Virgo TRANSLATION please....

I know my first post was very long so please translate this in VIRGO for me. My Virguy texted this to me after pushing me away when his mom died...HELP! It has been a month now and I miss him like crazy.

"You are my deep down inside... You are a beautiful woman with a lot of class... I'm hurting inside and need some time stay strong and brilliant you are it.....Let your swag show!!!"

Thanks,

CoCoa

Clueless Cancer....I am chilling!!!! But I really want a Virgo to ANSWER!

I as a Virgo hurt alot when dealing with loses and must come to terms with them. This should take a few days to at most a week.

Basically, he is going awhile for a few days. This means that don't be worried because you are "You are my deep down inside" - he will not forget you and will come back to you when he is ready.
"You are a beautiful woman with a lot of class" - this is what he likes about you, stay classy, dont do nothing stupid like trying to track him down, that wouldn't be classy.
"I'm hurting inside and need some time, stay strong and brilliant you are it" - Again, he's dealing with a lost in his life, but you are still alive and there for him, which is good cause thats like the opposite of losing someone. This is a compliment.
"Let your swag show!!!" - this means that while he is away, you should not be down in life. Go out have fun, learn to cook, make him a present etc.

Posted by CoCoa
Clueless Cancer....I am chilling!!!! But I really want a Virgo to ANSWER!

What the fuck difference does it make if a Virgo answers?

Are you looking for an excuse, rather than truths? ... because the Cancer is absolutely right when she insinuated the problem is you.

Hi paxtheoria31,

Thanks so much for the Virgo insight. I appreciate it and your MATURE take on this.


Hugs,
CoCoa

Here's the truth, if you think you can handle ... which I doubt, considering all of your babble past this point seemed to be oblivious ..... which means, you can't get past your own ego in having to be right .....

Posted by CoCoa

.... he has a very high profile position in law enforcement, for a few days he was calling me and kept saying let me call you back, this went on for three days and I felt a bit disrespected so I said something to him about it being very rude .....

You fucked up right here.

You showed zero understanding of his position and his hardships on the job .. and couldn't seem to handle your emotions ... so you decided to throw your insecurities in his face.

Once an insecure female shows her true emotional colors to a Virgo guy .... you're done.

P-Angel,

You and your friend Clueless Cancer may want to understand that I am not her for attacks and BS. I am a woman of a certain age and not looking for childishness or NEGATIVITY!!! THATS MY TRUTH...

Thanks KingVirgo,

I make sure to check on him from time to time. I have not physically seen him in a month but he texted me last week and I texted him this week. I just want him to be okay. Also, thanks for reading my other post, I know it was very long.


CoCoa

It amazes me how many people are actually deluded

The reality is you fucked up .... but, to hear that is too negative for you to handle, eventhough it was your fuck up ... so, instead of acknowledging that you did something wrong ... you only want to hear lies, so you can feel better about yourself.


It really doesn't get more fucked up than that ... and you obviously, are not of sound enough mind to get what that means.

P-Angel,

If we are done, honestly I am good with that because I was very good to him. He even apologized for his rudeness at the time. I truly believe his pushing me away is more about his loss and grief, we were very good together, a natural fit so I am a big girl and can deal with what fate holds. I am far from insecure TRUST!


CoCoa

The man just lost the most important woman in his life .. so he threw himself into his work, likely for two reasons ... one, as a distraction, and two, to give him a purpose ...


And you turned that against him because YOU were getting enough attention ....



*** hands you some nails for your coffin ***

* weren't


You weren't getting enough attention

Anyhow you shouldn't let it consume your life. Continue living a happy life. Learn new skill set, masters a hobby, etc do anything to improve your life. The best thing you can do right now is to use that time while he is away to develop yourself. Oh, I just found out your 50 already, umm well its never too late to really live. Indeed, such a small amount of time we have in this infinite of time to make actions. Make the most out of it!

Posted by CoCoa
P-Angel,

If we are done, honestly I am good with that because .....

If you're good with that, then what the fuck is your purpose to come in here and babble on about it?

There's not .. when means you are insecure.

You created a fucking wot to describe your feelings .... then turn around and say you're good with it?


lol ... again, it amazes me how many people are deluded.

