Are we done?

Hi everyone, I'm new here. I'm a 25(w)yr old Leo who has been dating a 25(m) Taurus.

It's only been a few months but dating him has been incredible. We have really been enjoying each other's company so much that he took me to meet some of his family on Christmas, and has told his entire family were dating. I don't usually tell my parents about my relationship but I figured he was special enough to do so. They're very intrigued by him as well and are happy for us. We've had no issues. He's very generous, gentle with me and spoils me with dinners and gifts.

I messed up and I think I've scared him. My (virgo) ex who've I've broken up with 9 months ago, got very distant/"busy" at the end of our relationship. He told me he was just going through a lot and I found out he was actually seeing his ex. He was also verbally abusive at times. That break up really traumatized me and dating the Taurus was a fresh of air for me.

My Taurus guy is an extremely successful business owner and works long hrs. Initially he gave me as much attention as he could, but it started to fade although he would still check in/call me daily. Triggered by my last relationship, I just assumed he was disinterested in me and I began to pull back. After a few days of being distant I decided it's passive behavior and that I should communicate to him how I've been feeling about his distance. He's very kind and easy to talk to, so I knew this would work. I told him I needed to talk to him about something & he asked if everything was ok. I said yeah just call me when you're free. He said he'd call me later that night, but never did.

I grew anxious and by 12pm the next day I still hadn't heard from him, but saw he was active online. This angered me and I explained to my friends how this made me feel. They advised me to dump him. And like an idiot I did and explained how I feel like I'm no longer a priority to him. I understand this was wrong to do and I should've left my emotions out and just waited for him to call me (I know he would've eventually, I just got anxious).

He explained that the past few weeks have been extremely stressful and exhausting for him and that be didn't realize he was pulling away from me. He took accountability and apologized for making me feel bad, reaffirming that he cares deeply and that I'm not an afterthought to him. Me still being kind of angry, i explained how I just wanted communication and that maybe the timing wasn't right for us. This was a mistake and I wish I hadn't said this.

A few days later he tells me he agrees that the timing is no longer right anymore and that we should fallback and try dating another time, to work on ourselves for improvement. I then told him I didn't mean that, and apologized for being angry and misunderstanding him. He called me and we talked about the situation, apologized to each other, joked and laughed, and he told me how amazing I was. He said his parents and siblings ask about me all the time and that I didn't lose him, but he believes we should build a friendship first and then work towards a relationship.

He said we could still go on dates, hang out, call each other & claimed he had vday gifts for me. He even made a joke saying if i were to date any other guys he'd have to kill them (LOL).

Well that was almost two weeks ago and I haven't heard much from him. I'm worried we're slow fading and not working on the friendship. He had been engaged with me on social media, told me I looked cute in one of my pictures. And the other day he reached out congratulating me and telling me about the amazing job offer her got. But I didn't hear from him much after that, not even on vday.

I'm afraid we may slow fade and not end up where we were again. I recognize was I did was wrong and he was very understanding about my reasonings and behavior. He wasn't mad but he said it did hurt him.

I just want to know if I have a chance with him still. If so, do I chase or do I let him come back around?



Sorry this post is long, I just care about him a lot and feel awful about what I did. Thank you guys.

Btw I have never yelled at him or been emotional or condescending when I explained to him how I feel. I know emotions scare guys so I tried to stay as calm and rational as I could, our conversation was very mature.

if it were me, i would chase. i am brazen like that though. i remember when my partner and i had broken up over an issue i was dealing with. after a week or so i chased him and convinced him to try again. i think your situation is still salvageable but stop listening to your friends. unless they are all happy and in successful long term relationships their credibility can and should be questioned.

i would arrange a time for you to both see each other. go for a walk or meet for a meal or bring him lunch, something that you used to do when you were ok with each other. my strategy is to make things as normal as possible as quickly as possible if i want to move on from something. it put everyone at ease and you can try to find your old groove.

Posted by WarAngel

No, but you do need to back off a bit. Never give a guy reasons to overthink what you both have.

Explain to him that you're extremely happy about his new position and that you want to get together - to celebrate, and leave it alone.

You may have damaged, but not broken.

Thanks WarAngel,

I definitely don't want to overwhelm him. I haven't contacted him in a few days and thought about giving him a few weeks of space, and then try to discuss our situation again. I also want to mail him a gift I got him before this situation happened. He lives 25 mins away from me, but I thought it might be better to mail it in order to give him space. It's just hard, I may be overthinking - I'm just afraid he'll forget about me and choose to move on.

Posted by jeane

if it were me, i would chase. i am brazen like that though. i remember when my partner and i had broken up over an issue i was dealing with. after a week or so i chased him and convinced him to try again. i think your situation is still salvageable but stop listening to your friends. unless they are all happy and in successful long term relationships their credibility can and should be questioned.

i would arrange a time for you to both see each other. go for a walk or meet for a meal or bring him lunch, something that you used to do when you were ok with each other. my strategy is to make things as normal as possible as quickly as possible if i want to move on from something. it put everyone at ease and you can try to find your old groove.

Hi jeane, thanks for responding!

I definitely agree that listening to my friends, especially when emotional, was an awful idea. Many of them haven't been in healthy relationships so their idea is to always "destroy things before they destroy me." I even told my Taurus guy this, and he laughed and agreed. He said he understood. I told him for now on when I'm feeling this was I'll go to my parents or mentors for advice first, and to him directly.

