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so what now? (PS: long post)
Wow. You are a TRUE thirst-bucket 🤦
You've been chasing this dude for a long time. What a shame.
You've been chasing this dude for a long time. What a shame.
How does one fall ‘unknowingly’ into a relationship.
From what you’ve written seems like he’s using you, his stage 5 clinger pen pal, as a distraction/ego boost after the disappointment of his marriage.
And am I reading this correctly? He has a baby with his ex?
From what you’ve written seems like he’s using you, his stage 5 clinger pen pal, as a distraction/ego boost after the disappointment of his marriage.
And am I reading this correctly? He has a baby with his ex?
OP is stupid and I love her. Keep up the good work OP and he will come back and be the man you want him to be.
Posted by emeraldgem
Why are you posting ANOTHER thread on the SAME problem——? arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgghhhhhhhh!
I think it’s in case you’ve missed one - there is another. Is it really so hard to understand? 🧟♀️
Btw was another one copy/paste of this one or written differently? Maybe she just likes to write...same shit...like kittens? 😂😂😂
Posted by LibraSupreme
OP is stupid and I love her. Keep up the good work OP and he will come back and be the man you want him to be.
Why? Don’t you believe he is able to change into happily ever after? 🤷♀️🤔🤕
It is VERY normal for a Capricorn to want space and even go into their own thing for whatever amount of days... this is especially true if they feel comfortable with you.
However, I think that practically you can set up some rules taht work for you such as may be he can have his alone time but not leave the convo mid way instead he can communicate he needs space and will reach out when ready.
Also though, it is not realistic for him to go 4 days without any communication for a committed relationship. It's okay to want space but what if you really need him? So the habit of not picking up or not reading messages is a bit careless.
I think he has a lot on his place and it seems like even his parents are a bit demanding. There is no one I talk to every day and if I had to call my mom or ANYONE every single day I'd go crazy. The only person I can talk to every single day is a romatnic partner who can help me unwind,vent or laugh.
So I don't think he's a bad guy or has bad intentions with you... I think he has some habits that are not well suited for a committed relationship. I'd look at teh habits as the enemy and not him.
However, I think that practically you can set up some rules taht work for you such as may be he can have his alone time but not leave the convo mid way instead he can communicate he needs space and will reach out when ready.
Also though, it is not realistic for him to go 4 days without any communication for a committed relationship. It's okay to want space but what if you really need him? So the habit of not picking up or not reading messages is a bit careless.
I think he has a lot on his place and it seems like even his parents are a bit demanding. There is no one I talk to every day and if I had to call my mom or ANYONE every single day I'd go crazy. The only person I can talk to every single day is a romatnic partner who can help me unwind,vent or laugh.
So I don't think he's a bad guy or has bad intentions with you... I think he has some habits that are not well suited for a committed relationship. I'd look at teh habits as the enemy and not him.
You can't get mad at him every time he needs space though. The ideal scenario would be if he could text you "hey do not feel like talking today or may be any time soon...will let you know" and that youd be completely supportive of that... and not judge him.
Or that you don't expect long conversations and video chats constantly. That's a bit exhausting...
Or that you don't expect long conversations and video chats constantly. That's a bit exhausting...
Aries need for communication is so different than Capricorn unless each has more of the elements in the other.
I remember my Aries gf just constantly talking on her phone with her bff. I think her and I had that potential but our communication needs were so different. Even though I loved her company, I could not imagine to just blabber on the phone with her about minor details knowing I can just talk to her person.
Granted, romantically, patterns should touch base every day. I mean that'd be my expectation just to touch base and not every day has to be long conversations or heavily involved.
I remember my Aries gf just constantly talking on her phone with her bff. I think her and I had that potential but our communication needs were so different. Even though I loved her company, I could not imagine to just blabber on the phone with her about minor details knowing I can just talk to her person.
Granted, romantically, patterns should touch base every day. I mean that'd be my expectation just to touch base and not every day has to be long conversations or heavily involved.
