Hmm its an interesting topic and I am going to venture a guess.
I guess this aqua is probably in their own zone or mind and told you what they did because they either have an issue with you they are trying to work out, or just doesn't know who to communicate with you about whatever it is they were talking to the other friend about.
The funny thing with Aqua's is that they hate liars, but I have found from experience with my ex that she did lie about a few minor things.
They are quite mentally jumpy in my opinion and can go from one extreme to another and we cant really understand it, or they just cant properly explain it.
If its a minor issue then I suggest let it go, I have learnt from being with my ex that sometimes, making a mountain out of a molehill is pointless. They don't like drama, but cant understand from their actions that sometimes they can cause it.
I would keep this in this the back of your mind and if they lie about something bigger in the future, address both points.
I would say give him some space and carry on with your life. If he wants you he knows where you are. If he doesn't then you haven't lost anything because you aren't sitting around waiting for him.
I think that with people, unless you are a very good liar, your thoughts resonate in your actions. So if you are moving on and having fun, then your ex will see that and it will make him wonder.
If you were to sit around and wait for him and your find in time that he has not interest in rekindling something then you will be upset for wasting your own time.
Look after yourself first. Go out have fun, enjoy life, make sure you live life for you. That way you haven't lost out either way. If he comes back then just make your decision on how you feel.
I have been speaking to someone here on messages and this lovely lady has kindly explained the complex thoughts an Aqua has. They aren't actually complex at all, its just people who aren't Aquas don't tend to understand them. I found from personal experience that emotionally driven thoughts or actions will just scare an aqua away.
Let go, feel free, be air just like they are. If its meant to be im sure it will be.
Being a Leo I can understand the whole drama king thing but I have to say its not always exactly true most of the time.
Leos love to take care of their partners and love being taken care of. However there is a very fine line of being taken care of and being needy. It seems as if your Leo likes to create drama as a way or validating his worth. I don't know so im going to say this in a passive manner, but is there a power struggle between you two?
It almost seems as if his actions and behaviour are controlling. That's not healthy at all. It must be horrible to be walking on egg shells.
It seems as if the way you to deal with issues is completely opposite and therefore causes some confusion. As people we always believe our way is right (within reason) until someone comes along and shows us otherwise.
Maybe have a talk and try meeting in the middle? Tell him it makes you uncomfortable when he blows up and you as a person cant really be who you are. Leos love deeply and don't like it when they hurt their partners so im sure he will be receptive to listen.
What you will need to do however, is if he does listen, ensure that he changes. We are a fixed sign and don't like changes at all.
As a Leo male I can provide you with the following advice.
If he really loved you then yes he will be back. I find with us Leos that if the love was true and pure then we do come back and we come back a better person because we are driven by passion.
However saying that if he has a drug addiction and is trying to clean up, then the pressure of being with a girl may not be right for him now.
He has other pressing matters to contend with which will have an effect on your relationship. Personally speaking as a Leo and this may sound selfish, but if im going through a serious issue, then I would need support from my girl or ex girl as opposed to dealing with a broken relationship.
I speak from experience as I recently messed things up with my Aqua ex and she is the love of my life.
If you two are best friends then why not try to be there for him as a friend. Help through his time of need and also grow yourself as a person. Don't mention anything about dating or self improvement. Feed his ego and show him you care.
With him dealing with his issue and you growing as a person and dealing with your negativity, im sure that will bring positive things for you both.
Being a bloke its hard for me to say as Im not an aqua. Hopefully an aqua can come along and answer it.
When you say cheat, I am assuming you two were together? As for what drives a man to cheat theres loads of reasons but if I had to put an aqua twist on it, then it could be a situation of him trying to figure out his feelings in his head.
I told the girl I loved her unconditionally and I still do love her. However since we broke up a lot has happened and without a conversation I don't know if its wise to try again.
There are lots of factors to consider.
1.) The way she handled the break up and became extremely distant. I understand the cutting me off on social media for her own personal space, but she is also being very distant with work related stuff. I am doing a group exercise and everyone has engaged except her.
2.) The whole thing with her ex - was he on the scene and why did she tell my mate enough details so it got back to me. A simple answer of "Im seeing someone" is more than enough. Funnily enough since that day she has not spoken to my mate again about anything personal.
3.) Her ability to have an emotional conversation - I can understand it may have been overwhelming for her and she was out of her comfort zone when her folks said No to us. However the fact remains that any type of reconciliation requires a conversation to be had, some of which may be an emotional one.
4.) Either she will need to change and step out of her house or her parents mind will need to be changed - I think emotionally she cant handle this.
5.) She has put up so many barriers and pushed me away to a possible point of no return. If she was to talk now, her credibility and integrity is on the line.
Its been six months since we split and our last conversation about us was in November where she said she hopes she doesn't regret her decision. When I tried to get her to open up all I got was "This is how I deal with stuff" Before that she was the sweetest girl I had ever met.
We had an amazing relationship together and don't doubt we can again. It could be better than the first time. But people need to grow, as life is not constant.
Any relationship will fail if there is no communication and understanding and ours did - miserably.
She acts like I was the one who did the dirty on her. People at work including my boss have noticed and commented. I haven't said much purely because she is a woman and I believe her integrity still needs to be protected.
Im not actually dating anyone at all. I am just putting myself out there and talking to women.
The funny thing about this situation is that she completely closed the door on us, by telling my mate she is back with her ex.
So if she has moved on what I do shouldn't really matter. I doubt an aqua would lie about such a thing as its quite a low thing to do. I didn't think they were the type of people to hurt someone. Plus once they say move on, its really over so what the issue?
