Wife best friend coming on to me?

Lately I have been dealing with a lot in my marriage, due to lies, secrets and affair on my Aqua wife part , so I ask my wife to leave, and I m now taking care of my oldest 3 children.
That's the run down....

But my wife's BEST friend a who is Scorpio(Oct 30 1970) has stopped by 4 times recently, 1 looking for my wife 2end to pick some stuff up, last 2 times we talked in the living room, and she said she could relate to how I felt, because her husband of 15years cheated on her repeatedly, and how much she hated him for it, and she is planning on leaving him. My wife friend has been texting me the past 2 days none stop, compliments, how my wife has a good thing but messed up, last night I had a 2 missed calls and a text at 1am from her saying" I need c u can I stop by, its important" she wants to see me at 1am??...and her husband works night, plus I know him well enough, to say something to him.

But If she is coming on to me I dnt like it, shes my wife best friend but I also feel like maybe in awsy it's a set up, but my wife wouldn't play games to test my trust.

It's just weird are women that scandalous.
And
Should I tell my wife
Should I tell her husband
Or should i just keep it to myself since everyone else around me has secrets.

Tell ur wife shss wrong. Two wrongs dont make it right. Also think divorce settlement etx if u cheat too both yall un wrong. Since she cheated u should . get spousal support for what she did and take ur kids makes u look better....yes it could be setup...be nice say to friend she need chill

I'm just ignoring her I feel I need to tell my wife, but I'm set at her so not right now,I'll wait to see how all this plays out with my marriage if I should feel compelled to tell her. I honestly do not want a divorce because I love her, but I dnt know if I can forgive her.

Her friend is something else I hope it's not true when they say "birds of a feather flock together"

Maybe so

@sensitive blue

It took her 8months to come clean about dirt.

Her friend coming on to me is just weird to me, isn't her loyalty to her....

Got get my kids ready , feel free to leave advice I'm reading and taking notes.

I will just keep my distance from, her friend her attention is clear she wants to cheat on her husband with me and feels she can justify it since we both have been betrayed. While I'm still kicking my wounds, I dnt need the added stress, it will be something else on my plate that is not worth the trouble.

She is pretending to care about my situation, but I know she doesn't. What I had with her was a long time ago, I moved on and married her friend.

I really hope everything works out with me and my wife, she feels that she messed up and she is putting a lot of effort on fixing us but I just dnt know if I can mentally handle it.

Posted by iVirgo
@sensitive blue

It took her 8months to come clean about dirt.

Her friend coming on to me is just weird to me, isn't her loyalty to her....

Exactly. Her bffs loyalty is to HER and bitches can get scandalous.. as in.. do not assume your wife isn't in on it. Who knows what a pissed off Aqua has up her sleeve. They get into destroy mode and all fair and rational thinking goes out the window.

Scorpios are one of the most loyal in the zodiac unless they are scorned and out for revenge and Aquas make the very best friends....

My guess is those two women make a very dangerous team.

Your wife probably knows every single thing you told her bestie and they are either assessing the situation or plotting.

BE WARY. Seriously.

Nice to see you on here @duchesslibro, as you see the mess continues, while I'm dealing with 1 thing something else, it feels good that I'm getting attention & complaments, but it's not right .

Posted by iVirgo
I will just keep my distance from, her friend her attention is clear she wants to cheat on her husband with me and feels she can justify it since we both have been betrayed. While I'm still kicking my wounds, I dnt need the added stress, it will be something else on my plate that is not worth the trouble.

She is pretending to care about my situation, but I know she doesn't. What I had with her was a long time ago, I moved on and married her friend.

I really hope everything works out with me and my wife, she feels that she messed up and she is putting a lot of effort on fixing us but I just dnt know if I can mentally handle it.

The calculations of this situation feel incredibly purposeful and seem very fishy.. exactly like something pissed off Aqua and Scorpio women would plan together for revenge. Again, I say tread carefully.

And I am usually one of the DXPers who gives people the benefit of the doubt, for the record.

@duchesslibro

Wow, didn't know that, I guess I assume the best, but it just didn't feel right. It's too soon I talk to my wife every night but it's just about what the future is gonna be if we do this or that.

If that's the case I'll forward her text to her husband, and if doesn't check his wife then I'll know something isn't right.

Posted by iVirgo
@duchesslibro

Wow, didn't know that, I guess I assume the best, but it just didn't feel right. It's too soon I talk to my wife every night but it's just about what the future is gonna be if we do this or that.

If that's the case I'll forward her text to her husband, and if doesn't check his wife then I'll know something isn't right.

You're smart to seek advice and not try to understand the situation on your own.

