What the Hell Happened :(

Howdy Y'all, So I met this virgo woman on a dating site. Im a typical Aries. I'm a real smooth dude but I haven't had a exclusive relationship b4. Im 33 and finally just getting my life together I was as wild and reckless as they come. After the last time I got arrested I changed my life for the positive and haven't looked back since about 7 years ago. I've since graduated college and just a month or so ago was offered a 6 figure position opening up a new office in a different city which I accepted.
With that being said I also met the first woman(the virgo) that I think I could be exclusive and build with. Things moved fast we got along great. When we met I brought the fire out of her. We didn't have sex😢
So heres the thing she had a stalker b4 I came around which she told me about. Of course me being Aries I challenged her one night by sending some emotional messages nothing hostile or evening stalkerish just expressing my feeling. Basically I text her a mean joke than I felt bad and sent about 5 love text to make up for it which she ignored it all.
Next day she tells me I scared her and it's too much so I said cool. I told her she's too emotionally damaged by this stalker dude and Im not him she needs to let that go. I even told her Im here to help her overcome her fear. 🙂
So long story short she stopped pursuing me after I sent those emotional text. She would respond to my text but was distant. I told her when she realizes how amazing I am and how much she missing out to call me.
A week went past and valentines was yesterday which i don't celebrate that shit with me everyday is valentines so I didn't contact her. By the way I did come on really strong in the beginning I had told her I was moving but we would be fine and she was with it.
So I been texting her messages and love songs via youtube today and I even told her I was leaving to my new city and would she like to see me.
NOTHING
Im not going to pursue her anymore I have nothing but opportunity ahead me. We just seemed so perfect for each other. Neither of us has kids and we both are seekers of knowledge.
I just would like to hear any comments you can share about the situation. I know virgo goes distant when thinking but fuck it plus she petty as hell I think she just moved on. I understand why she was upset and I did apologize for making her uncomfortable. I made myself look a little weak but damn Im Awesome What the Hell Happened 😢

Just wow...

Why would you even play a game like that with someone that had a stalker?! You are an idiot and she will not have a thing to do with you now. Virgos need to trust you. She will never trust you after that stunt. Plus you tell her this? "when she realizes how amazing I am and how much she missing out" after your stunt? She knows she made the right choice, why do you think she isn't responding? ... She's gone.

I didn't mean to come off as a stalker. Thats her emotionally baggage I was just expressing myself. I think maybe subconsciously I did it being impulsive. Im not a stalker I was head over heels for her and Im sure she knew it. Yeah I lost her trust by being weak I told her I would get it back. I told her the I'm awesome thing because Its true and I already told her plenty of how amazing she is which is true. That wasn't disrespectful I mean I have feelings too. She probably did the right thing but the truth is we were unstoppable and we could of been the happiest couple ever.

Yes but to someone that has dealt with a stalker.. your comment sounds creepy, not trying to be mean but it does. Again, that's just my opinion. I also read your other thread, which was a tad more detailed and you come across very strong and if she does have emotional baggage to deal with from that situation perhaps you aren't the right person for her at this point in her life.

Its not mean the truth is the truth. Im actually too nice and sensitive, she is the one of woman who I think deserved my love. I made one mistake yet I did everything else perfect. I wasn't sure if she was taking me for granted because I was so into her and being weak and lovey dove with her. So I thought she maybe need me to man up I know that she was attracted to my confidence. Im definitely the right guy for her. I really appreciated everything about her. I treated her better than I ever treated anybody. I never met someone who inspired me to give all my love. I mean I would have put my coat over a puddle so she could walk over it type of romance. I definitely learned my lesson. I understood her Im just not very patient.

and how the hell would i know how stalkers text. not like i said or did anything hostile. Al Green said aint nothin wrong with being in love with someone. Well she was Awesome I think I want a virgo. Maybe I need an aries

^^ I am saying she needs to deal with her stuff. I of course do not know her or you, so it's just an opinion. If she has emotional damage to clear up, that should be what she does, no relationship.

What you said may not come across to others as that way, I was just saying from my personal experience. It was more likely the fact that you played a game with her that made her leave.

