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8 Years
Are we human capable of unconditional love?
That's just like polygamy. It's quite common for hundreds of years.
At least in here. Lol.
Couldn't this lady handle all this man's shenanigans while remaining faithful, without any stress-relievers on the side? is that possible for anyone to do?
Yes
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What makes you say that?
Couldn't this lady handle all this man's shenanigans while remaining faithful, without any stress-relievers on the side? is that possible for anyone to do?
Yes
What makes you say that?
Your brain most strongly impels you to take action which will support your survival, in a case like this where her immediate physical needs are met (food/shelter/clean water) her choice to see men on the side is an unnecessary indulgence
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What about the fact that stress can kill you?
Couldn't this lady handle all this man's shenanigans while remaining faithful, without any stress-relievers on the side? is that possible for anyone to do?
Yes I think she could. But why would she?
Couldn't this lady handle all this man's shenanigans while remaining faithful, without any stress-relievers on the side? is that possible for anyone to do?
Yes I think she could. But why would she?
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Radical acceptance
Are we really?
This aries woman who's married to a Capricorn man and has 4 kids with him says that he introduces his girlfriends to her and the kids and she allows them to come over and stay over and lets him sleep with them in the house all because she loves him.. At first I thought this was the primary example of unconditional love and radical acceptance on her part.. but then she told me she entertains men on the side that her husband knows nothing about in order to cope with all the stress that comes with all his shenanigans and to keep sane... Which leads me to ask this question... are we mentally and emotionally capable to fully accept and love someone, just as they are, with all their flaws and faults? Couldn't this lady handle all this man's shenanigans while remaining faithful, without any stress-relievers on the side? is that possible for anyone to do?
Ah there's the problem he's a Cap. Explains alot. My advice drop the zero & find herself a hero. But then again not knowing the entire story of their relationship can't say for sure. He definitely sounds like a complete @ $ $ hole.
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Yes he is. He once almost killed her when he found out she was messing around with someone else. Beat her up so bad she almost died.
Couldn't this lady handle all this man's shenanigans while remaining faithful, without any stress-relievers on the side? is that possible for anyone to do?
Yes I think she could. But why would she?
Radical acceptance
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Well I really think she is obviously accepting him exactly as he is. It’s doesn’t mean that she has to comply to what he expects of her.
Neither of them are showing unconditional love to their children. Bringing random fuck buddies into their home, exposing their children to that is so cringe.
Are we really?
This aries woman who's married to a Capricorn man and has 4 kids with him says that he introduces his girlfriends to her and the kids and she allows them to come over and stay over and lets him sleep with them in the house all because she loves him.. At first I thought this was the primary example of unconditional love and radical acceptance on her part.. but then she told me she entertains men on the side that her husband knows nothing about in order to cope with all the stress that comes with all his shenanigans and to keep sane... Which leads me to ask this question... are we mentally and emotionally capable to fully accept and love someone, just as they are, with all their flaws and faults? Couldn't this lady handle all this man's shenanigans while remaining faithful, without any stress-relievers on the side? is that possible for anyone to do?
Ah there's the problem he's a Cap. Explains alot. My advice drop the zero & find herself a hero. But then again not knowing the entire story of their relationship can't say for sure. He definitely sounds like a complete @ $ $ hole.
Yes he is. He once almost killed her when he found out she was messing around with someone else. Beat her up so bad she almost died.
OMG seriously that's disgusting. Maybe I'm doing something right as I've never had a man even pinch me. Is she still with him?
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Yes she is.. and from what I've seen she aint going nowhere!
Are we really?
This aries woman who's married to a Capricorn man and has 4 kids with him says that he introduces his girlfriends to her and the kids and she allows them to come over and stay over and lets him sleep with them in the house all because she loves him.. At first I thought this was the primary example of unconditional love and radical acceptance on her part.. but then she told me she entertains men on the side that her husband knows nothing about in order to cope with all the stress that comes with all his shenanigans and to keep sane... Which leads me to ask this question... are we mentally and emotionally capable to fully accept and love someone, just as they are, with all their flaws and faults? Couldn't this lady handle all this man's shenanigans while remaining faithful, without any stress-relievers on the side? is that possible for anyone to do?
