NEED Advice from a Taurus Man

Im a Cancer women. I went to college with a Taurus man (so we’ve known each other for 10 years) never super close friends, but we had mutual friends and would hang out in college. We would always give each other “looks” over the years and he’s flirted with me a couple times in the past to where I knew he liked me to an extent.

Fast forward to this year, just getting out of a long relationship and wanting to date again, but then there’s COVID. So him and I follow each other on social media. We would like each other for pictures, so I decided to reach out to him. We agreed to meet up. So the first night we hung out I went to his place and we talked for 6 hours straight. The night was amazing. Then when I was about to leave he wanted me to spend the night. He didn’t initiate sex but we started cuddling and it just happened. Especially with the built up sexual tension since college.

So he text me to meet up again and this time he took me on a date. Another amazing night. The next couple times we met up it was middle of the week, but time we could fit into our busy schedules. But he did take me on another date to get breakfast on morning. So I just wanted to give some background context, like I didn’t just meet this guy yesterday and no I wasn’t just some booty call. We went on dates and were seen in public in daylight lol

Now with that being said, the last time we hung out it was very chill. He was acting completely normal, spent the night/cuddling/affectionate, he made me breakfast in the morning. As I’m leaving he carries my bag down, hugs, “hope you feel better”, “see you soon”, turns and waves goodbye as I’m leaving. The whole 9.

I texted him a little inside joke a few hours after I had seen him. Very light, not a conversation starter, and didn’t expect some drawn out response. But an “Lol” or emoji, even a thumbs up. But he didn’t respond at all. I didn’t text him after that and 3 weeks passed no contact. I reached out to him to make sure he was okay. And he says “he’s good. Just busy working, and asked how I’m doing.” I kept it short and sent him a new artist of a mutual artist we like and he responded. But I didn’t say anything.

So initially he ignored my text, 3 weeks go by, I text him, and he’s responding... mind you he’s always busy working and never went 3 weeks without texting me before.

He’s expressed that he likes me and I can tell her cares by his previous actions. We did start hanging out a lot in a very short span of time, and he would talk about being hurt by women in the past and not trusting them. So I don’t know.

So he’s not exactly ignoring me because if I text him respond, but he’s not initiating contact like he use to. Is he just not interested anymore?

Are you serious— He's has initiated all the advances in the relationship so far. What have you invested other than your time— He's giving you the opportunity to meet on equal terms. If you want to see him, ask him out somewhere. If you're interested, show some interest beyond being treated like a lady. What are you doing to make him feel like you like him and are expressing mutual feelings— Nothing... He made an investment. Where's his return—

News Flash!!! Men... Real Men treat women with the respect , sincerity, and care in which they themselves want to be treated. Level up or step off...

Nope he hasn’t initiated all advances! I reached out to him initially over Instagram, which led to us hanging out in the first place. I’m the one who expressed I liked him and wanted to get to know him better and then he did after, saying he’s shy and bad at expressing his emotions. And then after that we would mutually initiate text and seeing each other that. So I’ve invested. He’s paid for dinner & ive ordered food in for our movie nights. I would give him back rubs after work. I know how to treat my men lol I’m all about pulling my weight and my fair share in relationships. I have no problem with that and that’s why I’m so confused now.

Mind you, Labor Day weekend he invited me out To an event during the weekend, this was on a Thursday. I said yes. But didn’t hear anything from him since so I reached out. And he responded saying “I’m going out” and invited me to come by his place after, as if he has never asked me to go out with him. So that was the first sign of weird behavior. But then we hung out a few days after that and everything was fine.

I would love nothing more than to text him, plan a date to see him. And respect him, and everything else you said. But how do I get that opportunity if he’s ghosting me for 3 weeks and hot and cold. I have self-respect and I know my worth. I’m not going to chase a man. Either it’s mutual or it’s not. So I’m just trying to figure out is the hot and cold him not being Interested anymore?