Believe me sweetie I wasn't playing. I get where your coming from. When I say I challenged her I don't mean it literally I just made a honest mistake. My emotions influenced me to make a impulsive decision and she ran with it. I just was telling her how much I appreciate her. I wish somebody would send me what I sent her they would have me eating out of their hand. If I learned anything its to stop putting feelings into text messages. She played herself. My intentions are noble yet I am not perfect. I told her the truth and she couldn't handle it thats not my problem. If she was the girl for me she wouldn't have focused on that B.S. when I have shown her so much opportunity. I love her but hey I wish her the best what do I know. We were getting to know each other I showed her some emotion quick and it scared her away. I will do better I just never had a woman I liked that much. I love you all I told her when I met her she will love me and she's lucky to have me. She is wise she will realize what she let slip through her fingers. ZODIAK DON!!!! ARIES

JustBlaze, I'm not gonna bust your hump over the "funny" text too much - I dated an Aries on and off for several years and I understand such things are just part of your impetuous nature. As a Taurus Sun with Virgo Moon, I can tell you we really back away when we begin to feel things that make us uneasy. It's our time to analyze, sort, compartmentalize. Until and unless you hear conclusively from her that she no longer feels anything for you; you can very likely rest assured she does. How you get past the shock to her system? Patience, space and sincere (not flowery and over-the-top) apology for...well...for kinda being a jerk with the stalker pun. Not trying to be mean, just trying to give you the very beast advice I know. Hope it helps.

*BEST, darn it... *BEST

Thank you very much that helps your post is very insightful. I do care very much about her. So what I will do is wait until sept 10 and I will call her on her birthday which she defiantly won't expect. I'd be surprised If I hear from her before I change my number although Its possible I do believe we are meant for each other. She knows Im the right great guy just impatient. She knows I'm sincere she fell for me she knows she's not wrong. She just needs to move at her own pace now since I fucked up in her mind. In the meantime Im going to keep it moving. I didn't really have and outlet for my frustration with her at the time. Between her(finally meeting my dream girl and having to leave her to move to another state) my new job offer and having to arrange moving and starting an office and other stress in my life I was under a lot of pressure and she knew that. Know I have an outlet its called dxpnet.com so for now on if I can help it I will spill my emotions out here instead of with my ladies like all of you do. Zodiak Don!!! ARIES

Posted by JustBlaze

So heres the thing she had a stalker b4 I came around which she told me about. Of course me being Aries I challenged her one night by sending some emotional messages nothing hostile or evening stalkerish just expressing my feeling. Basically I text her a mean joke than I felt bad and sent about 5 love text to make up for it which she ignored it all.
Next day she tells me I scared her and it's too much so I said cool. I told her she's too emotionally damaged by this stalker dude and Im not him she needs to let that go. I even told her Im here to help her overcome her fear. 🙂
So long story short she stopped pursuing me after I sent those emotional text. She would respond to my text but was distant. I told her when she realizes how amazing I am and how much she missing out to call me.

Dude, you scared her.
You just met this woman, come on strong.
Then you follow up with an admittedly mean joke followed up by love texts.
These: A) Would not come off as genuine B) Show a tin ear to her concerns by her relaying a very sensitive topic. The fact that she shared that meant she was probably interested but your follow up was not the right course of action.

Then, that last sentence about how amazing you are? That would turn off a lot of women and sun sign has nothing to do with it.

Not trying to put you down, but you struck out with this one.
Might want to re-think your approach, because if you don't, you'll probably see similar behavior from the women you meet in the future.

oh yeah I"ll call her september 10 but I wouldn't be surprised if her number is different because somebody else stalks her for real. She sexy as hell! The problem with emotional damage is you create self fulfilling prophecies. I ain't built like that I just say whats on my mind no matter how outrageous it is. Other guys lie and and run script to get what they want I don't do that shit. I might be a lil weird but you know what you get with me up front. Other guys be faking then when the truth comes out about them its to late and you lost in psycho world or what ever b.S those dudes be on. When is Jesus coming for us again? ZodiaK DON! ARIES

