VirgoSquirrel
@VirgoSquirrel
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Virguy problem
I don't understand why you said you don't get it.
I also don't understand why you are saying that you were played.
Those both seem like excuses so you don't have to face life, which is ..... people change their minds, people make decisions to stop contact with others at their discretion, nobody is promised a rose garden.
You two had amazing times together, that should be cherished and chalked up to a wonderful life experience to keep in your memory.
Instead, you are focusing on what sucks ... so that means your energy must suck, since that is your concentration.
Posted by P-AngelYes it just was pretty abrupt and that made me sad. I wish he would have told me "i think we should stop seeing each other" instead of confusing me with a stupid photoshoot.
I don't understand why you said you don't get it.
I also don't understand why you are saying that you were played.
Those both seem like excuses so you don't have to face life, which is ..... people change their minds, people make decisions to stop contact with others at their discretion, nobody is promised a rose garden.
You two had amazing times together, that should be cherished and chalked up to a wonderful life experience to keep in your memory.
Instead, you are focusing on what sucks ... so that means your energy must suck, since that is your concentration.
You dont know how to read old lady ? I said i was focusing on both and that's why it hurts, people can't only, at least in the beginning focus on good stuff only i guess. Acknowledging the bad memories is a part of the healing process. Keeping the good ones only is when i will be over him, Which i'm not yet. So i dont feel like your advice of just remembering good stuff is a good one. If it is then give tips.
Why do I get the feeling from what you've written here that his ex was really his gf all along.
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The virguy was there. With his ex girlfriend. He didnt tell me he was in town or anything. He said hi when he saw me and then just danced 3 meters behind my group of friends for the rest of the party.
i am having a hard time getting over him .... And the fact that there has been no explanation is what hurts me the most.
..... because:
1. having the guy with another woman all night, while ignoring you is so desirable and attractive that it's almost impossible to continue living without having them abuse you more.
2. having it smack you in the face (publicly) isn't evidence enough ... you have to have words spoken to you before the ability of putting two and two together is present
Posted by LadyNeptune
Why do I get the feeling from what you've written here that his ex was really his gf all along.
That seems pretty evident to me.
The fact that he argues with her, and then they are together at a party of mutual friends makes it obvious that she is the main piece, while this OP here was the side piece.
As per usual though, once a woman catches feelings, she becomes completely blind to reality ... and fully believes her fantasy is real.
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The virguy was there. With his ex girlfriend. He didnt tell me he was in town or anything. He said hi when he saw me and then just danced 3 meters behind my group of friends for the rest of the party.
i am having a hard time getting over him .... And the fact that there has been no explanation is what hurts me the most.
..... because:
1. having the guy with another woman all night, while ignoring you is so desirable and attractive that it's almost impossible to continue living without having them abuse you more.
2. having it smack you in the face (publicly) isn't evidence enough ... you have to have words spoken to you before the ability of putting two and two together is present
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I meant before seeing him on friday you little troll. You understood me but trying to annoy me as you always do, and it's not working. Besides you are not helpful when stating plain obvious facts i already thought through. Also please be consistent, you say remember and cherish the good stuff then you say oh wait remember bad stuff its pretty obvious. Go back playing with your cats old pisces troll.
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Why do I get the feeling from what you've written here that his ex was really his gf all along.
No 100% sure she wasn't at the time. After the party probably and it seems obvious to me. But before no they had been apart for over 6 months.
Posted by yupvirgoThank you! That's what i thought too, the conclusion seems logical. Yes the temptation is strong but it will fade away with time hopefully. For now i am sticking to no contact so it's fine.
He got back together with his ex-gf.
Maybe he actually, genuinely thought that he could be with you but then he changed his mind when he realized he still had feelings for her.
It's very simple.
Cut off your contact with him in case you get tempted to contact him.
It's not practical to wallow.
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Why do I get the feeling from what you've written here that his ex was really his gf all along.
No 100% sure she wasn't at the time. After the party probably and it seems obvious to me. But before no they had been apart for over 6 months.
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When i say party i mean the one in which they argued. And they did not come together to this one.
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The virguy was there. With his ex girlfriend. He didnt tell me he was in town or anything. He said hi when he saw me and then just danced 3 meters behind my group of friends for the rest of the party.
i am having a hard time getting over him .... And the fact that there has been no explanation is what hurts me the most.