The compliments should not feel good to you, dude. Think of it like a poisonous cupcake. lol

Why am I getting this feeling that you made your wife insecure enough to cheat.....

Quit being an attention whore, that's how all this bs starts.

Tell her friend to go away..if you really wamt that, it shouldn't be a problem.

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Posted by Greentea
Why am I getting this feeling that you made your wife insecure enough to cheat.....

she cheated on their first year of dating...im sure just after he got out of it with the scorpio


why would an aqua date her friends ex man


these people are all deranged

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I don't get that either, I'd never be any of my friends sloppy seconds, and vice vs. It's just.girl code, there's many other guys out there.

I never slept with my friend just hung out few times, but she act like she wasn't interested, she even flirted with other guys on the phone when we did hang out plus later I found she was married but separated. She got back with her husband and We decided to be just friends , then I met her friend (my now wife ) going out one day and things went from there. We all remaind friends Up until all this came out.

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Posted by Greentea
Why am I getting this feeling that you made your wife insecure enough to cheat.....

she cheated on their first year of dating...im sure just after he got out of it with the scorpio


why would an aqua date her friends ex man


these people are all deranged

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First of all, "insecure enough to cheat" is bullshit. Cheating is not ok, never ever, no exceptions.

Secondly, let's not jump to conclusions, maybe the Scorp and Aqua were just college acquaintances at the time. Who knows. Maybe they were weirdly tight besties who liked sharing men. Super weird, I dont get it.. but who knows.. lots of weird people in the world.

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Posted by Greentea
Why am I getting this feeling that you made your wife insecure enough to cheat.....

she cheated on their first year of dating...im sure just after he got out of it with the scorpio


why would an aqua date her friends ex man


these people are all deranged

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We're only hearing his side. Who knows, she.probably caught him trying to talk to the scorp again or something amd felt cheated in first who knows... She's not here to defend herself.

Seems like a bad bunch anyway. Full of drama.

I never slept with the Scorpio, I just met her first, but it didn't work out.

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Posted by Greentea
Why am I getting this feeling that you made your wife insecure enough to cheat.....

she cheated on their first year of dating...im sure just after he got out of it with the scorpio


why would an aqua date her friends ex man


these people are all deranged

First of all, "insecure enough to cheat" is bullshit. Cheating is not ok, never ever, no exceptions.

Secondly, let's not jump to conclusions, maybe the Scorp and Aqua were just college acquaintances at the time. Who knows. Maybe they were weirdly tight besties who liked sharing men. Super weird, I dont get it.. but who knows.. lots of weird people in the world.

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It is bullshit, but it's a real thing.

Your life sounds a little like a daytime soap opera iVirgo. You should really just cut off these people for the meantime until things settle down. It will get very messy.

Blues hates Virgos, don't take it personally. 🙂

but she's kind of right.. Virgos are often not great at understanding and dealing with people. I'm trying to remember your other placements.. Moon Cap, Merc Libra, Venus Libra..... What Mars? ...Cap? Am I right on any?

Posted by SuperMercurial
I wouldn't mention it to her husband or to your wife since you kicked her out. You took the house btw? What are you some kind of mangina? If you get involved in that, pretty soon without even realizing it, you'll be swinging with them all. You're better off finding a hotter girl who doesn't know any of them. Much easier to keep under wraps if/for when you decide to take your wife back.

Look at this ninja. Lol

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Posted by Greentea
Why am I getting this feeling that you made your wife insecure enough to cheat.....

she cheated on their first year of dating...im sure just after he got out of it with the scorpio


why would an aqua date her friends ex man


these people are all deranged

First of all, "insecure enough to cheat" is bullshit. Cheating is not ok, never ever, no exceptions.

Secondly, let's not jump to conclusions, maybe the Scorp and Aqua were just college acquaintances at the time. Who knows. Maybe they were weirdly tight besties who liked sharing men. Super weird, I dont get it.. but who knows.. lots of weird people in the world.

ya i know lol ...cheaters cheat cause they can...its a power thing not a love thing

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Agreed. I kind of suspect when an Aqua cheats they do it just for the fun of it. *shudders*

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Posted by iVirgo
I will just keep my distance from, her friend her attention is clear she wants to cheat on her husband with me and feels she can justify it since we both have been betrayed. While I'm still kicking my wounds, I dnt need the added stress, it will be something else on my plate that is not worth the trouble.

She is pretending to care about my situation, but I know she doesn't. What I had with her was a long time ago, I moved on and married her friend.

I really hope everything works out with me and my wife, she feels that she messed up and she is putting a lot of effort on fixing us but I just dnt know if I can mentally handle it.

