Thank you gift for a Virgo male

My Virgo male friend is taking me on a road trip for my birthday next weekend.
What is a great thank you gift I can get for him? He is in his mid 30s, bachelor, lives on his own. I am not romantically interested in him, we are good friends and I just want to show my appreciation.

a thank you card. 🙂

Ok, but I don't want him to think I'm using him. Money is not really an object to this guy.

A thank you card will be enough. Just showing you appreciate him is enough.

Btw CC, your pic makes me LOL 🙂

Thanks Octoberbaby!

Get him a bunch of his favorite snacks, for the road.

Have fun. 🙂

Posted by SunMoonStars
My Virgo male friend is taking me on a road trip for my birthday next weekend.
What is a great thank you gift I can get for him? He is in his mid 30s, bachelor, lives on his own. I am not romantically interested in him, we are good friends and I just want to show my appreciation.

a roomba, manicure set, cookbook thats all I got.

Thanks all!

TaureanVirgo: Yeah I was thinking this as well, asked him what he likes to snack on he said anything. Any ideas??

DMV: Maybe an Anthony Bordain(sp?) cookbook, he really likes him.

Yams: I'm going to put together some great music for this trip. Will make a separate post for album suggestions.

Lhasa: Yeah maybe I'll try to take him for dinner on the trip and..I'll buy him some mugs for sure because last time I noticed he has none.
He's one of those guys..like me...who has many responsibilities and takes care of them but forgets to buy toothpaste or doesn't have time for laundry! 🙂

Posted by SunMoonStars
Ok, but I don't want him to think I'm using him.

Then tell him he should use the money on a woman who would be interested in a relationship with him and go out to lunch instead.

Wouldn't that be the right thing to do?

He knows I'm not interested in a relationship right now, and he talks about how he's not good in them. I think we're ok.
I have had more opportunity to do the "wrong" thing and did not. For example, in September, I needed to look for a place to move. He offered to let me stay at his for free, and take his room. It's a nice condo in the heart of downtown. I turned him down even though we had a talk and he said he simply likes having someone else there. On a friendship level, I think it's ok that we do things for each other, and go on 2.5 day road trips. Don't see anything wrong with that.

I'm simply trying to see how I can show my appreciation so it's not one sided.

^^^ Friends turn to lovers....

You will end up together because both of you have no expectations and the greatest love comes from true friendship!

can't wait to see how this turns out 🙂

Posted by SunMoonStars
He knows I'm not interested in a relationship right now, and he talks about how he's not good in them. I think we're ok.
I have had more opportunity to do the "wrong" thing and did not. For example, in September, I needed to look for a place to move. He offered to let me stay at his for free, and take his room. It's a nice condo in the heart of downtown. I turned him down even though we had a talk and he said he simply likes having someone else there. On a friendship level, I think it's ok that we do things for each other, and go on 2.5 day road trips. Don't see anything wrong with that.

I'm simply trying to see how I can show my appreciation so it's not one sided.

Sorry...not buying it. I smell user. Can't help it.

^ SMH. I don't even have the time for this.

This is why I do not normally get along with Scorpio females, sigh. As much as I love my mom who is a Scorp, sometimes she gets on my nerves with her paranoia.

You can never really go wrong by offering to buy him lunch, or get him his favourite snacks/food, a bottle of wine (or his preferred choice of drink), all with a sincere thank you said in person or in a card. Keep it simple and brief, since you have stated it as platonic and nothing more.

Posted by SunMoonStars
He knows I'm not interested in a relationship right now, and he talks about how he's not good in them.

I think we're ok.

On a friendship level, I think it's ok that we do things for each other, and go on 2.5 day road trips. Don't see anything wrong with that..

Here's why I'm not buying the b.s. (couple of reasons actually) your Leo moon is way to predictable around dxp.

1.) You are NOT sure it's ok with the two of you as bolded above. Women who are not users and aren't sure would suggest a meal instead, not have the guy blow money on them for 2.5 days. That's common courtesy, and respect. (ie USER)

2.) You want to see how MUCH $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ he actually has by what he spends on you, and then I'm positive your "not interested in a relationship right now" will turn into stalking his ass up upon return certain you want a relationship. (ie entitled USER)

3.) A man who says he isn't good in a relationship but wants to take you away DOESwant a try at it with you, and IS interested in trying with you...you of course know this but aren't interested and HAVEN'T TOLD HIM THIS, but good for any guy blowing money on you because you feel entitled. (ie entitled user)

Then you say..."I'm simply trying to see how I can show my appreciation so it's not one sided." You aren't offering a dime for the 2.5 day road trip is what that means..and to alleviate guilt from using him, you think a gift will make YOU feel better. Not him.

