@hopelesscapricorn
11 YearsCapricorn
Do Virgo Males expect to be chased?
Posted by hopelesscapricornHe's the greatest friend I've ever had
I didn't know he cared.
So, you have the greatest friend you've ever had, and you don't know that this friend cares?
oblivious much?
uote>Posted by hopelesscapricornI didn't even know what to say
Why don't you know what to say? According to you he's been the greatest friend ever for 2 years, and you don't even know him?
You can't detect his personality traits?
You must suck as a friend then, if you are clueless to what this guy means when he speaks to you ... considering you've known him a while.
Posted by hopelesscapricorn... a text saying "you suck at communicating."
... 2 weeks without speaking to each other and I called him out on it ..
Why would you call him out about going to 2 weeks without speaking to each other when it's you who sucks at communicating according to him, and it's you who is clueless to what he means when he speaks to you, according to you?
So, you call him out ... when your problem is you.
makes zero sense
Posted by hopelesscapricorni just figure that if a guy is really interested in you then he will hit you up majority of the time.
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what? So, according to you, he's suppose to do the majority of the relationship effort when it comes to communication.
jfc .... people appear to be getting emotionally dumber, rather than smarter
Posted by P-AngelPosted by hopelesscapricornI didn't even know what to say
Why don't you know what to say? According to you he's been the greatest friend ever for 2 years, and you don't even know him?
You can't detect his personality traits?
You must suck as a friend then, if you are clueless to what this guy means when he speaks to you ... considering you've known him a while.
Posted by hopelesscapricorn... a text saying "you suck at communicating."
... 2 weeks without speaking to each other and I called him out on it ..
Why would you call him out about going to 2 weeks without speaking to each other when it's you who sucks at communicating according to him, and it's you who is clueless to what he means when he speaks to you, according to you?
So, you call him out ... when your problem is you.
makes zero sense
Posted by hopelesscapricorni just figure that if a guy is really interested in you then he will hit you up majority of the time.
what? So, according to you, he's suppose to do the majority of the relationship effort when it comes to communication.
jfc .... people appear to be getting emotionally dumber, rather than smarter
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Or here's a suggestion, get your old ass off this forum and stop judging people. I didn't ask for your SMART ASS remarks. When I said I didn't know what to say, I meant that I was shocked and lost for words. And I called him out because he too doesn't make any efforts to talk to me. We're both the stubborn ones in this situation. All I'm asking is if it's common for a virgo man to prefer the woman to chase him and make contact. Shut up and stop with your judging. It's not welcomed.
^^^^^^ LMAO 😄
he said you suck at communicating because he sucks at it. He just want you to initiate more often.
You won't bother him they love to talk don't worry just be yourself 🙂
hopelesscapricorn
it's been my experience that VM do in fact like a women to chase them. It feeds their ego. and they aren't the best at communicating their desires etc.
They build an image of what they want from a woman and how she can live up to this image. But rarely do they initiate the actual part of asking you out ext. They are so scared of rejection, it often prevents them from dating someone they really like.
I understand where you are coming from. Most of my good friends are guys. However, when I was single and they were too, I don't think I could have ever dated anyone of them no matter their sign. And despite knowing them well as a "friend", it would have been difficult to know how they felt about me on a more intimate level. Guys keep their feelings like this close to their vest.
I've always been the type that wanted to keep my friends "friends" and my personal relationship with a man on another level. My husband and I became good friends as we dated. But we didn't know each other prior.
Here's the deal. You have two options. One keep the communication open with him and go have some fun some evening maybe having dinner with him or whatever. Make sure it's just you two. Ask him if he sees you in more of a light of wanting to date or if he's good with just remaining friends. He will tell you what he wants. And then you'll have your answer. If you wait for him to just come out and say it without asking him first, he won't. He'll keep playing with your emotions. They love to be in control.
the other option is do nothing and see where it goes. But like I said above, the chances of him confessing his undying love for you is probably not going to happen. You have to be the assertive one.
VM love assertive and intelligent women who know who they are, what they want and what they won't put up with. Remember that and live it and you'll have a VM who respects you, period.
Good luck!
hopeless,
here's what Pangel wrote under the post about "virgo men being reluctant to make the first move."
Clearly what she is saying is that YOU need to initiate, which is what I said and what Octoberbaby91 told you.
Why Pangle couldn't have simply been considerate and directed you her previous post rather than berate you is beyond me.
Perhaps it's not in her DNA.
Virgo men have to be led.
If you aren't capable of doing that and plan on sitting back to wait on him to decide for you ... then you'll be waiting a long time.