As far as chasing, I was leaning towards that but I've also read they shy away when a woman is too pushy. I do think I should give him more space but another part of me is like, well he's handsome, charming and rich. Someone else might catch his attention, and I don't want that to happen yet. I think we could really be good for each other and he agreed

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Posted by jeane

if it were me, i would chase. i am brazen like that though. i remember when my partner and i had broken up over an issue i was dealing with. after a week or so i chased him and convinced him to try again. i think your situation is still salvageable but stop listening to your friends. unless they are all happy and in successful long term relationships their credibility can and should be questioned.

i would arrange a time for you to both see each other. go for a walk or meet for a meal or bring him lunch, something that you used to do when you were ok with each other. my strategy is to make things as normal as possible as quickly as possible if i want to move on from something. it put everyone at ease and you can try to find your old groove.

Hi jeane, thanks for responding!

I definitely agree that listening to my friends, especially when emotional, was an awful idea. Many of them haven't been in healthy relationships so their idea is to always "destroy things before they destroy me." I even told my Taurus guy this, and he laughed and agreed. He said he understood. I told him for now on when I'm feeling this was I'll go to my parents or mentors for advice first, and to him directly.

As far as chasing, I was leaning towards that but I've also read they shy away when a woman is too pushy. I do think I should give him more space but another part of me is like, well he's handsome, charming and rich. Someone else might catch his attention, and I don't want that to happen yet. I think we could really be good for each other and he agreed

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i wouldn't do it out of fear but for me i always did it because i didn't want to leave anything unsaid. i wanted him to know how i felt. taurus are cautious. i think they want to know how you feel, it gives them reassurance. it also stops them from thinking, oh i've lost her.

i'm not suggesting being clingy but showing that you are into him, that you care, that you know you made a mistake and that he means a lot to you is attractive. i treated it like it was a blip. like for a moment there i lost my mind but give me a hug and a kiss and let's go back to the way things were before. i only say this because it seems like the feeling is mutual. he seems mature and considered and he sounds like a catch. i wouldn't want to let that slip through my fingers without really giving myself a chance to pull it back.

Posted by LuxePurr

Sounds like he love bombed you.

This could be a possibility, I've experienced love bombing before. But isn't that also associated with egotistical and narcissistic behavior? I haven't seen that in him.

He's rich and a naturally thoughtful person, I think he just does those things because he can afford to and I noticed he also is very generous with his friends. He always pay for them when he hangs out with them.

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Posted by jeane

if it were me, i would chase. i am brazen like that though. i remember when my partner and i had broken up over an issue i was dealing with. after a week or so i chased him and convinced him to try again. i think your situation is still salvageable but stop listening to your friends. unless they are all happy and in successful long term relationships their credibility can and should be questioned.

i would arrange a time for you to both see each other. go for a walk or meet for a meal or bring him lunch, something that you used to do when you were ok with each other. my strategy is to make things as normal as possible as quickly as possible if i want to move on from something. it put everyone at ease and you can try to find your old groove.

Hi jeane, thanks for responding!

I definitely agree that listening to my friends, especially when emotional, was an awful idea. Many of them haven't been in healthy relationships so their idea is to always "destroy things before they destroy me." I even told my Taurus guy this, and he laughed and agreed. He said he understood. I told him for now on when I'm feeling this was I'll go to my parents or mentors for advice first, and to him directly.

As far as chasing, I was leaning towards that but I've also read they shy away when a woman is too pushy. I do think I should give him more space but another part of me is like, well he's handsome, charming and rich. Someone else might catch his attention, and I don't want that to happen yet. I think we could really be good for each other and he agreed

i wouldn't do it out of fear but for me i always did it because i didn't want to leave anything unsaid. i wanted him to know how i felt. taurus are cautious. i think they want to know how you feel, it gives them reassurance. it also stops them from thinking, oh i've lost her.

i'm not suggesting being clingy but showing that you are into him, that you care, that you know you made a mistake and that he means a lot to you is attractive. i treated it like it was a blip. like for a moment there i lost my mind but give me a hug and a kiss and let's go back to the way things were before. i only say this because it seems like the feeling is mutual. he seems mature and considered and he sounds like a catch. i wouldn't want to let that slip through my fingers without really giving myself a chance to pull it back.

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You're right, I'm glad you understand my circumstances. Lol usually if this were with someone else I would let it go, but this man is literally a catch. I haven't met someone this kind and genuine in years. My parents even advised me to hold onto him and enjoy his company as long as I could.

He hasn't disrespected me or talked to me in any mean way. He's very kind so talking to him is always nice. Idk why I'm scared, I guess I just don't want to push him away further.

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Btw I have never yelled at him or been emotional or condescending when I explained to him how I feel. I know emotions scare guys so I tried to stay as calm and rational as I could, our conversation was very mature.

Also his placements for anyone wondering:

Taurus sun, Pisces moon, Scorpio rising, Leo mars. I think his venus is aries.

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Posted by jeane

if it were me, i would chase. i am brazen like that though. i remember when my partner and i had broken up over an issue i was dealing with. after a week or so i chased him and convinced him to try again. i think your situation is still salvageable but stop listening to your friends. unless they are all happy and in successful long term relationships their credibility can and should be questioned.

i would arrange a time for you to both see each other. go for a walk or meet for a meal or bring him lunch, something that you used to do when you were ok with each other. my strategy is to make things as normal as possible as quickly as possible if i want to move on from something. it put everyone at ease and you can try to find your old groove.

Hi jeane, thanks for responding!

I definitely agree that listening to my friends, especially when emotional, was an awful idea. Many of them haven't been in healthy relationships so their idea is to always "destroy things before they destroy me." I even told my Taurus guy this, and he laughed and agreed. He said he understood. I told him for now on when I'm feeling this was I'll go to my parents or mentors for advice first, and to him directly.

