The basics are summarised as follows. - She chased me and there was an age different which she did not object to. - The girl told me she loved me first. - At one point we agreed she should talk to her folks about the age difference. - They had issues with it which she said we would talk about but never did. - I asked to talk about it on numerous occasions but got very short answers. - At one point she said her head was all over the place and we should talk. When she says we should talk she never did. - To be fair I did push it because I wanted to know what was going on. - When we broke up I still pursued her and she kept saying she would ask her folks but did not want to give me false hope. - When she said lets move on, I agreed and never bothered her afterwards. - She slowly blocks me on social media and wotsapp. - After a month of no contact and the occasional hello at work, she then starts acting the way she does as described in my original post. Now she is back to ignoring me.
Its her birthday on Sunday and last year I took her to an apartment cooked for her etc, so maybe shes is thinking about that who knows. I didn't write a message in her birthday card so not sure how that's going to affect her behaviour as well.
The bottom line is when she needed to tell what was going on she froze and to date has never spoken to me about the issues in detail.
Then when I find out she is with her ex that confused me because that was a complete dead end, so not sure if she is really with him or if that was a message for me to leave her alone. I left her alone well before she decided to send me the message.
Id rather she come and speak to me we clear things up and just move on. We work together so I don't want or need the awkwardness.
Hi guys. I am writing to hopefully get some advice from some fellow Aquarians or people who have been with Aquarian women who can possibly explain their behaviour.
I was seeing a girl who I work with who is an Aquarian and there is significant age different between us. She made it quite obvious she was interested in me and we went on a date and I brought up the age difference between us. The response I got was “I can be with someone my age, but that doesn’t mean I will be happy – You make me happy.” So I figured why not give this a chance.
We had an amazing relationship for just under a year and everything was going fine. We are both Indian. Her parents asked her where this was going and I suggested that maybe she tell her folks about my age to which she agreed.
Needless to say they were not happy and as a result my ex became distant from me. I asked her a few times what the issue was and she just shut down and would not tell me.
Eventually we broke up and I still continued to chase her and try to resolve the situation. It came to a point where she probably got sick of me chasing and said “lets move on” to which I agreed.
The last thing she said to me was “I hope I don’t regret my decision and I can’t me not talking to you so can we be friends.” It took a lot for me to do this but I agreed.
Needless to say she made no effort in being friends and eventually blocked me on wotsapp, Snapchat and but continued to follow me on Instagram until I stopped following her. To this day I don’t know the whole situation that occurred and I have the feeling she lied to be about a few minor things. All I got from her was “do you expect me to leave my parents for you” to which I replied No.
I then heard through the grapevine that she is back with her ex which raised a lot of questions. She broke up with her ex because his parents did not agree with their relationship.
So questions went through my head like, was I the rebound, is he the rebound, have they been talking when we were together etc.
I decided that there’s no point in talking to her about it and left it and began the healing process and moved on myself via no contact. My behaviour at work changed and I went back to being the happy go lucky guy I am.
Recently she has gone from completely blanking me at work to being quite awkward around me.
Sometimes she will say Hi when our paths cross, others she will wait for me to say hi, and there are times I catch her looking at me, or she turns her face when she sees me. There have been cases where she has tried to avoid me, I.e., waits for me to pass, or stares at the ground when I walk past her. What’s going on with this girl? Does she have something to say to me? I don’t want to approach her purely because of the power game. I moved once I heard she was back with her ex (not sure if was true or a message for me to leave her alone).
I don’t want to be the one to approach her first if she has something on her mind. I am a leo.