BadGalVirgo
@BadGalVirgo
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Virgo Men
Yeah my Virgo is JUST like that, I just fall back.
Virgo men tend to show things different than most men. He may just show you by doing little things.
I am very open with how I feel and I noitced that, that pushes my virgo guy away. When I express verbally, it would leave him lost for words. He is more hands on and just show his interest in different ways. So I just learned to let him show me with the little things that he may do.
Virgo men tend to show things different than most men. He may just show you by doing little things.
I am very open with how I feel and I noitced that, that pushes my virgo guy away. When I express verbally, it would leave him lost for words. He is more hands on and just show his interest in different ways. So I just learned to let him show me with the little things that he may do.
You do know that if you're having sex early with a man in your relationship, you are attracting him on the "physical" sense but not the emotional?
In other words, for men to connect with a woman to have a deep, meaningful relationship, you need emotional connection. Physical connection gets the sparks flying and certainly increases our attraction level. But over time, attraction levels fade; emotional connection is what keeps men in real relationships.
Add to that, every time you have sex with him, your body is releasing the hormone Oxytocin, which is known as the "bonding" hormone. In men, each time they get close to a woman, they also have a release in Oxytocin. However, unlike the positive effect it has on a woman, on a man, its a negative effect. It actually lowers testosterone, which in turn, makes the man want to pull away from you to re energize and increase his "T" levels again.
I'm not saying your relationship with this guy can't work. The reality is, however, like many women who have sex early on with a guy, you're making it more difficult to ensure your relationship develops the "emotional" connection you need for a long term, fulfilling relationship.
How do you attain the "emotional" connection with a man? On other levels including your positive energy, your personality, your ambitions, your interests, your desires, your feminine energy. When a man "feels" that you are unique and special and you share some common interests, he will feel that connection.
Women fall in love very easily with a man after having sex. Men don't fall in love that way. They can have sex with any woman and it's just sex.
I wish you luck. Just some legit things to consider, which can definitely affect your relationship. If you remove the sex for a while, this would definitely give you a better idea of where your relationship stands with him and how he really feels about you. If he pulls away for some time, he'll think about how he really feels about you. He'll come back if he values you and not just the physical aspect.
In other words, for men to connect with a woman to have a deep, meaningful relationship, you need emotional connection. Physical connection gets the sparks flying and certainly increases our attraction level. But over time, attraction levels fade; emotional connection is what keeps men in real relationships.
Add to that, every time you have sex with him, your body is releasing the hormone Oxytocin, which is known as the "bonding" hormone. In men, each time they get close to a woman, they also have a release in Oxytocin. However, unlike the positive effect it has on a woman, on a man, its a negative effect. It actually lowers testosterone, which in turn, makes the man want to pull away from you to re energize and increase his "T" levels again.
I'm not saying your relationship with this guy can't work. The reality is, however, like many women who have sex early on with a guy, you're making it more difficult to ensure your relationship develops the "emotional" connection you need for a long term, fulfilling relationship.
How do you attain the "emotional" connection with a man? On other levels including your positive energy, your personality, your ambitions, your interests, your desires, your feminine energy. When a man "feels" that you are unique and special and you share some common interests, he will feel that connection.
Women fall in love very easily with a man after having sex. Men don't fall in love that way. They can have sex with any woman and it's just sex.
I wish you luck. Just some legit things to consider, which can definitely affect your relationship. If you remove the sex for a while, this would definitely give you a better idea of where your relationship stands with him and how he really feels about you. If he pulls away for some time, he'll think about how he really feels about you. He'll come back if he values you and not just the physical aspect.
i wouldn't listen to a woman on this topic.
Posted by Curiousram
Yeah don't push it just let it happen hun, if you push it your gunna push his ass away. Virgo men are very different with love and also players. I'd say its him hinting just let him come to terms with it. Also how long have u guys been talking?
I meet him in may at the gym... He wanted sex very soon but I pumped the breaks and made him wait about almost 2 months... After sex we got really heavy and us would spend the night with him nightly... Well, he had an ex that could sense his new love interest (Me) and she is a pisces... Well she calls my phone with drama and I don't entertain her... She then made up a bunch of lies and went back to him and said I said a lot of things I didn't.... Since then, we still talk everyday and we still go out but he is more distant and weary than he was before... When he believed his ex over me I didn't call or text him for 4 days... When I finally did call him he seemed so happy to hear from me and said he was never mad and kind of brushed it under the rug... He is so vague with his responses but always calls me and texts me and always responds to me..
the crazy virgo women
Posted by Curiousram
Yeah don't push it just let it happen hun, if you push it your gunna push his ass away. Virgo men are very different with love and also players. I'd say its him hinting just let him come to terms with it. Also how long have u guys been talking?
