Am I doomed? Cap man/Taurus woman

Hi all Cappies hope you’re all well. I have read half of the forum upto page 164 and finally decided to post a question. Please be honest be brutal or what have you so I can make my mind up?

Long story short, met this cap man online things were going r ally well (long distance btw and I made it clear to him that I’m not dating as my divorce is not finalised won’t be fair on new guy and myself). He asked a lot about me etc. First 3 weeks was good until Chinese New Year he already told me he’ll be mega busy as it’s most important thing for them. He still text when he has a minute as he promised which was nice. Last couple of weeks he has been initiated conversation on daily basis even though it was just brief ones but some days can be an hour long. Anyhow up til Friday he still sending morning text apologising didn’t get back to me the reason etc. Suddenly nothing on Saturday and today...he’s been online frequently but nothing. I had initiated contact in the last I meant it was flowing smoothly.

He knew I will be in his country once lockdown lifted in the UK as before I met I already planned to relocate to his country for work and start new life. My question is, I do t know if it was something I said? The way I was or what caused him suddenly quiet? I’m pooping myself here as we both really liking forward meeting each other plus I understand we are not dating at all. He is not obliged to text me everyday but he did. He told me since he separated from his ex wife for 4 years and divorced a year now he hasn’t slept with any one just him and his ermm...right hand he said. My gut is telling me he met someone already. Please tell me whether I should live me life leave that door open and let him comes back whenever it would be while I get in with my life? Or wait another few days to see if I should send him a lighthearted message to see if he’s okay?

Please guide me with your Cappy point of view and since I had been ghosted almost 2 months ago by another Leo who came back not long I met this Cappy he apologised but I told him it’s too late.

If there’s anything you need to know feel free to ask as I just don’t know how to condense the whole story. Sorry this is too long now. Thank you in advance and I think I embraced myself for all the replies gonna hit me 👍🏻

Capricorn men are seriously focused on what they are doing at that moment. It's so bad that nothing or no one, can interfere with that process until it is solved. Moments are special for Capricorn in any occasion. You truly feel the moment when with a Capricorn because they are truly focus on you, thus why you feel neglected when the moment is over. Capricorn also respect time, as they expect you to respect your time as well. With Capricorn, there is a right time and right place for everything.

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Capricorn men are seriously focused on what they are doing at that moment. It's so bad that nothing or no one, can interfere with that process until it is solved. Moments are special for Capricorn in any occasion. You truly feel the moment when with a Capricorn because they are truly focus on you, thus why you feel neglected when the moment is over. Capricorn also respect time, as they expect you to respect your time as well. With Capricorn, there is a right time and right place for everything.

Thank you for your reply I thought my post will sink like my heart and no one will notice. Earlier on I thought if I reach out to him, no matter what it’ll be I have nothing to lose. Turned out his little man Tired him out this weekend and he started to tell me what they did and eventually back to his flirty self again (divorced guy son only spend time with him at wknds which he told me on the day we ‘met’).

Then he told me if our dates work he’d love to take me to the cruise he’s been on last week. He said he loved it and wanted to share that with me.

And I finally asked him his birthday date (a month after we started chatting lol) he happily told me and asked mine. And I was busy with my things couple of hours later checked my phone he just texted as his usual thing ‘I’m gonna hit the sack sweets’ that was it. He’s still call me sweets which I know I shouldn’t overthink and he did share his day with me sometimes, few weeks back he had an argument with his mum he walked out for a bit and back home the text me back when I asked him how was pizza with mum. He told me about things not all the time but I can pretty much get the general idea not in depth still. Not sure if these are signs he lets me in one of his many layers of walls or again I’m overthinking. I assured me today that my trip to his country in August made him excited (this trip already delayed due to covid which I planned to relocate years before I met him anyway).

I’m all over the place at the moment as I read from this forum I should be direct and honest with him what I want but I thought Cappies don’t like dealing with emotional stuff? But I rather find out where he expects us to go or I’m only just a booty call?

I'd be a little more patient and wait to see how things unfold. So far, his actions line up with his words. He may be pacing things because August is fairly far away and you guys don't want to burn out before you have a chance to meet. Let him woo and pursue while reassuring him you're still interested. A little support goes a long way with Caps.

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I'd be a little more patient and wait to see how things unfold. So far, his actions line up with his words. He may be pacing things because August is fairly far away and you guys don't want to burn out before you have a chance to meet. Let him woo and pursue while reassuring him you're still interested. A little support goes a long way with Caps.

