Go to Cornwall UK you won't regret it well maybe in the winter when the weather's butter 😅.

But in the summer one of the best places to be with the beaches and towns loads of places to view and things to see.

Loving the wrong person will cost you = your time, energy, Love, mental health, money

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Damn, why did you hide that? You spoke so much sense and truth there

I thought I was replying to his private message lol I'll unhide it

Thanks! That helps me understand some things also about someone who has been very firm with boundaries with me and you're right it does make me fall for her again. Discipline and stability ha I never would have thought that is what I needed but it' so true that attracts me and keeps me consistently attracted and stops the flip-floppy destructive tendencies as you put it

So it helps me understand alittle more what sort of way and how did they interpretate the boundaries with you because everytime I try to do it she gets really mad says she's really hurt and will ignore me a little.

You can't fake it - you have to really mean it. You have to make it clear that you're fine without her. Then after a while she'll start to come closer to you and you need to not open up to her but make her prove herself. Be assured of what you want. If you desire true commitment and consistency from her then be clear that is all you are willing to have with her, otherwise nothing.. as soon as you give in to her hot/cold tendencies then you know you are back to square one again

The trouble is you are scared she doesn't want you but you have to accept that may be the case also. You might have to break up and that's it. The point is you need to be firm one way or the other and not keep doing this halfway butter

When was having sex she told me we shouldn't be doing this and then said don't cum in me etc she could have someone else.

If she's saying she just wants to be friends and you are thinking she might have someone else then that's a sign that the relationship is coming to an end

Why??

She doesn't want to be intimate and you don't trust her....

Yes but why doesn't she and why would she say them things is it all part of her game playing?

No I think she wants to move away from a relationship which she doesn't see as having a future

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Hench why no contact at the moment.

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Damn, why did you hide that? You spoke so much sense and truth there

I thought I was replying to his private message lol I'll unhide it

Thanks! That helps me understand some things also about someone who has been very firm with boundaries with me and you're right it does make me fall for her again. Discipline and stability ha I never would have thought that is what I needed but it' so true that attracts me and keeps me consistently attracted and stops the flip-floppy destructive tendencies as you put it

So it helps me understand alittle more what sort of way and how did they interpretate the boundaries with you because everytime I try to do it she gets really mad says she's really hurt and will ignore me a little.

You can't fake it - you have to really mean it. You have to make it clear that you're fine without her. Then after a while she'll start to come closer to you and you need to not open up to her but make her prove herself. Be assured of what you want. If you desire true commitment and consistency from her then be clear that is all you are willing to have with her, otherwise nothing.. as soon as you give in to her hot/cold tendencies then you know you are back to square one again

The trouble is you are scared she doesn't want you but you have to accept that may be the case also. You might have to break up and that's it. The point is you need to be firm one way or the other and not keep doing this halfway butter

When was having sex she told me we shouldn't be doing this and then said don't cum in me etc she could have someone else.

If she's saying she just wants to be friends and you are thinking she might have someone else then that's a sign that the relationship is coming to an end

Why??

She doesn't want to be intimate and you don't trust her....

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Yes but why doesn't she and why would she say them things is it all part of her game playing?

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Damn, why did you hide that? You spoke so much sense and truth there

I thought I was replying to his private message lol I'll unhide it

Thanks! That helps me understand some things also about someone who has been very firm with boundaries with me and you're right it does make me fall for her again. Discipline and stability ha I never would have thought that is what I needed but it' so true that attracts me and keeps me consistently attracted and stops the flip-floppy destructive tendencies as you put it

So it helps me understand alittle more what sort of way and how did they interpretate the boundaries with you because everytime I try to do it she gets really mad says she's really hurt and will ignore me a little.

You can't fake it - you have to really mean it. You have to make it clear that you're fine without her. Then after a while she'll start to come closer to you and you need to not open up to her but make her prove herself. Be assured of what you want. If you desire true commitment and consistency from her then be clear that is all you are willing to have with her, otherwise nothing.. as soon as you give in to her hot/cold tendencies then you know you are back to square one again

The trouble is you are scared she doesn't want you but you have to accept that may be the case also. You might have to break up and that's it. The point is you need to be firm one way or the other and not keep doing this halfway butter

When was having sex she told me we shouldn't be doing this and then said don't cum in me etc she could have someone else.

