Virgo's in Love: signs/actions/behaviors—?

Virgo men and/or women: tell me are there any distinct signs/actions/words/behaviors that differ with a:

1. Virgo man in love/or deep attraction with a woman, but not in a committed relationship?

compared to:

2. Virgo man in love, but in a committed relationship?

I have read about Virgo's desire to help you become a better person by being critical of you. And if you are the subject of his criticism, that indicates he loves you/or at the very least, is interested in you? Is this accurate?

What about if he is obsessed with a physical quality about you, like your weight? if he monitors what you eat in a subtle manner, enough to make you embarrassed, despite the fact that you are not really overweight; and he doesn't do this to any other lady. Is this a typical Virgo trait to be this obsessed with someone they are in love with/or attracted to?
Do Virgo's often project their insecurities onto people they love/admire etc.?

I have read the most obvious sign a man in love with you is a "change in his normal behavior." I have noted this often, it's as if when I'm around this guy at times, he glances at me, seems to get really nervous, and doesn't even say hello, but bolts from the scene. Other times, usually when more people are in the room, he seems less nervous. I don't get it.

People here talk about the "Virgo Stare." Is that just from a distance? He has often smiled and just stared at me with a shiny eyes (yes deep brown eyes) while I talked to him one on one. His smile doesn't fade. Is that a typical male Virgo Stare?

This board is awesome and I have enjoyed reading so many posts. I'd love to hear some insight from Virgo's regarding my questions. And BTW, I posted my first post the other day in RE: to my former Virgo coach. I haven't seen any responses yet. If anyone can post a response to that one, I'd sure appreciate it.

Thank you for any input.

Speaking personally, the answer to all the yes or no questions, would be yes.
If I am taking interest in your health I admire you. Obsessing over making you better, definitely shows my interest.

To differentiate between friendly interest and romantic interest, I would definitely be making an effort to contact you, which outside of my normal behaviour.

thanks Cajun for your taking the time to post a thoughtful response. I have canvassed some of your posts over this site and what I like most about you is that you are genuine, and seem to really know who you are, despite being young.

i have another question of you if i might?

if you know a Virgo male was in fact in love with you at one time, but you are not together now, does his love for you ever go away? In other words, will he ever think of you during the course of his life? And if you run into him or hear from him in the form of a letter etc, does he still hold strong feelings for you?

I know some guys who get over a girl quicker than others and can move on. Being a gemini, I seem to hold onto someone I love or cared about deeply for a long time. Is this the case with Virgo's?

thanks again.

Posted by gemini64
thanks Cajun for your taking the time to post a thoughtful response. I have canvassed some of your posts over this site and what I like most about you is that you are genuine, and seem to really know who you are, despite being young.

Thanks 🙂

i have another question of you if i might?

if you know a Virgo male was in fact in love with you at one time, but you are not together now, does his love for you ever go away? In other words, will he ever think of you during the course of his life? And if you run into him or hear from him in the form of a letter etc, does he still hold strong feelings for you?

I know some guys who get over a girl quicker than others and can move on. Being a gemini, I seem to hold onto someone I love or cared about deeply for a long time. Is this the case with Virgo's?

thanks again.

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5/6 of my relationships, I moved on quickly. However, once I start loving, it never stops. I frequently think of my exes. This, however, is likely to be a cause of my Mercury in Libra. Libras have a hard time letting go of their exes, so my mind drifts on them a lot.

I asked other Virgos here if it was the same for them and they said it was not like that for them.

I have not seen my virgo stare, but then again I don't make eye contact when I feel uncomfortable.

Posted by Kaleidescorp44
There is nothing in the world like a virgo's stare. I'm telling you, they could melt the polar ice caps with their stare. Even just the memory of it is enough to make me swoon.

SO TRUE! Being on the receiving end of one of those stares can be unnerving, at first, but extremely memorable. I remember the first one like it happened yesterday. It made me uncomfortable and I couldn't look him in the face the rest of the night. I had never experienced anything like that before. He made me nervous. He's so textbook virgo though, the stare, the 5 million questions, the pursue/disappear, and so on.

