WHY IS LOVE SO HARD— People ask....

NEWSFLASH: Love isn't hard at all.....its just that most people are generally guilty of one or more of the following:

1) Ignoring reality and trying to force relationships that should have never been with people that they are attracted to but not compatible with.

2) Dysfunctional people bringing their frustrating and sabotaging dysfunction and bad childhood into their relationships

3) Don't really want a relationship (or not ready for it) but refuse to be up front with relationship-oriented people about this because they like the attention.

4) Take who they have for granted feeling that there is something that they are missing when all of the people that they are lusting after and dreaming about are just as screwed up as the person they are already with.

Ta-da!!! The problem isn't love at all....its sick, stupid, and damaged people...

I agree with you! Cuz love is easy to do when you feel it and its reciprocated! It's just people that mess things up and are screwed up! Very true...

this is so true.

love is a battlefield.

if people can't win the game by having the one they love in their life then they're not good themselves on playing the game.

so what do we do with these people CLA?

I agree with your shrewd anaylsis ways it's really all great but can we find a way to help these people? Everybody needs, and deserves love right?. I also don't know if love can be simplified, and broken down. It IS complex; it can be idealized, but I don't know if it could be so 'cut & dry' ya know?.

it actually is pretty simple VE....what makes it complex are the foolish expectations that people bring to the table...also OVER analysis of people and events. Love a person, accept them for who they are or leave them alone....realize they'll never be perfect....learn to be ok with their imperfection or leave them alone......don't idealize how much you mean to someone without them consistently showing you during the roughest and most trying times....seek therapy if needed to spare them the garbage of your past relationships (romantic, family, etc----don't "shadowbox"-----making them pay for things that others have done to you...give them their own chance to pass or fail)...

Most people who think love is difficult and complex are the ones who are difficult to deal with themselves.....I've recently retired from dating this type...

Tada what..??



You mean that dysfunctional people shouldn't have love experience..??


Are you around to judge people?? Your fact is lame..!

Crab and his facts?!

Love is for everyone... (At least anyone who can handle it)...

Don't you dare to categorize it...

"You mean that dysfunctional people shouldn't have love experience..??"

no, they should be euthenized to save the rest of us! lol....

no REALLy Qbone.....I think therapy will do the trick for these sick bunnies....the problem is usually not just their dysfunction but not being self aware enough to see it and therefore doing nothing to make it better

LOL @ Mr Nice...

"Love is for everyone... (At least anyone who can handle it)..."

You get what you seek . . if problems is what you're looking for in love, that is exactly what you will find.

Q's right . . love is for us all . . we come in different forms and so does our feelings of love for others . .

People get things all the time that they aren't looking for P-Angel.....and what's there is there whether you're looking for them or not....abandonment issues, trust issues, fatal attraction, mean drunk, domestic violence and the list goes on.


"The women of this kingdom learned a long time ago, that those who did not wield swords could still die by them...." ---- some blonde chick on Lord of the Rings II. GOLDEN words.

when love is broken down to a science, it get's complicated......why waste time on holding a person to high standards if they don't believe they are worth it in the first place? I'm an idealist and I believe that a person I'm in love with is capable of just about anything; I support the ones I love, and in turn they, me. I could care less if a person is perfect; perfection is in flaw, and flaw in perfection. triviality at it's best to say the least; anyone who is mad at that so called philosophy tends to expect too much of themselves internally, and explodes on the other party as as result.

to put it simply: just be yourself, and stop making it so hard; just DO, instead of TALKING.

my moon in cancer sympathizes with this CLA; I don't believe a person's got any right to move in on another and sh1t on them becuase of their bullsh1t from a previous relationship; how dare you hold a person accountable for a failed relationship in YOUR past? People in GENERAL do this; it's apart of being a FLAWED creature; we aren't perfect and we do ere; by chastising a person and being angry at them because they hold you in high expectancy is nothing more than you internalzing that sytem your against because they didn't live up to your standards; this isn't directed to you, this is a general statement; all you can do, is try to understand them, and show them. If I didn't practice this belief I'd break out into hives everytime a Scorpio would pass me! 😛

love is not a hard thing to do. it only becomes hard when a person most of the time are too busy defending themselves to be right.

It was a joke! lol don't be a wet blanket! Actually I love and hate! lol part of being a human sign I guess! I accept anyone scorp or no! it doesn't matter; one thing I must say is you martians tend to take E~V~E~R~Y~T~H~I~N~G to heart! oh, yes, hives are an indescribily horrid rash that looks like measles, or rubbella that swell on the arm to gastronomical propotions.....a.k.a nasty!

vgurl, I've seen this exact type of love too many times; the results are always disastrous; but how do you bring this 'defensive trait' to someones attention without pushing them away? I feel honesty is the best policy even if it hurts, if the INTENT is constructive; but if it's just honestly out to destroy another than is it even love? Why do people tear each other down and claim to be in love? Does love actually have a yin-yang effect on people?.