techniques)
6. He displays all the Virgo signs of liking someone , e.g minimal eye contact , nervousness and awkwardness etc but its cold and distance when we are not hanging out. Never replies to my text or advances. Still makes plans to hang out though he knows I like him.
8. He is moving to another country at the end of year.
9. I may be painting castles in the sky but something tells me he does like me…. And its going to sound weird but I want an experience with him (take him to a whole new level _rock his world but still be friends FWB )…(me being a typical Scorpio) it like a needed like a spiritual thing!
10. I have invited him to go in the middle of nowhere and talk and he said shouldn’t be a problem , but he hasn’t followed through…..i just invited him out for the weekend and he hasn’t replied .
11. Should I give this up …..or are there any signs of life in this?

2. You don't know that.

3. Of course he's not gonna mention his gf to you! Most quality women will leave attached men alone. Mentioning his SO kills the mood.

4. Re read #3 above

5. Most likely because it's a seemingly innocent activity that won't raise his gf's suspicions.

6. He doesn't reply to your texts or advances because he's in a relationship. He's prolly chilling with his girl when your thirsty ass txts him. What's he gonna do? Whip out his phone and send you heart emojis in front of her?!

8. Is this why your chasing him? Because you know the fling will have a short shelf life?

9. Translation: you want to fuck him...

10. Re read #5 and 6

11. At the end of the day you'll do what you want to do. But if your looking for someone to validate your choice to cheat, that person ain't me.

Just another cunt, slutting around

LadyNeptune..inside your arse, just added the cute nickname , think it suits you. Waste of comment then , because its obvious what I wrote . So validation no, because its my life, insight yeah but from Virgo male not some self righteous female . Thanks for the go anyways xx :*

"angel, funny I used to be exactly like that , stuck on my own arse like my butter didn't stink , and you know what happened? what I thought I never could do happened ! Wow major perspective shift . Bit hey.... can't judge you and your cute little angel wings. 🙂

Things is I dont care, so back to the subject in hand ...🙂

We all are addicted to something that takes the pain away 😉

Posted by KitMoon
LadyNeptune..inside your arse, just added the cute nickname , think it suits you. Waste of comment then , because its obvious what I wrote . So validation no, because its my life, insight yeah but from Virgo male not some self righteous female . Thanks for the go anyways xx :*

Resorting to name calling is the definition of maturity. Smh.

Posted by KitMoon
Ok. Its long so I will outline the scenario:

1. I’m scorp who has a bad crush on a much younger Virguy.
2. We both are in committed relationships but not happy.
3. He has never mention his girlfriend around me . (once I asked because the guy I’m with told me in front of him in form of a question , if I knew he had a girlfriend.) at this point I did not.
4. After that every occasion , Christmas , Valentines , when I ask what he did, he will just say that he was hanging out with friends.
5. Seems the only time I see him is when he wants to jamm on drums.(I play but he also teaches me techniques)
6. He displays all the Virgo signs of liking someone , e.g minimal eye contact , nervousness and awkwardness etc but its cold and distance when we are not hanging out. Never replies to my text or advances. Still makes plans to hang out though he knows I like him.
7. We have had deep conversations and have many things in common
8. He is moving to another country at the end of year.
9. I may be painting castles in the sky but something tells me he does like me…. And its going to sound weird but I want an experience with him (take him to a whole new level _rock his world but still be friends FWB )…(me being a typical Scorpio) it like a needed like a spiritual thing!
10. I have invited him to go in the middle of nowhere and talk and he said shouldn’t be a problem , but he hasn’t followed through…..i just invited him out for the weekend and he hasn’t replied .
11. Should I give this up …..or are there any signs of life in this?

Wtf

Sounds like a guy that's complaining about his woman to a girl he sees as a buddy. You screw him and you're screwing yourself over.

Hoe fo sho.

The peanut gallery is right, you don't care about him, your boyfriend, or the unsuspecting GF. Being currently unhappy in your relationship does not validate spreading it for the first thing that comes sniffing. You are enabling behavior that will cause collateral damage, as if what you do together will never see the light of day.

Newsflash, the truth ALWAYS finds it's way out of the box, in the most unsuspecting way, just in time to bite you on the ass. Then you have the brass knuckle balls to ask other people to validate your choice to be a shitty person.

I hope your man finds the woman of his dreams, nails her, loses his heart and mind enough to leave you. People deserve better.

Would you be ok if.your man was lusting after another woman, bcuz he can't stand being with you anymore,.so he has to release his pain?

Sorry for the late reply, had a really nice workout at the gym..... feeling lush!
@Neptunelady, I can say the same for judgement, a closed mind is a small mind
@fiercemind @genie quite interesting your labels as I have never cheated in my life ....but find myself in this new predicament .and I'm actually exploring it and having fun with it.... couldn't someone must chat and share and experience without having to disclose all the butter that leads to that experience , that would actually explain or how we say ...make more sense?


@greentea, my man did, and I took him back for the sake of our children. So been on the other side, but life is too short .(been together 10years) Š

@sensitiveblue...thought of that and also the fact that he has not put me in my place.... if I dont like someone that is making advance on me I would say , thanks but I would like to be friends ect... I would just feel uncomfortable arranging meetups if I knew someone liked me but I didn't... but that's just me ....

Really, that's not what Virgo man @Ixion120 says ......:-P

Posted by KitMoon
Sorry for the late reply, had a really nice workout at the gym..... feeling lush!
@Neptunelady, I can say the same for judgement, a closed mind is a small mind
@fiercemind @gennie quite interesting your labels as I have never cheated in my life ....but find myself in this new predicament .and I'm actually exploring it and having fun with it.... couldn't someone must chat and share and experience without having to disclose all the butter that leads to that experience , that would actually explain or how we say ...make more sense?


@greentea, my man did, and I took him back for the sake of our children. So been on the other side, but life is too short .(been together 10years) Š

So is this mid-life crisis for you? Regardless of how exciting it feels, and pretty much everyone else here agrees, playing around with a man in a relationship only reflects negatively on you. If one of your children is a daughter, what example do you want to leave for her? Will you tell her that her boyfriend's/husband's side piece is a decent human being and she shouldn't feel hurt that another woman would poach just to make herself feel good? Will you tell her to let herself be cheapened for the thrill of forbidden fruit?

Will you advise your son to go off and "experience" FWB when your daughter and law and grandchildren are at home waiting for dad? You've said that you don't want to break any hearts. Everyone else is saying your path is going to leave nothing BUT broken hearts and deeply offended feels.

since you just want to hear what you want.. go. go try fuck your daylights out of him and get branded whatever it is you are. You sleep in the bed you make. Provided he is willing to sleep in it too.

There are other ways besides wanton 'forbidden' sex to experience thrill and adrenaline rushes.

Posted by KitMoon
@Neptunelady, I can say the same for judgement, a closed mind is a small mind

You just spilled your personal details on an open forum on the Internet. Your inviting judgment.

This has to be a fake post. I can't believe someone is this ignorant.

You have children with the current boyfriend? —


This is fake trolling. No way someone is this much of a selfish daft "see ya next Tuesday" and who the fuck gets lush at the gym?

Mid life crisis, with a little payback on cheating husband, he would be worth it I guess. :/