How do yall let go of people you are invested in?

I am a Gemini Sun+Moon+Mars, Taurus mercury with Aries Venus. I find it so hard to let go, even if they cut me off, even if I get hurt, I get my heartbroken then I fall into depression. With my placements (so much air) I would be cutting people off left and right. But thats not the case, ever. So please, I need to know Gems like me actually let go. I am in so much pain.

Gemini or not, it is good to take time to reflect and heal after a failed relationship, instead of jumping onto the next. It shows that you have a good potential to love and be loved in return.

You will let go of anger/pain when the time is right for you. In average, it takes about 3-6 months.

I hope I'm right and it's not just your bruised ego having an extended tantrum 😄

Posted by Undine

Gemini or not, it is good to take time to reflect and heal after a failed relationship, instead of jumping onto the next. It shows that you have a good potential to love and be loved in return.

You will let go of anger/pain when the time is right for you. In average, it takes about 3-6 months.

I hope I'm right and it's not just your bruised ego having an extended tantrum 😄

To be honest it is a bit of both 😄

Posted by MadTwins80

Ah poor you 😢

I have a lot of trouble letting go too

Be really nice to yourself. Do little things, even though they might seem insignificant, they will help. Have a bath and put some relaxing oils and light candles. I assume you're female

Try to think that you are you. If you're feeling that another person is all that makes life worth living then it's imbalanced. I know it's hard but try to be a little bit happy in yourself as you are without anyone. Then grow from there so you're not continually yearning for another but instead finding love and happiness from within

Then some time you will meet someone else who naturally joins you and you won't have this heartache anymore ❤

That's not really advice but maybe there's something in it because if a person hurts you or breaks your heart then you don't really want to be trying to get them back or wishing they were still with you. They hurt you and someone who hurt you should not be in your heart and mind. It's not healthy for you. You can move on and not look back it's about caring about yourself. Otherwise you might enter another relationship and have the same thing happen again

I'm guessing here but I hope it helps a little bit

Also I'd add to that if I TRY to get someone back it doesn't work anyway. So holding on really doesn't serve any purpose. Who knows what will happen in the future? but you holding on and not letting go is only something that's happening in your mind. It's not of any actual use in reality

Logically what you are saying is sound, but emotions aren't bound by logic. Attachment isn't either which is why this whole process hurts

Posted by Undine

Gemini or not, it is good to take time to reflect and heal after a failed relationship, instead of jumping onto the next. It shows that you have a good potential to love and be loved in return.

You will let go of anger/pain when the time is right for you. In average, it takes about 3-6 months.

I hope I'm right and it's not just your bruised ego having an extended tantrum 😄

It took me 10 years to be able to let go of my first love. I am hopeless

Aries Venus + sun in III (Gemini house) here.

It's easy for me to let go of people when I realize the situation is untenable. Once you lose my trust, it's pretty much impossible to get it back. I can't be with someone I don't trust.

I also let people go who do me more harm than good. Life is too short to put up with damaging people. That's why I cut my parents out of my life. Too detrimental to my mental health & quality of life.



At the end of the day, you gotta put yourself first and take care of yourself.

Occupy yourself with important things in life: family, work, health, fitness, happiness...

Practice makes perfect...



...😏

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Posted by CoffeeAndCream

You got to be more selfish and invest in yourself. That's the only way to heal yourself.

Also, read the book “Why men love bitches”

The worse you treat them, the more they come 😉

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I need to read that book!

Now ..next stop Amazon 😁

Not hard, just believe you deserve and will find better. Trust me, you'll let go in no time.

I used to be you. The reason for not letting go was I didn't know if I would ever find someone like that again.

The truth is, you won't and you don't have to.

Because you deserve better!

Posted by RealGem

Not hard, just believe you deserve and will find better. Trust me, you'll let go in no time.

I used to be you. The reason for not letting go was I didn't know if I would ever find someone like that again.

The truth is, you won't and you don't have to.

Because you deserve better!

Its more like that emotional connection....its hard for me to invested in people. So once I realize that I have a connection its hard to let go