As far as chasing, I was leaning towards that but I've also read they shy away when a woman is too pushy. I do think I should give him more space but another part of me is like, well he's handsome, charming and rich. Someone else might catch his attention, and I don't want that to happen yet. I think we could really be good for each other and he agreed

i wouldn't do it out of fear but for me i always did it because i didn't want to leave anything unsaid. i wanted him to know how i felt. taurus are cautious. i think they want to know how you feel, it gives them reassurance. it also stops them from thinking, oh i've lost her.

i'm not suggesting being clingy but showing that you are into him, that you care, that you know you made a mistake and that he means a lot to you is attractive. i treated it like it was a blip. like for a moment there i lost my mind but give me a hug and a kiss and let's go back to the way things were before. i only say this because it seems like the feeling is mutual. he seems mature and considered and he sounds like a catch. i wouldn't want to let that slip through my fingers without really giving myself a chance to pull it back.

You're right, I'm glad you understand my circumstances. Lol usually if this were with someone else I would let it go, but this man is literally a catch. I haven't met someone this kind and genuine in years. My parents even advised me to hold onto him and enjoy his company as long as I could.

He hasn't disrespected me or talked to me in any mean way. He's very kind so talking to him is always nice. Idk why I'm scared, I guess I just don't want to push him away further.

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without risk there is no reward. you seem sensible enough, play it by ear and see how you go but i wouldn't be walking away and letting him come to me especially as it seems that he is taking what you said at face value and giving you the space you said you needed.

i know you guys talked that through but he probably feels a bit spooked by your erratic behaviour. building the friendship is great. he wants to give you another chance he probably just wants to make sure your the stability that he needs. again from my own experience, i told him i was sorry. that i fucked up. i listened to how it appeared to him and what he felt (my partner has cancer in him so he can be very sensitive) and then i asked for another chance. i told him how i would be different (and here is the key) i meant it. i resolved not to make the same mistakes again if he could put his trust in me i gave him my word i wouldn't pull the same shit again.

now i think my fight was likely bigger than yours and perhaps we were a little further down the road than where you are now but i think the essence still is the same. i think you've gone part way to talk about if you feel triggered again but (what's his moon again?) i think start making effort to put this back on track. bring him the gift you have, have fun and joke about before. apologise if you feel you need to and then move on. you can tell him that you are happy to be friends if that's what he needs but you'll hold out that soon enough you can pick up where you left off.

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Posted by jeane

if it were me, i would chase. i am brazen like that though. i remember when my partner and i had broken up over an issue i was dealing with. after a week or so i chased him and convinced him to try again. i think your situation is still salvageable but stop listening to your friends. unless they are all happy and in successful long term relationships their credibility can and should be questioned.

i would arrange a time for you to both see each other. go for a walk or meet for a meal or bring him lunch, something that you used to do when you were ok with each other. my strategy is to make things as normal as possible as quickly as possible if i want to move on from something. it put everyone at ease and you can try to find your old groove.

Hi jeane, thanks for responding!

I definitely agree that listening to my friends, especially when emotional, was an awful idea. Many of them haven't been in healthy relationships so their idea is to always "destroy things before they destroy me." I even told my Taurus guy this, and he laughed and agreed. He said he understood. I told him for now on when I'm feeling this was I'll go to my parents or mentors for advice first, and to him directly.

As far as chasing, I was leaning towards that but I've also read they shy away when a woman is too pushy. I do think I should give him more space but another part of me is like, well he's handsome, charming and rich. Someone else might catch his attention, and I don't want that to happen yet. I think we could really be good for each other and he agreed

i wouldn't do it out of fear but for me i always did it because i didn't want to leave anything unsaid. i wanted him to know how i felt. taurus are cautious. i think they want to know how you feel, it gives them reassurance. it also stops them from thinking, oh i've lost her.

i'm not suggesting being clingy but showing that you are into him, that you care, that you know you made a mistake and that he means a lot to you is attractive. i treated it like it was a blip. like for a moment there i lost my mind but give me a hug and a kiss and let's go back to the way things were before. i only say this because it seems like the feeling is mutual. he seems mature and considered and he sounds like a catch. i wouldn't want to let that slip through my fingers without really giving myself a chance to pull it back.

You're right, I'm glad you understand my circumstances. Lol usually if this were with someone else I would let it go, but this man is literally a catch. I haven't met someone this kind and genuine in years. My parents even advised me to hold onto him and enjoy his company as long as I could.

He hasn't disrespected me or talked to me in any mean way. He's very kind so talking to him is always nice. Idk why I'm scared, I guess I just don't want to push him away further.

without risk there is no reward. you seem sensible enough, play it by ear and see how you go but i wouldn't be walking away and letting him come to me especially as it seems that he is taking what you said at face value and giving you the space you said you needed.

i know you guys talked that through but he probably feels a bit spooked by your erratic behaviour. building the friendship is great. he wants to give you another chance he probably just wants to make sure your the stability that he needs. again from my own experience, i told him i was sorry. that i fucked up. i listened to how it appeared to him and what he felt (my partner has cancer in him so he can be very sensitive) and then i asked for another chance. i told him how i would be different (and here is the key) i meant it. i resolved not to make the same mistakes again if he could put his trust in me i gave him my word i wouldn't pull the same shit again.

now i think my fight was likely bigger than yours and perhaps we were a little further down the road than where you are now but i think the essence still is the same. i think you've gone part way to talk about if you feel triggered again but (what's his moon again?) i think start making effort to put this back on track. bring him the gift you have, have fun and joke about before. apologise if you feel you need to and then move on. you can tell him that you are happy to be friends if that's what he needs but you'll hold out that soon enough you can pick up where you left off.