Thank you for your reply 🙏🏻 I backed off a bit and look at it from different angle, yes you’re right if we too intense things would burn out way before August. Also he mentioned if the dates work and all good he will take me to do this and that etc. So I have to take his words l and the face value that he might be interested but really taking his time and pace. But is it still ok not to get in touch on daily basis? I’m not saying he has to but if not does it mean he’s on longer interested? And as far a little support goes a long way with Caps, please would you mind guide me on this one? I know the outcome would either be working or not at all but at least I’d like to give my best shot 🙏🏻🙏🏻 Thank you again xx

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I'd be a little more patient and wait to see how things unfold. So far, his actions line up with his words. He may be pacing things because August is fairly far away and you guys don't want to burn out before you have a chance to meet. Let him woo and pursue while reassuring him you're still interested. A little support goes a long way with Caps.

And how do I show him I’m still interested without being to pushy, clingy or needy? 😓 I’m just so rubbish

Omg I’m a Taurus dealing with a kind distance cap man as well! 🤦‍♀️ It’s frustrating. I respect that he’s busy and has a lot going on but it’s hard when you feel like they were behaving one way then switched up. I wish you luck with your cap I think I’m about over mine! The lack of communication is driving my insane and I just can’t handle constantly wondering if he’s rly busy or losing interest.

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Omg I’m a Taurus dealing with a kind distance cap man as well! 🤦‍♀️ It’s frustrating. I respect that he’s busy and has a lot going on but it’s hard when you feel like they were behaving one way then switched up. I wish you luck with your cap I think I’m about over mine! The lack of communication is driving my insane and I just can’t handle constantly wondering if he’s rly busy or losing interest.

Hello TaurusCap323,

After 5 days disappeared he came back to live like nothing happened and told me he was swamped with work....and he sent me morning text every morning again a brief chit chat and slow

Down again. He was off 2 days ago spending time with his son and first time I demanded if he can send me piccies of their day out and he did straight away! And we literally almost text for couple of hours since long time ago! And yesterday he text me saying he reached his target for the month and nothing to worry i praised him he Didn’t reply to those but carried on talking about work lol until he said he’s targeting to next quarter at least until my trip to his country in August so he was hinting he can take time off work as he mentioned previously if the date works out he would love to take me the cruise he been on earlier this month. Tbh I really don’t care where we go what we do, as long as I can Siena time with him to get to know him in person I’m more than happy.

Guess what? Heard nothing from him today and I’m scared of initiating as I heard they smfisije clingy emotional women. My mum whose shares same birthday as this Cappy man (15th Jan) said put star sign aside, even couple won’t text everyday, let alone we are not official or dating yet. I keep telling myself may be once or twice a week just send him a text to check in, and let him decide the rest. As you know we are stubborn as hell and I never give up or stop until I have an no as answer. It’s very hard, I was in such a happy mood yesterday as he was ‘there’ and kinda dull again today cuz his absence. But I’ll learn not to life my life around him and keep myself busy. In fact I am busy with work and next few Months will be horrendous as well. I really can’t wait to see if I’m allowed to travel in August as I wanna give it a shot at least I tried.

It is draining emotionally and last night as he was telling me his day and what he was doing I told myself he’s all chatty and ‘here’ today means he’s gonna be quiet tomorrow again. Yup I was right lol also it’s school holiday this week in his country so I’ll let him spending more time with his boy as he usually only have little man during weekend. Single Taurus mum dating single Cappy dad in a LDR, what the hell have I got myself into? Lol I wish you all the best too. I’m here if you need me we can always share our experiences or get things off our chests. I have just finished reading all 396 pages of Capricorn forum and I think I have better idea what they are like and how to control my emotions and handle this. If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen 🙂

Posted by Hamsthetics

Taurus f cap m is kinda unpopular and rare pairing...

And I heard it doesn’t work most of the time either 😓 it feels like I know I might crash into a wall but I’m still willing to take the wheel and drive lol if he ghosts me then that’ll be my answer may be? He’s gone for a day already i have started counting again like last time 😋

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Taurus f cap m is kinda unpopular and rare pairing...

I know one example and they are married.

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@xiongmao

Only time will tell for now and if we make it to meet up in August consider lockdown lifted travelling permitted, then we can at least have a date to take it from there. My downside is that I tend to plan things in advance and I need to know the exact date and time but being in the current situation I guess every single one of us won’t know what’s ahead of us in the future 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Posted by Hamsthetics

Taurus f cap m is kinda unpopular and rare pairing...

