When/How Do I Tell My Virguy That I Love Him?

TLDR; Me, Female Libra, new relationship with a Virgo man. Things are really amazing, want to tell him I love him really badly. Yes I'm sure. I also suspect he loves me too, but I can't bring myself to verbalize it yet because I'm scared he'll think it's too soon to verbalize (even though we clearly both feel it). Anyone else have some advice?



Hey all, I'm a Libra gal, and I met my Virguy face to face at the end of this past January after we had communicated a few days via a dating site... It wasn't love at first sight for me when we met, but when I did meet him, I was in this mode of meeting new people, not judging anyone, and just being spontaneous. I liked his company the first night we met; and after talking for a few hours I didn't feel like I liked him, but I felt like we had the potential to be great friends so I wanted to see him again.

I randomly invited him out a couple more times that same week, because at the time I really wasn't trying to impress him... wasn't trying to be mindful of any dating faux pas, I didn't really care. I was just like, "you're cool, I'm cool, let's hang out"... and I guess he was easygoing enough to want to come out as well.

The second time we hung out we went to a bar, and that was really the first time I felt that he was expressing his interest in me beyond being friends, and I ultimately got drunk and kissed him... anyways these details are kind of irrelevant because the next two months turns into a whirlwind of us being massively impressed with each other's "down to earthness", impressed with all of the things we have in common (which is a LOT), and just the fact that we genuinely like hanging out with each other. I have never felt that he is sick of me or I am sick of him... The sex is amazing, honestly the best sex I'v ever had in my life... And he does do some of the typical virgo stuff like ask for space occasionally, get quiet in his thoughts, and need reassurance from time to time that I really am into him (because he keeps expressing to me how amazing I am and how much he likes me).

Oh also, we entered into an exclusive relationship quite quickly, one month after we got to know each other. I think the reason was because we went through some stuff that really gave us an opportunity to get closer to each other, and by the time we became official I was basically like... uh, who are we kidding. We're together now. Everything about what we do and how we act screams relationship, we just don't have a title. He agreed with me and was happy to enter into a relationship with me.

I can't describe the last two months... and honestly even the first month. We spent a LOT of time together. Not every day, but like at least a few times a week... sometimes a few days in a row... we spend hours talking about just losing ourselves in each other's company. The rest of the world doesn't exist when we are together.

From his side of things, he does all the obvious stuff a Virguy does when he is genuinely interested in someone. I've been given endless attention, he always wants to make me happy, he loves to take me out and make me feel special, or tries hard to cheer me up when I'm not in a good mood. He opens up to me when I ask, he doesn't try to manipulate me, and he's been fair in the few little disagreements we've had (no major fights yet). He will own up when he is wrong and he will make sure I understand his side when I am wrong. He makes me feel safe, like I can trust him, and like he is not judging me - only understanding me. We are close in age, our lives are both going in a similar direction... we want the same things in life.... Honestly for the first time in my life when I imagine a long term future, and I picture him as the man I'm with... I don't hate it. I kind of really like the idea...

In the past when I dated guys, I always thought to myself... "I'm dating him, but I'll never marry him... Hell to the NO!"... with this one, I'm like... "Ok I would totally marry this guy one day"... I mean just based off what I've seen so far... give it a couple years, we'll revisit that.

But honestly, from we met face to face, it's been exactly two months, and I'm in love. I'm dead in love. I knew I was when one day I accidentally told him "love you, bye" on the phone a couple weeks ago when hanging up... I never mentioned it again, he never brought it up. I like that he didn't confront me on it, because even I stood there looking at my phone like "The f*** did I just say?"... And I've been just mulling it over in my head for the last two weeks...

Well now I'm done mulling and I'm sure I'm in love with him. I know I am because I am one of those Libra people who shamelessly don't give a shit about most other people unless they are family or my deeply closest friends... I mean, I'm likeable and people want to hang out with me and I make friends easily... but my level of flakiness and no f***s can be.... very strong. It's usually hard for me to let other people's problems become my problems. I can't be bothered to go out of my way when my life is already so busy.

I find myself actually WANTING to go out of my way for this person. His happiness is my happiness. I'm doing the thing where I actually want to accommodate him. I think about him all the time, when I'm with him my brain is constantly exploding with "I LOVE YOU I LOVE YOU I LOVE YOU" and I want to tell him so badly and shout it from the rooftops that I met someone who I feel is very much going to be my partner in crime... and will be in it for the long haul.

I feel like he probably feels the same way about me purely based off his actions... I can see that he adores me. But I really am afraid to come forward with my feelings. The reason is because he has had some bad experiences with dating in the past... I don't want him to think I'm being fake or I'm being dramatic. It's been two months that I know him, one month that we are officially in a relationship. He is very logical, rational... I don't want him to look at me and be like... I know we're both crazy about each other, but it's too early for love.

He often mentions that he wants to keep me around for the long haul, and we have talked briefly about what it would be like if we actually ended up married (because we are both in awe of how well things are going between us)... I know there is no shame in loving someone, but I feel like I need to hear it back from him.

I know that he probably does love me based on how he acts, but if I tell him and he is still not ready to express it to me, I don't know how I would react in front of him lol.

I've been in situations where I told my boyfriend I love him and he didn't say it back and he said it later and it was fine... I've been in situations where I've been told by a boyfriend that he loves me and I couldn't say it back...

I've never been in a situation where I love someone this bad, and I want them so badly to tell me they love me too. I feel like I almost don't want to say anything for fear of him not saying it back. I don't want to freak him out... It's only been two months that I know him. I really do want to make him happy and continue making him feel like he is on top of the world.

What do I do Virgos? Should I wait for him to say it? Will he even say it if I'm patient enough? Should I just go ahead and say it?

Hahaha this sounds soooo familiar. Im a Virgo male and my fiancee is Libra.

He will say it, he just needs to take his sweet little time for it. Trust me.

Although I do remember having said it to my Libra rather quickly, it was more of a formality, she "knew" it from my actions, and that is the clue to understand Virgos when it comes to emotions, actions rather than words.

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Hahaha this sounds soooo familiar. Im a Virgo male and my fiancee is Libra.

He will say it, he just needs to take his sweet little time for it. Trust me.

Thanks for your response! So just to be clear, I should not say it and just keep waiting lol. And yes, I can definitely tell by his actions, it's so obvious.

Based on these past few threads

Wow, Virgo men are on a ROLL

Still didn't tell him I love him! >.

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Although I do remember having said it to my Libra rather quickly, it was more of a formality, she "knew" it from my actions, and that is the clue to understand Virgos when it comes to emotions, actions rather than words.

lol I'm literally dying to tell him. I feel like he might suspect it now.. not that I told him or hinted it to him, but just the way I'm affectionate toward him physically, and the way he is to me... it's like we are telling each other but not telling each other.

In the last week, hes asked to see me like every day... and I'm used to him wanting at least a few days break if we hung out a couple nights in a row. This morning he pointed out to me that we saw each other the day before yesterday, and even though he's seeing me tonight, he misses that we didn't hang out last night lol.

He thought he was going to be busy, but freed up and would have liked to see me. Found it cute, but I'm literally scared of seeing him too much for fear of him getting sick of ME not me getting sick of him... but he always initiates to hang out first.