Women like you are a dime a dozen. I'm betting on a mixture of all 3 above.

You have to be a lot smarter when it comes to deception hun. 😉

Why would a casual friend take you on a road trip?

Unless of course, he wants more, and you are just playing hard to get ... and so using him.

Friends give their friends little gifts and a card .... not a road trip for 2.5 days. And I tend to agree with the Scorpio here = if you want to prove to him that you are appreciative by buying him something then that means you plan on this entire trip to be financed by him.

Friends don't use their other friends like that, real friends pay for themselves on all trips they do together.

For the fact that he is financing you =

1. his intentions aren't for friendship, and you obviously know this and are taking advantage of it
2. you are playing on him

Maybe we will get lucky and you will come back, typing on your smartphone, crying about how he drove you to bumbfuck Egypt and dumped your ass in the middle of nowhere.

Posted by SunMoonStars

He knows I'm not interested in a relationship right now .....

And there it is ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

The two of you have discussed relationship status for him to know this. He is still chasing you, obviously, since he is buying you.

And you're letting him buy you ... while telling him you're not interested.

That's got game written all over it. And I notice that when a person calls you on your bullshit, your comeback is to say you don't have for it, which means = you're just another cunt looking to be validated.

Sigh, I don't even know how much detail I need to give here to "defend" myself because this is dxp after all but ok.

LetItB: how am I not sure? Because I said "I think we're ok"? This doesn't even make sense. Would it have been better if I made assumptions like you and said "I KNOW we're ok"?. Actually, HE wants to go on the road trip too to visit his old campus one more time as he may be moving away soon. HE suggested it, I did not.

2. I don't care how much money he will spend on me, because I told him to keep track of ALL expenses since he's driving so I can pay him after. This thank you gift is EXTRA.

Btw, thanks for asking me if I offered to pay instead of just assuming with your judgemental ass.

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Posted by SunMoonStars

He knows I'm not interested in a relationship right now .....

And there it is ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

The two of you have discussed relationship status for him to know this. He is still chasing you, obviously, since he is buying you.

And you're letting him buy you ... while telling him you're not interested.

That's got game written all over it. And I notice that when a person calls you on your bullshit, your comeback is to say you don't have for it, which means = you're just another cunt looking to be validated.

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And friends don't discuss relationships? I'm confused as to where you're getting your rules from.
Two single people cannot talk openly about their lives? This is just odd. Buying me? See above.

Posted by SunMoonStars

Actually, HE wants to go on the road trip too to visit his old campus one more time as he may be moving away soon. HE suggested it, I did not.

Of course, you're not paying your share ... stupid people only fool other stupid people.

It's irrelevant who is actual person who (voiced) this declaration, considering people make subtle suggestive nuances to each other long before the mouth opens to speak.

Again ... only other stupid people are going to be fooled by you.

Posted by SunMoonStars

My Virgo male friend is taking me on a road trip for my birthday next weekend.

There is no mention of going dutch until you were called out ... then you decided to add another angle in defense of yourself. If you were actually going dutch ... your wording in the OP wouldn't have suggested that he is giving you something.

You would have said something like, "My Virgo friend and I are going on a road trip for my birthday next weekend."

You can backtrack all you want ... but, rest assured that only the other stupid people will be gullible enough to think that ONLY single trees exist.

You seem to imply that I'm hiding something. Since you know me so well, what do you think that is, and why? What can I gain? What do I want?

In case you care this much, I worded it that way because he's driving. Just fyi, this is getting entertaining 🙂

Oh, and nice one not mentioning the fact that this was HIS idea because he wants to see his uni campus. Only stupid people wouldn't notice that.

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Ok, but I don't want him to think I'm using him. Money is not really an object to this guy.

This ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ is your response when told that you shouldn't give him anything because it would give him the wrong signal.

why would he think you are using him if you're going dutch?

why mention that money isn't an issue for him, since it's not relevant .... since you are now claiming that you're paying your share?

You talk out of both sides of your t

Posted by SunMoonStars

I don't care how much money he will spend on me, because I told him to keep track of ALL expenses since he's driving so I can pay him after.

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You talk out of both sides of your mouth and then expect to be taken seriously?

lol ... you just can't buy entertainment like this

I don't want him to think that simply because he's driving. He has the means and offers things like the room at his place. I turn down A LOT because it makes me uncomfortable hence why I'm even on here asking this question. Each time he offers something we talk it to death and I think he gets annoyed because I'M more concerned than him.

I guess I mentioned it because every time we go out I try to find something we can BOTH afford. It kind of sucks when you hang out with someone who has a lot of money because they can do anything.

Maybe I'm over-thinking this.