..... because:
1. having the guy with another woman all night, while ignoring you is so desirable and attractive that it's almost impossible to continue living without having them abuse you more.
2. having it smack you in the face (publicly) isn't evidence enough ... you have to have words spoken to you before the ability of putting two and two together is present
I meant before seeing him on friday you little troll. You understood me but trying to annoy me as you always do, and it's not working. Besides you are not helpful when stating plain obvious facts i already thought through. Also please be consistent, you say remember and cherish the good stuff then you say oh wait remember bad stuff its pretty obvious. Go back playing with your cats old pisces troll.
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What difference does it make if it was a Friday before ... it's after that particular Friday now and here you are saying you don't get what is right in front of your face.
If you had thought it through, then why say you don't understand?
What a moron. No wonder he took a pass on you to go back to an ex .... even an ex is better than a dumbass who is so thick and dense that she can't even get the meaning of her own words.
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The virguy was there. With his ex girlfriend. He didnt tell me he was in town or anything. He said hi when he saw me and then just danced 3 meters behind my group of friends for the rest of the party.
i am having a hard time getting over him .... And the fact that there has been no explanation is what hurts me the most.
..... because:
1. having the guy with another woman all night, while ignoring you is so desirable and attractive that it's almost impossible to continue living without having them abuse you more.
2. having it smack you in the face (publicly) isn't evidence enough ... you have to have words spoken to you before the ability of putting two and two together is present
I meant before seeing him on friday you little troll. You understood me but trying to annoy me as you always do, and it's not working. Besides you are not helpful when stating plain obvious facts i already thought through. Also please be consistent, you say remember and cherish the good stuff then you say oh wait remember bad stuff its pretty obvious. Go back playing with your cats old pisces troll.
What difference does it make if it was a Friday before ... it's after that particular Friday now and here you are saying you don't get what is right in front of your face.
If you had thought it through, then why say you don't understand?
What a moron. No wonder he took a pass on you to go back to an ex .... even an ex is better than a dumbass who is so thick and dense that she can't even get the meaning of her own words.click to expand
Ouch someone got hurt lmao —
Posted by P-AngelPosted by LadyNeptune
Why do I get the feeling from what you've written here that his ex was really his gf all along.
That seems pretty evident to me.
The fact that he argues with her, and then they are together at a party of mutual friends makes it obvious that she is the main piece, while this OP here was the side piece.
As per usual though, once a woman catches feelings, she becomes completely blind to reality ... and fully believes her fantasy is real.
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Since she is clueless to it and says they were broken up ... the logical conclusion becomes that she was indeed clueless to it. She must have been in a one-sided relationship, and missed all the signs that should have been telling her that she was the piece of ass on side.
I kind of feel sorry for her in that she is so clueless about the unspoken nuances that words have to be spoken to her before any inkling of a light can go off in her head.
Eventhough she is saying that she gets it now ..... obviously she doesn't, because if she was capable of getting it, then she would have already.
Poor guy.
Eventhough she is saying that she gets it now ..... obviously she doesn't, because if she was capable of getting it, then she would have already.
Poor guy.
Posted by VirgoSquirrelIf it was so obvious to you then why do you refer to her as his ex in this incident that according to you happened after the party?Posted by LadyNeptune
Why do I get the feeling from what you've written here that his ex was really his gf all along.
No 100% sure she wasn't at the time. After the party probably and it seems obvious to me. But before no they had been apart for over 6 months.
Posted by VirgoSquirrelIt's obvious to me that he was uncomfortable having his girlfriend and you (side chick) in the same room at the same time. But I'm curious how you interpreted him looking at you? You seem to think it was a sign of his continued 'feelings' toward you...
Anyway friday of last week i went to the club as our mutual friend was DJing there. The virguy was there. With his ex girlfriend. He didnt tell me he was in town or anything. He said hi when he saw me and then just danced 3 meters behind my group of friends for the rest of the party. Everytime i would turn my head i would catch him staring at me.click to expand
Posted by P-AngelIf you look at his compliments they are all very generic and could be said to any woman he's trying to get ass from. Not specific praise to the op's attributes whatsoever.Posted by LadyNeptune
Why do I get the feeling from what you've written here that his ex was really his gf all along.
That seems pretty evident to me.
