Posted by HeavenlyLilz
@Yupvirgoo I thought that too but he has told me point blank that he thinks about me all the time. We knew each other in high school but never got together life had other plans. flash forward more than 10 years later life may have planned right. He's told me he thinks about me all the time and hasn't gotten over me from HS and that he wants to be with me. So I'm just confused when the words and actions don't match especially with what I've been reading with Virgos.

@Kikyy I am also a cancer woman so I know all too well about needing openness and expressiveness (will be my downfall lol). For you when did the hot and cold stop or how did you get it to stop? Did you ever do the hot and cold act with him? Trying to decide if I should pull all the way back again or be the one to take most of the lead. We've gone through this a few times and he comes back all the time.

My virgo used to say that i was perfect, smart, unique, that he wanted to be with me, bla bla..and then after a small disagreement he became distant. The more i tried to understand what was wrong, the more he ran away. Finally he ended everything with his silence. Their words usually never match their actions (i knew several virgo men in my life). Virgos are mutual and they live for the moment, when they say they love you they mean it, but the next minute they can get critical and start hesitating about their "love" and distract in order to sort things out. Virgo men are smart, loyal, caring but very difficult to deal with as they are always scared of their feelings...
I am a cancer woman, and I had a relantionship with a virgo man. He used to be hot & cold. Unlike cancers, virgo men have problems expressing their feelings. He always got distant when feelings got involved.
Virgo men understand everything on a rational level but they get lost when it comes to feelings and emotions. As I am cancer, i need to be open and I think I used to scare my virgo man with being too emotional
I am a cancer, so I don't find it difficult to open up and talk about my emotions. I just taurus taurus man is not that way, he is reserved and cautious and takes his time to decide. I accept that as I do not want to rush with him.
He once told me directly that he respects me as a woman which I really appreciate. I agree that I will probably have to be the one to make a move, cause we've been friends for 1,5 year and he might be scared to loose me as a friend and might not be sure about the way I feel.
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Posted by Kikyy
About 1,5 year

I hate you guys
Jk secretly true lol
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What to hate for?
I don't know..we both are in a kinda friendzone. But we both understand we enjoy spending time together) we actually never talked "about us". I just know he is really serious about commitment, relationship and etc
Taurus men are know to be very sensual and sexual and they really have lots of sexual energy. They are also slow to let a women into their life. If a taurus man is showing signs of affection, investing his time and money in a girl for a long time, but doesn't initiate sexual contact, does this mean he values her and sees her as more than just a lover? Taurus men don't waste time, money and energy on just somebody, so what are your opinions?
I am a cancer girl, and i totally agree it's soo hard to let your ex go. I also tend to think a lot after break up, I feel the desire to call and text him,'s not good.
personally i think the best thing to move on and forget your ex it's to find a new object of admiration, so that you could 100% concentrate on him
It's a typical virgo man. Virgo men are rational, practical, but when feelings are involved they get lost. They are scared of emotions as hell. I had two virgo guys in my life so I know virgo men traits really well. They are careful and slow to commit, they always search for "perfect". They are very contradictory, as they want to love and to be loved, but they are afraid of that at the same time. As soon as serious feelings get involved, they tend to pull back and to "understand" what is going on on a rational level, as they can't handle their feelings well. They have to distract and to sort the things out, to see if it fits their perfect blueprint.
Even though I've been hurt by virgo men in the past, I can admit that virgo man is good catch and he can make you feel the happiest girl in the world, but he can hurt you the most too. My main advice is to not live his life and never build your life around him cause you will be doing that for ever. Be yourself, have your goals, yet be domestic and caring, don't be overwhelming. Never show a virgo man how much you want him and need him, play it cool, simple as if nothing serious is going on and he will not feel so scared of feelings, he won't feel pressured. The more YOU pull away, there more he will want to chase you
But know, that even in serious relationship, virgo man will never become emotional He will always live on mental level more, than on emotional.
Good luck
I am living my life and I do not feel a need to have him, I have other options too, just his behavior makes me feel confused as I really enjoy being with him. In the beginning he used to say he didn't want a relationship, that he liked being single, but I haven't heard these words for a long time. Maybe he changed his mind, maybe he just stopped talking about that.
I know his mind set - he does something only if he is sure, he doesn't like playing around, that's for sure. I would also agree that it might be difficult for him to start something after 4 years being single.
I was interested in hearing opinion about taurus man behavior like this, cause I think men can say many things, but actions show what they really want.. I guess
Anyway, thanx for your opinion guys
Posted by thoughtful-libra94
Posted by Kikyy
I am a cancer myself, and my last ex was a cancer too, so I can say that a cancer man is very emotional, unlike, for example, taurus or virgo men, cancers are not afraid to show their emotions.
If a cancer man likes you, he will tell you this verbally, also will be very touchy, attentive and kinda clingy. One more obvious sign is jealousy. In general, unlike earth signs, cancers tend to show their feelings openly and they are not afraid of them, so you will know