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Hi Jeane, so I have an update. On Monday I asked him for 15 mins of his time on a call. Later that night he called me on FT, the call lasted 2 effortless hours lol. I wanted to ask him the details on where we stand. I couldn't even really ask because we were goofing off and talking about any and everything.

He said for the past 2 weeks he felt very overwhelmed with everything going on at work and with his business. A lot of ppl he's had to reach out to. He asked me how I'd been feeling these last few weeks, about school, my art, and everything going on in my life. He also said he missed me on valentines day, but wasn't sure where we stood so he didn't ask me out that day. He said his grandma even asked why we we're together that day. I'm still a little hurt about this given a few weeks ago he said he had gifts for me. I still haven't gotten them, if they exist.

Anyways, our conversation was very fun and we genuinely enjoyed talking to each other. He also said we can take a staycation next month at this resort we went to from one of our past dates (we loved it there). I tried to ease into discussing dating again, he kept joking about how toxic I was - but I can tell he kind of meant it. He seems hesitant to jump back into things, but he said we can start off by talking more. I agree, but every time he says that, we don't. After the call we texted for a few minutes and he stopped replying again. Haven't heard from him since then.

My question is, from experience, are Taurus men the type to let you down easily by making false promises? Or if they're completely done with you, will they let you know? In the past he has told me he's very straightforward with women when it came to ending things. But I'm not sure about our case, he was a little shy when I tried to flirt with him on the phone & before he never wasn't.

I've decided to stop reaching out and give him space, focus on myself and be friendly. Maybe even start moving on. I'm just wondering if there's still a chance for us or if he's friendzoning me permanently. What do u think?

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Posted by WarAngel

No, but you do need to back off a bit. Never give a guy reasons to overthink what you both have.

Explain to him that you're extremely happy about his new position and that you want to get together - to celebrate, and leave it alone.

You may have damaged, but not broken.

Thanks WarAngel,

I definitely don't want to overwhelm him. I haven't contacted him in a few days and thought about giving him a few weeks of space, and then try to discuss our situation again. I also want to mail him a gift I got him before this situation happened. He lives 25 mins away from me, but I thought it might be better to mail it in order to give him space. It's just hard, I may be overthinking - I'm just afraid he'll forget about me and choose to move on.

Being overly clingy is cute for a short while but in the long run, bad.

Contact him to explain what I've mentioned in the previous post and step back and see what he says. Let him come to you, give him the gift in person - not mail.

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Hi WarAngel,

On Monday I asked to speak with him for only 15 mins and he prolonged the conversation to 2 hours. We barely talked about the situation, just giving eavh other life updates. He asked me how I've been feeling and what I've been doing.

I wanted to ask him about where we stood as far as dating, but the conversation didn't really get there bc we were goofing off so much and joking. I tried to flirt with him and he was bashful. He did tell me I looked pretty on FT, flirted a LITTLE bit, but I can tell he's hesitant about trying things again, this soon, at least. But he said we should start talking more. Idk what that means in Taurus terms but after the call we texted for a bit and he stopped replying again...

Are Tauruses the type to let people down easy, or are they straight up with their intentions? Sometimes I wonder if he's just being nice to me so that he doesn't hurt me or if he truly opened to trying things again one day.

I understand this period of his life is busy, exciting and stressful so I've decided not to reach out anymore and give him space. I want to move on so I'm not waiting around for him...

I'm just wondering if we still have a chance or if I've kindly been friendzoned. Do the guys make empty promises to keep you around?

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Posted by jeane

if it were me, i would chase. i am brazen like that though. i remember when my partner and i had broken up over an issue i was dealing with. after a week or so i chased him and convinced him to try again. i think your situation is still salvageable but stop listening to your friends. unless they are all happy and in successful long term relationships their credibility can and should be questioned.

i would arrange a time for you to both see each other. go for a walk or meet for a meal or bring him lunch, something that you used to do when you were ok with each other. my strategy is to make things as normal as possible as quickly as possible if i want to move on from something. it put everyone at ease and you can try to find your old groove.

Hi jeane, thanks for responding!

I definitely agree that listening to my friends, especially when emotional, was an awful idea. Many of them haven't been in healthy relationships so their idea is to always "destroy things before they destroy me." I even told my Taurus guy this, and he laughed and agreed. He said he understood. I told him for now on when I'm feeling this was I'll go to my parents or mentors for advice first, and to him directly.

As far as chasing, I was leaning towards that but I've also read they shy away when a woman is too pushy. I do think I should give him more space but another part of me is like, well he's handsome, charming and rich. Someone else might catch his attention, and I don't want that to happen yet. I think we could really be good for each other and he agreed

i wouldn't do it out of fear but for me i always did it because i didn't want to leave anything unsaid. i wanted him to know how i felt. taurus are cautious. i think they want to know how you feel, it gives them reassurance. it also stops them from thinking, oh i've lost her.

i'm not suggesting being clingy but showing that you are into him, that you care, that you know you made a mistake and that he means a lot to you is attractive. i treated it like it was a blip. like for a moment there i lost my mind but give me a hug and a kiss and let's go back to the way things were before. i only say this because it seems like the feeling is mutual. he seems mature and considered and he sounds like a catch. i wouldn't want to let that slip through my fingers without really giving myself a chance to pull it back.

You're right, I'm glad you understand my circumstances. Lol usually if this were with someone else I would let it go, but this man is literally a catch. I haven't met someone this kind and genuine in years. My parents even advised me to hold onto him and enjoy his company as long as I could.

