Virgo: Tells Scorpio you're my best friend:S

Hi, a few weeks ago i posted a topic about a virgo guy i was seeing.(i'm a scorpio) we were very close and i told him i had feelings towards him. it was hot and heavy but then he said he sees me only as a friend although we was sending me mixed messges 'partner'material etc. At that point i stopped havin a physical relationship with him and just chatted to him as mates.whenever we linked then he would still flirt (i.e. hug, touchy feely try and kiss) but i did put a stop to it.
We chat everyday and when i'm not around he calls to see where i am what i'm doing. But heres the thing he's really quite confused! when we have our long chats he says to me your not like any other girl i've met.. 'your very patient with me, you listen, your caring towards me, you dont seem to get bored of what i say, your good to me etc.' and then he says to me ' i cant understand if your doin this because your a good friend or because we're attracted to each other'. He says we're on the same 'wave length' we understand each other and he even admits he still attracted to me and like me and our relationship.
he seems to think i'm gonna go off somewhere and my attitude towards him will change. he's quite insecure! he says this to me quite a bit 'when you meet someone else what we have will change. you wont be here for me, your guy will be jealous etc' Then this morning he said, which he never said before, the same when you meet another etc but he also said i wont like it, you spending more time with him. but i'll get used to it.
i mean WDF!! if he really likes me and cares for me then why cant he just admit it.
i really like this guy and he's everything i've been looking for and more but sometimes i want knock him out!

why push me away?he chats about other girls which i dont mind.... but its like he testing me. seeing how i would react. he went out recently with a new guy mate he's 'testing' out to see if he's friendship material. they linked with a few girls collegues of new friend. everyone got very drunk. he kept assuring me nothing happened. (he does this all the time, whenever he chats about other girls he reassures me nothings happning)
he danced with this one girl who he tried to kiss. but nothing happend. he realises what he's saying and he stops and says 'i shouldn't be saying this... its huting you'. its does hurt me. but i'd rather know that be kept in the dark to what he's like. he just wants to share EVEYTHING with me, which i like.

he confuses me... then the other day he was started asking me how many kids WE goin to have... what we gonna name them (this is while we still'friends')i mean we actally chatted about it for while.
but i laughed it off. he's really hot and cold... i dont get why!

Recently he said to me your my best friend i can trust you and i feel like i can say anything to you. i said the same to him. its like we totally get each other (really freaky). but i want to be more than just his friend. what do i do. i know he has feelings towards me. i want him to just say it.

i forgot to mention that the first time round when he said he wants to be friends and nothing more i was upset and i told him... but then i added i still want to be friends with you and i'll be there for you whenever.(i've never had someone i connected with on that level so i wanted to stay friends)he then said' 'thats what i wanted to hear from you. he was a bit cold with me before and continued for a few days... but then something changed in his head and he went back to 'being into me' an'all. sooo confusing. its like he was testing my loyalty for him. i dont get it!


someone please advice what i should do. do i still stay friends... give him time to miss me...please help!

Sounds to me as though he has thoroughly analysed you and doesn't believe he is the best for you.

So he' blocked out possibilities of a relationship being instigated by him. However, there is a small chance you could instigate it successfully.

agreed he's thoroughly analysed me but he still goes on about how we connect and how strong he thinks our 'friend' relationship is. he's critical over certain aspects of my life, why pay so much attention. he always says stuff to me which leads me to think he has more feelings towards me. i dont get the mixed messages?

how do you think i can 'instigate' things?

Posted by talia
agreed he's thoroughly analysed me but he still goes on about how we connect and how strong he thinks our 'friend' relationship is. he's critical over certain aspects of my life, why pay so much attention. he always says stuff to me which leads me to think he has more feelings towards me. i dont get the mixed messages?

He does feel for you, perhaps too strongly and too quickly. He is afraid of his emotions.
He senses how serious you are and is probably put off by your irrational outbursts.

He knows you could be more happy with someone who is as emotional as you and this is offputting.

how do you think i can 'instigate' things?

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By being more forward, more aggressive and less shy.
If you want him, you have to go get him.

He's giving 50% and needs a push.

thanks.. i agree with the 'serious' comment. i think felt strongly for him very quickly which scared him. but i dont agree with the irrational oubursts or emotional comment. i havent had one irrational outburst. i'm really calm around him. i talk things out and showing my emotions i really havent shown much. what i mean is i've shown affection, told him that i have feelings for him but thats it. i dont go off on no tantrams or start cryin randomly.. i dont do that.
i think he sometimes back me into a corner about certain topics and tries to read what my response would be. but i'm pretty calm in nature and my response usually throws him off.


i think i'm very foward and straight talking in person i find hard to be 'forward, more aggressive ' in these types of situations (not that i have been before)......i'm being really slow, when you mean aggressive , u mean tell him stright up i like u i wanna be with you. wont that scare him?

Posted by talia

i think he sometimes back me into a corner about certain topics and tries to read what my response would be. but i'm pretty calm in nature and my response usually throws him off.

So you know!!!

i think i'm very foward and straight talking in person i find hard to be 'forward, more aggressive' in these types of situations (not that i have been before)......i'm being really slow, when you mean aggressive ,

You know you're not putting yourself out there.
You know he is.