Thanks Cancer

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by JustBlaze

So heres the thing she had a stalker b4 I came around which she told me about. Of course me being Aries I challenged her one night by sending some emotional messages nothing hostile or evening stalkerish just expressing my feeling. Basically I text her a mean joke than I felt bad and sent about 5 love text to make up for it which she ignored it all.
Next day she tells me I scared her and it's too much so I said cool. I told her she's too emotionally damaged by this stalker dude and Im not him she needs to let that go. I even told her Im here to help her overcome her fear. 🙂
So long story short she stopped pursuing me after I sent those emotional text. She would respond to my text but was distant. I told her when she realizes how amazing I am and how much she missing out to call me.

Dude, you scared her.
You just met this woman, come on strong.
Then you follow up with an admittedly mean joke followed up by love texts.
These: A) Would not come off as genuine B) Show a tin ear to her concerns by her relaying a very sensitive topic. The fact that she shared that meant she was probably interested but your follow up was not the right course of action.

Then, that last sentence about how amazing you are? That would turn off a lot of women and sun sign has nothing to do with it.

Not trying to put you down, but you struck out with this one.
Might want to re-think your approach, because if you don't, you'll probably see similar behavior from the women you meet in the future.

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This!

This was the joke??_ So a monkey told its father father why does everyone think were so ugly? Father says son relax look at the one who's reading this. I know it was the dumbest joke ever. I sent it because I wanted to lighten up all the compliments I was giving her all the time. She was pursuing me at the time. She liked the romance I just sensed she was about to take it for granted so I sent this to change up because she just canceled a date that I spent a lot of energy planning. So yeah I was disappointed but I told her It's ok we got the future and were going to make the most of it. She text me lets just take it one day at a time. I understood but still Im thinking WTF. then I sent the joke and another joke less offensive. They were stupid jokes I don't believe she identified me with that stalker shit she just got her feelings hurt with the joke and associated me with that stalker cuz she's scary. She was testing me to see how I would take it if she cancelled our time together because that stalker starter tripping on her when she did it to him. Thats on her, SELF FULFILLING PROPHECY, Its so sad came to America and got emotionally damaged quick. I was too late. Im going to wed me a sane woman mark my words. ZODIAK DON ARIES!!!!!!

Going to post what I posted on the Aries board..

Posted by JustBlaze
I told her when she realizes how amazing I am and how much she missing out to call me.

Yeah, you should start by getting over yourself.

You didn't make her feel a little weak..but in your ego, I doubt you can see past that. You insult her by calling her emotionally damaged, then start the lovey dovey shit but this love is so deep for you, you just rejoice at the world of opportunity before you.

She's smart.

Keep being too awesome for Virgos!

Posted by JustBlaze
If it wasn't for that stalker shit she could of been perfect.

Just shows how much you understand about people.

LOL

Posted by JustBlaze
I need someone who accepts me just like I accept them.

Just like you accepted her how she was...stalker shit and everything. You really understood that didn't you?

Damn, I never met Aries like this in real life...me and Tiz must have dealt with the extreme in Aries folks

Posted by JustBlaze
She will come back they all do

Lol...we didn't get how awesome you were from all the other posts.

Not settling down comes as no surprise...you love yourself too much so there's no love left for another.

If you're only trolling...it's still funny as fuck.

Maybe she wasn't appalled by the joke, but by your awful grammar.

Did that ever cross your mind?

Glad to see I wasn't the only person to say your shit came across stalkerish. I just went and read the replies in the other thread you have on Aries board, saw the same thing being said by others. If complete strangers on an internet site are telling you it came out that way... how do you think SHE took it in RL?

Also her not responding does not = emotional baggage. You are assuming that is the case and that is YOU projecting. You only knew this girl a few weeks, you do not even really know her. Perhaps she sees what we see and just didn't want to deal with your ass no more.

she told me that she was backing up because she already had a bad experience with that other guy so thats emotional baggage I'm not that guy and I didn't do nothing that guy did. She fell for me just like I fell for her. She was upset over that joke she just didn't admit. She told me time will tell she was still interested in me and probably still is. You were right earlier when you said I blew it with the call me when you realize Im awesome line. So what I meant it I wanted her to get of that bullshit and remember they guy she was falling for. If she wasn't acting distant I wouldn't have said it. I understand how she feels Im pretty intuitive believe it or not Im just patient I'm anxious. She knows me and Im not a stalker so guess what when you take that stalker fantasy away what are you left with the awesome guy she was falling for. Damnata you could've left those comments in the other room where I responded to them it aint that serious

my grammar is fine thats this raggedy ass site hacking up my post

Yeah, but you changed your story from one forum to the next.