Ur a fool for ever marrying ur wife Who betrayed Scorpio back then and still wanting to take her back after cheating on you
And Scorpio is a fool for wanting you back after you betrayed her by going with her friend

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How do you know Scorp and Aqua saw it as a betrayal?

If Scorp never fell in love with him (very clear cut, yes or no thing for a Scorp) then she isn't likely to give any fucks.

the best example of the intellectual level on dxp. nobody even reads the details.

Jupiter-sun-mercury in transit building the best possible aspects. and yall are building your own stories.

this man is stupid cause he is seeking advice with us.

😆
We are even discussing it like it's a cheesy soap opera. Standing around the water cooler at the office like, "Omg!! Did you see that episode— What is she thinking?? What do you think is going on??!" LOL

duchess is the only exception I see.

@supermerciful

My youngest boy left with her, because he is breast feeding but I ask her to leave for a lot of reasons, 1 my job is in the area, 2 she doesn't know how to handle my 2 oldest girls they always fight, maybe because of us. I would have had to move into a hotel 90bucks a night or back in with family 2hr drive to work, or her move in with hers 40mins away in a 5 bed room house, and she doesn't work I'm the sole provider workaholic, and she wanted to be around her family anyway right now.

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Posted by Greentea
Why am I getting this feeling that you made your wife insecure enough to cheat.....

she cheated on their first year of dating...im sure just after he got out of it with the scorpio


why would an aqua date her friends ex man


these people are all deranged

First of all, "insecure enough to cheat" is bullshit. Cheating is not ok, never ever, no exceptions.

Secondly, let's not jump to conclusions, maybe the Scorp and Aqua were just college acquaintances at the time. Who knows. Maybe they were weirdly tight besties who liked sharing men. Super weird, I dont get it.. but who knows.. lots of weird people in the world.

ya i know lol ...cheaters cheat cause they can...its a power thing not a love thing

Agreed. I kind of suspect when an Aqua cheats they do it just for the fun of it. *shudders*

you'll never see me with an Aqua, cold cold entities.

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My husband has Aqua Mars but it's Rx so I think that changes the energy a bit. I agree with you. His Mars is more than enough Aqua for me. An ex has an Aqua Moon and the detached shit... just no thanks, nope. And I'm full of Air!

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Posted by Greentea
Why am I getting this feeling that you made your wife insecure enough to cheat.....

she cheated on their first year of dating...im sure just after he got out of it with the scorpio


why would an aqua date her friends ex man


these people are all deranged

First of all, "insecure enough to cheat" is bullshit. Cheating is not ok, never ever, no exceptions.

Secondly, let's not jump to conclusions, maybe the Scorp and Aqua were just college acquaintances at the time. Who knows. Maybe they were weirdly tight besties who liked sharing men. Super weird, I dont get it.. but who knows.. lots of weird people in the world.

ya i know lol ...cheaters cheat cause they can...its a power thing not a love thing

Agreed. I kind of suspect when an Aqua cheats they do it just for the fun of it. *shudders*

No guise. I don't see how it's fun at all **shrugs** especially children are involved.

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The children weren't involved when she cheated. It was before they were married, etc.

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Posted by DwellingOnMove
the best example of the intellectual level on dxp. nobody even reads the details.

Jupiter-sun-mercury in transit building the best possible aspects. and yall are building your own stories.

this man is stupid cause he is seeking advice with us.

i did jump the gun, ill admit. that's because of my intense need to hate virgos

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yeah, that's ok. thanks for the additional note.
it's just
I read all the 4 pages and I found several people jumped to conclusions.

Lol @feby
I need a laugh

@dwellingonthemove

No I love hear from you too.

Posted by DwellingOnMove
the best example of the intellectual level on dxp. nobody even reads the details.

Jupiter-sun-mercury in transit building the best possible aspects. and yall are building your own stories.

this man is stupid cause he is seeking advice with us.

To be fair, I've been following this drama since episode one.

"The children weren't involved when she cheated. It was before they were married, etc."

well, you are right.


still they'd be involved in case of divorce or temporary separation. or simple fights if any.

@duchesslibro

This is real life I hate to admit, I wish it was a soap opera so I can change to channel.

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Posted by Greentea
Why am I getting this feeling that you made your wife insecure enough to cheat.....

she cheated on their first year of dating...im sure just after he got out of it with the scorpio


why would an aqua date her friends ex man


these people are all deranged

First of all, "insecure enough to cheat" is bullshit. Cheating is not ok, never ever, no exceptions.