You see him trying.
You do not.

He is afraid of rejection.
You are too.

All he needs is a push.

u mean tell him stright up i like u i wanna be with you. wont that scare him?

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Yes.

Posted by 25thDecan
Like I said though...I would've bounced. No reciprocity...buh bye.

Exactamundo.

Ok, they were "hot and heavy"..she tells him she has feelings for him. THEN he tells her he only sees her as a friend? He goes out with his friends and kisses girls, etc? Where is his 50% ? Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too. He is keeping her on the back burner. Talia: I would give him one more chance; tell him how you feel; then the ball's in his court. If he doesn't come to you, ignore him. Do not allow him to play these games anymore.

thanks all.
Cajunspirit and lady sag: i am going to try and push things forward and try and get a straight answer from him. I'm just really scared he isnt going to say the same things back. but i'll have to take the risk and hope he dont run!

25thdecan: "But ladies...please understand...you agreeing to be a guy's GF and being near him, on his arm, etc doesn't constitute a very good relationship partner. So much more goes into it than the dates and the title......"

i totally agree with this but you dont have to confuse the hell out the other person in the process! i dont think he's clueless. he knows what he wants but i think he REALLY wants to test me from in every possible way. well actually i might take that back because this is what he text me a few hours ago... i was with my parents who i have issues with (dont really get on with)and was texting him. he was laughing (cus the situation was funny and he thought it was cute)... and this was his reply..

"I love you lots!!!.." and he teased me and he then went on about what he was doin. i mean WDF!!!! i maybe reading too much in to this but still. how am i supposed to take does he really mean it? i replied after a while. didnt comment on the 'love you lots' bit but carried on the conversation.

i am soooooo confused. i will be chatting to him tonight about it:S

Posted by DyTryin

talia,

You're the Scorpio, so act like one. If you let a Virgo mind-fuck you, he will. Be strong.

This guy sounds like an immature dip-shit; but, if you want him, you can have him. Virgo Men naturally respond to Scorpio Sex, so use it to straighten his ass out.

FYI: He's not testing you. Virgos don't do that. He's fucking clueless, and you have to show him the way. Get his stupid ass in bed, ride him like he's a race horse, and then make sure he knows that's contingent on you two doing things together - exclusively. Virgos want to be possessed, and no Sign knows possession like Scorpio.

If you work it right, you will own his soul, and he will thank you for it.

now THIS is good advice...love it!

i want to break the treetrunking little head off!!!!!!!!!!!!

Chatting to him as normal this moring. so he tells me he's going to see another girl an old friend. he's talking away about her. i dont really say anthing. he picks this up and says to me 'you upset'. i'm like what do you think of course i am. then he goes on about he's how he's still looking around... that he loves women and sex... that he has a problem. we had discussed this issue before but then he does and says all that other stuff.

i was straight with him and confronted him about the stuff he says and the way he acts around me. (dont know if that was the right thing but i just said it) he admitted he likes more than a friend, that theres attraction there and he likes how i care for him because he hasnt had that in a while! but still thinks of me as a friend. he said he knows how he's mislead me which he thinks was wrong but says he loves the 'communication' we have.

he said he'll go with whatever i agree to do i.e. not see me etc. the thing is that i wont go anywhere becuase i've never had a friend like him before and i dont want to loose that part of it and he knows that.

i want to hurt him.... and make him feel what he's put me through. does that make me a bad person? but i still really like the treetrunking twat!

Posted by talia

he said he'll go with whatever i agree to do i.e. not see me etc.

Take the initiative!
Claim him!!!

maybe that was a bit harsh...i dont want to hurt him in any way.. just understand the pain he's causing.

cajaunspirit... i think by the comment 'he'll do whatever i say' he ment two options, 1. be frineds 2 dont be friends and walk a way. there is no option to claim him. or does he actually want me to sit there and argue with him about being with him?

one more thing... he said this a few times. that he's been open with me alot so i know how he's like his personality but i havent been as open. but i have been, he knows a lot about be. i'm not like him. this guy can talk alot about himself and his issues. could this be a reason why he has 'issues' with me.

Posted by talia
maybe that was a bit harsh...i dont want to hurt him in any way.. just understand the pain he's causing.

I've had a Scorpio ex cut me with a razor....

cajunspirit... i think by the comment 'he'll do whatever i say' he ment two options, 1. be frineds 2 dont be friends and walk a way. there is no option to claim him. or does he actually want me to sit there and argue with him about being with him?

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You have been thinking like this for how long now and it just has not yielded the results. You have both feared rejection, that is the common mentality.

It is because of this, that neither of you is willing to act out and claim each other. You're going to lose him, the chips are down. Claim him, or leave.

but i've already declared my feelings for him... what more can i say to claim him?

maybe i'm a bit slow.... please elaborate on how do i claim him or make my feelings more 'out there'. if you were in his position right now what you want me to say?

Posted by passinatescorp

What did you do to make her do that, lol.

It's a story alright....

Posted by Cajunspirit

Posted by passinatescorp

What did you do to make her do that, lol.

It's a story alright....

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Mi A cut yuh wat u a sey lmfao.