And I heard it doesn’t work most of the time either 😓 it feels like I know I might crash into a wall but I’m still willing to take the wheel and drive lol if he ghosts me then that’ll be my answer may be? He’s gone for a day already i have started counting again like last time 😋

Well good luck for u, but have u tried Virgo or Pisces? I've seen Taurus women in very happy relationship with them 🙂

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@Hamsthetics thank you for your comment 😊 there is a Virgo guy I knew him for 20+ years and it’s very obvious he always has feeling for me but he never confess.all our mutual friends said I should give him hint etc. But deep down I see him as a very close friend at this stage still, nothing beyond that. May be our time hasn’t arrived yet. Life is just funny sometimes 😊

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Taurus f cap m is kinda unpopular and rare pairing...

I know one example and they are married.

Who wear the pants in those relationship?

Probably the Cap for this example, but I don't know for sure.

Don't get fooled, i know a Taurus woman who controlled her powerful Aquarius husband behind the scene.

My point is, a Capricorn would never tolerate that kind of dominance behaviour. And maybe thats why this pairing is very rare.

So if OP didn't try to control this Cap, she should be fine yes? 🙂

We all know it's not only THAT :p

Taurus + Cap pairing faced one of the greatest challenges in a relationship: Lack of passion and boredom.

I pray for it to get off the ground.

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I will keep you guys posted 😊

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Posted by Hamsthetics

Taurus f cap m is kinda unpopular and rare pairing...

I know one example and they are married.

Who wear the pants in those relationship?

Probably the Cap for this example, but I don't know for sure.

Don't get fooled, i know a Taurus woman who controlled her powerful Aquarius husband behind the scene.

My point is, a Capricorn would never tolerate that kind of dominance behaviour. And maybe thats why this pairing is very rare.

So if OP didn't try to control this Cap, she should be fine yes? 🙂

We all know it's not only THAT :p

Taurus + Cap pairing faced one of the greatest challenges in a relationship: Lack of passion and boredom.

I pray for it to get off the ground.

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I will keep you guys posted 😊

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Posted by Hamsthetics

Taurus f cap m is kinda unpopular and rare pairing...

And I heard it doesn’t work most of the time either 😓 it feels like I know I might crash into a wall but I’m still willing to take the wheel and drive lol if he ghosts me then that’ll be my answer may be? He’s gone for a day already i have started counting again like last time 😋

Well good luck for u, but have u tried Virgo or Pisces? I've seen Taurus women in very happy relationship with them 🙂

@Hamsthetics thank you for your comment 😊 there is a Virgo guy I knew him for 20+ years and it’s very obvious he always has feeling for me but he never confess.all our mutual friends said I should give him hint etc. But deep down I see him as a very close friend at this stage still, nothing beyond that. May be our time hasn’t arrived yet. Life is just funny sometimes 😊

Virguys are way more talkative than Capricorns can ever be. It's good to balancing out the fixed Taurus women.

I personally find Taurus f + Virguys as the best earth + earth combination 😉

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This Virgo guy I know he’s an introvert 😓 not very talkative but all depends. He can be a little chatty sometimes but he lets me do the talk he always said 🤷🏻‍♀️ The Cappy guy is hot and cold. He will left my message as ‘read’ and no reply and suddenly he will text me with something else, very weird and I find it hard to engage or keep a conversation flowing sometimes. I’m not sure if it’s due to I feel nervous what to say or deep down I just can’t accept the fact that we aren’t compatible? Low earlier on today, we were texting smoothly, he asked me about my injured leg so I told him after some pain killers I’m ok and he said it’s his turn for sprain today since he text me hours before that he finished his 65km bike ride. Anyhow, he replied ‘ I am allergic to painkillers and gel’ which I knew so I asked him how did he find the new med hospital gave him, also sent him some pics while I was out for fresh air. Nothing until just now, he deleted a message and second one was ‘haven’t taken it yet’. I felt like I have said something wrong? So I left it and before I posted this message, I texted him just to say good morning. I don’t know why I’m doing this to myself. Am I being toyed? I don’t know but as I mentioned previously unless he gives me a flat ‘no’ in my face otherwise I might keep going until I crash and hurt myself again.

Sorry about my dreading long reply. I have asked myself a lot lately, what the hell am I doing?

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Posted by Hamsthetics

Taurus f cap m is kinda unpopular and rare pairing...