The fact that he argues with her, and then they are together at a party of mutual friends makes it obvious that she is the main piece, while this OP here was the side piece.
As per usual though, once a woman catches feelings, she becomes completely blind to reality ... and fully believes her fantasy is real.
Posted by VirgoSquirrelOp, judge a guys interest in you on how well they listen to you, how well they know you. Don't catch feelings just because the dude says that when he thinks about you his dick gets hard. Your setting yourself up to be played.
he would still ask me to come visit or plan a trip to amsterdam or Berlin together, and tell me he never felt So comfortable with someone, that he thought about me all the Time. One Time after a marathon sex he told me i want you all the time, it's the first time i feel that with someone.click to expand
Posted by VirgoSquirrelAccording to whom? Him?Posted by VirgoSquirrelPosted by LadyNeptune
Why do I get the feeling from what you've written here that his ex was really his gf all along.
No 100% sure she wasn't at the time. After the party probably and it seems obvious to me. But before no they had been apart for over 6 months.
When i say party i mean the one in which they argued. And they did not come together to this one.
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Do you see how it's in his best interests to tell you that he's single? Your panties will come off much sooner if you think he's single and he dangles the carrot of a potential relationship in front of you, saying he hasn't ever felt this way...your the one...blah blah blah. Smh.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by VirgoSquirrelIf it was so obvious to you then why do you refer to her as his ex in this incident that according to you happened after the party?Posted by LadyNeptune
Why do I get the feeling from what you've written here that his ex was really his gf all along.
No 100% sure she wasn't at the time. After the party probably and it seems obvious to me. But before no they had been apart for over 6 months.
Posted by VirgoSquirrelIt's obvious to me that he was uncomfortable having his girlfriend and you (side chick) in the same room at the same time. But I'm curious how you interpreted him looking at you? You seem to think it was a sign of his continued 'feelings' toward you...
Anyway friday of last week i went to the club as our mutual friend was DJing there. The virguy was there. With his ex girlfriend. He didnt tell me he was in town or anything. He said hi when he saw me and then just danced 3 meters behind my group of friends for the rest of the party. Everytime i would turn my head i would catch him staring at me.
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It's sad, really. All jokes aside ... it's sad that women are this desperate to be loved that they make shit up in their head, just get approval from men that they are wanted.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by VirgoSquirrelIf it was so obvious to you then why do you refer to her as his ex in this incident that according to you happened after the party?Posted by LadyNeptune
Why do I get the feeling from what you've written here that his ex was really his gf all along.
No 100% sure she wasn't at the time. After the party probably and it seems obvious to me. But before no they had been apart for over 6 months.
Posted by VirgoSquirrelIt's obvious to me that he was uncomfortable having his girlfriend and you (side chick) in the same room at the same time. But I'm curious how you interpreted him looking at you?
Anyway friday of last week i went to the club as our mutual friend was DJing there. The virguy was there. With his ex girlfriend. He didnt tell me he was in town or anything. He said hi when he saw me and then just danced 3 meters behind my group of friends for the rest of the party. Everytime i would turn my head i would catch him staring at me.
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No the incident was them arguing at the party. The party was thrown by a person we both know and he wanted to see me there as he called me before saying he was looking forward to seeing me etc. we were supposed to go home together after which didn't happen as i went home alone as soon as i saw them talking. To make it clear since that we did not have sex again So you refering as "side chick" is confusing. things might not seem clear as my english is bad.
For the other party (at the club) i did not try to interpret him staring because the situation was pretty obvious and i didnt want to spend a bad night over thinking his behaviour so i just kept having fun with my group of friends and moved in front on my group of friends so i could be a bit more out of sight. I just wasn't in the mood for drama or games. There are lots of things he did i gave up on understanding (in the "relationship" in general). It's just "facts" i guess.
bullshit ^^^^^
You did say that every time you turned your head you caught him staring at you .... and the only reason to say that is to let us know that in his eyes, you are his vision to behold.
You're backpedalling now.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by VirgoSquirrelAccording to whom? Him?Posted by VirgoSquirrelPosted by LadyNeptune
Why do I get the feeling from what you've written here that his ex was really his gf all along.
No 100% sure she wasn't at the time. After the party probably and it seems obvious to me. But before no they had been apart for over 6 months.
When i say party i mean the one in which they argued. And they did not come together to this one.
