Gemini Male ex asking to be good friends.

So it has been months since my Gemini man broke things off with me via a WhatsApp message. We dated for a year. While we dated he was always insecured about my academic qualifications and social standing. But I always assured him of my loyalty, I was always there for him whenever he had issues sometimes I assisted him financially. He broke up with me a couple of times whenever we had a fight but came back the next day. When he broke things off this time I didn't sense it coming, the only reason he gave be4 he blocked me was that he had fallen out of love due to circumstances.

He later told my sis that I was way above him in everything and he is always insecured with me. It hurt me but I never contacted him again. Now 9months after he sent me a text saying he missed me of which I responded cordially. Now he apologies and says he wants us to be good friends. What do I make of it because I still have a soft spot for him. I'm a 27year old with a PhD pisces by the way. Please I need invites he is a may Gemini. 30years

So it has been months since my Gemini man broke things off with me via a WhatsApp message. We dated for a year. While we dated he was always insecured about my academic qualifications and social standing. But I always assured him of my loyalty, I was always there for him whenever he had issues sometimes I assisted him financially. He broke up with me a couple of times whenever we had a fight but came back the next day. When he broke things off this time I didn't sense it coming, the only reason he gave be4 he blocked me was that he had fallen out of love due to circumstances.

He later told my sis that I was way above him in everything and he is always insecured with me. It hurt me but I never contacted him again. Now 9months after he sent me a text saying he missed me of which I responded cordially. Now he apologies and says he wants us to be good friends. What do I make of it because I still have a soft spot for him. I'm a 27year old with a PhD pisces by the way. Please I need invites he is a may Gemini. 30years

So it has been months since my Gemini man broke things off with me via a WhatsApp message. We dated for a year. While we dated he was always insecured about my academic qualifications and social standing. But I always assured him of my loyalty, I was always there for him whenever he had issues sometimes I assisted him financially. He broke up with me a couple of times whenever we had a fight but came back the next day. When he broke things off this time I didn't sense it coming, the only reason he gave be4 he blocked me was that he had fallen out of love due to circumstances.

He later told my sis that I was way above him in everything and he is always insecured with me. It hurt me but I never contacted him again. Now 9months after he sent me a text saying he missed me of which I responded cordially. Now he apologies and says he wants us to be good friends. What do I make of it because I still have a soft spot for him. I'm a 27year old with a PhD pisces by the way. Please I need your opinions.he is a may Gemini. 30years

Posted by tiziani

what’s in it for you?

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I’ve had an ex Aqua reach out and my last rship with an Aries also wanted to stay friends. There’s nothing in it for me....they probably want a shoulder to cry on and I’ve moved on from them so no point

If you’ve a child with a man then you have to stay in touch to coparent your child, otherwise why?

"I'm a xx year old with a PhD, pisces by the way".

Same here, lol. My last ex was a Gem with a "Masters". Not that it mattered, but he used it to poke fun at us. One of the first things he told me was the title of his thesis, followed by a tongue in cheek remark "Never in my life have I imagined that I will be using this as a dating line!"

I would say take the offer and be platonic friends. It's not difficult with a Gem, they are high on friendliness and low on romantic drive. One of the best friends I ever had was also a Gem. Stick to the platonic bit, and everything should be alright.

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He doesn’t want to hurt your feelings and also doesn’t want to seem like a douche bag so he’s saying it’s his fault and came up with insecurity as what to blame.

If he’s already tried breaking up with you several times he’s done. We don’t do that unless we are done with you.

They broke up a year ago...

Yeah but she’s not over it

I guess I don't understand why he would reach out if they haven't been in touch unless he did want to be friends or something.

Curious about how she’s doing or is lonely during quarantine.

Did she give us a reason to assume he's a douche? lol

His wishy washy behavior?

He was insecure, so he broke up with her. Now he wants to be friends. I don't see any villains here.