P-Angel,

You may be right I may have treetrunked up but it had nothing to do with insecurity. Thanks for the nails but I doubt I will need them or the coffin.

paxtheoria31,

I am now working on a second Master's and already have my MBA which I got 2002. I have my own IT consulting company and I am a freelance writer for a small greeting card company. Life is really good, I miss the companionship. I have gone out with friends and am doing lots of other things as I have always had a very full life. I have stayed very busy.

Thanks again!

CluelessCancer,

I have been on a few dates in the past weeks. Being Gemini it is not easy to get my attention. The Virgo and I really clicked.

Posted by KingVirgo
It's no problem cocoa, my moms passed away so I know exactly how he feels...

So sorry for you loss sweetheart, I know how hard that must be.


Hugs,
CoCoa

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Posted by CoCoa
CluelessCancer,

I have been on a few dates in the past weeks. Being Gemini it is not easy to get my attention. The Virgo and I really clicked.

I understand, but just to get your mind off him. It's tough.

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Yes, it really is....REALLY!

P-Angel,

I honestly do appreciate you take on this and since you are also of the age of a mature person I know it is all about being realistic. I am and I know I may have done something imperfect in his eyes. The message he texted me was after we parted the last time we saw each other. I know we have a deep connection, not based on anything sexual or superficial. We honestly like each other beyond words, I know he may be gone for good and I will have to deal with that but my gut does not say that nor does his text.

CoCoa

You guys need to chill the fuck out. Its all nice and "clear" when youre not the one dealing with what someone is going through, but once emotions take over, the simplest problem can turn into a mountain. I admit from a logical sense you guys are right, but you're being callouse,and if your intent is to help ( which it isnt) your approach would be different.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by CoCoa
P-Angel,

If we are done, honestly I am good with that because .....

If you're good with that, then what the fuck is your purpose to come in here and babble on about it?

There's not .. when means you are insecure.

You created a fucking wot to describe your feelings .... then turn around and say you're good with it?


lol ... again, it amazes me how many people are deluded.

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And it amazes me how arrogant you are. Youre obviously inmature and posting aggresive "advise" thats not addressing the problem is in my opinion retarded. If the source of the problem is emotional, why rant with logic? Maybe you should step back, remember a time when things didnt go your way, and no matter how hard you tried couldnt let go? If thats never happened , then youve never felt love, and maybe thats why youre so insensitive.... after all how can you relate to something youve never through?

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Dangggg madd trolling on this post! hun, u didnt fuck up as bad as you think. chill out, he didnt go anywhere permanently. We virgos are just veryyyy emotional and dont like to show our emotions. he needs some serious space but he needs you to still be there with open arms when he is ready for someone to comfort him. dont contact him expecting a reply and dont ask how hes doing. at most, tell him that you care about him deeply but dont bring up anything. saying that will just let him know you are still there. when he is ready he will come back!

I went through this when i lost my grandmother. we want to be ALONE and get annoyed when people try to help, but then we want the people we care deeply about to let is know that they still care

Posted by Lucriu
You guys need to chill the fuck out. Its all nice and "clear" when youre not the one dealing with what someone is going through, but once emotions take over, the simplest problem can turn into a mountain. I admit from a logical sense you guys are right, but you're being callouse,and if your intent is to help ( which it isnt) your approach would be different.

Thanks Lucriu!!! walking in my shoes is not very easy right now.

Posted by virgovixen54
Dangggg madd trolling on this post! hun, u didnt fuck up as bad as you think. chill out, he didnt go anywhere permanently. We virgos are just veryyyy emotional and dont like to show our emotions. he needs some serious space but he needs you to still be there with open arms when he is ready for someone to comfort him. dont contact him expecting a reply and dont ask how hes doing. at most, tell him that you care about him deeply but dont bring up anything. saying that will just let him know you are still there. when he is ready he will come back!

I went through this when i lost my grandmother. we want to be ALONE and get annoyed when people try to help, but then we want the people we care deeply about to let is know that they still care

Thank you virgovixen54....I appreciate your kind, logical and mature insight. I want him to know I care and will be there when he needs me. He is a very proud and sweet guy, I knew he want space and I have given him what he asked. I worry about him a bit from time to time but I am sure he will reach out if he needs me.

Hugs,
CoCoa

Obviously if you feel he won't reach out to you in the future, then what can you do now to increase the chance the man will contact you. Easy, make the best out of that time, do activities, learn skill sets, master a hobby, travel if you like. At the end, even if you don't get the dude back, you end up with so many other things you can gain from the those times - who knows maybe you'll meet someone better just by doing you.
As a man, if I ever need time alone, I would prefer the woman not just to be waiting around but also working on her only life she has as well.