He hasn't disrespected me or talked to me in any mean way. He's very kind so talking to him is always nice. Idk why I'm scared, I guess I just don't want to push him away further.

without risk there is no reward. you seem sensible enough, play it by ear and see how you go but i wouldn't be walking away and letting him come to me especially as it seems that he is taking what you said at face value and giving you the space you said you needed.

i know you guys talked that through but he probably feels a bit spooked by your erratic behaviour. building the friendship is great. he wants to give you another chance he probably just wants to make sure your the stability that he needs. again from my own experience, i told him i was sorry. that i fucked up. i listened to how it appeared to him and what he felt (my partner has cancer in him so he can be very sensitive) and then i asked for another chance. i told him how i would be different (and here is the key) i meant it. i resolved not to make the same mistakes again if he could put his trust in me i gave him my word i wouldn't pull the same shit again.

now i think my fight was likely bigger than yours and perhaps we were a little further down the road than where you are now but i think the essence still is the same. i think you've gone part way to talk about if you feel triggered again but (what's his moon again?) i think start making effort to put this back on track. bring him the gift you have, have fun and joke about before. apologise if you feel you need to and then move on. you can tell him that you are happy to be friends if that's what he needs but you'll hold out that soon enough you can pick up where you left off.

Hi Jeane, so I have an update. On Monday I asked him for 15 mins of his time on a call. Later that night he called me on FT, the call lasted 2 effortless hours lol. I wanted to ask him the details on where we stand. I couldn't even really ask because we were goofing off and talking about any and everything.

He said for the past 2 weeks he felt very overwhelmed with everything going on at work and with his business. A lot of ppl he's had to reach out to. He asked me how I'd been feeling these last few weeks, about school, my art, and everything going on in my life. He also said he missed me on valentines day, but wasn't sure where we stood so he didn't ask me out that day. He said his grandma even asked why we we're together that day. I'm still a little hurt about this given a few weeks ago he said he had gifts for me. I still haven't gotten them, if they exist.

Anyways, our conversation was very fun and we genuinely enjoyed talking to each other. He also said we can take a staycation next month at this resort we went to from one of our past dates (we loved it there). I tried to ease into discussing dating again, he kept joking about how toxic I was - but I can tell he kind of meant it. He seems hesitant to jump back into things, but he said we can start off by talking more. I agree, but every time he says that, we don't. After the call we texted for a few minutes and he stopped replying again. Haven't heard from him since then.

My question is, from experience, are Taurus men the type to let you down easily by making false promises? Or if they're completely done with you, will they let you know? In the past he has told me he's very straightforward with women when it came to ending things. But I'm not sure about our case, he was a little shy when I tried to flirt with him on the phone & before he never wasn't.

I've decided to stop reaching out and give him space, focus on myself and be friendly. Maybe even start moving on. I'm just wondering if there's still a chance for us or if he's friendzoning me permanently. What do u think?

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one major thing that springs to mind when thinking of taurus is organic. there is no sense pushing things to move faster than what they will naturally go. you guys are talking freely and easily. he said he was unsure of where he stood. he could still feel that way. now is the time to take things slowly with him and work on building a solid foundation back up again.

i'm afraid hyou just have to let things evolve.

in me experiemce false promises is the thing they want to avoid. generally speaking they are honest. ask an honest straight question and that's the response you'll get.

don't worry about being friends for the time being. friends is where you want to be. my partner and i started as friends and that was really important to him. you have to actually like one another at the end of the day. from friendship other things can develop. just enjoy getting to know him. i wouldn't pull back entirely. i wouldn't be texting him everyday but i would be hanging around and reminding him of my presence just enough to have him begin to miss me when i'm not there.

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if it were me, i would chase. i am brazen like that though. i remember when my partner and i had broken up over an issue i was dealing with. after a week or so i chased him and convinced him to try again. i think your situation is still salvageable but stop listening to your friends. unless they are all happy and in successful long term relationships their credibility can and should be questioned.

i would arrange a time for you to both see each other. go for a walk or meet for a meal or bring him lunch, something that you used to do when you were ok with each other. my strategy is to make things as normal as possible as quickly as possible if i want to move on from something. it put everyone at ease and you can try to find your old groove.

Hi jeane, thanks for responding!

I definitely agree that listening to my friends, especially when emotional, was an awful idea. Many of them haven't been in healthy relationships so their idea is to always "destroy things before they destroy me." I even told my Taurus guy this, and he laughed and agreed. He said he understood. I told him for now on when I'm feeling this was I'll go to my parents or mentors for advice first, and to him directly.

As far as chasing, I was leaning towards that but I've also read they shy away when a woman is too pushy. I do think I should give him more space but another part of me is like, well he's handsome, charming and rich. Someone else might catch his attention, and I don't want that to happen yet. I think we could really be good for each other and he agreed

i wouldn't do it out of fear but for me i always did it because i didn't want to leave anything unsaid. i wanted him to know how i felt. taurus are cautious. i think they want to know how you feel, it gives them reassurance. it also stops them from thinking, oh i've lost her.

i'm not suggesting being clingy but showing that you are into him, that you care, that you know you made a mistake and that he means a lot to you is attractive. i treated it like it was a blip. like for a moment there i lost my mind but give me a hug and a kiss and let's go back to the way things were before. i only say this because it seems like the feeling is mutual. he seems mature and considered and he sounds like a catch. i wouldn't want to let that slip through my fingers without really giving myself a chance to pull it back.

You're right, I'm glad you understand my circumstances. Lol usually if this were with someone else I would let it go, but this man is literally a catch. I haven't met someone this kind and genuine in years. My parents even advised me to hold onto him and enjoy his company as long as I could.