He's clearly shown you that he is interested .... he now waits to be taken by you.
Be aware though .... he's not going to change this inherent trait, so if you expect him one day to take charge of the relationship, then you're deluded.
You will ALWAYS have to be in charge.
gemini64 and octoberbaby91:
you have both been nothing short of helpful, thank you so very much for taking the time out to help me. you're appreciated 🙂
I guess I will have to take the lead and stop being a scary, passive goat! lol
yes because too passive parties will take forever to get the romance started trust me I know I had to learn the hard way that my VM needs to be lead! lol
Yes and no :p
^^^^^^ where the hell you been i been looking for you virgoking?!
Posted by Octoberbaby91
^^^^^^ where the hell you been i been looking for you virgoking?!
I been around lol how can I serve u my dear....😉
LOL i wanted you to do my chart I have virgo in my 3rd house, Jupiter and Venus. assist me please 😄
I'd say YESS!!...My Virgo male friend loves this, he's dating my Aries friend ATM. He tried dating my Female Virgo best friend but it just did not work out. He said, In his words..She's too boring and doesn't show that she's interested in me but I adore her(And I know he does). She(Virgo Friend) is now dating a Cancer man, and she adores him( after he's waited for almost 2 years..lol)
Posted by Octoberbaby91
LOL i wanted you to do my chart I have virgo in my 3rd house, Jupiter and Venus. assist me please 😄
So you must like us virgos than lol even though u have a strong attraction to virgos people with gem planets would be better for you I would say a gem moon. Basically the man you are looking for has to be a good communicator and keep you guessing 3rd house is the house of Gemini and siblings. You might meet this guy through your sibling or places of communication. Your Venus is really not important since u are a women your mars and Jupiter are important. Mars represents what kind of guys turn you on sexually and Jupiter represent your husband.
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Posted by virgoking
Yes and no :p
Yes and no indeed.
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Yup I don't mind leading but sometimes I got things to do if u want to call me than call if I think you are getting on my nerves trust me. I would tell you that along time ago..
LOL yes i love virgos 🙂
well the guy im seeing is a virgo with GEM MARS and a sag moon....so if my jupiter is in virgo my husband will represent the virgo sign?
my mars is in scorpio even though i am a scorp i dont like male scorpios at all. lol i think his rising is in scorp!
my mars is in scorpio even though i am a scorp i dont like male scorpios at all. lol i think his rising is in scorp!
Posted by Octoberbaby91
my mars is in scorpio even though i am a scorp i dont like male scorpios at all. lol i think his rising is in scorp!
Him having gem mars makes sense also that mars cheats a lot by the way. Your mars may be in Scorpio doesn't mean your going to like Scorpio sun but people that have that energy him having a Scorpio rising will give him that energy plus if he has Pluto in the first house how old is he.
He's 22. Mars cheat? I wish he would cheat on me I will kick his ass!! His Pluto is Scorp too!
Lol but we are just really good friends right now when we do become official he better not play with me he knows my dark side very well! 🙂
Posted by Octoberbaby91
He's 22. Mars cheat? I wish he would cheat on me I will kick his ass!! His Pluto is Scorp too!Lol but we are just really good friends right now when we do become official he better not play with me he knows my dark side very well! 🙂
If he really has Scorpio rising than his mars is in the 8th hose of Scorpio so he could be in to some kinky stuff. I have to look at the who chart to see if He will cheat. But gem mars are known for cheating.
I don't think he's a cheater. When he had gf's in the past he never flirted with anyone or played with them like he usually do when he is single.
He def into some kinky stuff alright awww memories 😄
idk the time he was born but both of charts sextile and trines a lot. We have 5 of the same signs in the exact same planets.
Posted by Octoberbaby91
I don't think he's a cheater. When he had gf's in the past he never flirted with anyone or played with them like he usually do when he is single.He def into some kinky stuff alright awww memories 😄
idk the time he was born but both of charts sextile and trines a lot. We have 5 of the same signs in the exact same planets.
Yeah there is a lot to cheating in a chart than just one placement that is why I said I have to see the whole chart there are other things that will turn that off.
Oh okay well he has a libra venus and Jupiter in virgo as well idk what that says but...
Posted by Octoberbaby91
Oh okay well he has a libra venus and Jupiter in virgo as well idk what that says but...
His Venus and mars are align with each other so that's good the next thing is his moon sign.
His moon is in sag oh and his Mercury is in Virgo and mine is in Scorpio!
Virgo are BIG on communication!!!
Don't like inconsistency! It would drive me INSANE lol if someone text me one sentence then thats the end of the convo.