Posted by CluelessCancer
lol i can't wait to read p-angels reaction. Oh Lucria. You can cry on my chest afterwards😉

If he gets mad and doesnt accept sound logic, then he's a hipocrite an an idiot. But about crying on your chest, does it have to be crying what i do on your chest? 😉

Posted by paxtheoria31
Obviously if you feel he won't reach out to you in the future, then what can you do now to increase the chance the man will contact you. Easy, make the best out of that time, do activities, learn skill sets, master a hobby, travel if you like. At the end, even if you don't get the dude back, you end up with so many other things you can gain from the those times - who knows maybe you'll meet someone better just by doing you.
As a man, if I ever need time alone, I would prefer the woman not just to be waiting around but also working on her only life she has as well.

I am doing just this as well as keeping my options open. I am a very young 50 and trust me my life is very full with lots of freedom since I chose not to have children and I have friends all over the world.

Smh!!! Wow....

Posted by CoCoa
P-Angel,

You may be right I may have treetrunked up but it had nothing to do with insecurity. Thanks for the nails but I doubt I will need them or the coffin.

It has everything to do with insecurity. Doesn't mean you are a bad person, you just need to recognize and address it.

He saw your insecurity, at the precise moment he needed you to be strong and be able to rely on yourself for emotional reinforcement.


that was all she wrote, the fat lady singing

And you can come in here and say all you want to about how you're giving him space, and about the connection you had ... you can ignore the truth all day long, but, it doesn't change it.

Until you actually acknowledge the truth .... everything you say is ignorant. Just babble.


He was looking for his potential partner (you) to be able to handle herself EMOTIONALLY ... and after only 3 days, you showed him that you can't handle yourself.


Again, you can say whatever words you want to in here to continue in your ignorance ... but, it doesn't change the truth, it doesn't change the fact that you failed.

Acknowledge the failure, and you might have a chance with him .... but, so long as you continue thinking that he should be doing something to salvage your feelings FOR YOU .... then the only thing you're accomplishing is wasting your own fucking life.

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Posted by CluelessCancer
Well it seems obvious..he needs space. I don't get the confusion? You need to chill the fuk out.

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Agreed, he said it simply.. He needs time... Leave him be.. If you have to be told what to do a Virgo man may not be for you... Give him time... Once a week about the same time shoot him a short simple text like I'm thinking of you, I'm here if you want to grab a coffee... Light but thoughtful, short and sweet.

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I have been doing just this....thanks!

Posted by P-Angel

And you can come in here and say all you want to about how you're giving him space, and about the connection you had ... you can ignore the truth all day long, but, it doesn't change it.

Until you actually acknowledge the truth .... everything you say is ignorant. Just babble.


He was looking for his potential partner (you) to be able to handle herself EMOTIONALLY ... and after only 3 days, you showed him that you can't handle yourself.


Again, you can say whatever words you want to in here to continue in your ignorance ... but, it doesn't change the truth, it doesn't change the fact that you failed.

Acknowledge the failure, and you might have a chance with him .... but, so long as you continue thinking that he should be doing something to salvage your feelings FOR YOU .... then the only thing you're accomplishing is wasting your own fucking life.

Okay P-Angel,

I guess your option is FACT!!!! I will just move on and not look back since I treetrunked up so badly. Failed as you said, right....Yeah right.

Yes, it is fact, but, not because I say so, rather because his actions say so ....

Posted by CoCoa

After that he would not take my calls and became very distant.

he looked and acted like a person I had never seen before

I could see the hurt and pain in his face and he was extremely irritated about everything.

You continue to say that you will give him space ... but, that is because you believe that after you give him space that he will come to fix these emotions you are experiencing .. and he won't.

What part of him being a Virgo don't you get?

He's not a Gemini for christs sake, he's not going to forget.

Again .... you might have a chance in getting him back, but, to do that, you are going to have to acknowledge TO HIM (not to me, you dumb fuck) TO HIM that you failed, you fucked up, your emotions got the better of you ... but, in doing that, you can't get bitchy, you can't get weepy, you can't get irritated, you can't get any emotion in which shows him that you can't handle your own feelings ..... because then you would fail again.

Of course, you can continue in your weakness of self and believe that I told you to move on because that would be easier than looking at yourself.