Do you see how it's in his best interests to tell you that he's single? Your panties will come off much sooner if you think he's single and he dangles the carrot of a potential relationship in front of you, saying he hasn't ever felt this way...your the one...blah blah blah. Smh.
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According to him and all our mutual acquaintances who actually knew we were seeing each other. It might not be sincere but after one of our "dates" when things were going well he told me we should sleep separately tonight, i don't want you to think this is only about sex unless it is for you. But again now after what happenned i of course question his statements and previous actions as the recent ones speak louder. It's just a bit hurtful you know, i am human.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by P-AngelIf you look at his compliments they are all very generic and could be said to any woman he's trying to get ass from. Not specific praise to the op's attributes whatsoever.Posted by LadyNeptune
Why do I get the feeling from what you've written here that his ex was really his gf all along.
That seems pretty evident to me.
The fact that he argues with her, and then they are together at a party of mutual friends makes it obvious that she is the main piece, while this OP here was the side piece.
As per usual though, once a woman catches feelings, she becomes completely blind to reality ... and fully believes her fantasy is real.
Posted by VirgoSquirrelOp, judge a guys interest in you on how well they listen to you, how well they know you. Don't catch feelings just because the dude says that when he thinks about you his dick gets hard. Your setting yourself up to be played.
he would still ask me to come visit or plan a trip to amsterdam or Berlin together, and tell me he never felt So comfortable with someone, that he thought about me all the Time. One Time after a marathon sex he told me i want you all the time, it's the first time i feel that with someone.
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Yes you are right, thanks ❤️
You are here, defending your actions of admiration and desire for a guy who ignores you, so he can be with another woman.
It doesn't matter what words you try to use in an attempt to turn this around so you don't look ridiculous .. you already said those words, and made those implications.
From this point forward, just be a grown up and admit your intent is to secure the ownership of a douchebag.
Posted by VirgoSquirrelHave you considered that its possible the reason he was arguing with her was that he was upset that his gf followed him to the party where he was planning to hook up with you?Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by VirgoSquirrelIf it was so obvious to you then why do you refer to her as his ex in this incident that according to you happened after the party?Posted by LadyNeptune
Why do I get the feeling from what you've written here that his ex was really his gf all along.
No 100% sure she wasn't at the time. After the party probably and it seems obvious to me. But before no they had been apart for over 6 months.
Posted by VirgoSquirrelIt's obvious to me that he was uncomfortable having his girlfriend and you (side chick) in the same room at the same time. But I'm curious how you interpreted him looking at you?
Anyway friday of last week i went to the club as our mutual friend was DJing there. The virguy was there. With his ex girlfriend. He didnt tell me he was in town or anything. He said hi when he saw me and then just danced 3 meters behind my group of friends for the rest of the party. Everytime i would turn my head i would catch him staring at me.
No the incident was them arguing at the party. The party was thrown by a person we both know and he wanted to see me there as he called me before saying he was looking forward to seeing me etc. we were supposed to go home together after which didn't happen as i went home alone as soon as i saw them talking. To make it clear since that we did not have sex again So you refering as "side chick" is confusing. things might not seem clear as my english is bad.
For the other party (at the club) i did not try to interpret him staring because the situation was pretty obvious and i didnt want to spend a bad night over thinking his behaviour so i just kept having fun with my group of friends and moved in front on my group of friends so i could be a bit more out of sight. I just wasn't in the mood for drama or games. There are lots of things he did i gave up on understanding (in the "relationship" in general). It's just "facts" i guess.
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If she is in fact his gf, and I strongly suspect she is, that makes you the side chick. Irregardless of if you fucked him 100 times, 1 time, or not at all...you are the other woman. He is pursuing you in a romantic fashion which makes you the side chick. Period.
Unless you left out where he asked you to be his gf in this story... you were never in a 'relationship' with him.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by VirgoSquirrelHave you considered that its possible the reason he was arguing with her was that he was upset that his gf followed him to the party where he was planning to hook up with you?Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by VirgoSquirrelIf it was so obvious to you then why do you refer to her as his ex in this incident that according to you happened after the party?Posted by LadyNeptune
Why do I get the feeling from what you've written here that his ex was really his gf all along.
No 100% sure she wasn't at the time. After the party probably and it seems obvious to me. But before no they had been apart for over 6 months.