If she's saying she just wants to be friends and you are thinking she might have someone else then that's a sign that the relationship is coming to an end

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Why??

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Damn, why did you hide that? You spoke so much sense and truth there

I thought I was replying to his private message lol I'll unhide it

Thanks! That helps me understand some things also about someone who has been very firm with boundaries with me and you're right it does make me fall for her again. Discipline and stability ha I never would have thought that is what I needed but it' so true that attracts me and keeps me consistently attracted and stops the flip-floppy destructive tendencies as you put it

So it helps me understand alittle more what sort of way and how did they interpretate the boundaries with you because everytime I try to do it she gets really mad says she's really hurt and will ignore me a little.

You can't fake it - you have to really mean it. You have to make it clear that you're fine without her. Then after a while she'll start to come closer to you and you need to not open up to her but make her prove herself. Be assured of what you want. If you desire true commitment and consistency from her then be clear that is all you are willing to have with her, otherwise nothing.. as soon as you give in to her hot/cold tendencies then you know you are back to square one again

The trouble is you are scared she doesn't want you but you have to accept that may be the case also. You might have to break up and that's it. The point is you need to be firm one way or the other and not keep doing this halfway butter

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When was having sex she told me we shouldn't be doing this and then said don't cum in me etc she could have someone else.

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Damn, why did you hide that? You spoke so much sense and truth there

I thought I was replying to his private message lol I'll unhide it

Thanks! That helps me understand some things also about someone who has been very firm with boundaries with me and you're right it does make me fall for her again. Discipline and stability ha I never would have thought that is what I needed but it' so true that attracts me and keeps me consistently attracted and stops the flip-floppy destructive tendencies as you put it

So it helps me understand alittle more what sort of way and how did they interpretate the boundaries with you because everytime I try to do it she gets really mad says she's really hurt and will ignore me a little.

You can't fake it - you have to really mean it. You have to make it clear that you're fine without her. Then after a while she'll start to come closer to you and you need to not open up to her but make her prove herself. Be assured of what you want. If you desire true commitment and consistency from her then be clear that is all you are willing to have with her, otherwise nothing.. as soon as you give in to her hot/cold tendencies then you know you are back to square one again

The trouble is you are scared she doesn't want you but you have to accept that may be the case also. You might have to break up and that's it. The point is you need to be firm one way or the other and not keep doing this halfway butter

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Thank you for explaining it well. Your not to know this but do you think after what I have told you that she will get back in contact with as I told her not to contact me and she has not so far.

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She's upset about the meal, that's a protest behaviour. What she wants from you is reassurance. Similar to you, you need a lot of reassurance from her that you havent been getting. You will find all of this in the book I told you.

Reassurance how though I have said sorry and I will make better decisions in the future.

She told me she wants me to have her back to not make her feel alone.

Read the damn book. Everything is laid out perfectly there.

....or read any damn book!

It has to be preferable to the alternative lol

I don't have time right now for the books lol.

So I held her told her I am sorry and I understand how she is feeling and why she is feeling this way and I also, told her this will never happen again and meant it I looked her in her eyes and held her hand and told her straight what more reassurance does she need.
We slept together and she said we shouldn't be doing this and then she got upset after we stopped and started to cry what more can I do she said she can't be with me right now because she feels hurt so I said don't contact me if you can't be with me and we clearly can't do friends either. And it's been 2 days and she hasn't so far.

I meant for the books to be as a distraction from your complex lovelife ....

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I know what you meant but I was just asking.

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She's upset about the meal, that's a protest behaviour. What she wants from you is reassurance. Similar to you, you need a lot of reassurance from her that you havent been getting. You will find all of this in the book I told you.

Reassurance how though I have said sorry and I will make better decisions in the future.

She told me she wants me to have her back to not make her feel alone.

Read the damn book. Everything is laid out perfectly there.

....or read any damn book!

It has to be preferable to the alternative lol

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I don't have time right now for the books lol.

