Posted by LadymaraladePosted by SassyKiwiPosted by pooface222Posted by frozenintime
How long does it take you in a relationship to know if you want it long term?
Or how long in do you feel like you fall in love?
I’m in a relationship for 3 months. We are like best friends, have no fights or issues. But I feel like the “spark” isn’t there like something is missing? But there’s nothing wrong and he treats me good. I feel guilty for feeling this and trying to give it a fair amount of time.
I care about him and I obviously enjoy his company but... just something isn’t there.
I deeply crave passion in relationships...
STraight Away!
I believe the passion has to be there IMMEDIATELY! The moment you see each other for the first time.
BANG!
You WANT each other!
And its not just sexual, its Emotional too!
Like you've both just been set on fire by just the sight of each other!
And you're both tingling everywhere!
Inside and out!
CHEMISTRY!
So when you start dating, you've got to make sure you dont jump into bed too soon.
Just let the passion deepen. Get to know each other first before kissing.
So when you do kiss its like a fireworks display went off inside both of you.
Take it slow..enjoy each other emotionally so the passion burns before making love.
However..with the guy your with, maybe take a step back, see him a bit less, and see if you miss him.
Then maybe the passion you crave will begin because you're seeing him in a different light.
This is exactly where people constantly go wrong. This fiery passion and high emotion and equal energy/chemistry a person seeks is not healthy and sustainable for long term. In fact, the honey moon phase as you describe will always eventually wear off no matter what relationship you’re in for survival purposes. There is a reason why people often jump from relationship to relationship these days. They crave only the initial highs of relationships. So this also boils down to maturity and how soon a person accepts this and becomes less la-ti-da. People are falling into the traps of becoming instant gratification oriented.
This is where YOU are wrong! You need to make the judgement call for yourself and not for others. Just because the honeymoon period has ended for you it doesn’t mean that it has to end for someone else. So you are basically talking bs. YOUR HONEYMOON period ENDED.
What pooface222 described is exactly how I felt about my bf when I met him 5 years ago and the feelings remain the same and the honeymoon period has not ended. We have been in honeymoon period for 5 years and counting....
So don’t judge or dismiss what someone else has to say but do it from your own experience.click to expand
Posted by TenpxdPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by TenpxdPosted by SassyKiwi
Then yo man falls under the umbrella of someone else’s leftovers?
It’s called grown folks divorce
Doesn’t seem very grown folksish if it bugs you. Like what did you expect, he’s gonna cut them off forever for you?
It doesn’t bug me, I wished his little girl the best bday ever.. well to be exact this is my text.
Happy bday to little Gema may she have the best birthday ever !’click to expand
Posted by TenpxdPosted by SassyKiwi
Then yo man falls under the umbrella of someone else’s leftovers?
It’s called grown folks divorceclick to expand
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i am really just looking for tips on how to manage my own jealousy issues
plz halp
😂😂 loolll sorry I don’t think I can help.... swallow it til you puke?
but i wanna talk about it so i dont feel alone 😭
Aww sweetie of course you’re not alone! You can’t really change your feelings tbh you can just change whether you act on them or not
i was doing really good at managing it but now it’s starting to bubble out 😬
😬😬 well, sometimes it’s appropriate to be jealous and sometimes it isn’t, can you give any detail about it?
im paranoid about someone who is in his friend circle. i know her, & her friends, personally & i think they are garbage. she asked me a month ago, out of the blue, if he & i were sweeties. i never responded cuz it’s none of her business.
sooooooooo lmao i dunno im sketched
@sassykiwi here’s the beef
You never responded because it’s none of her business or because you wanted to lay a trap? Tbh I don’t want to add to this but I’m a big believer in intuition in these situations. Like sometimes things can be off that aren’t big enough to point directly at but there’ll be some kind of weirdness in the air... Have you spoken to him about her? Is he acting sketchy? Sorry at the same time I should say it could very easily be nothing but just don’t know enough 😬
i havent spoken to him about her bc i have nothing nice to say. she recently left him a quarantine package & i was like um ok
i am not typically jealous & allot for freedom/female friends/etc but i cant tell if it’s my intuition, or if it’s paranoia. it’s driving me crazy.
to the point where i am now pumping brakes & getting cold.
What was his reaction to the package?
