I think my Taurus friend likes me, but I'm unsure if I'm looking too much into it.

I’ve always found one of my girlfriends, a Taurus, attractive, but our timing has never aligned for anything beyond friendship. About two months ago, I noticed her being flirtier at a fall-themed party. She commented on my pedicure, admitted she likes pretty feet, and the moment passed as playful banter. I didn’t think much of it then.

At a Christmas party six weeks later, things escalated. We were touchy and exchanged sexual innuendos, though I dismissed it as her being tipsy. When I mentioned stepping back from dating due to a rough breakup, she misunderstood my question "Your ex took you up through there, too?" and became defensive, insisting she wasn’t a hoe. I reassured her, and we smoothed things over. Before leaving, I asked if I could ride with her to a New Year’s Eve cabin trip. She teasingly asked, “You’re gonna ride me?” which made me laugh.

On the ride to the cabin, our interaction was strictly platonic, but once there, she resumed her flirtatious behavior. She flirted with others but consistently returned to me. At one point, we cuddled on the couch, and she clarified to everyone that her playful flirting with another friend wasn’t serious, leaving that friend looking awkward and sad. Another friend commented that we looked cute together, and we both smiled.

Throughout the trip, we were inseparable—cooking, playing games, cuddling, and even sharing a bed. She caressed me, played with my hair, and mentioned how she’d financially take care of me if I was her girlfriend. Despite the intimacy, she repeatedly clarified to others that nothing was happening between us. One night, another friend joked about her humping me, and while we laughed it off, she again announced nothing was going on.

On the morning of our departure, I asked her why she kept clarifying things about her and another friend at the cabin. She explained that both that friend and someone else had expressed feelings for her, prompting her to set boundaries. She also said she wasn’t ready for a relationship or fling after her recent breakup and needed to tone down her flirtatious behavior.

Despite her flirtation and closeness throughout the trip, her clear verbal boundaries left me conflicted. While her actions suggest interest, her words and explanations contradict them, leaving me questioning her intentions. While she seems to value our friendship, her flirtation and closeness hint at a deeper interest. I can’t tell if she’s holding back due to her current situation or if I’m reading too much into it.

Am I overanalyzing her behavior, or is she showing signs of wanting more?

No you are reading it right. She is interested or at least feels comfortable enough to be that way with you. I'd say interested for sure. Yes she is feeling you out on the idea of it.

Also you yourself didn't mention any reasons you wouldn't want to. Sounds like you would be up for it yourself. Go slow don't think about labels or anything serious. If you decide to progress this, she will open up more herself.

Fair warning, Taurus will put out a lot effort over a long period of time. However rebuffed or ignored enough, we will eventually give up. Because feeling rejected sucks and gets to you after a while. Taints the interest and feelings so to speak. That's not easy to get over and make up for.

So if you are interested even unsure let her know regardless. Communication...any real communication matters.

Yes, he's flirting with you with intentions of getting with you.

Are you interested in getting with her? If it takes you more than 10 seconds to come to an answer, you're not interested.

Never listen to what a woman says, look to what she does.

Posted by Lostthoughts


No you are reading it right. She is interested or at least feels comfortable enough to be that way with you. I'd say interested for sure. Yes she is feeling you out on the idea of it.

Also you yourself didn't mention any reasons you wouldn't want to. Sounds like you would be up for it yourself. Go slow don't think about labels or anything serious. If you decide to progress this, she will open up more herself.

Fair warning, Taurus will put out a lot effort over a long period of time. However rebuffed or ignored enough, we will eventually give up. Because feeling rejected sucks and gets to you after a while. Taints the interest and feelings so to speak. That's not easy to get over and make up for.

So if you are interested even unsure let her know regardless. Communication...any real communication matters.

Of course, I'm interested. I've always thought she was so attractive, but what's making me nervous is that she mentioned that two of our mutual friends have already come to her expressing their feelings and she doesn't feel the same way, and I don't want to become the third. Secondly, her ex-girlfriend is a friend of mine and I feel guilty for even liking her. I feel like I'm breaking girl code.

Posted by WarAngel79
Yes, he's flirting with you with intentions of getting with you.

Are you interested in getting with her? If it takes you more than 10 seconds to come to an answer, you're not interested.

Never listen to what a woman says, look to what she does.

I definitely like her. I always have, but I'm going to play things by ear due to she and I having a conversation about two of our mutual friends taking her flirtation serious and her having to turn them down. I don't want to become the third and make our friendship awkward. Plus, she's the ex of a friend of mine. Even liking her feels like I'm breaking girl code or that I've been waiting, plotting/scheming to get at her for 1+ years.

Posted by Chelsey07

Posted by Lostthoughts

No you are reading it right. She is interested or at least feels comfortable enough to be that way with you. I'd say interested for sure. Yes she is feeling you out on the idea of it.
Also you yourself didn't mention any reasons you wouldn't want to. Sounds like you would be up for it yourself. Go slow don't think about labels or anything serious. If you decide to progress this, she will open up more herself.
Fair warning, Taurus will put out a lot effort over a long period of time. However rebuffed or ignored enough, we will eventually give up. Because feeling rejected sucks and gets to you after a while. Taints the interest and feelings so to speak. That's not easy to get over and make up for.
So if you are interested even unsure let her know regardless. Communication...any real communication matters.