There's a lot more detail on the Aries Board as well as a step-by-step analysis of your awesomeness.

Posted by JustBlaze
this raggedy ass site

Do NOT insult DXP, ZODIAK DON ARIES!

how did i change my story

Why are you writing just one line? No long ass text without paragraphs?

ZODIAC DON ARIES, you disappoint.

"she told me that she was backing up because she already had a bad experience with that other guy "

She told you she was backing off because she didn't LIKE you. What part don't you understand? You are doing shit she didn't like period. You are saying that's emotional baggage, that's her boundary. She created distance because she doesn't want you.

Have you even read up on Virgo females? Or Virgos in general? Not what you have read on DXP, but an astrology site to get a basic idea of how the sign acts/reacts? Hell have you read up on how a female reacts/acts? Because from your posts you have zero clue. I'd just leave her alone.

This thread reminded me how much I love Aries folks.

Some are adorable, some are mad entertaining.

Im going to leave her alone. I think she was taking time to figure it out at that point. You seem like you are getting a little upset.

No, it's funny to me.

I have plenty of experience with Aries.

not you

Not upset, not in the least. There you go with that projecting thing again 🙂 I am simply giving my opinion and asking serious questions..

I've read everything but you know Aries were going to do what we want. you can tell us the easy way to do something were still going to make our own way. We might bump our heads but we will try again until we get or hurt ourselves. Thing is for us it things always works out for the best at least for me! If I wasn't moving I would've been more patient with her but if I wasn't moving I still would be frustrated and insecure because I needed to get away from Chicago. Shit is depressing for me. I'm no playboy but I am intelligent and I can communicate very well. I don't mind sharing my feelings I just need to stop while Im ahead. I did learn from this I just need to not forget my lesson!

Because she is amazing and I think we compliment each other. I bring the passion and fire out of her and she gives me patience and structure. In the meantime we would make each other feel great and we have fun. She appreciate my masculine energy the most while I adore her feminine energy the most. She would just need to take the time to understand me like I do her. For instance when she was critical b4 the incident I listened to her and told her she was right and used her advice and it works. I told her I understood that she means well. I need some one to ground me and all my nervous energy but I need to ground it myself I see. I need someone special enough to make me want to slow down and think before I make decisions. No money or materials or job is valuable enough to do that Only a relationship can ground me but Im too picky it has to be with someone I cherish and don't want to lose. I want a virgo because a virgo will bring me balance by making me a better man by influencing me to make better decisions. ZODIAK DON! ARIES

CUZ VIRGALS ARE AMAZING, CC! 😛

I understand that she was upset about that but Im not that guy nor did I stalk her. I know theres nothing I could do about it she took it how she took it and thats her issue. Thats simple passion 101. Have any of you women ever not had a guy that you knew was really into you not leave a few messages in a row. My sister showed me in her phone where she had like 18 messages in a row thats excessive. I told her why I did it and it makes sense. It was weak and emotional but not harmful or abnormal especially when I didn't say anything disrespectful or distasteful. Most of the time I was joking she just took it the wrong way because she worried about the bogeyman. Now she's gone oh well I still appreciate the time I spent with her.

Posted by JustBlaze
I understand that she was upset about that but Im not that guy nor did I stalk her. I know theres nothing I could do about it she took it how she took it and thats her issue. Thats simple passion 101.
...
Now she's gone oh well I still appreciate the time I spent with her.



Just a word of advice, not that I expect ot will be heeded....that's right, step away from the mirror for a second.
You talk about how great you thought this girl was, and then totally negate it by that second sentence I quoted.
Assuming your not trolling-if you ever expect to have a stable relationship with someone, you are going to have to fix that big blind spot of yours.
You can go back to staring at yourself in the mirror now.