Secondly, let's not jump to conclusions, maybe the Scorp and Aqua were just college acquaintances at the time. Who knows. Maybe they were weirdly tight besties who liked sharing men. Super weird, I dont get it.. but who knows.. lots of weird people in the world.

ya i know lol ...cheaters cheat cause they can...its a power thing not a love thing

Agreed. I kind of suspect when an Aqua cheats they do it just for the fun of it. *shudders*

No guise. I don't see how it's fun at all **shrugs** especially children are involved.

The children weren't involved when she cheated. It was before they were married, etc.

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Ok so she hasn't cheated since they were married, the cheating happened a long time ago when they first started to date and he's just now finding out?.... just want to make sure.

Go feel like maybe like what did I do wrong, all my brothers and guy friends my life is role reversal it's usually the guy cheating and the wife up all night thinking how can I save my marriage, I feel feminized, and I dnt want end up hating women and become a man whore but I feel 1 cheated on me and now her friend wants to cheat with me? And cheat on her man. It's like everybody is giving everybody and I'm not realizing it. I guess I was stuck in work mode.

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Posted by iVirgo
@duchesslibro

This is real life I hate to admit, I wish it was a soap opera so I can change to channel.

Your wife cheated recently or when you first started to date?

My computer did something crazy with my last message post —

Posted by iVirgo
@duchesslibro

This is real life I hate to admit, I wish it was a soap opera so I can change to channel.

I know. Totally sucks and you know I feel sorry for you. 😢

However, I am a Gemini Moon. The universe has bestowed upon me the heavy responsibility of making light of heavy situations because life is too sad and horrible all on it's own. You have to be able to joke a bit at shitty situations. Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive, etc etc.

On the flip side I am a Libra Sun and I will examine all angles and offer up serious advice. Such as listen to @feby. You really should not sex anyone at all right now. Think of the legal implications of cheating while still married.. Don't do anything stupid.

Your wife did not cheat during your actual marriage that you know of correct? It was prior?

She cheated10years ago but just recently felt the need to tell, after something came out about her ex, he made a comment to her friend so and all her friends knew and she was afraid it would come back to me by second or third party

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@supermerciful

My youngest boy left with her, because he is breast feeding but I ask her to leave for a lot of reasons, 1 my job is in the area, 2 she doesn't know how to handle my 2 oldest girls they always fight, maybe because of us. I would have had to move into a hotel 90bucks a night or back in with family 2hr drive to work, or her move in with hers 40mins away in a 5 bed room house, and she doesn't work I'm the sole provider workaholic, and she wanted to be around her family anyway right now.

Okay, I will be super merciful and pardon you. I'm a virgo too so I rationalize with you. Focus on work and keeping up with your job. I still wouldn't mention it. I don't really see the point in mentioning it. Just tell her to stop coming over.

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Lol, I cracked up at the name change. Can't tell if honest mistake or Libra placements charm.. hmmm.. lol

Regarding her friend I can't , ...she never made full on advances but Is making it clear she wants something,


just got text "I need to talk to you"from her .

The first 2 years were bad, but the last 8 were perfect she was my queen my everything, I couldn't get enough of her, I brought flowers or "I love u card" at one point every other day then monthly then every other month as time passed less and less but I never stopped showing her I loved her.

I agree with @supermercurial. Don't respond in any way to the looming mega-disaster involving bestie Scorpio.

First if all.. this applies to both Scorpio and Aqua.. if you fuck with them they will stop at NOTHING to DESTROY you. I am so fucking serious. My hunch is that these two women are in cahoots to ruin you and you simply ignore the Scorpio. Period. End of story.

When revenge is on the menu Scorp and Aqua are the most dangerous signs. They are smart and irrational. Just don't. Don't even mention to her husband. You will regret it.

Posted by iVirgo
She cheated10years ago but just recently felt the need to tell, after something came out about her ex, he made a comment to her friend so and all her friends knew and she was afraid it would come back to me by second or third party

I get it, you're punishing her for a mistake she made a decade ago. It's not right she didn't tell you before, but work in your marriage, establish trust again. She seems to be have been devoted wife and mother since. People tend to forget all the good things a person has done over just 1 mistake. I think you two can move past this.

Scorpio is just using you as opportunity, vulnerable prey to get back at her husband. She has insecurities of her own she has to deal with. Don't let her get between you and your wife.

Posted by iVirgo
She cheated10years ago but just recently felt the need to tell, after something came out about her ex, he made a comment to her friend so and all her friends knew and she was afraid it would come back to me by second or third party

Ugh. That is the worst kind of confession. I was thinking the guilt was weighing on her and she wanted to be honest. Ew. She just didn't want you to find out through the grapevine. I wouldn't trust her at all.