He hasn't disrespected me or talked to me in any mean way. He's very kind so talking to him is always nice. Idk why I'm scared, I guess I just don't want to push him away further.

without risk there is no reward. you seem sensible enough, play it by ear and see how you go but i wouldn't be walking away and letting him come to me especially as it seems that he is taking what you said at face value and giving you the space you said you needed.

i know you guys talked that through but he probably feels a bit spooked by your erratic behaviour. building the friendship is great. he wants to give you another chance he probably just wants to make sure your the stability that he needs. again from my own experience, i told him i was sorry. that i fucked up. i listened to how it appeared to him and what he felt (my partner has cancer in him so he can be very sensitive) and then i asked for another chance. i told him how i would be different (and here is the key) i meant it. i resolved not to make the same mistakes again if he could put his trust in me i gave him my word i wouldn't pull the same shit again.

now i think my fight was likely bigger than yours and perhaps we were a little further down the road than where you are now but i think the essence still is the same. i think you've gone part way to talk about if you feel triggered again but (what's his moon again?) i think start making effort to put this back on track. bring him the gift you have, have fun and joke about before. apologise if you feel you need to and then move on. you can tell him that you are happy to be friends if that's what he needs but you'll hold out that soon enough you can pick up where you left off.

Hi Jeane, so I have an update. On Monday I asked him for 15 mins of his time on a call. Later that night he called me on FT, the call lasted 2 effortless hours lol. I wanted to ask him the details on where we stand. I couldn't even really ask because we were goofing off and talking about any and everything.

He said for the past 2 weeks he felt very overwhelmed with everything going on at work and with his business. A lot of ppl he's had to reach out to. He asked me how I'd been feeling these last few weeks, about school, my art, and everything going on in my life. He also said he missed me on valentines day, but wasn't sure where we stood so he didn't ask me out that day. He said his grandma even asked why we we're together that day. I'm still a little hurt about this given a few weeks ago he said he had gifts for me. I still haven't gotten them, if they exist.

Anyways, our conversation was very fun and we genuinely enjoyed talking to each other. He also said we can take a staycation next month at this resort we went to from one of our past dates (we loved it there). I tried to ease into discussing dating again, he kept joking about how toxic I was - but I can tell he kind of meant it. He seems hesitant to jump back into things, but he said we can start off by talking more. I agree, but every time he says that, we don't. After the call we texted for a few minutes and he stopped replying again. Haven't heard from him since then.

My question is, from experience, are Taurus men the type to let you down easily by making false promises? Or if they're completely done with you, will they let you know? In the past he has told me he's very straightforward with women when it came to ending things. But I'm not sure about our case, he was a little shy when I tried to flirt with him on the phone & before he never wasn't.

I've decided to stop reaching out and give him space, focus on myself and be friendly. Maybe even start moving on. I'm just wondering if there's still a chance for us or if he's friendzoning me permanently. What do u think?

one major thing that springs to mind when thinking of taurus is organic. there is no sense pushing things to move faster than what they will naturally go. you guys are talking freely and easily. he said he was unsure of where he stood. he could still feel that way. now is the time to take things slowly with him and work on building a solid foundation back up again.

i'm afraid hyou just have to let things evolve.

in me experiemce false promises is the thing they want to avoid. generally speaking they are honest. ask an honest straight question and that's the response you'll get.

don't worry about being friends for the time being. friends is where you want to be. my partner and i started as friends and that was really important to him. you have to actually like one another at the end of the day. from friendship other things can develop. just enjoy getting to know him. i wouldn't pull back entirely. i wouldn't be texting him everyday but i would be hanging around and reminding him of my presence just enough to have him begin to miss me when i'm not there.

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I agree with you. I'm letting things flow organically, rushing things never turns out well. I'm just glad he at least considers me as friend, i'm going to miss him as more but I have some faith will get back to that point again. We did have a great time, no issues and lots of chemistry. I just hope he remembers that like I do.

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Posted by jeane

if it were me, i would chase. i am brazen like that though. i remember when my partner and i had broken up over an issue i was dealing with. after a week or so i chased him and convinced him to try again. i think your situation is still salvageable but stop listening to your friends. unless they are all happy and in successful long term relationships their credibility can and should be questioned.

i would arrange a time for you to both see each other. go for a walk or meet for a meal or bring him lunch, something that you used to do when you were ok with each other. my strategy is to make things as normal as possible as quickly as possible if i want to move on from something. it put everyone at ease and you can try to find your old groove.

Hi jeane, thanks for responding!

I definitely agree that listening to my friends, especially when emotional, was an awful idea. Many of them haven't been in healthy relationships so their idea is to always "destroy things before they destroy me." I even told my Taurus guy this, and he laughed and agreed. He said he understood. I told him for now on when I'm feeling this was I'll go to my parents or mentors for advice first, and to him directly.

As far as chasing, I was leaning towards that but I've also read they shy away when a woman is too pushy. I do think I should give him more space but another part of me is like, well he's handsome, charming and rich. Someone else might catch his attention, and I don't want that to happen yet. I think we could really be good for each other and he agreed

i wouldn't do it out of fear but for me i always did it because i didn't want to leave anything unsaid. i wanted him to know how i felt. taurus are cautious. i think they want to know how you feel, it gives them reassurance. it also stops them from thinking, oh i've lost her.

i'm not suggesting being clingy but showing that you are into him, that you care, that you know you made a mistake and that he means a lot to you is attractive. i treated it like it was a blip. like for a moment there i lost my mind but give me a hug and a kiss and let's go back to the way things were before. i only say this because it seems like the feeling is mutual. he seems mature and considered and he sounds like a catch. i wouldn't want to let that slip through my fingers without really giving myself a chance to pull it back.