Has he finalized his divorce?
Posted by DMV
Has he finalized his divorce?
Yeah...sure! Except her and his parents had met...
Now I am bamboozled...🤷♀️
Posted by GemitatiPosted by LibraSupreme
OP is stupid and I love her. Keep up the good work OP and he will come back and be the man you want him to be.
Why? Don’t you believe he is able to change into happily ever after? 🤷♀️🤔🤕click to expand
Lol Geminiati, your one of the funniest with your sarcastic comments. You and a few others make dxp worth the login
Posted by LibraSupremePosted by GemitatiPosted by LibraSupreme
OP is stupid and I love her. Keep up the good work OP and he will come back and be the man you want him to be.
Why? Don’t you believe he is able to change into happily ever after? 🤷♀️🤔🤕
Lol Geminiati, your one of the funniest with your sarcastic comments. You and a few others make dxp worth the loginclick to expand
Thank you for stating the obvious...🤷♀️
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Okay, here it goes.
I met the cap man on snapchat we chatted back and forth occasionally for a good 4-6 months. Random comments on each other post. Nothing serious. Then he began commenting a little more often and we started getting to know each other.
I wrote everything on my tumblr. It is very looong. so yeah... There are a lot of events that are not mention that made me and the capricorn man become really close. But i would be writing a novel lol xD
http://myheartshacked.tumblr.com/post/1652090034
I wrote everything on my tumblr. It is very looong. so yeah... There are a lot of events that are not mention that made me and the capricorn man become really close. But i would be writing a novel lol xD
http://myheartshacked.tumblr.com/post/1652090034
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Capricorn Boyfriend : Uncontactable = Lost in his own world clearing his mind
We are both 31 this year and in a long distance relationship currently. I greatly appreciate if anyone can go through the lengthy story and tell me what I should do.
We met each other online 7 years ago when I was already in the workforce while he just completed his studies. We were just friends but we video call every night and sometimes in the morning as well apart from texting. Even when we have nothing to talk about sometimes due to language barrier (we communicate in English however we still have some communication gap), he will still look at me and smile. Sometimes he would make his mum talk to me (we can communicate as we are able to speak the same language) when he takes a shower.
Talking for 6-7 months, I have decided to fly over for a holiday with my family and suggested that maybe we can arrange for a meet up 1 day. He said he could even bring us around. However, none of it happened and he disappeared a few days before my arrival. His only reason was “he is busy”.
Since then we stopped talking but I decided to message him on Facebook 1 year later when I saw he posted a photo with a female. I asked how he was doing and if he had a gf, he replied he does not have a gf and he said he is doing fine but busy as he changed a job and asked how I was and said he is hardly on Facebook. He once again disappeared after my turn to reply.
1-2 years later when I posted on my grandma’s passing, he messaged me and asked if I am alright and if I needed any help. With his bad record, I couldn’t be much bothered to take him even as a friend so I just replied “Thanks for your concern” and that was it. Looking back at the messages pattern , he would send a “how are you” message but never bother to check on my reply.
However, when I saw his mother posting a family photo with a female in the picture, it was obvious he had a gf. I am unable to explain the feeling but I felt that the girl in the family photo should be me and not her. I felt I could be a better partner for him than what she could offer. I proceeded to unfollow him on Instagram and blocked him on Facebook as I no longer wanted to be have this imaginary friendship for good as I cannot bring myself to see him showing off his love (if he ever post any) . However, when his mother posting that he has a baby with the girl, I felt genuinely happy for him and his family. And I was able to have a closure in my mind somehow.
Late last year, he started to like my posts which was surprising as he is hardly on social media. And few months later, he sent me a message and send his regards. I replied as usual not expecting him to respond but he did and ask if we could exchange number to have a chat. I agreed and upon chatting, the first thing he did was to apologize for disappearing when I visited and when I probed further, he said that he was afraid as he have not met someone online before and he did not know how to react.