But say if a Cancer isn't verbal about liking you, what would he do instead? Say if he gets extremely shy around you..,

Appreciate the advice
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Well, my ex who was a cancer, was very very clingy, always wanted to be around, every free minute he wanted to spend with me, he was also very touchy, lost of kisses, hugs, holding my hand all the time.
I am a cancer myself, so if i really like a guy, I also tend to become clingy I want to be around him all the time..just i am 28 now, so I have some experience and i know how to control myself
I know several virgo men, and they usually never say "sorry". Virgos are rational, and they get always lost in their emotional world, they are really complicated. I don't think virgo men are honest saying "sorry", I think it's something like "let's forget the bullbutter and move on".
They hardly express their feelings, and they usually understand they did something bad they just can't explain that on rational level, so they just pretend nothing really happened and "sorry" probably means they don't wanna get back to that topic.
I am a cancer myself, and my last ex was a cancer too, so I can say that a cancer man is very emotional, unlike, for example, taurus or virgo men, cancers are not afraid to show their emotions.
If a cancer man likes you, he will tell you this verbally, also will be very touchy, attentive and kinda clingy. One more obvious sign is jealousy. In general, unlike earth signs, cancers tend to show their feelings openly and they are not afraid of them, so you will know
If he is already treating me as more than a friend, why is he shy to cross the intimate line? I know his attitude that he doesn't fool around and doesn't like playing games, but he never tried to even kiss me. He gives me hello and goodbye hugs, accidentally touches me, doesn't step back when I touch him but still?
I know this taurus man for more than a year, we are "just friends", and we never had anything intimate. He never crossed the line and didn't even kiss me. But he is very nice to me, he calls me often, texts, shares personal info, brings me small gifts, asks me out, we had a trip together once, he helps me and etc.
Recently he started being even more affectionate - he drove for 2 h from another city to see me even though he knew I had a couple of hours only. I invited him home, we had a nice talk, he brought me a sack of sweets and candies, even initiated a contact with my mom which was unexpected for me..
After a couple of days he drove for 2 h to see me again (he lives in another city) - this time he stayd for a weekend, we had a great time, he brought me my favourite home made pie which he made himself, also he is always paying everywhere - for food, coffee, entertaiment etc. I also know his mom knows about me.
I was wondering, is he just being friendly, or is he trying to show me he likes me more than just a friend?
I am confused, cause he is always saying he is not interesting in searching for a girl, and doesn't like wasting his time on meaningless relantionship..he's been single for 4 years now. I don't know if he is seeing other girls, but he never ever talks to me about other women, but from time to time asks me about my other male friends.
So is he just being a good friend, or showing me he likes me more?
Well I am a cancer woman, if I keep distant, that is probably because I do not trust you, maybe you did something, maybe you said something. We cancers both male and female, are very sensitive and we take deeply everything that happens around us. Also, we may stay friendly with you, we may talk to you, but on a deeper level we can feel hurt. It is difficult to explain but I guess cancers will understand that. If you want your friend back, be understanding, trustworthy and supportive, we also appreciate straight talk about the issue. Good luck
I understand I was too judgmental at that moment, and could have been more understanding, and I would like to talk to him about everything. I think it means something that he eventually reappeared, I hope he still cares about me. The main task for now is to get back in contact and to make him that's my question - how to act to not scare him again..
We were spending time together and he said he would like to leave for a couple of hours to meet somebody (concerning) his hobby and I said I would like him to stay, as it would be disrespectful to leave me and that I hadn't seen him for a long time so I think he should give his full attention to me that day. He stayed but later said there was a huge fight inside him as he didn't see nothing bad in this. That's why he later said he is hard to deal with, and that he sees the world in a "ubnormal way" sometime
Typical virgo man
Two months ago me (cancer) and a virgo man had a small disagreement, which obviously seemed as a huge deal to him. Before that everything was perfect, we were not officially committed, but were keeping in touch for a long time, as at that time he was living abroad. We had seen each other, never had sex, he used to say that I am perfect, smart, unique and I felt that he likes me sooo much. He shared his deepest secrets with me and admitted he never felt like this before.
During the last date he was soo into me, but then after the disagreement he changed, turned cold, distant and vanished. I tried to talk to him, to solve the problem, but he said I should find a better one as he is so much trouble, and it is hard to understand him.
Now he reappeared, we had a short conversation, he even asked if I would like to see him again, said he was thinking about me all this time.
How best to act in this case? Pretend nothing happened, be cool, or be initiative?
He is worth a second chance, and I wouldn't like to loose him for ever. Thanx