Virgo men born on a Libra cusp?

32 yrs old Gem, met 34 yrs old Virgo 8 mts ago at a business luncheon. Ive never had much interest in Astrology, but I still knew he was a Virgo from the very first look: Tall figure, pleasant and quiet baby face, red hair & beautiful brown eyes, veiled eyelids, good sense of humor, punctual and organized, crazy about tech gadgets, very nice personality, etc. etc. He was likable but I was recovering from a recent breakup so had nothing in mind. In the next 5-6 mts we kept a mild and formal communication, a few emails and phone calls only. All business related of course, but it still took some patience because he had this trait of not replying for a few weeks and then returning in his usual gentle style and except slightly mentioning that he's been busy, behaving as nothing has happened.

Then one day we run into each other at a party, where he was posing as a loner so I invited him for a drink and we talked about an hour. There I started to grow interest in him. We exchanged phone numbers and started messaging each other. He told me that he moved into the town last year, and since then he was living alone but I did not ask if he had a GF or was seeing someone. Last week we met again for a project group meeting (we work for separate companies which have just signed a 1 year partnership contract) where I sensed from his looks that he was also interested in me. After the meeting he said he wanted to see me again soon and we agreed to go for a coffee sometime next week which we had to cancel due to the conflicts in our schedules both.

I think I'll meet him before mid April and although I have heard that Virgo men requires time & effort, I am willing to get to know him and explore. I have once had a brief relationship with a Virgo (less than a year) but he was born at the end of August and had a much reserved character than this one. He was not into music or clubbing for instance. This guy is much more social which fits with me fine. So I am just wondering if late September Virgos are a better match for us Geminis?

decan will tell you about late september virgos lol

So I am just wondering if late September Virgos are a better match for us Geminis?

In theory, no Virgo is a good match for a Gemini, but I would think a SEPT Virg would come closer to it than a AUG one.

I'm on the Libra Cusp, and I'm more "sociable" and "emotionally expressive" than most of the other Virgos I know. BUT, even though I enjoy talking to GEMs, I can't imagine being romantically involved with one - y'all are too flighty & fickle for me to take seriously...

If y'all do make the effort, you'll find (if he's like me): Stubborn about a few things, but eager to please about lots more; sometimes quiet / reserved, but not shy; organized, but not OCD about it; LONG love-making sessions, with lots of sexy talk; does lots of "little things" for you - not Big Hot Romantic Harlequin Romance Gestures - but nice if you notice...

I have another question:

How should I approach him next time I see him? What should I talk about? Should I stay close to him when talking or keep some distance? Should I ask about his family and past or should I stick to a light chat instead? Should I drop some more hints? Make him laugh or fascinate him with my hobbies, knowledge on certain subjects, etc.? If I look too much interested would that be a turn off or a turn on? What would make him intrigued about me?

Thanks All!

Ok I've seen him again today... for business. He was nice as usual, and had this beautiful gaze in his eyes, but he did not walk me to the door after our meeting and I found this strange. On the way back, I gave him a call saying that I forgot to ask a few things, and when I am finished, I asked him if he was okay, because he did look a bit tired and sleepless to me. He just smiled at that and said he was indeed went to bed late last night.

Also, at one minute in the meeting, he had complained that he was not able to find a good dry cleaner in town, so when I got home I've texted him some places that I knew. I said "your clothing and grooming is great I think, but you may still like to try some of these places out 🙂". He got the message but did not thank me back! Now isn't this a bit rude? Or does it mean that sending two caring messages a day is already too much? At this point I am just being friendly and trying to know him better. So I am constantly creating excuses to chat with him but obviously it is not paying well. Should I sit back and wait him to contact/ notice me instead? Don't Virguys like to be pursued??

No heavy pursuing. Lot's of freedom and space for the Virguys!

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..I got home I've texted him some places that I knew. I said "your clothing and grooming is great I think, but you may still like to try some of these places out 🙂". He got the message but did not thank me back! Now isn't this a bit rude? Or does it mean that sending two caring messages a day is already too much? At this point I am just being friendly and trying to know him better. So I am constantly creating excuses to chat with him but obviously it is not paying well. Should I sit back and wait him to contact/ notice me instead? Don't Virguys like to be pursued??

yes that was too much.
i can be rude by not responding..but only when i am trying to hint that i'm not interested.. or sitting back to analyze

Posted by gemmygem
! I am constantly creating excuses to chat with him but obviously it is not paying well. Should I sit back and wait him to contact/ notice me instead? Don't Virguys like to be pursued??