I say if you really like this virgo and they're telling the signs on what they want or need. If you're interested please listen to it.
Virgo men don't really even express themselves, so for you to get that JACKPOT!!!!!
Posted by VirgoCupcake
Virgo are BIG on communication!!!Don't like inconsistency! It would drive me INSANE lol if someone text me one sentence then thats the end of the convo.
I say if you really like this virgo and they're telling the signs on what they want or need. If you're interested please listen to it.
Virgo men don't really even express themselves, so for you to get that JACKPOT!!!!!
I agree🙂
Posted by Octoberbaby91
His moon is in sag oh and his Mercury is in Virgo and mine is in Scorpio!
Oh ok that's a good sign all those planets are align with each other expect his sun but that's ok.
Thank you virgo King
Posted by Octoberbaby91
Thank you virgo King Your welcome 😉
Posted by Octoberbaby91well the guy im seeing is a virgo with GEM MARS and a sag moon....
lol my virgo has a Gem Mars too! but an aries moon. we both have aries moon actually which is why I think I understand him emotionally
Posted by VirgoCupcake
Virgo are BIG on communication!!!Don't like inconsistency! It would drive me INSANE lol if someone text me one sentence then thats the end of the convo.
I say if you really like this virgo and they're telling the signs on what they want or need. If you're interested please listen to it.
Virgo men don't really even express themselves, so for you to get that JACKPOT!!!!!
lol yeah I'm thinking I drove him crazy by not finishing the convo, oopsies! well i hope he continues to express himself. i actually just recently gave him a picture frame for his birthday and i wrote a love note on the back of the picture in the picture frame. he disappeared for 2 weeks, i thought i scared him off. but he's back and he's becoming more open, showing me more attention than he has in a long time. i wonder if the love letter worked?
If a Virgo likes you, he wants consistent contact. No ifs or buts about it.
Virgos will mirror your actions, that's their approach and defense mechanism. That is why people always tell you that you have to "lead" a Virgo; it is because if they led you, they'd be vulnerable to you not reflecting their pace. That scares them.
They need you to initiate the first stage of dating until they trust that you're truly interest before they feel confident enough to reciprocate.
This thread is so funny, sort of like watching monkeys play with computers, all these non-Virgo women pretending to be Virgo experts, making completely ridiculous claims about Virgos, laughable, just hilarious.
If we fealty eith then enough we know how to identify the meanings behind their behavior.
Pretty predictable.
eyes speak more than the mouth
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
This thread is so funny, sort of like watching monkeys play with computers, all these non-Virgo women pretending to be Virgo experts, making completely ridiculous claims about Virgos, laughable, just hilarious.
Well baby...you'd better step forward and give some real answers then 😄
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Posted by AriesGirl74
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
This thread is so funny, sort of like watching monkeys play with computers, all these non-Virgo women pretending to be Virgo experts, making completely ridiculous claims about Virgos, laughable, just hilarious.
Well baby...you'd better step forward and give some real answers then 😄
Lets say we did... real question is, would they care to listen? **dark chuckle**
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you know they will not women don't like to listening lmao 🙂
yessss!! thats what I like to hear !
Posted by PotHeadVirgo25
I don't like being chased nor do I like doing the chasing. I'm into reciprocation.
Ha, what VirgoKing said pretty much.
Let me know you like me, I'll let you know back.
^doesnt apply to me at all^ If I like her, I'll go after her even if I dont know if she likes me too, love the challenge and the chase!
Scenario #2: She likes me, I havent noticed her, she comes after me and I like her = I take the lead and reciprocate
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I'm a Capricorn. Me and my Virgo guy have been friends for 2 years now. He's the greatest friend I've ever had but we also have feelings for each other that we've expressed to each other in the past. I think mine are way deeper than his but I try not to show it until I'm for sure that he feels the same way.
So last night I sent him a text wishing him luck on a movie screening that he was apart of in his hometown.
After I sent the text message he replied with thank you. I didn't say anything back because I didn't want to be a bother and I figured he'd be busy. So I wake up the next morning to a text saying "you suck at communicating." lmao I didn't even know what to say. I didn't know he cared. He and I will literally go 2 weeks without speaking to each other and I called him out on it and he said that he will give me more if that's what I need. and he told me that he better hear from me more often.
the thing is, i hate seeming like a nuisance and i know he's always so busy with his work. i just figure that if a guy is really interested in you then he will hit you up majority of the time. and my guy hits me up but its very infrequent. so can anyone else identify with this -- are virgo men usually used to females chasing them or what?!