And you did fuck up that bad ... the worst thing you can do to/around a Virgo is be emotionally dependent upon them .... but, of course, I fully realize that the truth is too much for you to handle.

Cocoa

Don't take some of the messages on here personal. My basic view is read the posts, take what you can that helps you, and live your life.

We can all judge each other. In the end, it's you who has to live your life and feel the emotion you are dealing with.

I'm female, so I can't tell you exactly how this virgo guy is feeling. And I won't begin to tell you that everything I say is fact nor the only perspective.
Life isn't always black and white. I can tell you that when I lost my mother to breast cancer, I was so deeply hurt, I couldn't even cry anymore. It took me
several months before I could open up to my husband again. I'm sure your virgo guy is going through a very similar experience.

I understand how you feel. We Gems are naturally inquisitive, and when we can't understand something, we want to know where we stand. There is nothing wrong with that. It certainly doesn't make you insecure. It makes you human. Those who say don't bother asking why, it's not normal.
You are the problem etc. Good grief, anyone of these same people given your set of circumstances would feel the same way. NO ONE likes rejection or not hearing from the one they love. Those who say this doesn't represent them have no heart, period.

I've known several virgo men. When they are emotionally drained, they get quiet and distant themselves. It's as natural for them as it is for Gems to embrace communication.

Hang in there. If it's meant to be, he will come back. If not, continue enhancing your life first. You have much going for you. I'm sure there is a man who is looking for someone with your maturity level and personal drive in life.

Posted by aqulibini
Cocoa if your question has been answered do not bother to reply anymore to this thread as it will encourage negative energies brought by a couple of person(s) lacking social and communication skills as well as empathy. I don't understand why such people comment when they have no intention of helping..no i think i understand. Anyways..

But if you think its not answered then i'd say you seriously need to stop bothering yourself so much about this because its really not worth it. Its a natural human reaction to the loss of a very important loved one..don't make the mistake of seeing it as a virgo thing...yes if he had said that during a time when there was no big event happening in his life it was justified for you to be confused..but i really don't see y u r over reacting at his text when it clearly is in a tragic context and it doesn't hint at leaving you forever.

Idk you might have had some such traumatic experience in past which maybe causing fear of abandonment and situation is triggering that fear..but this seems to me a very natural behavior. And instead of focusing on this its necessary to focus on what he is going through at present and your support for him. thats whats important.

I wish I had read this before my response to P-Angel...lol, thank you so much for the kind words and for being a mature adult that understands what it means to be human. I honestly don't think I did anything to cause his distance and coldness, as you stated he has suffered a get loss and has chosen to go it alone for now. I have gotten some good answers from people such as yourself, thank you so much. I am going to end it here as you are correct about the negativity and lack of empathy shown by a few of the posters. I was really intrigued but the post I had read before I joined the site but now I see some just come here the get their ish off..

Posted by P-Angel

Yes, it is fact, but, not because I say so, rather because his actions say so ....

Posted by CoCoa

After that he would not take my calls and became very distant.

he looked and acted like a person I had never seen before

I could see the hurt and pain in his face and he was extremely irritated about everything.

You continue to say that you will give him space ... but, that is because you believe that after you give him space that he will come to fix these emotions you are experiencing .. and he won't.

What part of him being a Virgo don't you get?

He's not a Gemini for christs sake, he's not going to forget.

Again .... you might have a chance in getting him back, but, to do that, you are going to have to acknowledge TO HIM (not to me, you dumb fuck) TO HIM that you failed, you fucked up, your emotions got the better of you ... but, in doing that, you can't get bitchy, you can't get weepy, you can't get irritated, you can't get any emotion in which shows him that you can't handle your own feelings ..... because then you would fail again.

Of course, you can continue in your weakness of self and believe that I told you to move on because that would be easier than looking at yourself.

And you did fuck up that bad ... the worst thing you can do to/around a Virgo is be emotionally dependent upon them .... but, of course, I fully realize that the truth is too much for you to handle.

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P-Angel,

I did not get emotional in the incident I described. If you know anything about us Gemini's we are not overly emotional...we are at times deemed to be cold also. I just told him what I thought of his current behavior and that was it. He got nasty with me and I ended the conversation...PERIOD! He then began to distance himself. Actually, I find his actions a bit selfish and self-centered and the only reason I overlooked it was because he lost his mother. I wish I had met him prior to that to see if this is his true character because if that was the case he would have been HISTORY without another thought. I am a very beautiful woman and successful with lots of other options, I love him but trust me I am easily moving on, had a great date with another Virgo I dated many years ago last night. So take your treetrunk and stick it! You have no clue what you are ta

Posted by gemini64
Cocoa

Don't take some of the messages on here personal. My basic view is read the posts, take what you can that helps you, and live your life.