And I heard it doesn’t work most of the time either 😓 it feels like I know I might crash into a wall but I’m still willing to take the wheel and drive lol if he ghosts me then that’ll be my answer may be? He’s gone for a day already i have started counting again like last time 😋

Well good luck for u, but have u tried Virgo or Pisces? I've seen Taurus women in very happy relationship with them 🙂

@Hamsthetics thank you for your comment 😊 there is a Virgo guy I knew him for 20+ years and it’s very obvious he always has feeling for me but he never confess.all our mutual friends said I should give him hint etc. But deep down I see him as a very close friend at this stage still, nothing beyond that. May be our time hasn’t arrived yet. Life is just funny sometimes 😊

Virguys are way more talkative than Capricorns can ever be. It's good to balancing out the fixed Taurus women.

I personally find Taurus f + Virguys as the best earth + earth combination 😉

This Virgo guy I know he’s an introvert 😓 not very talkative but all depends. He can be a little chatty sometimes but he lets me do the talk he always said 🤷🏻‍♀️ The Cappy guy is hot and cold. He will left my message as ‘read’ and no reply and suddenly he will text me with something else, very weird and I find it hard to engage or keep a conversation flowing sometimes. I’m not sure if it’s due to I feel nervous what to say or deep down I just can’t accept the fact that we aren’t compatible? Low earlier on today, we were texting smoothly, he asked me about my injured leg so I told him after some pain killers I’m ok and he said it’s his turn for sprain today since he text me hours before that he finished his 65km bike ride. Anyhow, he replied ‘ I am allergic to painkillers and gel’ which I knew so I asked him how did he find the new med hospital gave him, also sent him some pics while I was out for fresh air. Nothing until just now, he deleted a message and second one was ‘haven’t taken it yet’. I felt like I have said something wrong? So I left it and before I posted this message, I texted him just to say good morning. I don’t know why I’m doing this to myself. Am I being toyed? I don’t know but as I mentioned previously unless he gives me a flat ‘no’ in my face otherwise I might keep going until I crash and hurt myself again.

Sorry about my dreading long reply. I have asked myself a lot lately, what the hell am I doing?

Well my advice is you should give yourself a deadline. The rewards of Cap m + Taurus f relationship is not known to be that special so why wasting so many times and energy on it?

Also, why don't you try to post it on the Taurus forum, maybe some of your fellows Taurus ladies have some experiences with Capricorns. 🙂

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I do have a deadline in mind and posted on the Taurus forum at the same time as this, pretty much identical but no reply yet and kept being pushed to the bottom lol ah well. My trip to his country was planned before I ‘met’ him so I will stick with the trip but whether meeting him in person is a different story since August still a long time from now, of it fades out, it’s no point I guess. And I definitely learnt after this post and read all 396 pages of this forum, live my life and keep myself busy. Spend my energy on myself and my life don’t live around him. Let the time unfolds it for me/us. Thank you so so much for your reply. It’s nice to hear from you 🙂

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Taurus f cap m is kinda unpopular and rare pairing...

And I heard it doesn’t work most of the time either 😓 it feels like I know I might crash into a wall but I’m still willing to take the wheel and drive lol if he ghosts me then that’ll be my answer may be? He’s gone for a day already i have started counting again like last time 😋

Well good luck for u, but have u tried Virgo or Pisces? I've seen Taurus women in very happy relationship with them 🙂

@Hamsthetics thank you for your comment 😊 there is a Virgo guy I knew him for 20+ years and it’s very obvious he always has feeling for me but he never confess.all our mutual friends said I should give him hint etc. But deep down I see him as a very close friend at this stage still, nothing beyond that. May be our time hasn’t arrived yet. Life is just funny sometimes 😊

Virguys are way more talkative than Capricorns can ever be. It's good to balancing out the fixed Taurus women.

I personally find Taurus f + Virguys as the best earth + earth combination 😉

This Virgo guy I know he’s an introvert 😓 not very talkative but all depends. He can be a little chatty sometimes but he lets me do the talk he always said 🤷🏻‍♀️ The Cappy guy is hot and cold. He will left my message as ‘read’ and no reply and suddenly he will text me with something else, very weird and I find it hard to engage or keep a conversation flowing sometimes. I’m not sure if it’s due to I feel nervous what to say or deep down I just can’t accept the fact that we aren’t compatible? Low earlier on today, we were texting smoothly, he asked me about my injured leg so I told him after some pain killers I’m ok and he said it’s his turn for sprain today since he text me hours before that he finished his 65km bike ride. Anyhow, he replied ‘ I am allergic to painkillers and gel’ which I knew so I asked him how did he find the new med hospital gave him, also sent him some pics while I was out for fresh air. Nothing until just now, he deleted a message and second one was ‘haven’t taken it yet’. I felt like I have said something wrong? So I left it and before I posted this message, I texted him just to say good morning. I don’t know why I’m doing this to myself. Am I being toyed? I don’t know but as I mentioned previously unless he gives me a flat ‘no’ in my face otherwise I might keep going until I crash and hurt myself again.

