Posted by paries I'm an Aries and my bf is Cancer. I've dated more Cancers than any other sign. My best friend is Cancer. Despite the fact that we're supposed to be incompatible, there does seem to something that draws Aries and Cancer together.
I agree, Paries. I'm dating a Cancerous Gemini. My most serious relationship before her was Cancer with Gem placements. Cancers draw me into to their watery depths, like beautiful mermaids, and I will willingly drown for the promise of a kiss...
Luckily my gf shares most of my interests so isn't an issue. But, before she came along I got used to doing everything alone. This started very young for me. I was mature for my age and did everything "first". Though I might have liked company I wasn't going to wait around forever for people to catch up. I never went clubbing alone (don't care for it), I'd go swimming, bikeriding, skiing by myself. It was somewhat lonely at times...but overall a good experience. I understand your hesitation to go out alone as a single woman, though.
I'm an Aries. When I'm angry, I explode. Nothing is held back (probably why I was fired from jobs more than once when I was younger). I don't hold grudges. Once the anger is out, I cool off, and it's over.
Geminis are the gatherers, but not necessarily the purveyors of gossip. That distinction goes to Sags. Those Gems will make friends with at least one person in every echelon of the workplace and life. No person in any position is to lowly or too lofty. They can be friends with the guys that load the trucks in the warehouse, the summer interns, the book keepers, the executive secretaries, the executives, the janitors. This is how they get the gossip. Sags spread the gossip. They're the town criers. They get a whiff of it, they'll spread it like wildfire. They can't help themselves. It's not malicious, though. Virgos mine the gossip in the first place. They ain't ruled by Mercury for nuthin'. They dig deep for the dirty details. Though they will act innocent and point fingers at Sags and Gems, they're just as guilty.
She does this because she cares. I have done similar things for my fianc?e. She gets discouraged very easily, so I have to jump in with my Aries drive and determination and take over. Though the trick is to step back once Ive helped her get back on her feet. She knows I mean well, though.
I was the first one out my group of friends and family in my age group to own a house, car, and become financially secure. While everybody was goofing off spending money on booze, parties and women I was methodically building my empire, lol. So it came to happen that I was the go to person to ask for money, cosigning loans, and borrowing my personal items. Sometimes it worked out, but other times it did not, and I was not paid back. It was hard lesson to learn, but I did learn. Now they are long gone, karma has paid them back.
1. Yes I am very competitive, in all areas of my life...career, love life, sports and more. I hate losing. I have thrown tantrums. But with age comes temperance, not a sore loser anymore. I've learned it's better to calculate, strategize, and come back swinging, 2. The world should revolve around me, but doesn't that apply to everyone. Each person is the center of their own universe. I'm no wayward planet floating in someone else's orbit. I've been accused of being selfish, usually by people who have sublimated their own desires to make other people happy, and are therefore miserable because they're not being true to their own wants and needs. 3. If I'm working towards a goal I'm never bored. An Aries on a mission cannot be deterred. Stand in our way at your own risk. I'm impatient, but, never enough to walk away from my goals. I'm a stickler for deadlines and loathe tardiness. 4. I'm very faithful and loyal. Cheating is a waste of time and energy. It reeks of indecisiveness and weakness. I had friends in the past that would carry on multiple relationships. They invested so much in keeping up with their lies and hiding. I couldn't help but wonder if they invested half of the time they spent chasing women as they did furthering their career or education, they'd probably be millionaires by now. 5. I think very highly of myself. I have high self esteem, and I'm confident. If that's conceited, so be it.
We don't get away with it. I have been fired more than once for speaking my mind. That's why Aries do best when we own our own businesses and make our own rules. At the very least, we have to have jobs where we have autonomy to do things our way, preferably in a position of authority. Even then, I despise the politiking it takes to get there.
Socially, I find that people don't like me at first. My bluntness and honesty are off putting. Most folks are not used to someone who doesn't act all nicey-nice with phony smiles and fake interest. Eventually people come to appreciate my forthright attitude and disdain for sugar coating.
Aries are *naive* - we do all the things that other people consider impossible, impractical, and make it happen. Many times in my life I have been told that I was *naive* to think I could do x y or z. Well guess what. I did it anyway. Naivete is one of our gifts. Our naivete allows us to push past the boundaries and limitations that most people live by and get it done. I don't like Lady Gaga's music, but I consider her to be a prototypical Aries in this sense. I saw an interview she did. She said she was constantly doing things people told her were impossible When asked what her greatest fear is, she replied that her fear was not being able to get all of her ideas out. That's what we are about.
To your other point, I am not loud and boisterous either.I'm actually kind of quiet. But I can and do speak up if neccessary. If I'm around someone outgoing, that will rub off on me. My gf is very social so she usually will do the talking (typical Gemini).
I do have a temper. Everyone has one. What makes us different is that we do not sublimate those feelings and stuff them down, smiling on the outside and seething on the inside. It is another facet of the straightforward nature of the Aries. If I am happy, you will know it. If I am enthusiastic about a project, you will know it. If I disagree with something, you will know it. So, it follows, if I am angry, you will know it, also. Once I have expressed my anger, it is out of my system, and I can go on with my day. I hold no grudges or resentment. I just need to get it out in the open. One issue is, as another poster said, is dealing with the shock that other people have from my expression of emotion. I Relate to you, bkbella, about knowing that my outbursts have hurt people. In fact, I have lost more than my share of jobs because of this. But, if I do hurt someone unintentionally I will apologize, if warranted.
If he wanted to be with you, he'd be with you. We Aries are simple and straightforward. If we want to be with you, you will know it. If I am in love with a woman I will move mountains to be with her.
He has already told you he doesn't think it will work out. We aries don't play games like that. I would not break up with a girl to create drama and have her chasing me.
If you do not have feelings for this Cancer guy, why are you using him as a placeholder? That's just plain cruel to keep someone around when you feel nothing for them. You're stringing him along to make yourself feel wanted, meanwhile he's developing feelings for you that are not returned.
Ditto for me. I don't have time to sit around analyzing myself and living in head. Though if the situation calls for it, im fully capable of assessing my behavior and making changes (action steps=aries). I choose to focus my energies on the manifestation of my goals. If there's a bump in the road, that's my cue to look inward. But otherwise, I consider excessive self analysis to be a waste of time. I'll leave that type of activity to the virgos--just Look at the number of posts in their forum.
It's not the geometric proportions of the Aries face that makes her (or him) beautiful. It's the confidence and leadership we exude; it draws followers and admirers to us. Even an Aries who is not conventionally "beautiful" will nonetheless carry herself like a warrior queen. My cousin is also an Aries, and a plus sized one at that. She has an Aquarius sister who is thinner, "prettier" and taller. Yet, Aries has always attracted better looking, higher quality mates than her Aqua sister. She acts as if she is just as attractive, if not more so, than her sister. Because she is convinced of her own attractiveness, so is the world.