Posted by stillstillwater
In November he told me he's in love with me and wants to make it work. We didnt really get into the details of what that practically means. I took it to heart and promised myself I’d improve my communication skills and not assume things ending up being upset at him.
Fast forward to December, I find out that he went on vacation with his ex for his birthday (couple of months before he told me he's in love with me). I found out because I snooped his mom's facebook without intending to snoop for stuff like that (she posts pics of him sometimes so i was snooping for his pics cuz I missed him....don't judge me!) But instead, I find out a thread of convo that she mentions his vacay with his ex.
I confront him about this like hey so I guess you guys are back together. I'm happy for you. Wish you luck bla bla bla. He was a major marker in his response along the lines of “I don't know what your'e talking about. I don't want to be upset so please don't msg me about that as I'm spending the day with my family. “ I send him the screenshot of his mom's post and tell him to take care, wish him and her the best. He's like, "fine." So we don't talk for a while.
Then couple of weeks later he msgs me saying btw about the ex, we're not back together. I only went on vacay because she invited me for free and I was very lonely given my father's death bla bla bla. Weirdly, I believe him about the details but I do not believe that the intent was loneliness... I believe there were unresolved feelings.
So i just remained cordial… and decided not to take him serious moving forward at all.
Finding out about that was a huge STOP SIGN for me because it was a reality check that we are not even close to what I wanted.
However, he continues to message me and when opportunity presents flirts with me... but in a loving way rather than just cute/flirty. Saying how we would be great together and that I should be with him and that I mean everything to him. I stopped taking those words seriously and now just respond with an "lol" or something witty. I don't take it to heart. This stuff didn't bother me until recent.......... and something happened today just upset me.
Posted by Phangus
I like Astrotheme lately because I think the slightly wrong English write-ups are funny.
Minor Annoyance With Your Contacts
Moon in House VII
In the communication area, the day is not really impressive. Whether at work or at home, you have the feeling that everyone has become deaf. No one hears you and what you say receives no echo. Instead of complaining about an unwillingness to understand and taking the risk to create misunderstandings and conflicts, try to write down everything... And since you feel that you are cut off from the world, stay in your own! It is better than to follow the crowd at any cost and be influenced by people. Indeed, you may not forgive them, later on. Quietly wait until they get out of their personal bubble!