SassyKiwi

Posted by Antiphates

Posted by SassyKiwi

Posted by Antiphates
I think the trick is to find and then engage the right red flags at the right time.

Examples?

Spoiled brat meets emotionally unavailable.
Ideally one red flags utterly shreds the other and vice versa to create the free space where the relationship is built.
Or they bond through integration.
Ultimately it's less the attributes of flags, be they green or red that makes a relationship, but how they react and interact with each other and overcome challanges in order to creat the shared experiences that strengthen the bond.

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Ha I like this

Posted by nadiasweetie
Yes and accepting red flags and staying in domestic violence relationships because of the quarantine/coronavirus 😭

Awww noo ☹️ Do you have any family nearby that you can stay with instead?

Posted by tiziani
Surely we've all gotten with a woman that tried to play the scarcity game, at least one time? Or just me?

Lol I see it work too well too often...

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Wow ok so it feels like the pandemic has got some people sitting at home all day dreaming up a wedding cause I know a few people who suddenly wanna get hitched as soon as things get better...

First one is my 25 year old Sag cousin. He’s supposedly fallen heads over heels for a girl who has been cutting off communication with him until he proposes to her. So he’s planning to do that within the next few months... funny part? The girl has also been complaining to my other cousin (Sag’s sister) about how my Sag cousin is still hitting up all these other girls on social media... my cousin’s response was simply “welp at least you’re aware of what you’re getting into.” My Sag cousin barely has much redeeming qualities so idk why she’s so worked up over him. He doesn’t work, has been working on his bachelors since forever it seems like. Guess the girl’s sign...

Second one is my 25 year old Taurus friend who’s in love with a 36 year old Leo guy... who has never used a credit card (he uses a debit card *gasp*), claims to have very wealthy family back home in Europa yet supposedly had a struggling young adult life here in America... he’s always hanging out with her family but he has yet to introduce her to his. Straight up sounded to me like a prequel to Ready or Not. To top it off, he has two older brothers in their 40s that are unmarried. Very interested to see how it all unfolds as her and her family are like ready for them to get married already.

All that has got me thinking... we all obviously crave this ideal, perfect relationship in our heads but reality doesn’t work that way. Humans are imperfect and have flaws. All this emphasis on red flags and all these days.. if you really think about it, every individual might at least have one depending on what one considers a red flag. We obviously try to measure the good outweighing the bad. So what are some things that you have accepted/overlooked in relationships that others or society might consider as red flags?

Girl go ahead and tell us the sign of this girl...I’m nosy as heck lol

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C’mon it’s one of the cliche emotionally manipulative signs :p

Posted by Antiphates
I think the trick is to find and then engage the right red flags at the right time.

Examples?

Posted by Timon
Being with a workaholic. On the contrary it pushed me so far to the other side that I thought I wouldn't care about their job when I started dating again. Turns out I'm a snob and it does matter. 🤣 It's not so much the job but I like intelligence and people who doesn't have a university degree here are usually not my type. And getting a degree here it's not like in the states where you have to pay a fortune so the money isn't the problem.

Yeah I think there’s no excuse if it’s pretty attainable. I’m a snob for higher educated people too. I’d personally go through law school, med school, everything if it meant not having to sacrifice my youth. Who knows. Might still end up becoming that one 40 year old in med school some day.

Posted by Pulsy
He could have family that’s rich in another country just not his. N debit is way better zero debt is nice

Definitely. But my friend has interest in buying a house soon with him if things work out and that’s difficult to do without credit history. Using credit has fraud protection as well which debit doesn’t. It’s a no brainer to use credit instead of debit unless you lack self control and spend more than you can afford to pay off. Also he was implying his parents and siblings are rich and how his parents have been sending him money whenever these days however he was practically left behind to fend for himself here in America and had to do odd jobs for years after high school to make ends meet... just seems very off to me how parents wouldn’t send their kid money during a time they actually needed it versus now when they’ve got something more stable going on.

Wow ok so it feels like the pandemic has got some people sitting at home all day dreaming up a wedding cause I know a few people who suddenly wanna get hitched as soon as things get better...

First one is my 25 year old Sag cousin. He’s supposedly fallen heads over heels for a girl who has been cutting off communication with him until he proposes to her. So he’s planning to do that within the next few months... funny part? The girl has also been complaining to my other cousin (Sag’s sister) about how my Sag cousin is still hitting up all these other girls on social media... my cousin’s response was simply “welp at least you’re aware of what you’re getting into.” My Sag cousin barely has much redeeming qualities so idk why she’s so worked up over him. He doesn’t work, has been working on his bachelors since forever it seems like. Guess the girl’s sign...