You're right, I'm glad you understand my circumstances. Lol usually if this were with someone else I would let it go, but this man is literally a catch. I haven't met someone this kind and genuine in years. My parents even advised me to hold onto him and enjoy his company as long as I could.

He hasn't disrespected me or talked to me in any mean way. He's very kind so talking to him is always nice. Idk why I'm scared, I guess I just don't want to push him away further.

without risk there is no reward. you seem sensible enough, play it by ear and see how you go but i wouldn't be walking away and letting him come to me especially as it seems that he is taking what you said at face value and giving you the space you said you needed.

i know you guys talked that through but he probably feels a bit spooked by your erratic behaviour. building the friendship is great. he wants to give you another chance he probably just wants to make sure your the stability that he needs. again from my own experience, i told him i was sorry. that i fucked up. i listened to how it appeared to him and what he felt (my partner has cancer in him so he can be very sensitive) and then i asked for another chance. i told him how i would be different (and here is the key) i meant it. i resolved not to make the same mistakes again if he could put his trust in me i gave him my word i wouldn't pull the same shit again.

now i think my fight was likely bigger than yours and perhaps we were a little further down the road than where you are now but i think the essence still is the same. i think you've gone part way to talk about if you feel triggered again but (what's his moon again?) i think start making effort to put this back on track. bring him the gift you have, have fun and joke about before. apologise if you feel you need to and then move on. you can tell him that you are happy to be friends if that's what he needs but you'll hold out that soon enough you can pick up where you left off.

Hi Jeane, so I have an update. On Monday I asked him for 15 mins of his time on a call. Later that night he called me on FT, the call lasted 2 effortless hours lol. I wanted to ask him the details on where we stand. I couldn't even really ask because we were goofing off and talking about any and everything.

He said for the past 2 weeks he felt very overwhelmed with everything going on at work and with his business. A lot of ppl he's had to reach out to. He asked me how I'd been feeling these last few weeks, about school, my art, and everything going on in my life. He also said he missed me on valentines day, but wasn't sure where we stood so he didn't ask me out that day. He said his grandma even asked why we we're together that day. I'm still a little hurt about this given a few weeks ago he said he had gifts for me. I still haven't gotten them, if they exist.

Anyways, our conversation was very fun and we genuinely enjoyed talking to each other. He also said we can take a staycation next month at this resort we went to from one of our past dates (we loved it there). I tried to ease into discussing dating again, he kept joking about how toxic I was - but I can tell he kind of meant it. He seems hesitant to jump back into things, but he said we can start off by talking more. I agree, but every time he says that, we don't. After the call we texted for a few minutes and he stopped replying again. Haven't heard from him since then.

My question is, from experience, are Taurus men the type to let you down easily by making false promises? Or if they're completely done with you, will they let you know? In the past he has told me he's very straightforward with women when it came to ending things. But I'm not sure about our case, he was a little shy when I tried to flirt with him on the phone & before he never wasn't.

I've decided to stop reaching out and give him space, focus on myself and be friendly. Maybe even start moving on. I'm just wondering if there's still a chance for us or if he's friendzoning me permanently. What do u think?

one major thing that springs to mind when thinking of taurus is organic. there is no sense pushing things to move faster than what they will naturally go. you guys are talking freely and easily. he said he was unsure of where he stood. he could still feel that way. now is the time to take things slowly with him and work on building a solid foundation back up again.

i'm afraid you just have to let things evolve.

in my experience false promises is the thing they want to avoid. generally speaking they are honest. ask an honest straight question and that's the response you'll get.

don't worry about being friends for the time being. friends is where you want to be. my partner and i started as friends and that was really important to him. you have to actually like one another at the end of the day. from friendship other things can develop. just enjoy getting to know him. i wouldn't pull back entirely. i wouldn't be texting him everyday but i would be hanging around and reminding him of my presence just enough to have him begin to miss me when i'm not there.

I agree with you. I'm letting things flow organically, rushing things never turns out well. I'm just glad he at least considers me as friend, i'm going to miss him as more but I have some faith will get back to that point again. We did have a great time, no issues and lots of chemistry. I just hope he remembers that like I do.

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i'm sure he will. you just have to keep the faith and be the woman he first became interested in. if he is anything like my bull you won't have to wait long.

i wouldn't be hurt over the gifts. if it were me, i would say "well, now that we missed out on valentine's day, let's not wait until next year. let's have a belated valentines. how does this weekend sound? after all, i want my gifts!"

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Posted by jeane

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Posted by jeane

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Posted by jeane

if it were me, i would chase. i am brazen like that though. i remember when my partner and i had broken up over an issue i was dealing with. after a week or so i chased him and convinced him to try again. i think your situation is still salvageable but stop listening to your friends. unless they are all happy and in successful long term relationships their credibility can and should be questioned.

i would arrange a time for you to both see each other. go for a walk or meet for a meal or bring him lunch, something that you used to do when you were ok with each other. my strategy is to make things as normal as possible as quickly as possible if i want to move on from something. it put everyone at ease and you can try to find your old groove.

Hi jeane, thanks for responding!

I definitely agree that listening to my friends, especially when emotional, was an awful idea. Many of them haven't been in healthy relationships so their idea is to always "destroy things before they destroy me." I even told my Taurus guy this, and he laughed and agreed. He said he understood. I told him for now on when I'm feeling this was I'll go to my parents or mentors for advice first, and to him directly.