Anyway, OP, I think if you still have feelings that are more than friendly, you should carefully consider whether it's a good idea to try being friends. It may not be.

I guess if you don’t think it’s shady to cut someone out entirely until it’s convenient for them.

I think that's an interesting way of reading the situation. Is it "convenient" or is he just now able to express what happened in a way that he feels might help her understand?

I don't understand the new culture. From my point of view, it looks like people are walking around with a lit match in their hands ready to throw over their shoulders at all times.

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An example of two (or four?) Gems talking to each other...what's not to like? They probably filled another two pages by the time I just finished this sentence 😄

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Posted by tiziani

what’s in it for you?

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I’ve had an ex Aqua reach out and my last rship with an Aries also wanted to stay friends. There’s nothing in it for me....they probably want a shoulder to cry on and I’ve moved on from them so no point

If you’ve a child with a man then you have to stay in touch to coparent your child, otherwise why?

well, maybe, but i want to be clear i was just asking.

not in a “box her in” kind of way.

it’s such a short post. all i know is when i was in her situation, it was simpler to start by asking myself that question. keep my head clear.

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It can be a boundary issue too ... if I didn’t keep mine strong, which can be difficult for a water dom, I’d have all my exes crying on my shoulder. I’d suspect OP’s ex may be after a very good friends with benefits arrangement .... maybe?

Do you really need a friend who is insecure and threatened by your intellect and success?

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what’s in it for you?

This

I’ve had an ex Aqua reach out and my last rship with an Aries also wanted to stay friends. There’s nothing in it for me....they probably want a shoulder to cry on and I’ve moved on from them so no point

If you’ve a child with a man then you have to stay in touch to coparent your child, otherwise why?

well, maybe, but i want to be clear i was just asking.

not in a “box her in” kind of way.

it’s such a short post. all i know is when i was in her situation, it was simpler to start by asking myself that question. keep my head clear.

It can be a boundary issue too ... if I didn’t keep mine strong, which can be difficult for a water dom, I’d have all my exes crying on my shoulder. I’d suspect OP’s ex may be after a very good friends with benefits arrangement .... maybe?

maybe he does. maybe he doesnt.

she’s here mulling over it. its only really important what she wants.

if he were here asking about her, i’d ask him the same question.

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Hopefully she’ll work it out. Gut feeling can be a fine thing👍

How are you Tiz.......still in Italy?

Hello everyone thanks for taking out time to lend your views. I am the original poster I lost my previous account.

When we he broke things off with me I begged him. Well I know I shouldn't have but I did, more like I tried to reason with him. But that was just for a day. Few days after I blocked him and ever since we stopped talking. Months after I started getting calls from different numbers I knew he was the one because he used his brother's number that I had to call but i didn't pick up. After a month he stopped. Later on he reached out to my sister asking her to set up a meeting with me without my knowledge that he wanted to apologize for hurting me said he was scared visiting me. I later unblocked him and he started sending me I miss you b texts as well. When I finally responded he apologized then asked to be good friends. One minute he is all up in his feelings about hurting me and making amends, the next minute he wants to be good friends. Guy has me confused. The day he dumped me via a WhatsApp message, he had been avoiding me till I showed up at his place unannounced and met a girl he claimed was his bestfriend sister on his bed said she was waiting for her brother. Then when I got home he dumped my ass via WhatsApp text. To be honest I don't know what to do or think.

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He doesn’t want to hurt your feelings and also doesn’t want to seem like a douche bag so he’s saying it’s his fault and came up with insecurity as what to blame.

If he’s already tried breaking up with you several times he’s done. We don’t do that unless we are done with you.

They broke up a year ago...

Yeah but she’s not over it

I guess I don't understand why he would reach out if they haven't been in touch unless he did want to be friends or something.

Curious about how she’s doing or is lonely during quarantine.

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This!

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Do you really need a friend who is insecure and threatened by your intellect and success?

And this!