HE POSTED IT ON THE INTERNET TALKING ABOUT HOW COOL AND NICE SHE IS !!!!!!!!!
aaahhhhh’n bdueidhzh383737; $ 28-!; $ ,!hdhsjajs£{~€.€\€838: $ .!28
Wtf. Sever his head. Not sure why you’re even into this guy but let me give you some reality.
An issue with coming out to your partner with it is it will cause it to subconscuoisly go to his head and feed his ego. He might not be a bad guy but never underestimate a man who knows he has plenty of options around him just waiting for him. For all you know your man is more oblivious to her than you think and it’s better for you to have it that way instead of aid in putting further curiosities in his mind about her. All this is only if you want to continue something with him.
I’m a hades moon at 0 degree btw. If it wasn’t for all the things my mom taught me I’d honestly end up being the most pathetic, jealous, possessive person. It is never attractive on a person and makes you come off very vulnerable.
lol omg sever his head??!
but he’s allowed to have female friends! which is why i am going crazy
Oh yeah... lol me and my husband and past partners really didn’t do social media much so I guess I wouldn’t know what the appropriate social media expectation would be in such situation but I’m still a gen z, so if he equally praises his friends and you on social media then I guess that is fair but if he doesn’t really praise people on social media or you but praised her then I’d be a little concerned.
he often praises friends & posts about them. i am p sure he has 11th h placements.click to expand
Posted by dilettantePosted by SassyKiwiPosted by dilettantePosted by SassyKiwiPosted by dilettantePosted by akituPosted by dilettantePosted by akituPosted by dilettantePosted by akituPosted by dilettantePosted by akituPosted by dilettante
i am really just looking for tips on how to manage my own jealousy issues
plz halp
😂😂 loolll sorry I don’t think I can help.... swallow it til you puke?
but i wanna talk about it so i dont feel alone 😭
Aww sweetie of course you’re not alone! You can’t really change your feelings tbh you can just change whether you act on them or not
i was doing really good at managing it but now it’s starting to bubble out 😬
😬😬 well, sometimes it’s appropriate to be jealous and sometimes it isn’t, can you give any detail about it?
im paranoid about someone who is in his friend circle. i know her, & her friends, personally & i think they are garbage. she asked me a month ago, out of the blue, if he & i were sweeties. i never responded cuz it’s none of her business.
sooooooooo lmao i dunno im sketched
@sassykiwi here’s the beef
You never responded because it’s none of her business or because you wanted to lay a trap? Tbh I don’t want to add to this but I’m a big believer in intuition in these situations. Like sometimes things can be off that aren’t big enough to point directly at but there’ll be some kind of weirdness in the air... Have you spoken to him about her? Is he acting sketchy? Sorry at the same time I should say it could very easily be nothing but just don’t know enough 😬
i havent spoken to him about her bc i have nothing nice to say. she recently left him a quarantine package & i was like um ok
i am not typically jealous & allot for freedom/female friends/etc but i cant tell if it’s my intuition, or if it’s paranoia. it’s driving me crazy.
to the point where i am now pumping brakes & getting cold.
What was his reaction to the package?
HE POSTED IT ON THE INTERNET TALKING ABOUT HOW COOL AND NICE SHE IS !!!!!!!!!
aaahhhhh’n bdueidhzh383737; $ 28-!; $ ,!hdhsjajs£{~€.€\€838: $ .!28
Wtf. Sever his head. Not sure why you’re even into this guy but let me give you some reality.
An issue with coming out to your partner with it is it will cause it to subconscuoisly go to his head and feed his ego. He might not be a bad guy but never underestimate a man who knows he has plenty of options around him just waiting for him. For all you know your man is more oblivious to her than you think and it’s better for you to have it that way instead of aid in putting further curiosities in his mind about her. All this is only if you want to continue something with him.
I’m a hades moon at 0 degree btw. If it wasn’t for all the things my mom taught me I’d honestly end up being the most pathetic, jealous, possessive person. It is never attractive on a person and makes you come off very vulnerable.
lol omg sever his head??!
but he’s allowed to have female friends! which is why i am going crazyclick to expand
Posted by dilettantePosted by SassyKiwiPosted by dilettantePosted by akituPosted by dilettantePosted by akituPosted by dilettantePosted by akituPosted by dilettantePosted by akituPosted by dilettante
i am really just looking for tips on how to manage my own jealousy issues
plz halp
😂😂 loolll sorry I don’t think I can help.... swallow it til you puke?