Whoa. Just dont be selfish

—? How am I being selfish—

Are you hearing, and listening to him? Maybe he actually is busy with work, and you did mention hanging out lots right away - throw that in with being busy at work on top of any other obligations (talking family stuff, or even just friends - people have lives..) and most normal people will need a step back to assess shiz.

Are you hearing and listening to me? Lol I don’t care about the 3 weeks not seeing each other. It’s the ghosting and poor communication for me. I’m an introvert. So I’m the first person who understands If you need space, time, whatever. But you don’t go about it by ghosting someone. It’s rude. Just say you need some space/time and hit me up when you’re good. But to leave me in limbo for 3 weeks is not okay. I don’t understand why the woman on here aren’t understanding that. You all should now how fucked up it feels to be ghosted when you haven’t done anything to somebody. It’s just a grown man who doesn’t know how to communicate properly. And I don’t know if I can help him with that, that’s a personal problem.

Thank you LuxxPurr for having something meaningful and insightful to say after actually taking the time to read my post.

“People have lives“ lol I’m a student and work full time. But when you like someone you find time to send a 5 sec text in response. Not ghost them.

And I saw his stories on Instagram over the 3 weeks he was ghosting me, And he was partying it up with his friends. Some work stuff but partying too and living his best life. I’m not a hater, do you, but don’t tell me you’ve just been busy with work, I would’ve believed him if I hadn’t seen that on Instagram. Again sending a 5 sec text to someone you supposedly like and want to get to know better should be no problem.

Ok, that was my next question. There’s been a couple times I spent the night and we didn’t have sex, we just cuddled. And he was completely fine with that. So, I was thinking if/when we do see each other, should I suggest we meet at a restuarant/bar and then go home after?

Because “addition to his harem” is real. I don’t want that for myself. It’s lowkey sad.

Posted by Carribeangyal5

Are you hearing and listening to me? Lol I don’t care about the 3 weeks not seeing each other. It’s the ghosting and poor communication for me. I’m an introvert. So I’m the first person who understands If you need space, time, whatever. But you don’t go about it by ghosting someone. It’s rude. Just say you need some space/time and hit me up when you’re good. But to leave me in limbo for 3 weeks is not okay. I don’t understand why the woman on here aren’t understanding that. You all should now how fucked up it feels to be ghosted when you haven’t done anything to somebody. It’s just a grown man who doesn’t know how to communicate properly. And I don’t know if I can help him with that, that’s a personal problem.

If you're this angry then go tell him not a bunch of people on the internet.

You asked for advice. If you didn't want multiple opinions, don't ask for advice.

Posted by LuxePurr

Not a taurus but I have taurus moon and I was in a relationship with a Taurus man for about 2 years. You said he was hurt by women in the past, these men can be cautious when they've been hurt before.

He'll do this dance with you until you grab him by the horns and ask him out yourself. I did that with my bull. No BS, straightforward. If he still ghosts you then I'd say cut your losses.

@Carribeangyal5

This deserves and needs to be repeated. Said it better then I was going to. Taurus moon here as well. This will get my full attention especially if I have a weakness/soft-spot for you. Don't half ass it either be consistant with your desire.

He felt strongly enough for you to trigger him and bring all that trama/drama back up.

He will either work to correct his issue or run some more until he does.

Cuddlebag I didn’t ask people. I asked Taurus men, which it doesn’t seem like you are. And you don’t have anything meaningful to say. Bye.

Posted by Carribeangyal5

Are you hearing and listening to me? Lol I don’t care about the 3 weeks not seeing each other. It’s the ghosting and poor communication for me. I’m an introvert. So I’m the first person who understands If you need space, time, whatever. But you don’t go about it by ghosting someone. It’s rude. Just say you need some space/time and hit me up when you’re good. But to leave me in limbo for 3 weeks is not okay. I don’t understand why the woman on here aren’t understanding that. You all should now how fucked up it feels to be ghosted when you haven’t done anything to somebody. It’s just a grown man who doesn’t know how to communicate properly. And I don’t know if I can help him with that, that’s a personal problem.