Second one is my 25 year old Taurus friend who’s in love with a 36 year old Leo guy... who has never used a credit card (he uses a debit card *gasp*), claims to have very wealthy family back home in Europa yet supposedly had a struggling young adult life here in America... he’s always hanging out with her family but he has yet to introduce her to his. Straight up sounded to me like a prequel to Ready or Not. To top it off, he has two older brothers in their 40s that are unmarried. Very interested to see how it all unfolds as her and her family are like ready for them to get married already.

All that has got me thinking... we all obviously crave this ideal, perfect relationship in our heads but reality doesn’t work that way. Humans are imperfect and have flaws. All this emphasis on red flags and all these days.. if you really think about it, every individual might at least have one depending on what one considers a red flag. We obviously try to measure the good outweighing the bad. So what are some things that you have accepted/overlooked in relationships that others or society might consider as red flags?

Just entrap them with the female versions and it might all work itself out eh?

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Posted by SassyKiwi

Posted by ClassyAquarius
In my mind "treetrunk off you creep." But then I think about if I won't piss him off and he will find me and kill me. So I left on read.

But wouldn’t he also be pissed off you read and had the audacity to ignore his gracious gesture?

You are right. But blocking can piss him off to. Best way is to make him believe you never got this message

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Deactivate temporarily so he doesn’t take it personal and hops over to focus on the next victim

Posted by ClassyAquarius
In my mind "treetrunk off you creep." But then I think about if I won't piss him off and he will find me and kill me. So I left on read.

But wouldn’t he also be pissed off you read and had the audacity to ignore his gracious gesture?

Block

Vote orange man out this November !!

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I don't understand synastry at all. I'd like to learn it. That's if anyone here willing or have the time to break it down for me step by step. It sounds interesting and exciting. I feel like I'm missing out on the fun

It’s very simple and requires accurate birth times for the complete picture. You need to first understand how to read planets and houses in your own chart. After that you pull up both peoples’ natal charts on one screen (I use Astrodienst). If you don’t have the other person's birth time, it’ll just give you a one sided picture. For instance let’s say in your natal chart your 8th house is in Scorpio. Your partner happens to have their Mars in Scorpio. So then that means your partner’s Mars falls in your 8th house. To get a description of that you would then google something like “Mars in 8th house synastry”. Your partner would be the Mars person and you would be the house person. You then apply that for every one of your partner’s planets and vice versa. The whole thing is fun and amusing to me. Let me know if that made sense or if you need further help.

My 8th house is in Aries and my partner Mars is in Sagittarius. Sorry I don't have her birth time. So what does that mean?

So your 4th house is in Sagittarius?

No. Capricorn

Ok then just post your complete natal chart and list all your partner’s placements and then I’ll just list you what you can google to read the descriptions

Mines

Name Sign House Deg Name Sign Deg
Sun Sun Gemini Gemini 9 20.9° Ascendant Libra Libra 1.6°
Moon Moon Gemini Gemini 9 25.4° House 2 Libra Libra 29°
Mercury Mercury Gemini Gemini 9 29.3° House 3 Scorpio Scorpio 29.4°
Venus Venus Cancer Cancer 9 0° House 4 Capricorn Capricorn 1.7°
Mars Mars Cancer Cancer 10 19.3° House 5 Aquarius Aquarius 3.9°
Jupiter Jupiter Capricorn Capricorn 4 5.1° House 6 Pisces Pisces 4.3°
Saturn Saturn Gemini Gemini 9 11.4° House 7 Aries Aries 1.6°
Uranus Uranus Libra Libra 1 14.2° House 8 Aries Aries 29°
Neptune Neptune Sagittarius Sagittarius 3 3.4° House 9 Taurus Taurus 29.4°
Pluto Pluto Virgo Virgo 12 29.3° MC Cancer Cancer 1.7°
North Node North Node Capricorn Capricorn 4 26.4° House 11 Leo Leo 3.9°
Lilith Lilith Scorpio Scorpio 2 12.2° House 12 Virgo Virgo 4.3

Hers

Name Sign Deg
Sun Sun Sagittarius Sagittarius 14.3°
Moon Moon Pisces Pisces 11.5°
Mercury Mercury Sagittarius Sagittarius 12.2°
Venus Venus Scorpio Scorpio 8.6°
Mars Mars Sagittarius Sagittarius 25.5°
Jupiter Jupiter Leo Leo 8.9°
Saturn Saturn Virgo Virgo 13.6°
Uranus Uranus Scorpio Scorpio 18.4°
Neptune Neptune Sagittarius Sagittarius 17.9°
Pluto Pluto Libra Libra 18.6°
North Node North Node Virgo Virgo 23°
Lilith Lilith Leo Leo 6.1°

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If you still want to know - are you able to post a natal chart because pasting it in text makes it appear very messy

Interesting..