As far as chasing, I was leaning towards that but I've also read they shy away when a woman is too pushy. I do think I should give him more space but another part of me is like, well he's handsome, charming and rich. Someone else might catch his attention, and I don't want that to happen yet. I think we could really be good for each other and he agreed

i wouldn't do it out of fear but for me i always did it because i didn't want to leave anything unsaid. i wanted him to know how i felt. taurus are cautious. i think they want to know how you feel, it gives them reassurance. it also stops them from thinking, oh i've lost her.

i'm not suggesting being clingy but showing that you are into him, that you care, that you know you made a mistake and that he means a lot to you is attractive. i treated it like it was a blip. like for a moment there i lost my mind but give me a hug and a kiss and let's go back to the way things were before. i only say this because it seems like the feeling is mutual. he seems mature and considered and he sounds like a catch. i wouldn't want to let that slip through my fingers without really giving myself a chance to pull it back.

You're right, I'm glad you understand my circumstances. Lol usually if this were with someone else I would let it go, but this man is literally a catch. I haven't met someone this kind and genuine in years. My parents even advised me to hold onto him and enjoy his company as long as I could.

He hasn't disrespected me or talked to me in any mean way. He's very kind so talking to him is always nice. Idk why I'm scared, I guess I just don't want to push him away further.

without risk there is no reward. you seem sensible enough, play it by ear and see how you go but i wouldn't be walking away and letting him come to me especially as it seems that he is taking what you said at face value and giving you the space you said you needed.

i know you guys talked that through but he probably feels a bit spooked by your erratic behaviour. building the friendship is great. he wants to give you another chance he probably just wants to make sure your the stability that he needs. again from my own experience, i told him i was sorry. that i fucked up. i listened to how it appeared to him and what he felt (my partner has cancer in him so he can be very sensitive) and then i asked for another chance. i told him how i would be different (and here is the key) i meant it. i resolved not to make the same mistakes again if he could put his trust in me i gave him my word i wouldn't pull the same shit again.

now i think my fight was likely bigger than yours and perhaps we were a little further down the road than where you are now but i think the essence still is the same. i think you've gone part way to talk about if you feel triggered again but (what's his moon again?) i think start making effort to put this back on track. bring him the gift you have, have fun and joke about before. apologise if you feel you need to and then move on. you can tell him that you are happy to be friends if that's what he needs but you'll hold out that soon enough you can pick up where you left off.

Hi Jeane, so I have an update. On Monday I asked him for 15 mins of his time on a call. Later that night he called me on FT, the call lasted 2 effortless hours lol. I wanted to ask him the details on where we stand. I couldn't even really ask because we were goofing off and talking about any and everything.

He said for the past 2 weeks he felt very overwhelmed with everything going on at work and with his business. A lot of ppl he's had to reach out to. He asked me how I'd been feeling these last few weeks, about school, my art, and everything going on in my life. He also said he missed me on valentines day, but wasn't sure where we stood so he didn't ask me out that day. He said his grandma even asked why we we're together that day. I'm still a little hurt about this given a few weeks ago he said he had gifts for me. I still haven't gotten them, if they exist.

Anyways, our conversation was very fun and we genuinely enjoyed talking to each other. He also said we can take a staycation next month at this resort we went to from one of our past dates (we loved it there). I tried to ease into discussing dating again, he kept joking about how toxic I was - but I can tell he kind of meant it. He seems hesitant to jump back into things, but he said we can start off by talking more. I agree, but every time he says that, we don't. After the call we texted for a few minutes and he stopped replying again. Haven't heard from him since then.

My question is, from experience, are Taurus men the type to let you down easily by making false promises? Or if they're completely done with you, will they let you know? In the past he has told me he's very straightforward with women when it came to ending things. But I'm not sure about our case, he was a little shy when I tried to flirt with him on the phone & before he never wasn't.

I've decided to stop reaching out and give him space, focus on myself and be friendly. Maybe even start moving on. I'm just wondering if there's still a chance for us or if he's friendzoning me permanently. What do u think?

one major thing that springs to mind when thinking of taurus is organic. there is no sense pushing things to move faster than what they will naturally go. you guys are talking freely and easily. he said he was unsure of where he stood. he could still feel that way. now is the time to take things slowly with him and work on building a solid foundation back up again.

i'm afraid you just have to let things evolve.

in my experience false promises is the thing they want to avoid. generally speaking they are honest. ask an honest straight question and that's the response you'll get.

don't worry about being friends for the time being. friends is where you want to be. my partner and i started as friends and that was really important to him. you have to actually like one another at the end of the day. from friendship other things can develop. just enjoy getting to know him. i wouldn't pull back entirely. i wouldn't be texting him everyday but i would be hanging around and reminding him of my presence just enough to have him begin to miss me when i'm not there.

I agree with you. I'm letting things flow organically, rushing things never turns out well. I'm just glad he at least considers me as friend, i'm going to miss him as more but I have some faith will get back to that point again. We did have a great time, no issues and lots of chemistry. I just hope he remembers that like I do.

i'm sure he will. you just have to keep the faith and be the woman he first became interested in. if he is anything like my bull you won't have to wait long.

i wouldn't be hurt over the gifts. if it were me, i would say "well, now that we missed out on valentine's day, let's not wait until next year. let's have a belated valentines. how does this weekend sound? after all, i want my gifts!"

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Haha I understand, but no more texts from me. I initiated the past few conversations and eventually he stops texting back. So I'm going to stop because I don't like bothering people. It'll be more exciting for him to reach out to me first again, if he ever does....

I have recognized a pattern of Taurus men coming back though, but for me it's always been after I moved on :/ and it's like after that, they chase or keep tabs on you very subtly for a long time.

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Leo f and Taurus m dramas is one of my all time favorites

Why is that?