Sorry about my dreading long reply. I have asked myself a lot lately, what the hell am I doing?

Well my advice is you should give yourself a deadline. The rewards of Cap m + Taurus f relationship is not known to be that special so why wasting so many times and energy on it?

Also, why don't you try to post it on the Taurus forum, maybe some of your fellows Taurus ladies have some experiences with Capricorns. 🙂

I do have a deadline in mind and posted on the Taurus forum at the same time as this, pretty much identical but no reply yet and kept being pushed to the bottom lol ah well. My trip to his country was planned before I ‘met’ him so I will stick with the trip but whether meeting him in person is a different story since August still a long time from now, of it fades out, it’s no point I guess. And I definitely learnt after this post and read all 396 pages of this forum, live my life and keep myself busy. Spend my energy on myself and my life don’t live around him. Let the time unfolds it for me/us. Thank you so so much for your reply. It’s nice to hear from you 🙂

Thats nice you're trying to keep being positive. Nothing attracts Capricorns more than a positive person 🙂

Also, maybe u might enjoy this book, they give a lot useful tips on what to do when you're entering a relationship with Capricorn. Just cick "GET" to download it. Good luck!

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Aww many thanks! Never know there’s books for relationship with star sign! I have noticed if I was going through some negative time, he reciprocated. And I’m always positive but can’t help to experience some ‘down’ time though. He broken his ankle and ended up resting at home today. I fell asleep while I was eating for his update. Just text him and asked how he is, he sounds happy to hear from me very responsive and telling me what’s he doing etc. He seems a little more open lately telling me a lot about his day, his plan etc. I will keeping things slow at his pace, be friends with him first, gain his trust and see how things go. Even ended with just friends I’ll be happy as long as he does ghost me which I made it clear when we ‘met’ online that if he sick of chatting with me just say so, don’t ghost me lol thank you again for the book, I’ll download it now for my lunch break read 🙂

I’m hoping so too. Is it normal for them to become a little jealous around you once they feel a bit more comfortable with you? He was jealous over something I mentioned the other day 🤷🏻‍♀️ And he started to tell me more and more about his day and even asked me to have a look at his proposal to see what I think of it. But yeh one day full on and next day none still happens. I’m going to try keeping the initiation at minimal not that I’m playing hard to get, but constantly in each other’s face can be a lot at this stage I guess? Even some couples don’t text or call everyday, he definitely knows I’m interested...

The most important for me now is to overcome the fear of rejections and to rebuild the confidence that I lost from past relationship. Today I’m tired and grumpy so I’ll leave it for a day as I don’t feel like texting anyone at all 😭

Thank you @Hamsthetics for your input, and I also read the book you mentioned above, very helpful and I enjoyed it. Thank you so much ❤️❤️ Only time will tell now and please pray for me travelling will be permitted by August not just because of him, I really need to get things moving for my relocation plan 🙏🏻🙏🏻

The first step I do now is to learn to love myself. As I’m doing ok so far, my insecurity is trying to ruin everything for me. We had a good flow of conversation over an hour yesterday and towards the end I have to get on with some works so he replied ‘good timing. I have to get busy soon’ it was almost 10pm in his side. He said thank you sweets you made my day, I didn’t see that message 15 minutes later I replied I’d do it again. Good night. I felt ok at that point until I saw the message was read at his time at 3am, which he never up at that time. I don’t know why my gut feeling was telling me he went on a date may be even for a booty call and home or reached his phone at that time again. I couldn’t sleep it’s been six hours now since I saw he ‘read’ my message I felt sick. All in the sudden I feel that I’m lying to myself and he’s only using me. I didn’t cry I just feel sh*t, I have to rebuild all the self esteem I lost from my previous relationship which lasted 15 years of constant silent treatments, name callings, neglected, lack of support and taken for granted. Or I should not start any relationship with anyone until I’m healed. He’s aware of all these because he’s divorced and asked me about why I’m separated and a Lot of Questions about my last relationship. Anyway I must healed before anything serious begins whether with him or not in order to have a healthy relationship.

I really appreciate you being there for me @Hamsthetics I feel like a idiot right now for some reasons but I will concentrate on myself no matter what’s going to hit me ❤️

Thank you so much 😊 I’m Taurus - Cancer just read it and I feel naked lol