So I held her told her I am sorry and I understand how she is feeling and why she is feeling this way and I also, told her this will never happen again and meant it I looked her in her eyes and held her hand and told her straight what more reassurance does she need.
We slept together and she said we shouldn't be doing this and then she got upset after we stopped and started to cry what more can I do she said she can't be with me right now because she feels hurt so I said don't contact me if you can't be with me and we clearly can't do friends either. And it's been 2 days and she hasn't so far.

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Damn, why did you hide that? You spoke so much sense and truth there

I thought I was replying to his private message lol I'll unhide it

Thanks! That helps me understand some things also about someone who has been very firm with boundaries with me and you're right it does make me fall for her again. Discipline and stability ha I never would have thought that is what I needed but it' so true that attracts me and keeps me consistently attracted and stops the flip-floppy destructive tendencies as you put it

So it helps me understand alittle more what sort of way and how did they interpretate the boundaries with you because everytime I try to do it she gets really mad says she's really hurt and will ignore me a little.

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I know I probably don't help it by giving in and going back all the time.

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Damn, why did you hide that? You spoke so much sense and truth there

I thought I was replying to his private message lol I'll unhide it

Thanks! That helps me understand some things also about someone who has been very firm with boundaries with me and you're right it does make me fall for her again. Discipline and stability ha I never would have thought that is what I needed but it' so true that attracts me and keeps me consistently attracted and stops the flip-floppy destructive tendencies as you put it

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So it helps me understand alittle more what sort of way and how did they interpretate the boundaries with you because everytime I try to do it she gets really mad says she's really hurt and will ignore me a little.

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What are her placements?

Sun Gem
Virgo moon
Merc Gem
Venus Gem
Mars Aries

I am a Sun Gem, Virgo moon and Mars Aries

She probably thinks youre moving too fast and dont have firm boundaries. Both are extremely unattractive to Virgo Moons. The only reason shes sticking around is because you offer yourself to her completely

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Can I message you please?

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And yet you still have dreams of the Sag that got away!

Sag like meeting people in person, I bet there aren't many on dating sites.

Too true 👍

I need someone to make me feel alive the more I get to know myself I need constant stimulation.

I crave for the adventure sometimes I hate that about myself but I have been with a Sag woman and it was great but I got bored of making all the decisions and her laziness and it was like looking after another child .
It's probably why I went with the Gem because I seen her as independent, adventurous, spontaneous, beautiful everything I wanted and more and still can't let go not just because of all this that she is but because I really love her.

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Omg I think that you are a troll. This cannot be real. She wants everything you give her plus the ability to move on when someone more interesting shows up. You are either dumb or know exactly what you want and come here and torture everyone with stupid questions until someone says what you want to hear. We have all been there one way or another. It sucks and it's hard but it's a part of life. Let things happen and stfu with your whiney need for getting what you want.

haha this is great! Very well summarised

No, I get him...but also I finally get the people who mocked me when I wrote about my ex. They were right, and him cutting me off for good was painful as Hell, but time does heal everything.

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I know what I want its her of course but I didn't know how to get her without all these silly things.

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Interested to know from everything I have told you guys about. What do you think she is doing if I start a poll.

1. Playing me and will drop me once she finds someone else.

2 . She loves me and whats to rebuild but is being careful so she is pretending she wants to be friends but really she still has in her mind that we are an item so is hopefull thing will change this time.

3 . Using me becuase she does not want to be alone.


4 . She doesnt want me at all but doesn't want anyone else to have me.



Put down your number if what you think be interested to see how many of you think of what one it could be.

Why does it matter though?
You shouldn't make decisions now based on what she wants, it's about what you want and what's good for you and the kids.

I didn't really follow your story, scrolled over it... but forget this poll and do what makes YOU happy! Life doesn't revolve around her ffs

I know I completely agree I was just wonder what people thought really.

I know what I want to do and what I should do.

Asking the same question won't get you a different answer.

People have given their thoughts already, a few threads ago. But you keep mentioning updates between you and the Gem, as if it changes the situation, when it does not.

but didn't you read the new message she sent him? 😂🤦‍♂️

Thing is she is telling me she feels hurt because I never valued our relationship at the time when my sister said it won't be a good idea to bring your partner to a meal as we haven't spoken since we fell out and there will be tension there between us.