Your Day Sign - Wind

Ik (Yucatan) / Iq (Kiche)
Personality: Talkative, mental, agile, intelligent and versatile. Idealistic and romantic. Fashion conscious or artist.

Imagination, inspiration, messages, and communication are the key concepts in the life of a Wind. As the voice is carried in the air by the wind, you have a lot of things to tell about. You must give some sort of message to humanity, which you have not fully figured out yet. However, you almost feel obliged to continue to communicate, whether through talking, writing or using media.

Spirit and breath of life, the Wind blows life to the matter and brings new awareness to the world. Your character is spiritual by nature. You carry the power to spread good seeds and ideas.

You like to create art and beauty and have a strong sense of aesthetics. You can also become a successful fiction writer but be careful not to be too far from reality. You have a high level of imagination.

The Wind is what gives us life and keeps us alive (called “prana” in India), symbolized by the essence of life. According to the Mayan belief, the Wind is the breath of God.

Challenge: Responsibilities and fears associated with it, indecision, not being able to commit.
Remedy: Education and learning how to communicate better.

Appropriate professions: Philosopher, mathematician, artist, musician.
Signs you get along with: Wind, Road, Earth and Deer
Signs that contribute to your growth: Wind, Jaguar, Knife, Death and the Dog

Your Tone - 12
Understanding

* Knowledge
* Learning
* Continuity of wisdom
* The big Library of knowledge
* Dynamic
* Understanding
* Ideas

Tone 12 is all about understanding. This can be understood in a few different ways. One of them is about compassion. You have a compassionate heart that accepts all differences and different scenarios. Within your presence, people find comfort and relaxation, knowing that they are accepted as they are. This creates a very healing atmosphere.

Another meaning of Tone 12 is about the understanding in the sense of knowing. Your soul is understanding. This means that you have an understanding of wisdom which comes with tolerance. These attributes can make you a good teacher that does not get caught in ego, title, and competition.

Your Trecana Sign - Monkey

Chuen (Yucatan) / B'atz (Kiche)
Personality: Attractive, artistic, clever and demonstrative with feelings. Have many interests, talkative and very curious

Cute, clever and generous. It is impossible not to notice you in the community. Even though you wish to hide at times, that is not possible. You have a strong character and you sometimes choose to stay distant from people because of intense emotions. You become the center of attention with the speed of light due to your charming character and jokes. Monkey is a natural born artist and artisan.

In the simplest way, the Monkey symbolizes the child within us. Innocent, curious, creative, playful and funny. This is the child which paints the walls of the house or play the violin in a new and creative way or anything artistic and creative in his/her free will.

As an adult, our task is to protect this child, and in return, we receive the nourishment of inspiration. So remember your childlike dreams, unleash your creativity and free your expressivity.

Monkey is one of the luckiest signs and has good luck with marriage, children, money, career etc. There is a net that connects all signs; a bond connecting everything through human creativity and spiritual unity. This net symbolizes the Monkey sign. The Mayan elders say that the marriages and relationships that start at this day will have a strong, lasting bond.

Challenge: Not staying focused long enough to learn and be good on one subject
Remedy: Being creative
Appropriate professions: artist, dancer, midwife, physiotherapist, therapist.

Signs you get along with: Monkey, Owl, Crocodile and Death
Signs that contribute to your growth: Monkey, Eagle, Storm, Night and the Deer

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Posted by SassyKiwi
Obviously it’s super stupid to actually go and seek a specific sign or a specific placement to date. The odds of you ending up not being attracted to the placement you are intentionally seeking are way higher (that is if you decide to give them a shot before finding out if they ended up having a placement you were seeking). If you by chance do find a person with the placement you’re seeking you might subconsciously be pushing yourself to like them more than you usually would with an average date, that’s just gonna set you up for disappointment down the line.

I agree except Leo and Aries are always on the undateable list.

I super agree with that.

Hmmmm 🤔
And all I read is how Aries never single so if you see one - grab and hold on to them...

And Leo are always coupled...

Strange huh? Where is your info coming from please?

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Their energies don’t appeal to me. Aries is like an angry baby beating his head against the wall for what he wants now. Leos are usually self absorbed and want to be recognized by the world around them and show their personality and their accomplishments to others.

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I am always wondering about people who are asking which sign is match for them.

It seems hard enough for most to meet a person to be in rship so when this question is asked - whatever answer is given - how doe that help?