They give horrible advice on this site and think that it’s normal to be in limbo for that amount of time. I agree with you.

Personally I would move on. Disappearing is unacceptable. I have let people come back after ghosting, it doesn’t get better. Cut your losses.

I had a Taurus boyfriend once but he was very quick to ask me out and wine and dine me. We ended up in a relationship for 10 months. He too took his time about getting around to sex to the point I was getting frustrated because his body was out of this world. When he did do it I was hooked, OH MY GOD!!!!!! I don't know what his moon, venus or mars was because at that time I wasn't into astrology. Oh I felt a shiver just writing that.

My impression is that you're expecting him to treat you as a girlfriend but he did not offer this to you and you did not sign the girlfriend contract.

I would think that he likes you but he's not placing much weight on the whole thing. He's treating it more casual but you've read into his gentlemanly behaviour and possibly mistook it for something more.

What's his birth chart look like?

Taurus sun but with different venus signs will act differently to each other. For now, I'd stop chasing him. If he wants you, he knows where you are.

Posted by AgentP911

My impression is that you're expecting him to treat you as a girlfriend but he did not offer this to you and you did not sign the girlfriend contract.

I would think that he likes you but he's not placing much weight on the whole thing. He's treating it more casual but you've read into his gentlemanly behaviour and possibly mistook it for something more.

What's his birth chart look like?

Taurus sun but with different venus signs will act differently to each other. For now, I'd stop chasing him. If he wants you, he knows where you are.

glad agentp added to your thread. i was going to say the pretty much the same thing. i think you need to have a talk with him about your expectations and how he feels regarding your relationship.

is it just casual? do you want something more? does he?

if you want something more (and by going off your expectations you do) then tell him that and see what he says. at the moment it seems like you went straight for the sex before getting on the same page as to what happens next.

what's a harem?

i don't think i have one.

Yeah I don't buy the 'I'm busy' excuse. No one is too busy to send a 30 second text in 3 weeks. He's lost interest.

You should stop emotionally investing and move onto greener pastures.

You just make it complicated

Just ask them what they want and expect from you

And be honest for what you feel

Then it's done

You will get the answer

But be smart okay

I know sometimes cancer too dramatic about certain words.. use your logic also.

I have cancer bestfriend that's why I know some

But ghosting is just taurus typical.

As the lady said before me, give attention but not too much.. search something to keeping up spark between you.. they need mystery.

If it's too clear that you are into him, he won't make effort to chasing you.

Live your life also..

But I guess 3 weeks are too long 😂

You should try to tell this story to your friends that know both of you..

Bcs here we can just know your side

I recently in relationship with taurus..

Taurus sun gemini venus

Ghosting often happened 😂 but maksimum 2 days.. and once a week he should seeing my face.. even sometimes I ignoring him cuz ghosting before..

and my pride too high to text him first.

Im Gemini sun taurus venus

So we just playing ghosting games😂😂😂

And I'm sick of it also

It's just 1 week but I'm sick already..

To you, it's happened 3 weeks

I have Libra moon.. everything should be fair.

But somehow it makes me more logical whenever I'm in relationship with someone.

And taurus have high standard for woman.

Sometimes they could be player. They are so confident and think they deserve the best 😂

My bull was talking with so many girls and lie to me before another reason to make me sick of him.. even I'm open with that.

But lie is a very big mistakes.

He changed already after I ask to broke up but it's latee

Now we just friends but he catching me more often than before we broke up 😂

Just know your worth

Do your detective skill girl.. 👍

And remember, there's so many fish in river

It's better to let him go before the feelings got more deeper and better to find out soon

Yesss Im so glad he showed me his true colors sooner rather than later

Posted by Carribeangyal5

Yesss Im so glad he showed me his true colors sooner rather than later

Right.. good for you..

Just know your worth.

And every woman deserve the one who can respect and appreciate us.