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constantly trying to get in touch with him will turn him off. he knows you're chasing him. for now,stop initiating contact. yes, virgo men want to be the pursuer

lol

applemint_fv:

"yes that was too much.
i can be rude by not responding..but only when i am trying to hint that i'm not interested.. or sitting back to analyze"


Hmm, then maybe it did not do any harm at all??

'cause I want him to know that I AM interested. Confusion is not good for me. If what he's tryin to tell me he's not interested, this way I'll have my answer very soon.

In case he's analyzing, that's even better since analyzing will make him want to have more information (to make a better decision) so eventually he'll come back and do something to collect this information.

Any ways, I'd rather not contact him for at least a week and see...

thanxxx!!!

BTW:

Yesterday in the meeting, we were 11 people in the room and all of us were in the middle of a very heated dicussion. At one point, he calmly raised and said "let me write those down", so he went to the board and started MAKING A LIST! I was like "O Virgos!!" After he wrote a few things, he took a step back, looked at his list and did not like it much, because they were not on a straight line, so he ERASED everything and started over! As he was doing this, he was completely shut down to the discussion in the room and it was like the most importing thing in the world for him.

I just love Virgos!

Shaks:

"Virgos are very aware of emotional manipulation and once we figure at a certain moment that someones expecting an over-the-top emotional response from us..we shut off and put the blankest face you could ever imagine.."


I guess I could not express myself properly. This is exactly the reason that I said "I want him to know"... I do not like emotional manipulation, mind games, push and pull stuff. I always leave my cards open.

I like to show that I care, because I do care, and as long as I am honest and constant and not very pushy I believe he'll have no reason to shut off (or in case he did for a while, not to shut off for good!)

I'll give him all the time and space he needs, and I'll take it easy, no worries!!

Guys, I forgot to mention that I've added him to my MSN two weeks ago (he accepted immediately and asked me about some details in my profile). Last Wednesday evening I was there when he showed up. I was about to leave so I did not want him to think that I went offline the minute he's there so I just said "Hi, What's up" and we started chatting. When the subject came to work he asked if he could call me on the phone. I seemed hesitant, I said "ok but it's late and I don't wanna take any more of your time" and after asking two times like "are you sure, cause it not problem for me" he said "i understand, you must be tired, so let's talk tomorrow". If I were pushy I would let him call me, I also explained him that I just wanted to say hi before I go offline so I think there is no reason for him to feel like he's being trapped by me.

Oh, being a Gemini, a very typical one, I could not help myself but Googling his name today!

I did this because I still knew very little about him (which makes it hard to decide if I should take my chances on this guy and prepare for a long ride) and I was not able to confirm his marital status so I did not want to cause any troubles or misunderstandings if things get ahead. Thank God, his recent profile on two online communities say he is single and I've also learned his favorite music, drinks, books and sports interests.

Knowledge is power indeed! 🙂

Yes Shaks, but all I looked was public information. If we had common friends, I would've asked them, this is not much different. I feel the need to prepare for our next encounter, cuz it'll make me more confident and comfortable around him.

OK, it's been 5 days and I have not contacted him. No, he did not disappear or shut off, I've seen him online a few times but he did not say anything and it was kind of late at night so I stayed quiet.

My patience is running low already. I've been reading in the forums that Virguys are usually not good in initiating contacts, even when they are interested. With that said, should I wait for a few more days and then make a light suggestion just to see what his reaction would be? And yes, I have something particular in mind already: two weeks ago we had talked about going to a TGIF sort of event for this Friday afternoon (some people from his office are hosting), he actually offered letting me know if I was interested in coming and we had a deal. So I'm expecting a reminder from him by Thursday. If he does not call, should I find an excuse to contact him (since we do work together that is no problem) and mention the event somewhere in between, asking him if they are still going? Do you think it would be appropriate?

Thxxx!

"I guess I could not express myself properly. This is exactly the reason that I said "I want him to know"... I do not like emotional manipulation, mind games, push and pull stuff. I always leave my cards open."


"My patience is running low already. I've been reading in the forums that Virguys are usually not good in initiating contacts, even when they are interested. With that said, should I wait for a few more days and then make a light suggestion just to see what his reaction would be?"



Gemmy... most Virguys are really upfront about things generally on the mind, unless they are very immature. Anytime I have asked a direct question, I get a direct answer. Emotions are different. They are not emotionally manipulating, just emotionally deep and keep that part hidden until trust is established on a level they feel comfortable with.