Posted by VirgoSquirrelIt's obvious to me that he was uncomfortable having his girlfriend and you (side chick) in the same room at the same time. But I'm curious how you interpreted him looking at you?
Anyway friday of last week i went to the club as our mutual friend was DJing there. The virguy was there. With his ex girlfriend. He didnt tell me he was in town or anything. He said hi when he saw me and then just danced 3 meters behind my group of friends for the rest of the party. Everytime i would turn my head i would catch him staring at me.
No the incident was them arguing at the party. The party was thrown by a person we both know and he wanted to see me there as he called me before saying he was looking forward to seeing me etc. we were supposed to go home together after which didn't happen as i went home alone as soon as i saw them talking. To make it clear since that we did not have sex again So you refering as "side chick" is confusing. things might not seem clear as my english is bad.
For the other party (at the club) i did not try to interpret him staring because the situation was pretty obvious and i didnt want to spend a bad night over thinking his behaviour so i just kept having fun with my group of friends and moved in front on my group of friends so i could be a bit more out of sight. I just wasn't in the mood for drama or games. There are lots of things he did i gave up on understanding (in the "relationship" in general). It's just "facts" i guess.
If she is in fact his gf, and I strongly suspect she is, that makes you the side chick. Irregardless of if you fucked him 100 times, 1 time, or not at all...you are the other woman. He is pursuing you in a romantic fashion which makes you the side chick. Period.
Unless you left out where he asked you to be his gf in this story... you were never in a 'relationship' with him.
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Hence the quotes, never said we were. But one of the rare things i am sure of is she was his ex. Can't imagine a conspiracy where everyone is lying about this and that you guys are right. I actually know the girl (from far).
Posted by VirgoSquirrelFor all you know he spun that story because he needed to go over to his gf's that night.Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by VirgoSquirrelAccording to whom? Him?Posted by VirgoSquirrelPosted by LadyNeptune
Why do I get the feeling from what you've written here that his ex was really his gf all along.
No 100% sure she wasn't at the time. After the party probably and it seems obvious to me. But before no they had been apart for over 6 months.
When i say party i mean the one in which they argued. And they did not come together to this one.
Do you see how it's in his best interests to tell you that he's single? Your panties will come off much sooner if you think he's single and he dangles the carrot of a potential relationship in front of you, saying he hasn't ever felt this way...your the one...blah blah blah. Smh.
According to him and all our mutual acquaintances who actually knew we were seeing each other. It might not be sincere but after one of our "dates" when things were going well he told me we should sleep separately tonight, i don't want you to think this is only about sex unless it is for you. But again now after what happenned i of course question his statements and previous actions as the recent ones speak louder. It's just a bit hurtful you know, i am human.
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Would you say these 'mutual acquaintances' are more his friends?...Or yours? Because a dudes friends are always going to be loyal to their bro first and foremost.
Your hurt because you blindly trusted someone and ignored the red flags. Don't be naive.Your the only one whose responsible for protecting your heart. Pre-qualify the men you allow into your life and between your legs.
Posted by P-Angel@VirgoSquirrel
You are here, defending your actions of admiration and desire for a guy who ignores you, so he can be with another woman.
It doesn't matter what words you try to use in an attempt to turn this around so you don't look ridiculous .. you already said those words, and made those implications.
From this point forward, just be a grown up and admit your intent is to secure the ownership of a douchebag.
I could be completely off, maybe he is single and its really his ex. But p-angel is right...your pinning after someone who chooses to be with another woman over you.
People treat you with respect if you demand it...not because you 'deserve' it. Assign yourself more value...no one else will.
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For all you know he spun that story because he needed to go over to his gf's that night.
Would you say these 'mutual acquaintances' are more his friends?...Or yours? Because a dudes friends are always going to be loyal to their bro first and foremost.
Your hurt because you blindly trusted someone and ignored the red flags. Don't be naive.Your the only one whose responsible for protecting your heart. Pre-qualify the men you allow into your life and between your legs.
It depends on the people, for instance the friend which introduced us is definitely closer to me, it's a group of about 15 people boys and girls So of course it's different from one person to another. some are closer to him though but i have no doubt that at least for the first month we were seeing each other he really was single.