But I didn't want to put my partner in that situation so I decided to keep her out of it but what I should of done was given her the option it was wrong of me.

So I think I need to dust myself off and life is an experience for us all and a learning curve.

I know what she wants and needs from me.

That is to feel like I have her back and to feel included because she feels alone right now she rang me this morning crying upset telling me she's feeling really low and hurt from it and thought no matter what we would always have eachothers backs and she obviously feels like I have let her down.

You're a sucker but good luck lol

Why do you think I am a sucker ?

"I know what she wants and needs from me" because all she has to do is tell you she feels lonely and you come running once again.
She doesn't care what you want lol

I get that but I was wrong to not include her wasn't I ?


I am not running to her I haven't seen her since Saturday and I am doing my own stuff she hasn't asked me to do anything just that she's very upset about how I did not include her.

Yes Gemini diversion tactics. Don't you know a Gem can talk their way round anything? She's upset about one meal from the past where you didn't include her and she has you now focused on this and feeling guilty and like you need to make it up to her 😂 it's bullbutter. Like her messages - one minute heartbroken and then next as if everything is fine
She's manipulating you to get you where she wants you. There for her when she wants and out of the picture when she doesn't
And you fall for it!

Okay I understand what you are saying so can I brake this cycle and how do i do that so we can cut the bullbutter?

You ever had an old car and you take it to the garage and they say "well we could try and fix it but honestly it will cost more than the car is worth and anyway chances are you'll be back here in a few months with some new problem. It's old, it's worn out and you're better off scrapping it and buying a new one" ?

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So in other words there's no pleasing her and I'm better off finding someone else what if I really want to make it work is there not a way to make this happen.

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Interested to know from everything I have told you guys about. What do you think she is doing if I start a poll.

1. Playing me and will drop me once she finds someone else.

2 . She loves me and whats to rebuild but is being careful so she is pretending she wants to be friends but really she still has in her mind that we are an item so is hopefull thing will change this time.

3 . Using me becuase she does not want to be alone.


4 . She doesnt want me at all but doesn't want anyone else to have me.



Put down your number if what you think be interested to see how many of you think of what one it could be.

Why does it matter though?
You shouldn't make decisions now based on what she wants, it's about what you want and what's good for you and the kids.

I didn't really follow your story, scrolled over it... but forget this poll and do what makes YOU happy! Life doesn't revolve around her ffs

I know I completely agree I was just wonder what people thought really.

I know what I want to do and what I should do.

Asking the same question won't get you a different answer.

People have given their thoughts already, a few threads ago. But you keep mentioning updates between you and the Gem, as if it changes the situation, when it does not.

but didn't you read the new message she sent him? 😂🤦‍♂️

Thing is she is telling me she feels hurt because I never valued our relationship at the time when my sister said it won't be a good idea to bring your partner to a meal as we haven't spoken since we fell out and there will be tension there between us.

But I didn't want to put my partner in that situation so I decided to keep her out of it but what I should of done was given her the option it was wrong of me.

So I think I need to dust myself off and life is an experience for us all and a learning curve.

I know what she wants and needs from me.

That is to feel like I have her back and to feel included because she feels alone right now she rang me this morning crying upset telling me she's feeling really low and hurt from it and thought no matter what we would always have eachothers backs and she obviously feels like I have let her down.

You're a sucker but good luck lol

Why do you think I am a sucker ?

"I know what she wants and needs from me" because all she has to do is tell you she feels lonely and you come running once again.
She doesn't care what you want lol

I get that but I was wrong to not include her wasn't I ?


I am not running to her I haven't seen her since Saturday and I am doing my own stuff she hasn't asked me to do anything just that she's very upset about how I did not include her.

Yes Gemini diversion tactics. Don't you know a Gem can talk their way round anything? She's upset about one meal from the past where you didn't include her and she has you now focused on this and feeling guilty and like you need to make it up to her 😂 it's bullbutter. Like her messages - one minute heartbroken and then next as if everything is fine
She's manipulating you to get you where she wants you. There for her when she wants and out of the picture when she doesn't
And you fall for it!

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Okay I understand what you are saying so can I brake this cycle and how do i do that so we can cut the bullbutter?