If your patience is running low already, I honestly don't think you have the dedication to give the Virguy the time he needs to be at a level that's equal to yours. You cannot rush a Virgo man, no way no how! It could take almost 6 months to a year for some of them. Again their trust level established at their speed.

Most Gemmies are WAY too impatient and flitty flying in personality for that slllllllloooooooooooooooooooow timeframe. Actually my roommate is a Gemmy and she is learning the art of patience from her Virguy and surprisingly learning more about herself and what's she capable for a good guy.

If he doesn't call, just go and have fun! His loss. If he asks, just tell him you went and had a great time (if he isn't there) and if he is and you run into him, be friendly and light as if nothing has happened.

If he's taking his time with all ladies like this, then I have no problem!

I messaged him today just saying that I was looking at my program and wondered if our deal was still on. He replied "Oh, I almost forgot. Thanks for reminding. Yes, we are going"— WTF?

I have a lot of work with him I guess 😢

They take their time period. All women are treated the same, his personality either works with her or doesn't.

What's with WTF? He forgot, people forget. Don't take an attitude from what he said. He's being a normal human being.

Say yes and go and have a good time and quit bitchin'. 🙂

There is no "a lot of work". You are being impatient and not giving him time to be himself and unfold to you. You are already down the street and around the corner looking at your watch waiting for him to get to where you are. He's on VG time, not GG time. My roommate is like this too being a Gem, she wants it yesterday. This is why it rarely works with a Virgo male for them...

Wow I didn't write cookiemonsterin'. Does DXP randomly fill in their own words whenever they feel like it?

I went by myself, he said he would try to come but did not show up. And I have not heard from him afterwards 😢

Maybe he had something came up last minute, because he is generally busy and often works overtime or maybe he was not feeling well but I would've at least let know the other person. I do not know... If I cared about someone (not necessarily in a romantic way) whom I made a promise or had any form of an agreement with, I would've said "Oh, I am sorry that I can not make it". Because he offered me to go together at first place. He acts like he does not care at all. Virgo men that I know are normally very courteous. They are like the perfect gentlemen. This puzzles me.

Even he is not interested in me, I expect him to be respectful because I am trying to treat him respectfully as much as I can. Is it too much to expect?


Also, at this point I am just trying to find ways to spend time with him. Because if we can not spend time together, we can never get to know each other. How can he like me as a stranger? How can I like him for sure? This is what I want. "Just let me be around you because I do want to know more about you". With Virgo men, how can you make this message clear? Is there any proven method to get close to them and get to know them without pressuring? (I mean, if I can be friends with him why would I pressure further, I just have the problem of befriending him which is pretty much the very first step)?

Please help me out!!!

Can anyone tell me about our charts? He was born on Sept. 18th, 1975 and mine is Jun. 16th, 1976.

My story continues...

Following Friday's missed opportunity, I decided to keep it cool. So have not messaged him during the weekend. Since he was not online either (he normally is for like half an hour almost every night) I thought he was on vacation or had someone at home with him.

Sunday afternoon he finally showed up. I waited for a while then dropped a short "hi, whats up". He said his parents are visiting him so he's been with them all weekend. Then we started talking and I mentioned that I was going to cook but had a problem with the recipe. Being a generous Virgo, he offered help to straighten up my recipe in a humorous way. Then he said he needed to fix something at home 🙂 and went offline. During the chat I was very politely showed some interest in his family and I think I've got good points for this because he sounded like he was glad. (And we did not talk about the Friday event, he did not ask if I went or not so I did not say anything).

Yesterday night I cooked using his tips and the result was not bad at all. I thought maybe I should keep some for him. So I packed a portion and had it delivered to his office in the morning with a very nice but brief thank you note.

I waited the whole day for his response but he did not call or text. I tried not to get disappointed. Then, just a few minutes ago, I went online an he came afterwards. But instead of IMing me, he sent a message by email just saying "got the package, thank you very much, it was very thoughtful of you, see you soon". He also adds a smile at the end and says "by the way it was good". I replied to his email shortly 10 mins later and told him that I was glad he got it and enjoyed.

My questions:

Do you see his way of response (also the content) as positive?
Why he did not use chat to thank me instead of e-mail?
What should be my next move? (I think even if by now he did not have any idea, he knows today I am definitely interested. I think he likes my attention too, in a way, but he plays very cool, he does not show any signs of being impressed, he is rather nonchalant).

I might see him within next week at another meeting. Maybe I should pull off a bit till then and when I see him I should just ask a few follow up questions, something about his parents for instance...