Your Virgo lover isn't a player. He may remind you of someone testing the ice on a frozen lake; he's going to take it very slowly. He's methodical and logical. He has to make sure he's not going to fall through the ice into deadly cold waters. He doesn't like being exposed emotionally, so he must be confident you're worth the effort and emotional risk.
If you're his partner, you may likely begin to find him:
??Suddenly critical of things about you that he previously found unique and enticing
??Difficult to live with
??An ardent perfectionist
Try not to hate him. Virgo simply can't help himself; he's a perfectionist. It's just how he's wired. So now you'll have the choice to either endure and overlook his constant critical analysis of your faults or leave him.
Posted by tizianiPosted by gemini64
In other words, for men to connect with a woman to have a deep, meaningful relationship, you need emotional connection.
I disagree. To connect with a man you just have to look the best you can, cater to his ego and be relatively easygoing to be around i.e. hopefully be yourself
Of course, it helps if he's mature enough to handle that...
... Which I doubt is the case here, since he let his ex-girlfriend get in touch with you, OP. I wouldn't just overlook that if I were you.
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I did and as the virgo I am... I know that I shouldn't have so easily... I punished him by ignoring him for 4 days... But we argued and he turned it around on me... Saying how he couldn't trust ME!?!.... I still like him and it seems we have moved past it but... You guys are now making me wonder if we moved past it because we moved past it on his terms ... And, thus making him manipulative... Which for virgo women is a no no... You guys have me thinking here... My feelings are already involved to... This sucks.
Posted by tizianiPosted by gemini64
In other words, for men to connect with a woman to have a deep, meaningful relationship, you need emotional connection.
I disagree. To connect with a man you just have to look the best you can, cater to his ego and be relatively easygoing to be around i.e. hopefully be yourself
Of course, it helps if he's mature enough to handle that...
... Which I doubt is the case here, since he let his ex-girlfriend get in touch with you, OP. I wouldn't just overlook that if I were you.
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Yea my question is how DID the ex get your info? That's huge in my book. Had it happen when I was in my 20's...found out the ex wasn't really an ex.
Lol @ cater to his ego, really now? 😛 is it really that easy? Fence answers NOT allowed!
funny how we were seeing pisces men around the same time and now virgo men! i am completely smitten with this virgo guy too.. definitely feels like i'm getting a taste of my own medicine... i could see in many ways that we are reflections of each other... have i really been such a pain in the ass to my past partners? you can cut the tension with a knife whenever we message each other... as if we hold back a lot and afraid of what the other will think so we are super careful about what we say through text... consequently LOTS of emojis are involved haha. BUT when we're together physically, everything just gels and the world makes sense....
in your case as well, he's probably just as wary and perplexed as you are with him. sure you say you are open to him but there's still that air of being closed off... as in you "hide it well". but definitely with the ex in the picture... huge red flag. have you guys discussed her at all?
in your case as well, he's probably just as wary and perplexed as you are with him. sure you say you are open to him but there's still that air of being closed off... as in you "hide it well". but definitely with the ex in the picture... huge red flag. have you guys discussed her at all?
Posted by justagirlPosted by tizianiPosted by gemini64
In other words, for men to connect with a woman to have a deep, meaningful relationship, you need emotional connection.
I disagree. To connect with a man you just have to look the best you can, cater to his ego and be relatively easygoing to be around i.e. hopefully be yourself
Of course, it helps if he's mature enough to handle that...
... Which I doubt is the case here, since he let his ex-girlfriend get in touch with you, OP. I wouldn't just overlook that if I were you.
Yea my question is how DID the ex get your info? That's huge in my book. Had it happen when I was in my 20's...found out the ex wasn't really an ex.
Lol @ cater to his ego, really now? 😛 is it really that easy? Fence answers NOT allowed!click to expand
Apparently from his phone... Of course he gave me this long story of how his brother let her in his home without him knowing and she got the phone... Sounded and still sounds like a load of BS to.. I think I'm just going to call it off guys. It's just really fucked up because this ALWAYS happens to me guys... I am not kidding when I say this... I just may be too nice and a little naive thinking that all ppl are as genuine as me .
sit down and talk to him about this! don't call it off because you know darn well you don't want it to end and you'll have a moment of weakness and come back to him. i am a libra venus too 😉
Posted by Bonsavirgo
Your Virgo lover isn't a player. He may remind you of someone testing the ice on a frozen lake; he's going to take it very slowly.
Perfect summation right there^^^^ lol. Good one.