@gemini64 - You mentioned your virgo being nervous around you when you're alone, but not that way in a group setting. Mine has been like that too. I didn't really notice it as much until recently. It is weird though considering how aggressive I thought he was at first. Now sometimes when we're alone he's seems more guarded, but anxious. However, when we're apart he can text the sweetest things, like a regular old prince charming. He introduced me to his best friend the other day, that completely caught me off guard. I felt like I was being sized up. Not sure what it means, but like I've said before, he's a joy and I am so glad I have him in my life.

No, they are talking about their own perspective .... every person, when you are in lust of this person, everything this person does, you read into it to mean something.


If you were loving on a person, and this person looked at you deeply .. you would swear that the person had an amazing stare .. when in reality, it's your own perception because you WANT the person to look at you.



If you did something embarrassing in public and when you looked around, you saw someone laughing ... your mind would convince you they were laughing at you .. because this is what YOUR brain is telling you because you are embarrassed, and nothing to do with the other person laughing.

Not sure if P-Angel lumped me in the group of those reading into the virgo stare, but if so, that assessment doesn't apply to me. I noticed the stare the first night we held a convo. I wasn't lusting after him at all, I barely knew him. That's why the stare made me so uneasy, I thought something was wrong. Over the next few days/weeks he got more bold. I really wasn't into him
initially, next thing I knew it felt like I was sliding down a slope.

"No, they are talking about their own perspective .... every person, when you are in lust of this person, everything this person does, you read into it to mean something.

If you were loving on a person, and this person looked at you deeply .. you would swear that the person had an amazing stare .. when in reality, it's your own perception because you WANT the person to look at you." P-Angel

LOL, How did I know probably would chime in on this post. And I'm new to this board, but still sensed it. Must be my gemini intuition.

But, I do agree with you P-Angel with your comments above. I think when you are in that "lust/love" zone, you do get caught up in the emotions and the energy surging through your body. You target that energy you have, and the energy coming from the handsome hunk giving you "that look" with the shine in his eyes, and it's over.

I've had that look from 3 guys; My husband, a Scorpio, a former BF, a Virgo, and probably the most interesting one came from my HS tennis coach, a Virgo. Yea, I know, weird.
I was young and had no clue what he was really feeling. Now I do. And much of this board pertaining to Virgo's has only confirmed that.

I think we all see what we instinctively want to see, or at least, think we should be seeing. in other words if we are in love/lust with a Virgo man, his stare/look will be special.
If we are in love/lust with a Scorpio man, ditto. and so, and so on.

I think the thing that separates Virgo's is this: it's the overall personality/demeanor...the quiet, shy, non emotional, but deeply sensual aspect of them that makes their stare/look so appealing. it's because, at least for me, such a challenge to figure these guys out. Of course, i wouldn't trade my Scorpio for anyone of them. After 13 years of marriage, and knowing him for 16, I have him figured out. 😉

well, there've been studies done on body language, how long and intensely people look at others based on their relationship and interest and various other factors. so it isn't just a matter of projection. if someone looks at you intensely for a longer period than is normal, they've got some strong feelings behind that. could be love, lust, or hate. but it's something (one virgo i used to know had the most wonderful hate stare i've ever seen. with a huge unmoving smile. i don't like to admit it, but mine is not an original. it's a cheap knockoff of his.)

all the signs have their look. virgos is my favorite, though. it's not all saccharine sweet, it's not all egotistical and power hungry.

if they hate you, they'll open up and hope that you'll see the hate they've got for you. if they like you or find you interesting, they'll be trying to look inside of you to see what's there. but it's not a power thing like scorpios do. it's more about curiousity.


and if a virgo is commenting on your weight or eating habits, politely tell him to stfu. he's respect you for standing up to him, and unless he's a total immature bitch, it probably won't have any sort of negative effect on any relationship potential that may exist.

tbh, as weird as that guy is acting, i don't think he does like you. they're pretty bold if they like somebody. not really the types to run and hide. or, if he does like you, he's not ready to man up and act like it, so don't waste too much energy on him.

