Posted by Aju
Reading your sources...
You know, It almost always kind of bugs me when the
beginning (as some would call it) is looked at as (((THE))) northern
point on how humanity should act going forward on the compass of humanity.
"Men are hunter gatherers and used to spread their seed so humanity shall flourish
so we should and will always be this way period." [uh huh]
"In the past, men would kill their prey, kill the beast of the land so that is who they are
and who they will always be forever period. " [uh huh...]
So many seem to think that our answers only lie in our past, at ground zero, at [level one] of humanity and it's silly to me.
Granted, yes, humanity does seem a bit lost in many ways and going back to our roots CAN be beneficial
but that doesn't mean a broad stroke of who all of us are and how we should be exist in the past...
Maybe...just maybe...the reason why men seem to lose their libido in marriage in the first place is
also because not all of us are wired to be IN a marriage in the first place? Believe or not, not all men are the same.
Or maybe, just maybe, the reason why men seem to lose their libido in marriage is also because their way of going about the marriage in the first place. The type of rules that are set for example... I mean... Being in the same damn house for years and years together can drive anyone mad and cause them to lose that drive.
My point is, there are many different reasons why men lose their libido in marriage or in a long lasting
relationship. There isn't just one answer that shouts, [this is who we were so this is who we are]
And okay, lets say that it's in our biological make up to have sex with many different women...
Should we all just not think about marriage (something I don't even care to experience)
or some monogamous relationship because that is not who we are "wired" to be?
Is it not even possible then to even experience joy from such relationships?
Is the hunter gatherer the ONLY aspect that makes me a man?
Because I can tell you this right now as a heterosexual male...
Yes, I'm sexually attracted to multiple women but that doesn't mean I will EVEN care to act on it.
A. Because the foundation of my relationship(s) do not solely resonate on sex or creating babies.
B. Because I'm not interested in having multiple partners for the sake of sex.
C. Because I just don't want to and I feel more comfortable sharing my intimate experience with just one.
Now having given my reasons, this doesn't mean I'm righteous or that men who don't follow this are WRONG.
This is just who (((( i ))))) am. I've always just wanted something deep and meaningful and sex alone
wasn't the only thing that interested me in having a relationship with a woman..
SO, just because you have people who write and believe in looking into the past or our
foundation as a way of solving all of humanities problems especially in relationships...
and looking at those things as the key to it all doesn't mean that's necessarily (((THE))) key to it all...
It doesn't mean it's wise and it doesn't mean it's the best answer.... or an answer at all...
We are all different and I'll be damned to have someone tell me
who I am because of what ancestors did. That's not the only thing
that makes me who I am. I live in THIS life and I listen to my center,
my heart and what just feels right to ((((me)))).
Posted by PinsNNeedlesPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by PinsNNeedles
One of my Cappy friends married her Cancer man after a month of knowing him. 😲
lol holy butter... how'd it work out?
So far so good just from the Facebook posts. Haven't seen them in a bit. Married in 2017.click to expand
Posted by PinsNNeedles
One of my Cappy friends married her Cancer man after a month of knowing him. 😲
Posted by Librasetting777Posted by stillstillwaterfood is on the stove but jut so you know it wasn't made with love!" Lol it's okay I'll add the love to it later 😁
i dunno if it was me... if my SO is generally amazing and didn't screw up big time i'd still cook and be like "food is on the stove but jut so you know it wasn't made with love!" haha
To me food and eating is....sacred...is that weird?? Like i think it's the most mean thing to eat and not offer food to someone else too.
If the argumetns turned me off so much and I'm the one who nromaly cooks and i no longer feel like tid, I'd say hey im not in the mood to cook so I'll be ordering food, do you want anything?
ahhhh like i know that sounds bit doormat but i just can't imagine getting myself something to eat without inviting someone else to eat too. Something about knowing poverty or some deep psychological thing.
I mainly agree with LF, what is your dynamic like... because to me a strong relationship and love is to look out after each other despite arguments. But it sounds like you're kind of unhappy overall...not sure.click to expand
Posted by Boots1313Posted by stillstillwater
Why is that any of your business?
What concerns you is the relationship YOU have with her and if you want a good one , focus on creating that rather than focusing on her relationship with the exs. Even if the mom is being petty or doing it intentionally causing drama will only create more dislike towards you.
The goal is not for her to not talk to his exs...wtf... she's a grown woman and can have relationship with whoever she wants.. your goal should be to improve your relationship with her so you don't feel so insecure about it.
I still love some of my ex's mom and she'll hit me up like "i miss you" but that's because her and I had an amazing relationship. Her son,my ex, is happily in a relationship and it has nothing to do with me and the mom.
There's a lot of issue with the way you're thinking about it... hope I gave you something to think about.
Thank you that sets my mind at ease.
Im 50/50 on wether ots personal or not.
Now i know it isnt.
Just not something ive expierenced because in my mind when two people break up, there should be clear boundries.
But not everyone operates like that. And i guess there isnt anything sinister about it.click to expand
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
@stillstillwater - does your post (first sentence) give someone’s details? Do they want them known?
Someone's details like what? Are you talking about Iyanal...she's a tv show host. Sorry could you clarify, I'm a bit confused.
Ah, I thought it might be another poster’s name 🤣 Nevermind.click to expand
Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by stillstillwater
"I’ve breastfed him for 25 years and here is this!!! 👀 fuuuck..."
Dead!!! Maybe you didn't give him the left tit too?? lolll
He's an idiot for marrying someone to just HELP them. Caps tend to do that though... put their butter at risk to help family and loved ones *eye roll* treetrunk that butter. you should always think about person #1 which is you and all the possibly ways this deal could go wrong for you.
This is from someone who gives an arm when people ask for a hand so I'm really trying to teach myself that. My good sag but cap dominant friend says, "No good deed goes unpunished." And I love him for that quote. I hate tattoos but I'll tattoo that butter on my head so I can see it every day in the mirror. LOL!
Ok so Caps and Libras... ummm we just don't get along? Like it's tension you can cut with a knife (and not the good sexual tension) unless each has more of the other's vibing elements. For example an earthy/watery Libra with an airy/firey Cap.
I've been dealing with that Libra for a while now and I love waht I learn from him which is to be more selfish and discretionary when it comes to love.
Omg from another cap dominant sag that is so true! I’m trying to figure that one out myself. I don’t think the answer is selfishness but self-care. It’s a tricky balance I think. I seem to attract a lot of selfish people... but is the answer to not be caring & kind to people. If so, it’s a sad world.click to expand