Are Gemini men obvious when they are interested?

I realize Geminis tend to be hot and cold but is it clear when they are actually interested in someone? I've met this Gemini and I'm not sure what to make of him. He is 39 and I am 30. According to a couple of mutual friends, he isn't ready for anything serious. I don't think he has ever had at a serious relationship but I could be wrong. We have had very little interaction but even these have been confusing.

I met Gemini at a friend's house when he approached me. It turns out he was interested in me but I didn't realize at the time. He had approached me alone when I was talking to someone else so I didn't pay much attention so he left and came back with his friend who introduced us. After that night, his friend asked my friend if I had a bf. He was pretty shy and barely spoke so I had no indication he was interested at the time. Then a few months later, my friend spoke to him and told him she wanted to set us up. She said his response was a positive one - he said something like "let's do it". Apparently another friend told him I'm quiet (which can be true depending on the circumstances) and he's response to that was "that's ok I'll make her talk."

Then nothing else happened for months. I saw him again and this time we spoke quite a bit. I was with my cousin who later said Gemini practically ignored her and another person in the room and was focused on me the entire time. But again - that was it. Until last week, my friend had a gathering at her house again. He was there and when he saw me, the first thing he said was that he liked what I was wearing. The rest of the night, we were both with our own circle of friends.

But at the end of the night, I went to pick up my jacket and my keys to leave. He was engaged in another conversation so I just walked behind him toward the door to leave. As I was walking by, he made a side glance and noticed I was leaving so in the middle of his conversation with someone else, he turned around and asked me if I was leaving. We then started talking again but this conversation was different from the others we had. Namely, I was asking most of the questions and basically carrying the conversation and he was just answering my questions in detail. To be honest, at one point it felt like I was conducting an interview. But he wasn't ending the conversation - i'd ask a question, he would answer and then intensely stare at me, completely focused on me, like he was waiting for me to ask or say something next. Honestly, I think the only reason that conversation ended at all was because I finally just stopped asking him questions and said I had to leave. Otherwise, he would have just stood there staring at me. We then hugged and both walked out. As I was walking to my ride's car, he drove by and waved at me with a big grin, almost like an excited child.

I feel like he likely is not interested because I believe that if a man is into you, he will take some action. But then again, if he isn't ready for anything serious, even if he is interested, he won't make it known. I'd appreciate your thoughts on this. I know the little interactions we've had may not be enough to know if he is interested so if that's the case, let me know what to look out for when I see him again. Thanks!

Very obvious, almost clingy.

IME if they are interested you will know.

You've been meeting by chance for months, do these conversations ever lead to him asking for your number? Cause if not, he may not be interested in anything more than a flirt and chat when he runs into you.

Posted by Wizardz

Yes he likes you

Lol this is so funny reading this as a Gem male

First of all you are the right age for him at 30. That's a huge plus for us

A friend told him "you're quiet" and he said "that's ok I'll make her talk" - then you describe the convo you had where he just responded to your questions in detail and then stared waiting for you to ask the next question - aka "making you talk" 😁 did you not connect the two?

Anyway, yes he is into you but if you're expecting him to come and sweep you off your feet with romantic gestures "taking action" then you're probably going to be disappointed. He will feel you out, befriend you, test you, play with you lol Good Luck

People talk about equality of the sexes but with a Gem you get genuine equality like he prob doesn't see it as his role to take action. He is just as likely to wait for you to ask him out.. so don't be waiting for him to make a move, Geminis don't think that way. He might but he might not - the point is he won't feel it's up to him to make something happen between you.. idk if that explains it

No I actually did not connect the two lol that's an interesting point. I don't expect him to sweep me off my feet but I guess just something slightly more than only talking to me when he just so happens to see me. The way he is right now is almost like he is just flirting out of convenience. I don't know if that makes sense. Maybe he is interested but not enough to do anything more straightforward.

Posted by thatlibralife

All the signs are there but you’re hardly taking advantage of the situation. Get in his face and T-A—L-K...that’s the hook if there is a connection...

I don't think I have a lot of opportunities to do that though. I barely see him and when I do, majority of the time he is talking with a group. I don't even know the people he talks to so I can't just throw myself into those conversations. Which is why our interactions have been so sparse.

Posted by LadyNeptune

IME if they are interested you will know.

You've been meeting by chance for months, do these conversations ever lead to him asking for your number? Cause if not, he may not be interested in anything more than a flirt and chat when he runs into you.

That's what I was thinking too. I don't have any experience with Gems but what I've heard is that typically they are straightforward and obvious either by words or actions. But since we barely see each other, maybe he is still feeling me out before he asks for my number? I don't know.

Posted by HippeeGem

I'm not sure if Gem males are the same way, but I think part of the reason people think we're hot and cold is we are quieter around people we're actually interested in, in the early stages, even though we can be really talkative and bubbly in social situations.

I feel like he's interested in you, and just making sure the feeling is mutual. Once he knows, he'll probably open up more.

I always heard Gems are very talkative around people they like and try to get to know them by asking a million questions. But maybe he is testing the waters now. Seeing him every few months probably does not help though because we don't have a lot of chances to talk. I think what makes it worse is that each time we talk, we are in a room full of people who think we should get together - both his friends/family and my friends/family have talked amongst themselves about it. That added pressure probably doesn't help.

Posted by Wizardz

Posted by daydreamer24

Posted by Wizardz

Yes he likes you

Lol this is so funny reading this as a Gem male

First of all you are the right age for him at 30. That's a huge plus for us

A friend told him "you're quiet" and he said "that's ok I'll make her talk" - then you describe the convo you had where he just responded to your questions in detail and then stared waiting for you to ask the next question - aka "making you talk" 😁 did you not connect the two?

Anyway, yes he is into you but if you're expecting him to come and sweep you off your feet with romantic gestures "taking action" then you're probably going to be disappointed. He will feel you out, befriend you, test you, play with you lol Good Luck

People talk about equality of the sexes but with a Gem you get genuine equality like he prob doesn't see it as his role to take action. He is just as likely to wait for you to ask him out.. so don't be waiting for him to make a move, Geminis don't think that way. He might but he might not - the point is he won't feel it's up to him to make something happen between you.. idk if that explains it

No I actually did not connect the two lol that's an interesting point. I don't expect him to sweep me off my feet but I guess just something slightly more than only talking to me when he just so happens to see me. The way he is right now is almost like he is just flirting out of convenience. I don't know if that makes sense. Maybe he is interested but not enough to do anything more straightforward.

I would guess he is pretty interested from everything you have said. The stopping you as you are leaving. The complete focus both when you were with your cousin and when he was talking one on one with you. The excited wave. I think he rly likes you. I told you though don't expect him to be proactive about it

Do you like him? Why don't you do something instead of waiting for him?

Tbh you sound like someone a Gem could rly like if you are somewhat quiet but you open up - that's very attractive to us, I think

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Tbh I'm not very good at making it known that I'm interested in someone, especially when I'm not sure what he feels. The men I have dated were very obvious and made the first move. Since I have never done that, I wouldn't know where to start. I followed him on social media which I know isn't a big deal but it's a tiny step outside our in-person meetings. But so far he hasn't followed back. He has thousands of followers though and from what I can tell, the list keeps growing.. so maybe he hasn't noticed yet. I was hoping that he would follow back and then from there I could DM him. I don't know what else to do other than that.

Also is not being proactive typically just in the early stages until they know the feeling is mutual or is this just how Gems always are?