Its really weird for me being indifferent towards her is that Im polite, professional and I talk about what I need to for work, my body language is relaxed and once im done im on my merry way. Her on the other hand, her body language is very defensive and you can see that her guard is up.
We cross paths earlier today and I gave her a half hearted smile and she just stared at me and walks on.
It really depends on the situation of how the two broke up. But from my personal experience being a leo this is how it went.
Girlfriend 1 - Virgo - Dated for 2 years, broke up and didn't speak to each other for 6 months. After that we had an up/down friendship but the emotional bond was still there. Had sex a few times on and off. I have been mates with this ex for 17 years. We broke up due to cultural issues (small time indian mentality)
Girlfriend 2 - Leo - Went out with her a month after breaking up with girlfriend no 1 -that lasted a year and a half. We didn't speak for about a year. After that we started hanging out again and having sex. This ex was a friend before we started to date and I have known her for 30 odd years. We broke up for cultural differences.
Girlfriend no 3 - Taurus - Dated for 2 years and we broke up. I initiated this break up and we didn't speak for about 6 months and became friends with benefits until she got engaged. Since then I have never seen or heard from her until recently. She unblocked me and we had the occasional xmas, bday, new year text and that's it. She has no gone back to blocking me.
Girlfriend no 4 - Aquarius - A lot younger than me and we had an amazing relationship. There was a bit of an age difference and her parents didn't agree to the marriage so she ended it. Its been 6 months and we work together as well which doesn't help. Now this girl never gave me any closure. I tried to be the bigger man and she is acting like an idiot so now I don't want anything to do with her and will possibly never speak to her again.
With a Leo its our pride that gets hurt. But by the same token we aren't bad people or have bad hearts. If the break up is explained and we have a good talk about it, once the pain of breaking up subsides we tend to have an understanding based on the communication. With my first 3 exes we were still able to talk about the relationship years after it had ended and have a good laugh about things.
Bottom line is I think if a Leo is emotionally invested in you and it didn't end badly then chances are they will treat and ex well. If it ended badly and our pride is hurt then we tend to think with our pride and probably not speak to that ex.
Bav atleast she still talks to you. I don't even get that.
OP - the best thing to do is go no contact for a month. Get some space, it will give you some perspective and breathing space. You will be in a different head space in a month and if you feel the need to reach out then do so. If you get nothing or negativity back then atleast you know and im hoping your wont be hurt by it.
Well lets put this simply... She told a mate of mine she moved on in December. After I asked her about her ex via email and didn't get a response, I posted here (as you know) and took peoples advice and moved on.
I am back to being the happy bubbly person at work, cracking jokes etc.
How can she think ive forgotten about her and have an issue with it considering she blocked me on everything and doesn't even want to talk to me.
So in order to be in a more dominant position, she would happily suffer and cause someone else suffering and or inconvenience. I thought Aqua's were logical people... her actions don't seem logical at all.
I chased that girl for months after we broke up - All she has to do is say "lets talk" when she is ready. I have said it before I just want to clear things up. If we get back together then fair enough, if we don't, then to be fair im not short on options at the moment.
What I fail to understand is the only relationship we have is a professional one - so act professional. How hard is that considering it was her that put the distance between us?
I have posted here before and just want to get an aquas perspective on a situation I have with my ex and we work together.
We broke up about 6 months ago and about 3 months ago she told a close friend of mine she is back with her ex.
She has totally blocked me from social media and I have no way of contacting her besides her work email address. She said previously that we both need to move on.
Recently she has been looking at me and I sent her an email asking if she had something on her mind to which I got a very silly response "You think im looking at you but I may be looking in your direction for work"
A few weeks later I emailed her and told her I found out she is seeing her ex and if they were in dialogue when we were together. I got nothing back.
So I just left it as my ex went back to acting like I don't exist.
We now need to work together and when I approach her for work related stuff, I am being professional and polite where as she is being very short and sharp. Her body language basically says leave me alone.
We in a meeting together and she was behaving unprofessionally and I asked her what her issue is as we need to work together so I don't want it be awkward.
She responded by saying "I know you have moved on and now you are seeing someone. I asked her if she wanted to talk about it and her guard just went back up. I then said what we do in our own personal time shouldn't affect one another and can we just do what we need to do for work.
This has really confused me - I thought once an aqua makes up her mind there is no turning back. Plus I moved on months after she did, so what exactly is her issue?
Her body language shows me that she is hurt or upset but she wont open up and tell me why but does the whole "carrot dangling" thing.
He probably still likes you. Aquas are emotionally detached people and from experience, when things got a bit heavy with my ex she ran for the hills and never looked back. Its been 6 months and I have been ghosted, and she acts like I don't exist.
Give him some time and space and let him come round when he is ready. If you still feel the same way about him then try and talk and resolve the issue. If you don't then just clear the air. Hopefully by then you have healed somewhat and maybe even have moved on.
She might well be mate. I don't know how aquas work.
For example today as I was going to the gents she was coming out of the ladies, I did a half assed smile and was met with the same thing. Then later in the day I spoke with a work colleague and she turned around and looked.
Im going to give you the advice you gave me lol - Don't act unless there is something substantial.
I read somewhere that some aquas try and reach out so you make the first move - well in my case it backfired.
If its bugging you mate - just ask and especially now if you don't really care or have any intentions of getting back with her, then her answer shouldn't phase you.
As for your imagination, you may be right. Before I approached my ex, I had 2 people in the office I told just to make sure I wasn't being paranoid and they both agreed that I am getting looked at.
Who knows mate, just do what you think is right by you. You don't owe her anything, so if you finding out helps you then go ahead and ask, if it doesn't phase you then leave things as they are.