Cancer I told her I was here to help her overcome her fear. I told her I was sorry for making her uncomfortable. I told her I understand how important that experience is to her. I also told her that Im not that dude. what else can I do. She brought that dude into are relationship not me. I don't know shit about stalking. I really care for this girl. She is who I want to grow old with I knew that before we even met in person. I almost turned down my job to stay here and try to build with her. I usually ditch women who bring emotional baggage to me and I told her that when we first started talking yet I accepted her treating me like a stalker and wanted to help her move on from that yet she wants to focus on some silly shit that isn't even stalking. That is not my issue. I told her l will gain her trust back and I will even if I don't talk to her again because Im letting her go and then she will know I am the real deal. If she ever contacts me I will come running with everything I have. Thats how much potential I see in her. She obviously doesn't see the same in me so Im better off when I find someone who does. She barley would speak to me and that hurts alot an is very frustrating. I know she likes me a lot but she made this complicated and now after weeks of suffering Im finally over it. ZODIAK DON!!!!! ARIES

whatever

Sorry I just don't understand your comment but if you can rephrase maybe I can get some insight from it. Im leaving Im hitting the road my internet won't be on where I'm going until tomorrow so Ill get back with you all then. Enjoy your day and if you have someone you love in your life show them some love because you are truly blessed. Thanks for all the attention everybody I needed it and I fell much better. Talk you all tomorrow family! ZODIAK DON! ARIES

Posted by firebunny
CUZ VIRGALS ARE AMAZING, CC! 😛

We are. We can speak in sexy law talk as well.

Ok so I realized that I am completely responsible for all this drama. I have been insensitive to her and she did the right thing. I can make all the excuses in the world but the truth Is that my ego, and immaturity is the problem. She was right that I am a little emotionally unstable but I think that after this I will definitely get myself in check. If I am going to reach my potential this is the only way. I have been completely open with you all and appreciate you all as you all helped me to realize my problem. I am 33 and really never had any responsibility so thats why I'm so immature. Now I do and I need to relax before I ruin what I've worked for as well. This woman who I started the thread about is exceptional and Im not sure if I should just give up on here. It's like she seems to be everything I want and like the universe sent her to me and I blew it. What would you do? ZODIAK DON!!!!!! ARIES

JustBlaze, I know what you mean though. The heart wants what the heart wants, right? Has she talked to you at all or... If she hasn't, I'm thinking you should just give her space and time while you focus on yourself and your new life.

Wow I feel good out here in St Louis. I just came from the bar and everybody there bought me a drink. I DJ and a dude there offered me a gig. My company is the shit Our office is beautiful including all the women I see working there and the guys Im opening the office with are wild as hell. Everybody here in town have been really polite to me. I think this is a good thing. I outgrew Chicago. Ill go back and it will be beautiful but I couldn't stand it because everybody was negative. I need positivity I'm a optimistic thats why I don't want other people's emotional baggage. I don't mind helping or being there for someone but If they want to hold on to that shit Im not interested. I like her a lot No I may not even know her. I haven't heard from her. I text her that Im sorry for being insensitive because I was I didn't realize it but I was. I text her that I am going to use this time to mature and lose my ego and if she gives me the opportunity to get to know her in the future that will be great. I'm not worried about it though.

You're a really self-centered human being who doesn't seem to mind that you shit on others to make sure your ego is constantly gratified.

I particularly like how you pride yourself (so many times that I can't possibly quote them all) in that you are so amazing that you are literally irresistible ...... while describing to dxp your attempts at practically begging her to want you.

What an immature Ram ... good thing there are adults of your kind in dxp.

Your right actually I had just realized a few days ago that I need constant reassurance all the time. Im going to have to figure out how to change that. I guess thats my huge ego. shaking my need for reassurance would probably be the way to losing my ego.

Virgo has zero interest in baby-sitting a person who can't manage to handle their own life, in that they need constant attention, and validation.

You will likely never succeed with a Virgo female ... for she looks for and needs a man who is secure.