Posted by curious visitor
well, there've been studies done on body language, how long and intensely people look at others based on their relationship and interest and various other factors. so it isn't just a matter of projection. if someone looks at you intensely for a longer period than is normal, they've got some strong feelings behind that. could be love, lust, or hate. but it's something.

if they hate you, they'll open up and hope that you'll see the hate they've got for you. if they like you or find you interesting, they'll be trying to look inside of you to see what's there. but it's not a power thing like scorpios do. it's more about curiousity.

Thank you. I befriended virguy on his job. The day I experienced the stare was the first time I'd seen him there. I'd crossed paths with him before, but it wasn't anything memorable. That was why the stare weirded me out. A few weeks passed and he told me he liked seeing me when I had to come to where he worked. When I asked him why, he never answered. I dismissed it. As time went on he got more bold and eventually he just told me straight up he wanted me. I had never come across someone so forward. I ignored him for a while, but that didn't last, clearly. He's outta town right now and I feel like a junkie missing her fix. I'll be glad when he gets back.

Posted by gemini64

LOL, How did I know probably would chime in on this post. And I'm new to this board, but still sensed it. Must be my gemini intuition.

But, I do agree with you P-Angel with your comments above. I think when you are in that "lust/love" zone, you do get caught up in the emotions and the energy surging through your body. You target that energy you have, and the energy coming from the handsome hunk giving you "that look" with the shine in his eyes, and it's over.

I chime in on every post I read, if I have something to say.

Posted by gemini64

I think we all see what we instinctively want to see, or at least, think we should be seeing. in other words if we are in love/lust with a Virgo man, his stare/look will be special.
If we are in love/lust with a Scorpio man, ditto. and so, and so on.

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Exactly.

And it doesn't even have to do with love or lust, really. Take the Aries, for example .. they believe that every person desires them, whether the Aries actually feels for the other person or not. They think that every person looks at them with admiration .. so, when another person does indeed look at them, they think the look is representative of that.

Take a man vs woman .... his intention of a look is a wanting to fuck, she thinks he loves her, she thinks the look is emotional .. yeah, he's just looking at her with hopes of her letting him hump her, is all ... but, she reads into look according to her own perspective, and nothing to do with why he has the expression on his face.

^ so, as someone with heavy leo and scorpio influences, this doesn't make sense to me. on the one hand, i would want the guy to stay around, but only because if i care about him looking at me, i'm gonna want him available at all times for a long time. and exclusively for me, because if he goes elsewhere he might not come back, and that would be a tragedy.

maybe some women want sex too.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by gemini64

LOL, How did I know probably would chime in on this post. And I'm new to this board, but still sensed it. Must be my gemini intuition.

But, I do agree with you P-Angel with your comments above. I think when you are in that "lust/love" zone, you do get caught up in the emotions and the energy surging through your body. You target that energy you have, and the energy coming from the handsome hunk giving you "that look" with the shine in his eyes, and it's over.

I chime in on every post I read, if I have something to say.

Posted by gemini64

I think we all see what we instinctively want to see, or at least, think we should be seeing. in other words if we are in love/lust with a Virgo man, his stare/look will be special.
If we are in love/lust with a Scorpio man, ditto. and so, and so on.

Exactly.

And it doesn't even have to do with love or lust, really. Take the Aries, for example .. they believe that every person desires them, whether the Aries actually feels for the other person or not. They think that every person looks at them with admiration .. so, when another person does indeed look at them, they think the look is representative of that.

Take a man vs woman .... his intention of a look is a wanting to fuck, she thinks he loves her, she thinks the look is emotional .. yeah, he's just looking at her with hopes of her letting him hump her, is all ... but, she reads into look according to her own perspective, and nothing to do with why he has the expression on his face.

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Either as a cusper I am heavily influenced by Taurus or this post should come with a disclaimer at the bottom stating they're for entertainment purposes only.

i am also a gemini that is in love with a virgo. i noticed when i first met him & he came to pick me up at the airport he was on the phone with his mom. & i noticed him staring from far & i got like this vibe. the feeling is unexplainable but when he stares at me ,i melt. the only guy that ever made me feel fuzzy. this might be off topic but i know virgo's like honest,well-mannered,nicely dressed & clean people. & i have all of that. but my thing hear is, he a man of his word? i tend to think he feels affend if nobody believes that he is telling the truth...—