Of course, I'm interested. I've always thought she was so attractive, but what's making me nervous is that she mentioned that two of our mutual friends have already come to her expressing their feelings and she doesn't feel the same way, and I don't want to become the third. Secondly, her ex-girlfriend is a friend of mine and I feel guilty for even liking her. I feel like I'm breaking girl code.

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Hmm there is a chance she may just be a flirt🤔..so flirt with her differently mix a little intent. Change the dance 💃 a liite. Up the game so to speak..level 2 flirting lol. See if she matches you.

Edit: you been after her for a year? Fucking why that long? Put some effort into developing a relationship by hanging out and get to know her more privately. If something happens it happens if it don't, have a good time anyway!

P.S

Girl code is fucking stupid. You cock block each other. Which is ironic since MOST of the time people have met thier S/Os through friends and work. Social networks. With the girl code no wonder yal say I just want to be friends or have to be sneaky.

Men ask permission in a way( check in with friend on how they would feel about it). Which comes down to lingering feelings. But again doesn't matter. Go get to know her and enjoy her company. If something happens it happens, she returns her interest in more...great! Otherwise enjoy the process anyway.



P.S.S maybe Taurus sun but she is sounding libra from your description. Or maybe thats just a lot of you coming out in your words...

Posted by Chelsey07

Posted by WarAngel79
Yes, he's flirting with you with intentions of getting with you.
Are you interested in getting with her? If it takes you more than 10 seconds to come to an answer, you're not interested.
Never listen to what a woman says, look to what she does.

I definitely like her. I always have, but I'm going to play things by ear due to she and I having a conversation about two of our mutual friends taking her flirtation serious and her having to turn them down. I don't want to become the third and make our friendship awkward. Plus, she's the ex of a friend of mine. Even liking her feels like I'm breaking girl code or that I've been waiting, plotting/scheming to get at her for 1+ years.

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Then don't screw up a good thing. Let it go and keep it strictly platonic.

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by Chelsey07

Posted by Lostthoughts

No you are reading it right. She is interested or at least feels comfortable enough to be that way with you. I'd say interested for sure. Yes she is feeling you out on the idea of it.
Also you yourself didn't mention any reasons you wouldn't want to. Sounds like you would be up for it yourself. Go slow don't think about labels or anything serious. If you decide to progress this, she will open up more herself.
Fair warning, Taurus will put out a lot effort over a long period of time. However rebuffed or ignored enough, we will eventually give up. Because feeling rejected sucks and gets to you after a while. Taints the interest and feelings so to speak. That's not easy to get over and make up for.
So if you are interested even unsure let her know regardless. Communication...any real communication matters.

Of course, I'm interested. I've always thought she was so attractive, but what's making me nervous is that she mentioned that two of our mutual friends have already come to her expressing their feelings and she doesn't feel the same way, and I don't want to become the third. Secondly, her ex-girlfriend is a friend of mine and I feel guilty for even liking her. I feel like I'm breaking girl code.
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Hmm there is a chance she may just be a flirt🤔..so flirt with her differently mix a little intent. Change the dance 💃 a liite. Up the game so to speak..level 2 flirting lol. See if she matches you.

Edit: you been after her for a year? Fucking why that long? Put some effort into developing a relationship by hanging out and get to know her more privately. If something happens it happens if it don't, have a good time anyway!

P.S

Girl code is fucking stupid. You cock block each other. Which is ironic since MOST of the time people have met thier S/Os through friends and work. Social networks. With the girl code no wonder yal say I just want to be friends or have to be sneaky.

Men ask permission in a way( check in with friend on how they would feel about it). Which comes down to lingering feelings. But again doesn't matter. Go get to know her and enjoy her company. If something happens it happens, she returns her interest in more...great! Otherwise enjoy the process anyway.

For sure. I've known her for almost 3 years now and she's always been on the flirtier side, but from my recollection and what she's told me, it was always for shits and giggles. And, yeah, I've thought she was attractive for over a year. I was always too shy to say anything and my friend approached, so I dated other women instead. She recently stated that she enjoyed talking to me that I've always had good energy, and that we should hang out more. I'm open to it.

My best friend and another friend of mine told me that I'm overthinking the whole "girl code" thing as well. I'm going to play things by ear.

Posted by WarAngel79

Posted by Chelsey07

Posted by WarAngel79
Yes, he's flirting with you with intentions of getting with you.
Are you interested in getting with her? If it takes you more than 10 seconds to come to an answer, you're not interested.
Never listen to what a woman says, look to what she does.

I definitely like her. I always have, but I'm going to play things by ear due to she and I having a conversation about two of our mutual friends taking her flirtation serious and her having to turn them down. I don't want to become the third and make our friendship awkward. Plus, she's the ex of a friend of mine. Even liking her feels like I'm breaking girl code or that I've been waiting, plotting/scheming to get at her for 1+ years.
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Then don't screw up a good thing. Let it go and keep it strictly platonic.

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That's likely the way things are gonna go. This has been the most distressful crush I've ever had.

Posted by rhymesaurusss
She has a pattern of flirting with friends, she's either bored or likes yhe attention. I wouldn't put too much stock into it unless she starts acting with intention.

Duly noted. I'm laying low and acting normal unless she does something else that screams "girl, I want you".