Posted by bloodflood
sit down and talk to him about this! don't call it off because you know darn well you don't want it to end and you'll have a moment of weakness and come back to him. i am a libra venus too 😉
Talk to him how? My feelings have already been hurt at this point. Today is his birthday and yesterday I texted him early to set a time to give him the things that I thought so highly of him to get FOR him... And, he no shows. NO SHOWS. Like I said every since that conflict with his ex he has been sooooo different... Setting last minute plans and not calling when he said he would... Like he doesn't care so why should I?.... I'm a full time student and he knows this... His excuse for me not coming was... "Don't you have class in the morning, don't you have to get up early"?.... I think from giving in to him after those 4 days and he was COMPLETELY wrong!! He has the inclination that I will accept anything to be with him... And, I like him but I couldn't be with someone like that who manipulates and lies. I could talk to him but if he knew better he wouldn't be doing it in the first place... So at this point it's pointless. He is 28, I am 24... And, the childish ex who called my phone was 32!!!! It's just all childish to me... And, I am really beautiful inside and out and I just plain don't deserve this... I love to come here because you guys give honest, FRANK opinions and sometimes the truth is hard to swallow. You guys basically just said to me what I already felt but refused to accept.... Lol... So should I just disappear? Tell him why? Would he even care is the question. I now feel like he tried to get over on me... Thus, making me more eager to have the last laugh... And, us Virgo's always have the last laugh. This happened with me and another male virgo.... He played me and has been crying for me back every since _??
Posted by tiziani
Lol JAG, it is actually. I get the feeling it's disappointingly simple for many women when the truth is revealed.
I've been in some really bad relationships with some really great women (great as individuals, just terrible together). Any time I asked myself, why the hell did I stay around for that so long? The truth is they got me hooked by playing up to my ego so well. I was a sucker for verbal praise 😄
Ask Damnata about it, she knows a lot!
I was being cheeky! 😄 I think many forget how easy things can be! Sadly, when women get into their heads, they make things difficult when it doesn't need to be!
Advise to the OP, don't overthink things- easier said than done, but listen to yourself about this, not what everyone else says. Only you know what's going on between you and him.
Posted by BadGalVirgo
Also, if he does how can I make him more comfortable to be open with how he feels? What will make a virgo man chose one woman over the others??
Can anyone make a Virgo do anything? Better question, why would you want to make anyone do anything vs letting it naturally progress as it should?
Good luck with that.
Posted by BadGalVirgo
He plays me music all the time about relationships and love songs and songs about a man choosing a woman... Is that his way of hinting to me how he feels?click to expand
P.S. The worse thing a woman can do is jump into the fantasy a man is creating (via impressive words, music, discussion about a/his future) when he hasn't explicitly stated he sees you standing there with him. That's how they end up playing themselves then want to cry "he led me on" when the man did no such thing.
Posted by BadGalVirgoPosted by Curiousram
Yeah don't push it just let it happen hun, if you push it your gunna push his ass away. Virgo men are very different with love and also players. I'd say its him hinting just let him come to terms with it. Also how long have u guys been talking?
I meet him in may at the gym... He wanted sex very soon but I pumped the breaks and made him wait about almost 2 months... After sex we got really heavy and us would spend the night with him nightly... Well, he had an ex that could sense his new love interest (Me) and she is a pisces... Well she calls my phone with drama and I don't entertain her... She then made up a bunch of lies and went back to him and said I said a lot of things I didn't.... Since then, we still talk everyday and we still go out but he is more distant and weary than he was before... When he believed his ex over me I didn't call or text him for 4 days... When I finally did call him he seemed so happy to hear from me and said he was never mad and kind of brushed it under the rug... He is so vague with his responses but always calls me and texts me and always responds to me..click to expand
How did she get your number? I'm curious.
^^^Never mind
Posted by BadGalVirgo
Apparently from his phone... Of course he gave me this long story of how his brother let her in his home without him knowing and she got the phone... Sounded and still sounds like a load of BS to..
Posted by PhoenixRising
^^^Never mind
Posted by BadGalVirgo
Apparently from his phone... Of course he gave me this long story of how his brother let her in his home without him knowing and she got the phone... Sounded and still sounds like a load of BS to..click to expand
Yea... Great job catching that.
Posted by BadGalVirgoPosted by PhoenixRising
^^^Never mind
Posted by BadGalVirgo
Apparently from his phone... Of course he gave me this long story of how his brother let her in his home without him knowing and she got the phone... Sounded and still sounds like a load of BS to..
Yea... Great job catching that.click to expand
#MisdirectedButthurtFail
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But, when I ask him if he likes me he just smiles and says "I'm cool" and he doesn't talk like that...
I'm a virgo to, but I am verrrrry outgoing and more open than he...
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I'm crazy for him and I hope he is crazy for me. I want him all to myself... _—_??_ ... And, I want him to have all of me to.
He plays me music all the time about relationships and love songs and songs about a man choosing a woman... Is that his way of hinting to me how he feels?