Let’s say you found out their match are possibly 2 signs. What’s next? How do you ACTUALLY meet those signs? What’s the strategy? Is there any?

So when you meet a stranger whom you like - how is an advice on ‘who is my match’ play role after you find out they ARE your match OR if you find out they aren’t? Do you hold on for dear life to the match and refuse those who aren’t? 🤷‍♀️

Just curios and yes...bored.

Because I just asked this question I’ll give my reasonings. Not only did I just realise I have more Leo in my chart than libra but also that I keep trying to get with guys that are not compatible in the slightest because our communication style s. I wanted to know who I should be keeping in mind. These days are also different in the dating scene and mostly online dating because of the virus, so yes we can now see clearly who are what Star signs and yes I’ve eliminated certain signs but only because I was undecided on whether I was interested or not then saw what sign they were and decided No. And now that I know what signs are more suitable I will take a bit longer to read more about them and talk.

Sign if the times I guess.

I agree. When you have already met someone and something feels off - you CAN read up on their placements. And fix that ‘wrong’ or leave them alone.
However sometimes rship needs some tweaks naturally.
The guy you felt off about - totally out. Right?

But if the guy you’ve met and regardless of all wrong placements - you are in love - would you just walk away or learn about his differences and try to meet him half way or submit to his ‘crazies’?

What I am saying is love isn’t sign match.
It’s some retarded chemistry that we can’t deal with rationally...
Yes! I know he is WRONG for me BUT I don’t give a butter because I am all ready to die for him...right?

People however settle. Just to not be alone. But that’s not what we talking about. Right?

There is no “normal to meeting people” these days. For instance, this Sunday the girls and I are going out for a few drinks, we have booked into 2 places and are allowed 1 and a half hours in each place and then we have to leave, table service only and if we want to dance we have to dance in our area around our table??? That’s life where I live now. So online dating is pretty much one of the only ways to meet people. Or I can see someone at the local stores and chase them down lol

If however I did meet someone face to face and we felt a connection or we decided to go out, I generally don’t ask their star sign until we’ve been out a few times. Funny enough, when things start to turn in the relationship or when I want to understand why they act certain ways, then I’ll find out their sign.

I understand. However I have intuition about people that’s strong and even seeing a picture I can’t tell yes or no.
If you doing online dating - I am sure there is a sign posted. BUT again knowing sign too early might fire back against you.
So...we forgot times when people just met and signs weren’t known until they died! Lol

So if you meet someone you feel chemistry with - isn’t it all that matters? If you two great together - you keep on dating. And IF something feels off - THEN you can pull the chart and see if that part can be fixed...

But hardly ever this goes like...I need to meet xx sign...nooo!
You CAN technically put in your profile ‘preferably xx sigh’ but I don’t think that will bring you desirable result because his MOON can be wrong! Lol

And if you put all the aspects in your dating application - you’ll die single! Lol

So have fun dancing around the table. Hopefully it’ll end soon. ❤️

Yeah totally understand. I wouldn’t normally bother too much on the sign which is why it doesn’t come up in conversation until further on down the track. I’m rolling with the times and with the online dating taking it into account.

I’ve only had what I consider 3 relationships. First bf, cancer 2 years. My sweetheart and love of my life but too young and both cheated, Met up again when we were older but he died
2nd Sagittarius: married 19 years
3rd libra: 1 and a half years.

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What happened with the Sag and Libra?

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Posted by SassyKiwi
Obviously it’s super stupid to actually go and seek a specific sign or a specific placement to date. The odds of you ending up not being attracted to the placement you are intentionally seeking are way higher (that is if you decide to give them a shot before finding out if they ended up having a placement you were seeking). If you by chance do find a person with the placement you’re seeking you might subconsciously be pushing yourself to like them more than you usually would with an average date, that’s just gonna set you up for disappointment down the line.

I agree except Leo and Aries are always on the undateable list.

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I super agree with that.

Obviously it’s super stupid to actually go and seek a specific sign or a specific placement to date. The odds of you ending up not being attracted to the placement you are intentionally seeking are way higher (that is if you decide to give them a shot before finding out if they ended up having a placement you were seeking). If you by chance do find a person with the placement you’re seeking you might subconsciously be pushing yourself to like them more than you usually would with an average date, that’s just gonna set you up for disappointment down the line.

Kill that mofo for essentially contributing greatly to pushing me to go back out there to that horrid dating world cause clearly we had made it to the 15 year mark cause I tolerated his ass but if he cheated then I’d potentially have to go out and find another tolerable creature like WTF cookiemonster