We can all judge each other. In the end, it's you who has to live your life and feel the emotion you are dealing with.

I'm female, so I can't tell you exactly how this virgo guy is feeling. And I won't begin to tell you that everything I say is fact nor the only perspective.
Life isn't always black and white. I can tell you that when I lost my mother to breast cancer, I was so deeply hurt, I couldn't even cry anymore. It took me
several months before I could open up to my husband again. I'm sure your virgo guy is going through a very similar experience.

I understand how you feel. We Gems are naturally inquisitive, and when we can't understand something, we want to know where we stand. There is nothing wrong with that. It certainly doesn't make you insecure. It makes you human. Those who say don't bother asking why, it's not normal.
You are the problem etc. Good grief, anyone of these same people given your set of circumstances would feel the same way. NO ONE likes rejection or not hearing from the one they love. Those who say this doesn't represent them have no heart, period.

I've known several virgo men. When they are emotionally drained, they get quiet and distant themselves. It's as natural for them as it is for Gems to embrace communication.

Hang in there. If it's meant to be, he will come back. If not, continue enhancing your life first. You have much going for you. I'm sure there is a man who is looking for someone with your maturity level and personal drive in life.

Spoken from the beautiful heart of a GEMINI. Yes, you are correct about being human and wanting to know. We could all judge one another and since no one his walking in my shoes it is easy for some to be harsh and heartless. I am so sorry for the loss of you mother to breast cancer, I lost one of my cousins to it just 3 years ago and have given a fundraiser to find a cure every year since. I know he is hurting and I can't imagine the pain he is feeling. I know he is not gone forever I just want to know he is okay and would like to be of comfort if I could. Thank you again...Gemini Hugs, CoCoa

Well he is 52, maybe with the death of his mother, something probably hit him that he ain't gonna live forever. Might as well do all the things in life he wanted to do as a single male, traveling as you said.
He's too old for a biological reason to be with a women. I would call it a wrap if I was in my 50+ with no family.
Might as well live off somewhere far and relax in peace till my death then to be engage in all this family stuff which could lead to more complication, or even worse more loses in his life (you dieing).

Posted by paxtheoria31
Well he is 52, maybe with the death of his mother, something probably hit him that he ain't gonna live forever. Might as well do all the things in life he wanted to do as a single male, traveling as you said.
He's too old for a biological reason to be with a women. I would call it a wrap if I was in my 50+ with no family.
Might as well live off somewhere far and relax in peace till my death then to be engage in all this family stuff which could lead to more complication, or even worse more loses in his life (you dieing).

Well, you may be spot on with some of this, he has been married and does twin girls so there is no biological reason for a woman. Companionship however is another story as you grow older, I truly believe we all would like to share our lives with someone special in our golden years, I know I do.

I'll be honest with you cause that's what virgos do, its not meant to be cold.

But not for me in that situation - i'm thinking base on a pure virgo mentality; new companionship at that stage of life is no longer necessary for a man. Life is pretty plain at that point, nothing really needs to be done anymore. No goals are being worked for, the project is long lost. He is just living out his days.
There would be no longer a need for a mate who I can trust because there is nothing that needs to be trusted. A companionship without a reason (to stay sane, support for career, comfort at home), all these a virgo man should be able to depend and provide for himself. Having a baby with you was your best bet.

If I'm spot on, he's probably living in a cabin somewhere the air is nice and calm doing what he loves, enjoying the peace of mind only achievable when no one is around to complicate it. Companionship? get a dog.

Posted by paxtheoria31
I'll be honest with you cause that's what virgos do, its not meant to be cold.

But not for me in that situation - i'm thinking base on a pure virgo mentality; new companionship at that stage of life is no longer necessary for a man. Life is pretty plain at that point, nothing really needs to be done anymore. No goals are being worked for, the project is long lost. He is just living out his days.
There would be no longer a need for a mate who I can trust because there is nothing that needs to be trusted. A companionship without a reason (to stay sane, support for career, comfort at home), all these a virgo man should be able to depend and provide for himself. Having a baby with you was your best bet.

