Virguy doesn't want a gift from me for Christmas

I kind of like this Virgo guy. He's a virgo with a cap moon and leo venus, mars and mercury. We've been friends for about 4 months and I want to get him a present. I've been asking him what he wants and he says "Nothing, just give me a card." When I ask why he doesn't want anything but a card he says "because" and I'm wondering if it's a virgo thing or a personal problem. It's really been bothering me because he was the same way with his birthday. I always tell him that I want to do this because we're friends and I'm never expecting anything back. Help is very appreciated thanks boos

Do as he request...Giving to a guy says to a man on a subconscious level that "SHE'S DESPERATE" thus his reaction to that giving is a gut level reaction of non-interest/loss of attraction.

You're actually hurting your chances by doing something that may feel nice to do but also has the OPPOSITE effect on a man which can create a road block for him mentally.

A man doesn't want to feel obligated and you don't truly want to give so much that you begin resent him for not reciprocating, for not appearing grateful for your kindness.

Do yourself a huge big ole favor and back off a bit with the feeling bad stuff. You don't owe him anything and he does not want to owe you anything nor does he want to feel the pressure your giving can create.

You do want something, you want him and he's on the fence about wanting you back and you're not helping him get past being on the fence if you're giving makes him feel bad.

You wanna know if he likes you in the exact way you like him, sit back, do nothing and observe what HE'S GIVING to you, what he's doing for you because that will tell you if the feeling is mutual or not mutual.

Posted by loonylibra
I kind of like this Virgo guy. He's a virgo with a cap moon and leo venus, mars and mercury. We've been friends for about 4 months and I want to get him a present. I've been asking him what he wants and he says "Nothing, just give me a card." When I ask why he doesn't want anything but a card he says "because" and I'm wondering if it's a virgo thing or a personal problem. It's really been bothering me because he was the same way with his birthday. I always tell him that I want to do this because we're friends and I'm never expecting anything back. Help is very appreciated thanks boos

Virgos and Caps are the DOERS of the zodiac. Stop asking and just do it. Keep the drama out of it.

The way you are coming across is pushy...instead of asking if he likes you, you are subliminily asking what kind of present he wants and FORCING an answer.


...don't do that, really, it's a turn off.

This is a different question for you virgo guys. What would you give your girlfriend of 3 months for Xmas? He is 40 and money's tight for him. I bought him a Leinie's sweatshirt and some beer mugs. The beer mugs were as a backup. I know he'll feel bad if I give him a gift and he gives me a card. I just wanted to be prepared for anything. Not sure what to do or maybe I'll see how it goes.

Thanks guys!!!

What does standing up or staying seated mean?


LOL weird souls.

They like the thought that counts more than flashy gifts. Keep it simple and you only been friends for 4 months not 4 years. Maybe next year you can go all out.

Posted by Gemini74
This is a different question for you virgo guys. What would you give your girlfriend of 3 months for Xmas? He is 40 and money's tight for him. I bought him a Leinie's sweatshirt and some beer mugs. The beer mugs were as a backup. I know he'll feel bad if I give him a gift and he gives me a card. I just wanted to be prepared for anything. Not sure what to do or maybe I'll see how it goes.

Thanks guys!!!

does he like both gifts? most of the virgo's I know (plus the ex) likes gifts that are one of a kind and have this sentimental value. Like a knitted gloves or something that you made for him alone.

If he says that a card will do, then he means it. Don't pester it come across as desperate to give gim the gift he's been wanting. From what I've learned, the gifts that mean the most are the ones you get them by paying attention to the subtleties, then surprising them with the gift while proving to them that you observe them. This eliminates the need to bug them on what they want because you already know!