but i wanna talk about it so i dont feel alone 😭
Aww sweetie of course you’re not alone! You can’t really change your feelings tbh you can just change whether you act on them or not
i was doing really good at managing it but now it’s starting to bubble out 😬
😬😬 well, sometimes it’s appropriate to be jealous and sometimes it isn’t, can you give any detail about it?
im paranoid about someone who is in his friend circle. i know her, & her friends, personally & i think they are garbage. she asked me a month ago, out of the blue, if he & i were sweeties. i never responded cuz it’s none of her business.
sooooooooo lmao i dunno im sketched
@sassykiwi here’s the beef
You never responded because it’s none of her business or because you wanted to lay a trap? Tbh I don’t want to add to this but I’m a big believer in intuition in these situations. Like sometimes things can be off that aren’t big enough to point directly at but there’ll be some kind of weirdness in the air... Have you spoken to him about her? Is he acting sketchy? Sorry at the same time I should say it could very easily be nothing but just don’t know enough 😬
i havent spoken to him about her bc i have nothing nice to say. she recently left him a quarantine package & i was like um ok
i am not typically jealous & allot for freedom/female friends/etc but i cant tell if it’s my intuition, or if it’s paranoia. it’s driving me crazy.
to the point where i am now pumping brakes & getting cold.
What was his reaction to the package?
HE POSTED IT ON THE INTERNET TALKING ABOUT HOW COOL AND NICE SHE IS !!!!!!!!!
aaahhhhh’n bdueidhzh383737; $ 28-!; $ ,!hdhsjajs£{~€.€\€838: $ .!28click to expand
Posted by dilettantePosted by akituPosted by dilettantePosted by akituPosted by dilettantePosted by akituPosted by dilettantePosted by akituPosted by dilettante
i am really just looking for tips on how to manage my own jealousy issues
plz halp
😂😂 loolll sorry I don’t think I can help.... swallow it til you puke?
but i wanna talk about it so i dont feel alone 😭
Aww sweetie of course you’re not alone! You can’t really change your feelings tbh you can just change whether you act on them or not
i was doing really good at managing it but now it’s starting to bubble out 😬
😬😬 well, sometimes it’s appropriate to be jealous and sometimes it isn’t, can you give any detail about it?
im paranoid about someone who is in his friend circle. i know her, & her friends, personally & i think they are garbage. she asked me a month ago, out of the blue, if he & i were sweeties. i never responded cuz it’s none of her business.
sooooooooo lmao i dunno im sketched
@sassykiwi here’s the beef
You never responded because it’s none of her business or because you wanted to lay a trap? Tbh I don’t want to add to this but I’m a big believer in intuition in these situations. Like sometimes things can be off that aren’t big enough to point directly at but there’ll be some kind of weirdness in the air... Have you spoken to him about her? Is he acting sketchy? Sorry at the same time I should say it could very easily be nothing but just don’t know enough 😬
i havent spoken to him about her bc i have nothing nice to say. she recently left him a quarantine package & i was like um ok
i am not typically jealous & allot for freedom/female friends/etc but i cant tell if it’s my intuition, or if it’s paranoia. it’s driving me crazy.
to the point where i am now pumping brakes & getting cold.click to expand
Posted by dilettantePosted by akituPosted by dilettantePosted by akituPosted by dilettantePosted by akituPosted by dilettante
i am really just looking for tips on how to manage my own jealousy issues
plz halp
😂😂 loolll sorry I don’t think I can help.... swallow it til you puke?
but i wanna talk about it so i dont feel alone 😭
Aww sweetie of course you’re not alone! You can’t really change your feelings tbh you can just change whether you act on them or not
i was doing really good at managing it but now it’s starting to bubble out 😬
😬😬 well, sometimes it’s appropriate to be jealous and sometimes it isn’t, can you give any detail about it?
im paranoid about someone who is in his friend circle. i know her, & her friends, personally & i think they are garbage. she asked me a month ago, out of the blue, if he & i were sweeties. i never responded cuz it’s none of her business.
sooooooooo lmao i dunno im sketched
@sassykiwi here’s the beefclick to expand
Posted by dilettantePosted by SassyKiwi
What kind of jealously issues do you have? For me they would get triggered when for instance my workaholic ex would go meet other girls out for coffee, lunch, dinner etc as he had always done with people he mentored (whom happened to be mostly much younger girls). He had always done it before we got together but I just didn’t know where one would draw the line on that and just in general felt extremely uncomfortable and jealous with it.
it’s a romantic issueclick to expand