This poor girl needed stress relief somewhere dealing with this demonic creature. Not advocating bein a hoe but I feel for this girl so can understand she needed comfort somewhere
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Yeah.. just hope her husband doesn't find out and kill her this time
Neither of them are showing unconditional love to their children. Bringing random fuck buddies into their home, exposing their children to that is so cringe.
It's his girlfriends.. there's 2 of them
Are we really?
This aries woman who's married to a Capricorn man and has 4 kids with him says that he introduces his girlfriends to her and the kids and she allows them to come over and stay over and lets him sleep with them in the house all because she loves him.. At first I thought this was the primary example of unconditional love and radical acceptance on her part.. but then she told me she entertains men on the side that her husband knows nothing about in order to cope with all the stress that comes with all his shenanigans and to keep sane... Which leads me to ask this question... are we mentally and emotionally capable to fully accept and love someone, just as they are, with all their flaws and faults? Couldn't this lady handle all this man's shenanigans while remaining faithful, without any stress-relievers on the side? is that possible for anyone to do?
I don't get how she means "stress-relievers".. Wouldn't involving more people ADD to the stress?
Which leads me to ask this question... are we mentally and emotionally capable to fully accept and love someone, just as they are, with all their flaws and faults? Couldn't this lady handle all this man's shenanigans while remaining faithful, without any stress-relievers on the side? is that possible for anyone to do?
The answer to this question lies in the heart of love itself. Everyone is confused thinking love is about themselves. Selfish love doesn't really count. It's self rewarding so it will fail always. It's that constant "me, me, me, I, I, I, I want, I want, I want" that everyone has hissing from their mouths that they think is love, but is so far from it.
Love is the enduring selfless sacrificing for another human being. The willingness to give instead of take, the willingness to silently suffer so another person doesn't have to, the willingness to with your eyes wide open see a train wreck of a human being and say to yourself, "What this world tried to destroy, I will try to build anew with my bare hands." Thoughts of self are fought the entire time when real love is occurring.
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So does that include putting up with being mistreated by your SO all in the name of love?
Are we really?
This aries woman who's married to a Capricorn man and has 4 kids with him says that he introduces his girlfriends to her and the kids and she allows them to come over and stay over and lets him sleep with them in the house all because she loves him.. At first I thought this was the primary example of unconditional love and radical acceptance on her part.. but then she told me she entertains men on the side that her husband knows nothing about in order to cope with all the stress that comes with all his shenanigans and to keep sane... Which leads me to ask this question... are we mentally and emotionally capable to fully accept and love someone, just as they are, with all their flaws and faults? Couldn't this lady handle all this man's shenanigans while remaining faithful, without any stress-relievers on the side? is that possible for anyone to do?
I don't get how she means "stress-relievers".. Wouldn't involving more people ADD to the stress?
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Not necessarily
You're confusing loyalty with unconditional love. There's people that remain loyal to their partner - despite of feeling a lot of hate for the one in question (most of the time). Apparently, the fear of the unknown is more terrifying. As the saying goes... "better the devil you know than the devil you don't"
Same goes for people who can't find the courage to quit a job they hate - or to leave a toxic family.
Oh wow, this sounds nearly identical to my Caps friend setup with his Aries wife. The only thing is that they usually don't hide anything from eachother. He brings women in, or she brings women in, and they both sleep with them. He told me the other day though that she slept with his military friend, which he thought was beyond foul. I told him they've created this bed, so there's no use to having boundaries now.
They are very loyal to eachother, but I think the friend thing messed him up, which all he's going to do is get payback. I don't think either of them love this setup, but they are enjoying doing what they want to do.
Have you ever watched tv, and just zoned out all the commercials? Like over time you learned there is nothing you can do about it, no matter how annoying they are, so you just keep quiet and ride them out till the show comes back on.
Thats exactly what committment is.
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Are we really?
This aries woman who's married to a Capricorn man and has 4 kids with him says that he introduces his girlfriends to her and the kids and she allows them to come over and stay over and lets him sleep with them in the house all because she loves him.. At first I thought this was the primary example of unconditional love and radical acceptance on her part.. but then she told me she entertains men on the side that her husband knows nothing about in order to cope with all the stress that comes with all his shenanigans and to keep sane... Which leads me to ask this question... are we mentally and emotionally capable to fully accept and love someone, just as they are, with all their flaws and faults? Couldn't this lady handle all this man's shenanigans while remaining faithful, without any stress-relievers on the side? is that possible for anyone to do?