Posted by LadyNeptune I heard a good description the other day. They are your friend if they would be hurt if you said they aren't a friend.
As for the other stuff, depends on the person really. There are some that can treetrunk and slip back into platonic friendship with zero intention or interest in treetrunking or pursuing a sexual or romantic relationship. I'm not that type of person, no shade tho to each their own. But I can get territorial so I choose not to treetrunk friends, or remain friends with ex's.
When I was single, every time I made friends with a guy, we'd hook up at some point down the line whether it was early on in the friendship or later on.
I can't be friends with exes. Just doesn't work for me. When it's over it's over.
Posted by Wizardz I never understand why people say that people of the opposite sex can't truly be platonic. Sounds so limiting to believe that. Most of my friends are female. If we have a moment where we feel intimate we just smile at each other and know that we want to keep it as friends..
Yes you can have friendship with romantic or sexual overtones as long as you are both happy with and understand and agree on the situation. I think it's a psychic thing where you both know you are comfortable with how the relationship is. If there is discordance then you need to step back and be more strict about being purely platonic.
I think you know when someone is a friend rather than an acquaintance. It's nothing to do with what you do together, for example you can go out with some work colleagues but they still won't necessarily feel like friends or you can see someone once a month for 10 minutes but they feel like a friend. It's to do with trust and mutual appreciation and a feeling of shared benefit in knowing each other
I mean I wonder if this is a generational thing because I've seen so often that men and women my age can start out as friends but in most cases they end up hooking up anyways. But I haven't seen that in older generations. Maybe has to do with our millennial/gen z social ways?