He then mention that he is going through a divorce at the moment. He did not go into the details until a few weeks of daily chatting and he said that his ex said she was pregnant when he was about to leave her as he found out that she has been lying about everything including her background and they registered marriage for the sake of the child. However things got worse as she constantly fight with him and would carry the baby out of the house and go missing and constantly ask for money and used his credit card while throwing away the bills until the bank call him to ask for payments and he then realise she transferred all his money away. He shouted for the first time at a person and he asked her to leave and that was the last time he saw her and their baby.
Putting his story behind, we got along well and he texted me everyday and talk till late night. It felt exactly like how it was 7 years ago, but closer and more matured. Nonetheless, I did not have any expectations as I have my walls high up as I cannot afford to be And he check on me everyday when my dad fell sick and I was at the hospital everyday. We first met up in February and everything went well, we spend time together. Somehow, as we progress, he started to reveal his true self in a way. He will go missing on weekend and try not to talk as much. Whenever I try to address my concern, he will be patient with me and explain that he want some time on his own and he is already doing his best for me as his mother wants him to call her daily but he did not while he contact me almost everyday and that his work is actually very tiring after looking at numbers he just want to have sometime on his own. Or when he is sick, he will disappear for 4-5 days till the extend I wonder if he is still alive as he just stop replying during a conversation half way and disappear.
After my dad passed away, somehow we got into a relationship unknowingly and everything progress in a fast pace. He too agreed as well that everything between the 2 of us is progressing quickly due to everything that is happening but it is in a good way and he just hope to settle his divorce so that he can move over to the same city as I am. However, he is no longer so communicative as he was in the beginning. I start to realise, he is does not really like to talk , he sleep at 10pm while he use to be able to talk on the phone till 2-3am , and he is very focused at work. I start to wonder if I am just a rebound. At times I will tell him that perhaps we should not be together because I do not want to be a rebound which he assure that I am not and also I just lost my dad and my dog which being in my life at this point somehow requires a lot in a man which he said he is ready and he know what he is getting into.
He spent time with my mother and my extended family when we go on trips, and they like him very much. And his family met my mother and they got along very well. We have plans for our future, and that’s when I slowly let my guards down and learn to understand that he does need his alone time and I am already getting use to the fact that he will go to his “cave” (as he hate that I use the word disappear) . Somehow, he disappeared in a midst of a conversation. He is in his new job and has a higher responsibilities and he mentioned he was sick , I tried to show concern but he did not even read my message and when I call, he reject my call. If I have to be honest, anxiety take a toll on me whenever he does this. And as I am typing this, it’s the 5th day he is uncontactable . If he is dead, I am sure his parents will contact me. If he is not, I don’t understand why am I going through this. I have my career and I worked hard and am considerably successful for my age as compared to my peers but I feel like a failure because I allow myself to be in such a situation. I have been single for 10 years as I was focused on my work and I was happy and independent. I don’t need a man because I don’t need to rely on one. He said he did his best for me even more than what he did for his parents and ask what more can he do for me.
However, at this point of time. I am losing my own judgement and feel that I am losing myself. Just last week when he came to visit me, we hugged at the airport and we felt connected and it was so natural as compared to the previous time. When we speak, I realise he has me in his future plans even though he no longer talk to me on video call or phone calls. I felt bad for being angry when I hear him talking about future plans but just 1-2 days after he disappear for 5 days and counting. I am having difficulty convincing myself of his behavior. I have stop messaging him for 2 days and I am prepared to leave this relationship for good but on the other hand, I don’t know if I am doing the right thing. We came a long way, our ultimate destination is the same but the process is killing me. I can move on easily if he decided that we should not see each other anymore but I do not like this feeling of being left hanging there. He did mention that I am the only one that understand him the most and that I am his soulmate , is that why he is so himself?
I wonder if this is a typical Capricorn and aries problem .
What should I do?