@leoqueen21 - well we have something in common, we are both Leos who dated aquas.
I actually chased my aqua after we broke up to see if we can reconcile and on a few occasions she said we would talk and she never did, then went to completely blowing me off.
My Aqua reached out to me once in November 2016 after I said hello to her. Since then I have not had anything. Possibly due to her being back with her ex (which I had to find out from someone else).
Based on my own experience, I think you are doing the right thing by not reaching out. It didn't get me anywhere. And also on my experience there may have been some attention seeking games played but I cant say for sure.
I broke up with Aquarius ex in September and wasn't blocked until December when I think she got back with her ex.
There could be 2 reasons why he has blocked you.
1.) He needs space. 2.) He is letting you know he is done and is doing the passive aggressive technique. Apparently this is quite common in Aquas as they don't like confrontation.
Ive posted a few links below which may help you decipher some behaviour. It is based on Aqua women and not men though. See if you can pick out some similarities.
I have been a victim of the passive aggressive silence Aquas have to offer and its not very nice. Just make sure you stay centered and head strong and not let the situation make you second guess who you are.
Hey just for a bit of fun I thought I would start a thread.
So I would like to know as Leo which signs have you dated and out of those signs which would did you have a better relationship with.
I will start
Relationship 1 - Virgo - Lasted 2 years - Was a pretty good relationship well balanced and honest. Broke up with her 18 years ago and we are still very close friends.
Relationship 2 - Leo - Lasted 2 years - Not a bad relationship she was quite relaxed and gave me room to breathe. - Broke up about 10 years ago and we are still very close. I have known this girl from childhood.
Relationship 3 - Taurus - Lasted 4 years - Lovely girl but very possessive stubborn and not willing to compromise. She is now married and we don't speak at all besides the odd bday, xmas and new years text.
Relationship 4 - Aquarius - Amazing woman, amazing relationship but a toxic ending. We broke up due to a situation out of our control. We work together, she has become extremely distant and does not acknowledge my existence. She is considerably younger than me. This girl has emotional issues in the sense that she could not express herself emotionally.
@Happy_Aqua - Yes I totally understand where you are coming from. I sent you a PM yesterday of what I said to her. Now I am going to give her space and focus on me. I think it is still painful for her. She may be over me she may be not, but all I wanted to do was say to myself I have done all I could. Another Leo trait lol. I will learn to let it go. When I see her I will be polite and keep it professional. If she doesn't want to talk to me I will leave her alone.
@DiamondAce - Yes there is more to it. I continued to push after we broke up and although she engaged in conversation she didn't really open up. Then I did a silly thing and sent a mate to snoop and find out information. She let onto my mate that she is back with her ex (which came as shock because their situation is quite similar to mine where his family did not approve of her). This happened within 4 weeks for her telling me she hopes she doesn't regret her decision to leave me and it hit me like a truck. I was angry and ignore her for a month or so and then she went from ignoring me to looking at me and being in my zone etc. A few weeks passed and I emailed her and said Ive been told she is back with her ex and if anything happened or if they were talking while we were together. I think that's the thing that did it. She blocked me off everything when my mate did some digging for me.
I just want to figure out if she is being distant because she is still healing or she completely hates me now. I wont act on it, I just need to know. Its sort of like a closure.
@undine - good advice @Capmercury87 - Yes I can be stubborn in that sense at times. By the time I normally quit there is no coming back. @Happy_Aqua - Everything you have said is spot on. I cant argue or disagree with it. Yes Leo's and Aquas have 2 different ways to communicate. And I am a lets get it out. My ex on the other hand has kept it all in and gave me the "this is how I deal with stuff" line. It does look as if its time to move on, I just wish at minimum I can ease some of the pain she is experiencing. It mustn't be nice being in her situation. Anyways thank you for your help - I do appreciate it.
@Happy_aqua " I hope you will succeed in your 360 approach, don't do it fully though, or you will be back at the same point where you started at! " - Lol this made my day - good point. There is nothing worse for personal growth to end up where you started.
I think if she acts like you don't exist she probably just finds it hard to tell you straight to your face to get lost and leave her alone.... Maybe she's afraid of your reaction, or afraid you will end up in some fight. - I have already told her that we can talk, and I don't want it to escalate to a drama or an argument. This girl went from telling me almost everything (the only things she kept to herself were things that really affected her emotionally) to nothing at all. Saying that though I guess this situation is emotional as well so it may be the reason why is she is so distant.
Yes I agree I don't know the whole story - When I asked her what her parents said she kept saying "the age difference" then proceeded to tell me that "I don't know what she has been though" but when I ask she doesn't tell me. I am starting to understand the retreat action, but in some way would it be better to just say what she needs to and be done with it?
I understand the position she was in, the girl did tell me that she wanted to marry me and would always talk about the future.
"Yep the Leo shines through" - Please elaborate lol.
@happy_aqua: Being a Leo I find it hard to let go of things I have a very personal connection to. In this case its my emotions towards my ex.
Yes up until recently I was very confused. I wanted my ex, and I wanted to work things out, but it takes 2 people to communicate for that to happen. My ex would talk to me all the time but no she acts like I don't exist. She just wont talk - not even a get lost and leave me alone lol.
Normally I am a very sure person. I am finding hard to let go because to this day my ex has not explained fully what happened when we broke up and has gone into her shell. I now need to accept it for what it is and close the door.
A reasonable amount of time has passed and if I don't get answers then I am now prepared to look forward. I am at the last stage of getting over her now, and yes I do not want to mess this other girl around.
If I am in something I am in it fully otherwise I am not. My date will tell me what I need to know about where I am in my personal growth, the reason why I posted here was to get advice from people who can perhaps give me an understanding of certain things. I am trying to take a 360 approach.
As people here have been really helpful in me understanding my situation with my ex, I have decided to post here again and ask you lovely Aquas for advice.
My ex and I broke up 6 months ago due to her family not accepting me. I have now realised that I was being pushy with her which has resulted in me being blocked on everything and she has been giving me the silent treatment on and off for the past 3 or so months.
She hasn't really done anything that says we can reconcile, but I get the odd occasional look and then when I look back she turns away.
I agree that I pushed her, and also understand that she may be confused and has a hard time dealing with her emotions (she has a cancer moon).
I sent her an email a few weeks ago, apologising for my mistakes and also told her that I would like to reconcile things, however if she feels I am not the one for her, I told her I wanted her to be happy and wished her the best.
She has not responded to this email and its been a few weeks. I am getting complete silence from her - no responses at all. Its almost like I don't exist.
Now I have read on DXP that this means one of two things,
1) Get the hint mate we are over. 2.) To give her time to come to me as she still may be feeling confused.
I have moved on and have been chatting to other women and have the chance with one where I can progress it to a relationship.
So im here for advice. Do I forget about my ex and move on with this new opportunity I have? I work with my ex so no doubt at some point she will find out. Will this give the indication that the door is now closed with me forever? Will me moving on make her talk to me, or will it cause her to be even more distant?
Despite what has happened between us I do still care for my ex and don't want to hurt her, but at the same time, she hasn't given me single indication that she wants to talk to even be civil at work.
My date with this girl is next week and I know she will want an answer from me. It may not be official straight away but that's where it will lead.
Any advice from Aqua's or people who have suffered the silent treatment from Aqua's is helpful.