If I'm spot on, he's probably living in a cabin somewhere the air is nice and calm doing what he loves, enjoying the peace of mind only achievable when no one is around to complicate it. Companionship? get a dog.

paxtheoria31,

You may be right but based on the extensive conversations I have had with him he does not speak like a man that wants to live his life out alone. Unless he was lying to me and himself....jus sayin.

What you see is what the virgo wants you to see. 😄
Best of luck CoCoa.

Posted by paxtheoria31
What you see is what the virgo wants you to see. 😄
Best of luck CoCoa.

Thanks...

But not for me in that situation - i'm thinking base on a pure virgo mentality; new companionship at that stage of life is no longer necessary for a man. Life is pretty plain at that point, nothing really needs to be done anymore. No goals are being worked for, the project is long lost. He is just living out his days.
There would be no longer a need for a mate who I can trust because there is nothing that needs to be trusted. A companionship without a reason (to stay sane, support for career, comfort at home), all these a virgo man should be able to depend and provide for himself. Having a baby with you was your best bet.

If I'm spot on, he's probably living in a cabin somewhere the air is nice and calm doing what he loves, enjoying the peace of mind only achievable when no one is around to complicate it. Companionship? get a dog.




paxtheoria31,

You may be right but based on the extensive conversations I have had with him he does not speak like a man that wants to live his life out alone. Unless he was lying to me and himself....jus sayin.


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paxtheroria31:

Oh give me a break. I know many men who have lost their wives to cancer or divorce etc. who have dated and sought companionship after their 50's, 60's and older. My own father, who lost my mother back in 1998 to breast cancer, was in his mid '70's when he found a lady and they both were looking for companionship. They got marriage a couple years later.

And it's just factually wrong to say a man in his 50's can no longer be involved with a women for biological reasons. Men can produce sperm and remain viral years after a woman's window of fertility has passed. Hech, just go to places like Palm Spring, CA if you want to see older men with younger women. It's practically the norm. Even if having a baby isn't in plan, you can still have genuine nurturing physical relations.

I really feel for any guy whose giving up his ability to share his life with a woman and have a fulfilling relationship simply because he's in his early 50's. Geez, maybe he should just die already. I've loved a few virgo men in my life. But this "woe is me" attitude that they often have is ridiculous. I guess when my Scorpio husband turns 52 in 4 years, we are screwed. Life as we know it is over. Damn.

Right, humans are not alike, everyone is unique and has there own freedom of choices - that is what makes us humans.
And sure, your father or people in palm spring can do whatever they want - however, if you think of it from a perspective of a virgo male with clear logical reasoning and less of an emotional/humanity reasoning, the pros of living alone outweighs the investments in developing a new relationship with someone after one had recently suffered loses from (EX WIFE AND TWO KIDS, PLUS MOTHER, etc.) He is near the stage of retirement and why make life more complicated when the plan can be as simple as kicking back and enjoying the time he has left using the money he had worked for his entire life.

Seeing that your not a virgo, it maybe hard for you to understand this cold decision, but I'm sure it does make sense. And no, your life would be fine. This isn't about continuing a relationship, this is a matter of STARTING a new relationship which will involve amounts of investments at a late stage in life where one is not required to.

Posted by paxtheoria31
Right, humans are not alike, everyone is unique and has there own freedom of choices - that is what makes us humans.
And sure, your father or people in palm spring can do whatever they want - however, if you think of it from a perspective of a virgo male with clear logical reasoning and less of an emotional/humanity reasoning, the pros of living alone outweighs the investments in developing a new relationship with someone after one had recently suffered loses from (EX WIFE AND TWO KIDS, PLUS MOTHER, etc.) He is near the stage of retirement and why make life more complicated when the plan can be as simple as kicking back and enjoying the time he has left using the money he had worked for his entire life.

Seeing that your not a virgo, it maybe hard for you to understand this cold decision, but I'm sure it does make sense. And no, your life would be fine. This isn't about continuing a relationship, this is a matter of STARTING a new relationship which will involve amounts of investments at a late stage in life where one is not required to.

This is your Virgo thinking...I don't agree with this being my guy's mindset. The way he was pursuing me, the romantic dinners, gifts and talk of a future does not say to me this man does not want a woman in his life again at some point. It may not be now but I doubt it will be never, he has a very big heart and he is a man that enjoyed making me smile...He will do that for someone again, if not me there will be another special woman for this man.