What do Virgo ladies truly fall for—

Hey Virgo ladies!
Im just wandering what it is that Virgo gals really truly like. almost feel dumb asking this, since i dated a virgo for 3 years, but then she told me that our relationship was just 'sex' :\

anyway. moving on. what is it that Virgo females want to see in a guy??

From what i gathered/remember, they like honesty, correct? and the soft/gentle side of a guy??

truth is, i really REALLY want to date another virgo; her and I get along great, but i cant tell if she truly likes me... and being a gemini myself, i almost feel like she has the exact same thought going through her head...

do you think a straight-on approach would work? or will she freak out? Should one approach them aggressively or passively...
i really just want to shower her with compliments and gifts (i dunno if that is a gemini thing or a remainder of my virgo ex) but how would she take that?

also... i notice that she puts herself down a lot of times, and i tell her that she sells herself way too short and that kind of thing, and she just doesnt get it. should i stop being so positive and feed her own self pity thing she does??

I cna only speak for myself. I'm flirty and I like to think that I act differently when I am REALLY digging someone but I really don't know. I don't flirt at all if I am not digging you, but if I find you cool but not a sex god then I may not flirt heavily. So to answer your questions as they pertain to me...

I don't like aggressiveness from someone I am not into.

I definitely love honesty because I need to know that a person has a free and clear title.

I don't like accepting gifts from someone I am not interested in because it makes me feel obligated to be at least nice to them which can be interpreted as interested in them. I won't turn anything down from someone I like though.

The best way for someone to find out if I like them is to ask/invite me out. If I say yes then I like them, if they have to beg me or I say no then I am not all that interested in them. If I ignore them after saying no then they know that I've shut down shop and I did not like them.

Also, if you're going to invite me somewhere all ducks should be in a row. I won't go anywhere that I have questions about the arrangements unless I know I can protect/take care of myself should push come to shove. Such as asking me to go somewhere expensive and I don't have the money but you say you will take care of it, if it's far away or I am totally dependent on you for fun and accomodations then I might not be too eager to go.

Feeding her self-pity. Do you mean play the mind game of reverse psychology? I can see where a Virgo might think she is too (insert negative word) and someoe says yeah just a little bit and she might think, wow, it is noticeable I better get to working on this because I need to be as perfect as possible.

Hope I've been of help. 🙂

A man to hold onto, a solid commitment that won't falter ... and from observing Virgo's, I would say this bond is most often formed through sexuality.

So long as sex is stable, and never withheld for any reason, and she wants to commit herself to you .... then she's yours.

Gifts, money (things) don't seem to matter, though nice to have.

From what I've observed in here, 99% of Virgo women measure their relationships in this fashion. The man can do just about anything and she will remain loyal to him, cater to him, give of herself with no questions asked. However, the moment he says "no" to sex, she is put into a tailspin, and doesnt' know what to do .. because from her perspective, this means the relationship is in peril and she doesn't know why. Alls she knows is that sex stopped, and this must be an indicator that something is wrong with the love.

So, I would gather that the only thing you need to do to get her and keep her ... is to be very, very sexual with her. Base the whole relationship around it.

LOL @ Peanut gallery answers.

I can only speak from my experience with Virgals. The chemistry was pretty instant but I think that's just because Virgo's "get" each other from the start. The biggest thing after that... just being able to make her LAUGH. Freaking huge. After that, being very sexual came easily and often.

Other than that....Don't be a wuss.

wow. thanks a lot fellas!
this has cleared up some of my questions... and i am going to go forward with my plan and ask her out tonight 😉
thank you!