And i really like your last advice thank you, it s something i really have to Work on especially for in my life. I really do agree that i have to be more aware to signals, i guess that teaches a lesson. It's stupid that i always think that people's intentions are good not only with men but in general until they prove otherwise. I definitely need to make myself colder. Thanks.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by P-Angel@VirgoSquirrel
You are here, defending your actions of admiration and desire for a guy who ignores you, so he can be with another woman.
It doesn't matter what words you try to use in an attempt to turn this around so you don't look ridiculous .. you already said those words, and made those implications.
From this point forward, just be a grown up and admit your intent is to secure the ownership of a douchebag.
I could be completely off, maybe he is single and its really his ex. But p-angel is right...your pinning after someone who chooses to be with another woman over you.
People treat you with respect if you demand it...not because you 'deserve' it. Assign yourself more value...no one else will.click to expand
Yes i just needed to vent and could really use some advice which you gave. I don't know what pinning after means (sorry i'm french) but i just needed to let it out, and it feels good. Not trying to get anything back since i did not contact him i just keep obsessing over the story which i often do (virgo thing may be ?). And yes i do need to work on that even though i dont really know how.
Posted by stopbeingdelusionalHahaha that s why i asked for some virguys opinion and this is just the most logical and pragmatic one (which i stick into personnally at least).Posted by yupvirgo+1
He got back together with his ex-gf.
Maybe he actually, genuinely thought that he could be with you but then he changed his mind when he realized he still had feelings for her.
It's very simple.
Cut off your contact with him in case you get tempted to contact him.
It's not practical to wallow.
this happened to me before. I was seeing a Virguy for a couple of months then he went back to his ex cuz when she reappeared in his life, he realized that he still loved her.click to expand
Posted by VirgoSquirrelPinning means you are holding him in your thoughts, craving/yearning for him.Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by P-Angel@VirgoSquirrel
You are here, defending your actions of admiration and desire for a guy who ignores you, so he can be with another woman.
It doesn't matter what words you try to use in an attempt to turn this around so you don't look ridiculous .. you already said those words, and made those implications.
From this point forward, just be a grown up and admit your intent is to secure the ownership of a douchebag.
I could be completely off, maybe he is single and its really his ex. But p-angel is right...your pinning after someone who chooses to be with another woman over you.
People treat you with respect if you demand it...not because you 'deserve' it. Assign yourself more value...no one else will.
Yes i just needed to vent and could really use some advice which you gave. I don't know what pinning after means (sorry i'm french) but i just needed to let it out, and it feels good. Not trying to get anything back since i did not contact him i just keep obsessing over the story which i often do (virgo thing may be ?). And yes i do need to work on that even though i dont really know how.
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Venting is good. Utilize this experience, learn from it. Grow from it.
Posted by VirgoSquirrelJust remember that everyone has an agenda. They are on their own team first before they are on yours. Before you open your heart and let a man in, let him prove that he is all about you. That means for the most part you have to hold back emotionally and let time test his intentions.Posted by LadyNeptune
For all you know he spun that story because he needed to go over to his gf's that night.
Would you say these 'mutual acquaintances' are more his friends?...Or yours? Because a dudes friends are always going to be loyal to their bro first and foremost.
Your hurt because you blindly trusted someone and ignored the red flags. Don't be naive.Your the only one whose responsible for protecting your heart. Pre-qualify the men you allow into your life and between your legs.
It depends on the people, for instance the friend which introduced us is definitely closer to me, it's a group of about 15 people boys and girls So of course it's different from one person to another. some are closer to him though but i have no doubt that at least for the first month we were seeing each other he really was single.
And i really like your last advice thank you, it s something i really have to Work on especially for in my life. I really do agree that i have to be more aware to signals, i guess that teaches a lesson. It's stupid that i always think that people's intentions are good not only with men but in general until they prove otherwise. I definitely need to make myself colder. Thanks.
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Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by VirgoSquirrelJust remember that everyone has an agenda. They are on their own team first before they are on yours. Before you open your heart and let a man in, let him prove that he is all about you. That means for the most part you have to hold back emotionally and let time test his intentions.Posted by LadyNeptune
For all you know he spun that story because he needed to go over to his gf's that night.
Would you say these 'mutual acquaintances' are more his friends?...Or yours? Because a dudes friends are always going to be loyal to their bro first and foremost.
Your hurt because you blindly trusted someone and ignored the red flags. Don't be naive.Your the only one whose responsible for protecting your heart. Pre-qualify the men you allow into your life and between your legs.
