Vmen and exes

Well, happy new year! What's up with Vmen and exes? It seems that a lot of them stay friends with their exes and also Vmen can be quite the drama king lol, they kind of "lie" to get attention, I don't know, I was wondering why they do that? We parted ways but remain friendly...we text each other and he always reply rather fast. I just think Vmen are awesome 🙂

My first intention after Im done getting over an ex, is usually to remain friends with them. I've never had an extremely ugly breakup so I have always been able to maintain a good level of respect for my exes. My philosophy is that it would be hypocritical of me to go out of my way to NOT remain friends with them, after all they meant something very important to me at some point in my life, so weighing this against the sadness and pain of a breakup..the good moments I had with them always outnumber the bad ones.

I heard that once Virgo is done with you, he is done and no looking back. Why do you keep exes as friends? Does the new gf knows you are in contact with the ex? WTH?

If I loved my ex, there is no way I could just be "friends". Either the whole thing, or nothing at all - this is how I roll.

Posted by LadiDay
I heard that once Virgo is done with you, he is done and no looking back. Why do you keep exes as friends? Does the new gf knows you are in contact with the ex? WTH?

Well Im not going to give up who I am because of a girlfriend's insecurities; if she cant accept this part of me (that I can actually remain good friends with some exes) then I dont think its a good idea to remain together anyway, the issue would most probably come back in some other form or shape anyway. I dont date girls who are too insecure anyway.

Posted by Vcharm
If I loved my ex, there is no way I could just be "friends". Either the whole thing, or nothing at all - this is how I roll.

It basically means you have problems moving on and accepting new realities.

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Posted by PotHeadVirgo22
I don't think I'll be doing this anymore as I've gotten rid of all of my exes completely. It seems as if I don't, I will always have to make a decision from one of my gf's ultimatums. Then I'll be skressed out trying to figure out what to do because I love both my gf and my ex-friend. So fuck it, if I had to choose, both can get the hiking. Though it soley depends on the circumstance. Females and their bullshit ass insecurities....

Maybe you can keep your exes platonic, but I have been burned by men that are supposedly in an exclusive relationship with me (or Im married to) back-tracking to exes. And my ex-virgo has propositioned me several times since our divorce even though he had a gf for a while. And it was during his relationship with his gf. He was just having problems with her. I told him I didn't want to hear it, and absolutely would not meet him for sexcapades. I thought that was ballsy of him to ask me since the gf had a hand in breaking up out marriage... sheesh

Exes should be exes IMO. It is not great to have a relationship with someone, run in to a few problems, and then they go to running to their ex to get them to rescue them from from having to deal with those problems in their current relationship, or confide in them a lot of personal matters. But I have observed that virguys tend to do this quite often...

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This should be a public service message for all Exes out here hanging on, especially us womenfolk. Men will run back to the familiar while they figure out what is going on in their current relationship. But, they never stay there for long....

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Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
My philosophy is that it would be hypocritical of me to go out of my way to NOT remain friends with them, after all they meant something very important to me at some point in my life

This is exactly what my virgo was saying the other day. I know he has contact with one of them and I don't mind.

I'm curious though, if your girl would have contact with an ex.. How would you virgo men feel?

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Obviously I cant say I wouldnt care about it at all, but I'd respect it and try to understand it instead of condemning it.

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Posted by Vcharm
If I loved my ex, there is no way I could just be "friends". Either the whole thing, or nothing at all - this is how I roll.

It basically means you have problems moving on and accepting new realities.

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Quite the opposite my friend.

Perhaps it's you who has trouble moving on, so you remain friends hoping one day you'll be together?

No, I just accept the change of circumstances like a real man instead of running away like a pussy.

Thank you all for the responses. BoomShakalaBoom is the reason why I think Vmen are awesome, thank you!

^You may not realize it, but it is exactly that cancerian narrow-mindedness that is most probably the cause of your misery with your Virgo^

Yeah, you're too insecure to be with a Virgo, thats the problem.

And sorry but I dont feel inspired to read your thread, dont really like your negative energy.

If its a work colleague or an old school friend, baby mama , I can see keeping in touch. A man who is in constant contact with an ex lover has not let go of the relationship and is doing it to satisfy his ego. Its emotional cheating, his focus is not entirely on his new girl and its not being respectful of her feelings.

Posted by CluelessCancer
It seems to me that Virgo men need women around them for the attention so they keep them around. Maybe they don't respect their current relationship enough or are scared it'll end anyways so you keep ex's for the ego boost or as an option? I don't think it's manly to keep ex's around. I think its opportunistic and downright dis-genuine to make it seem altruistic.

Speaking of insecurities, everyone has them. Why make it seem like it's ugly, when most of the time women have a tendency to be insecure because of how men treat them...a real man makes a woman feel secure.

+1 and you are not insecure for feeling that way!!

I dated an Aries guy for a few months. We break up. He meets a woman online from Florida and hooks up with her. He decides he is moving there in a year. All this is fine and dandy. Then... he's back from Florida and has been texting me non-stop since he's been back. He wants to stay 'friends' with me. Really likes me. Can he see me Friday night? Wtf? As if I dont know what he wants. He is now in a LTR and cant get pussy regularly so guess what? He is thinking he is getting it from me? Really? He has a lot of female friends, not many male friends, and that was a red flag for me. Ugh, loser.

Posted by msmarilynmanson
An ex is an ex is an ex for a reason. Walk away like a classy female snapping your fingers in your chanel suit or throw their shiz out the window jerry springer style . 🙂

Hey emo gurl, I think you're not receiving my PM's?