Did I totally mess things up with my Gemini or did I get played?

I’m going to try and make this short and sweet but I’m a rambler so bear with me please!

So I’ve known this Gemini sun aquarius moon man for a couple of years. I met him when I wasn’t looking for anything serious and we’d go on dates and hook up once in awhile but I kept him at arms length. We were both super flakey and noncommittal. Then I had a wonderful experience with a virgo man where we became romantically involved for about a year. It was never anything official but it opened up my ice cold heart to the idea of love and relationships.

The Gemini reached out to me the same day I broke it off with the virgo (totally coincidental) and we ended up making plans to hang out. We had a great time and he ended up confessing that he had feelings for me and he’d like to see me more regularly. So, we ended up hanging out more and things were great. I really felt like he liked me. He’d tell me things like “you feel like home” and would blow off traveling and going out with friends to spend time with me (I’d never want/ask him to do that but one time he awkwardly told me after I pressed him a bit as to why he wasn’t at a rave w his friends).

THEN, he fell off the face of the earth. No texts or anything. I reached out and asked if something was wrong and he told me that he had been upset about something and that it doesn’t matter anymore. We met up and I asked him about it and he told me he was upset because I barely reached out and he felt like he is always the initiator in his relationships. He was right and I apologized and then started reaching out more.

Things were smooth once again and then he told me he was going to a different state for a couple months. He asked if I wanted to come. I said I would have loved to but I couldn’t afford it.

When it came time for him to leave we couldn’t align our schedules to say goodbye before he left. When he left we barely talked. And he came back and we never picked things up again.

Did I do something wrong? Was I being played?

Hmm no your fine. From what you said this is about myself not you.

I say this because he told you what was wrong before and you discussed it and were ok with changing the behavior.

But this? It sounds like he is choosing not to communicate with you. He may unhappy with the relationship...not what he wants?

If he doesn't want to talk to you about it, let you know he needs time to think, or what his intentions are then, that's on him.

Dropped the being played part. He didn't take advantage of you. Just a immature way of going about whatever he is doing.

I have no idea why these recent generations thinking ghost someone you are close to is ok....ever. It really messes with people in a bad way. To feel discarded.

I'm not talking about people who are absent minded or super busy either.

You intentionally ignore someone who cares for you and trying to check on you, talk to you, or whatever; without saying something back....you are a immature fuck nut.

Posted by IceStorm
The relationship stagnated or basically never got off the ground. I felt bored just reading this so I imagine he probably got bored too. He went out of town for a couple months and even before he left, the situation-ship was only lukewarm. I’m not a Gemini or a man, but I wouldn’t have felt compelled to keep it going either. It’s probable that he doesn’t want to waste any more time in a dead-end relationship or he may have met someone else.


Meanwhile, let’s hope that he learns healthier communication skills from this. Lol but with that Aquarius moon he probably just detaches easily.

I feel like I definitely may have been too nonchalant about things. Definitely a flaw of mine (venus in 12th house). Probably in need to take a good hard look at the man in the mirror.

Posted by MysteriousHeart
I’m not blaming it all on you at all and I get certain things happened that were beyond your control, but from his perspective maybe it seemed like you didn’t care? Didn’t initiate communication, couldn’t go with him out of state, couldn’t even meet up to say goodbye. Have you tried reaching out since he’s been back?

He reached out on Instagram, nothing serious, just a response to an Instagram story I posted. and I reached out to him a few days later, just casual conversation. & I definitely can see how it seems like I didn’t care (venus in 12th house). I definitely really liked him, but I wasn’t sure how serious to take the whole thing. I would reach out to tell him that but I don’t want him to feel like I was jerking around and also he may just be over it at this point.