It depends on the people, for instance the friend which introduced us is definitely closer to me, it's a group of about 15 people boys and girls So of course it's different from one person to another. some are closer to him though but i have no doubt that at least for the first month we were seeing each other he really was single.
And i really like your last advice thank you, it s something i really have to Work on especially for in my life. I really do agree that i have to be more aware to signals, i guess that teaches a lesson. It's stupid that i always think that people's intentions are good not only with men but in general until they prove otherwise. I definitely need to make myself colder. Thanks.
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Yes will try my best to, thanks a lot ❤️
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this post may seem ironic as i am a virgo myself but i just need to vent about this virguy. We met 3 months ago as we have a mutual friend and immediately clicked. If that helps he has venus in libra (like me) and mars in cancer. After the day we met he added me on facebook and asked me to go to the movies with him 3 days later as he said he really wanted to see me again. It went great and we saw each other more other times, had the most amazing sex and late night deep conversations, the chemistry was just crazy because we were So alike and different at the Same Time. yet i would say our relationship was weird because it was both deep and casual and this is why: he had to move on to another city about a month ago, but he would still ask me to come visit or plan a trip to amsterdam or Berlin together, and tell me he never felt So comfortable with someone, that he thought about me all the Time. One Time after a marathon sex he told me i want you all the time, it's the first time i feel that with someone. But just before he left there has been a huge incident. We went to a party and his ex girlfriend was there, he was pretty drunk and they started arguing. I just left that party and he called me right after and wanted to see me the next day to talk. We talked and he apologized for his behaviour and said he would make up for it, yet something had changed. That day he gave me his favourite sweater as i was cold, and then he left the city.
Since then we rarely talked. He came back to the city i live in two weeks ago and called me when he arrived because he "wanted to see my face". Few Hours later i meet him at the club where he was and we talked, no physical contact. Then he just left because he was wasted and felt sick. After that he just disappeared and didnt contact me until last monday saying he is buying a camera and that he wanted me to be his model for a series ou photos, that he had lots of ideas. Nevermind i found that weird as we stopped talking and i was frankly in pain because of that, just didnt get it. Anyway friday of last week i went to the club as our mutual friend was DJing there. The virguy was there. With his ex girlfriend. He didnt tell me he was in town or anything. He said hi when he saw me and then just danced 3 meters behind my group of friends for the rest of the party. Everytime i would turn my head i would catch him staring at me. Since then no contact. I didnt for obvious reasons and he didnt neither.
So i guess this is it and he played me but i just dont understand him and i am having a hard time getting over him as the good memories were so good in a cliché way, and the bad memories still hurt. And the fact that there has been no explanation is what hurts me the most. And i dont feel like i really can talk to him as he is far away.
I came to the conclusion that he loved his ex all this Time and our whole story meant nothing to him, that i was just another girl, probably a rebound. And it hurts a lot, because before the incident there have never been any mixed signals.
I just need some virguys insights on the situation and help to get over him (any tips are appreciated).
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Since then we rarely talked. He came back to the city i live in two weeks ago and called me when he arrived because he "wanted to see my face". Few Hours later i meet him at the club where he was and we talked, no physical contact. Then he just left because he was wasted and felt sick. After that he just disappeared and didnt contact me until last monday saying he is buying a camera and that he wanted me to be his model for a series ou photos, that he had lots of ideas. Nevermind i found that weird as we stopped talking and i was frankly in pain because of that, just didnt get it. Anyway friday of last week i went to the club as our mutual friend was DJing there. The virguy was there. With his ex girlfriend. He didnt tell me he was in town or anything. He said hi when he saw me and then just danced 3 meters behind my group of friends for the rest of the party. Everytime i would turn my head i would catch him staring at me. Since then no contact. I didnt for obvious reasons and he didnt neither.
So i guess this is it and he played me but i just dont understand him and i am having a hard time getting over him as the good memories were so good in a cliché way, and the bad memories still hurt. And the fact that there has been no explanation is what hurts me the most. And i dont feel like i really can talk to him as he is far away.
I came to the conclusion that he loved his ex all this Time and our whole story meant nothing to him, that i was just another girl, probably a rebound. And it hurts a lot, because before the incident there have never been any mixed signals.
I just need some virguys insights on the situation and help to get over him (any tips are appreciated).