hmm. thanks for the compliment Strings. 😄

I gave her a picture I made just for her... there is a link to that here: obviously, i didnt just hand her a piece of paper, i went out and bought a frame and mat, and framed it! I even wrapped it up in some blue shiny paper 😄
i also got her a rose.
she told me that she was 'kind of' seeing somebody, and i pretty much told her "I dont wanna make anyone mad, but i made this for you"
she even gave me a hug :o which i really never saw coming, i thought she was gonna be all conservative about it, say thanks and try to leave as quickly as possible, but i guess that was just me thinking about the 'worst-case' scenario thing i always think of ._.;

as far as the sex thing... i dont really understand... i remember my ex (virgo as well, sept. 9) -- she pretty much asked me out and we had sex the first night. then again, i was convinced that she was cheating on me... though i could never prove it.
either way. i am not one to discuss sex so openly, especially in a classroom. lol
and trust me, i was raised so strictly, that i feel remorse just thinking of having sex with someone outside of a relationship. dont get me wrong, i am not a prude, not at all!! Let's just say that i treat ALL females with respect in regards to sex. I might tease them from time to time, you know, just putting them on the spot and the like; its definitely not in a sexual way.

I did notice that she DOES bring sex up. Not as a topic of conversation, but just a remark here and there.
for example, in class we were looking at this book, and one of the images had a drawing of a topless woman (it is Art class after all) and she goes: Check it out! Titties!
it caught me so off guard... all i could reply was "Indeed!" with a raised eyebrow and half a smirk.
lol
she's an interesting girl.

Hmmm, I dunno. Seems like what P-Angel wrote actually makes sense. For all their image of being prim & proper, I've noticed that when Virgo females finally let their hair down, they go all the way! As if all that repressed sexuality has finally found an outlet (with the right man, of course).

mercurian wrote:
I did notice that she DOES bring sex up. Not as a topic of conversation, but just a remark here and there. for example, in class we were looking at this book, and one of the images had a drawing of a topless woman (it is Art class after all) and she goes: Check it out! Titties!
it caught me so off guard... all i could reply was "Indeed!" with a raised eyebrow and half a smirk.

The Virgins are very good at dropping hints.(They don't want to appear as s-luts after all). Her comments are a sign that she is interested in sex.

And from what I've observed & heard about from those who have dated Virgo women, P-Angel may well be right. Of course, in the beginning, they act all prudish & all that but once they've given themselves to you, they will want to hang on to you. It's just that the process of getting her to sleep with you takes a bit of courtship & commitment.

And merc? It's good that as a Gemini (fun-loving), you want to keep going after Virgos (nit-pickers, boring, calculative, but loyal in love). You have no idea how boring & emotionally draining it is to listen to the Virgo women in my family & friends going on & on & ON about how men are "intimidated" by them or how they can't seem to get any guy to show any interest in them. Sometimes you just wanna b-itchslap them & tell them to stop being so prissy. But a lot of Virgo women seem to secretly know martial arts so I don't want my bones broken 🙂

lmao

thanks fellas!
I hear what you're saying Beowulf! Twice already she has 'played' this role of 'you want to take this outside?' type of thing... i think i may be irritating her on some level.. i dunno.
honestly, i would commit to her if she asked me. but she's 'kind of' seeing someone else... plus i dunno if those are her intentions...
though that is what i look for... a solid relationship.

and GreatBull. if you've got any tips to share, please do!
or send me a private message! 😄

yeah... hate to sound conceited here (though i do have to pat myself on the back when its the truth!) but i believe i would fall under the 'think with your brain not your dick' category.
maybe im just too old-fashioned? :\
btw, i got a new haircut... i wanna see her reaction. ^^;

DCV U failed to mention boxing as a pre-requisite.

LOL...So now U have moved on to Vishwanathan Anand - guess a Gemini would fit the bill though.

hey. do you fellas think she (virgo) would like a poem?
what if i recite it to her??
please, let me know!
i may very well be onto something here. 😄

it was the best picture i had available at the time...
sorry its missing my nose .__.

so, does anyone know if she would like that? a poem?

Capricorns

yeah... she said that she didnt want a relationship right now.
she mentioned how she's always had someone to be there for her before she ended up her current relationship, and she didnt want to do that anymore.
i dont understand her... i can see why she would do that, her personal insecurities or whatever... but i guess its just bad timing on my part.
i think i might just leave her be.
maybe she'll look for me when she's ready to date someone?