Aquarius and the confession

Hi everyone, it's me again

After 2 years, one beautiful day, he confessed he's married (still) and his wife is in other country..

I'm not sure how I feel since the day he confessed which is 5 weeks already. I didn't cry, didn't yell. The only word I could say is why. My mind was empty, my ears were like deaf. I couldn't hear the answer. All I remember is that he cried and begged for forgiveness.

I couldn't believe what I heard. I still couldn't believe he's someone like that. We had so much fun together. We were close and in love like high school student. Everything about it was so real until one truth makes everything is a lie.

Oh 😢

What is the situation right now? Why is his wife in another country, are they separated??

Our company has main office that he's running locate in my country. He travels back and forth every 2 months.
I didn't talk to him since then. I told him that I never want to see him again.
I guess it's over. I never thought I deserve such thing..

"pulls up a chair" and the waiting begins

Posted by funkygal

We were close and in love like high school student.

That's a lie. I went back and read your saga, and the actual truth is = you've doubted how he feels all along. In fact, you made thread after thread talking about how you don't know how he feels about you.

It is unfortunate for you, mainly for his wife .. but, that doesn't give you permission to lie.

In fact, in April of this year (6 months ago) ... you went out with another guy, just to make him jealous of you because YOU were jealous of him. So, all those posts you made about him not coming clean about how he really feels, you did the same fucking thing to him.

Instead of telling him you are jealous of him ..... you played the game him.

Then, in your discredit you mocked it by saying it was so cute. "It" being his jealous concern about what you were doing on this date. Oh yes, you told him you were on a date.

What fucking bitch, really. That's emotional cheating.

So, I'm unclear why you think you have the right to come in here and pretend to be virtuous. I'm not condoning what he did, but, I am far from blindly stupid and if it smells like a rat, then it usually is.

Posted by funkygal

Everything about it was so real until one truth makes everything is a lie.

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That ^^^^ is also a lie. Look how you are a hyprocrite in calling him on something you practiced in this thread.

The truth, according to threads YOU made from March to July of this year ... is that you were getting really upset that he pretended not to have a relationship with you at work. You were doubting if his feelings were real.

The real truth here is .... you've doubted it all along. So don't come in here and lie to these people by trying to paint the picture that you were this wonderful girlfriend with a wonderful relationship before the bomb was dropped.

A woman, any woman, who would purposely go out on a date with another man AND make sure to tell her alleged boyfriend so that he will cringe with upset .... is not a good woman who is deserving of a respectful man.

In October of 2013, you said in a thread that he told all about him home life and his family.

So, I really don't see how you think you deserve any better than you got.

In one thread you made months ago ... you quit your job with him because according to you -

You built the business (YOU) ... but, you weren't allowed to assist the company when it fell on hard times because they didn't believe you could help the company - so you quit.

And I'm not sure how any person believed you back then because clearly if a person BUILT a company, they would be the most valuable there.

Proof is in the pudding.

Anyway, my point now with this additional comment is to say ... in all of that talk about this company and him working there also, you never mentioned that he works in two locations. And convenient it is for you to be able to add this additional information, since it provides you with the opportunity to write this new part in: he's married.

Hi P-Angel

I don't really need to explain to you for what I said in other thread.
If I have to say, yes I were always in doubt. I got heart broken 2 times before, both cheated. I were so afraid to fall in love with anyone. I didn't have any relationship for 6 years until he came along.
He's the only one who can make me laugh which makes me day by day afraid of falling for him. Moreover, he's not the type who can tell all about his emotion. I have no clue how he feel for me that makes me more insecure.
I did mention once in this forum that he's not living same country as me, he travels a lot and he might leave the country. This is also the reason why when we first started the relationship. He told me that I can see other people which make me date other guy. I went out on one date with other guy because that's what he told me to. It's ok for a man doesn't want a woman. But how does you feel if your man ask you to see other guy on the side? After that date, I asked if he really want me to see other guy. He said no, and I need did again.
He's one of the founder of the company. I'm one of the first staff buidling up the company. There was thick and thin since it's still a young company. I decided to quit because stress of the job caused us fight a lot which make me hate myself everyday.
P-Angel, sometimes people come here because they seek for advice. Something changed my life causing me hard to trust people who cares. It tired me everyday because of thay. Don't you feel tired when you doubt and hated?

And, P-Angle, maybe i wrote the post about dating other guy 6 months ago. But, that doesn't mean It happened at that time. I went out with that guy 1 year and 7 months ago. The reason I remember exact day because I met the guy right after my birthday and that also the day my boyfriend (ex now) wants to me be exclusive..

You missed my point entirely ... which isn't surprising.

I don't give a rats ass about who you doubt or why you doubt, or how tired you are.


You came in here giving a false impression, in where your relationship was wonderful, and then out of nowhere he dropped this bomb on you .... what is a deception.

The lie you are telling is what I care about.

Even now, in your answer to me you say: "He told me that I can see other people which make me date other guy." ..... which is proof that you aren't in a committed relationship.

Since you aren't in a committed relationship with him and you are free to date other men ... then he is free to have another woman.

so, this whole thread is a farce .... you say that you can't believe he would be a person like that, yet, you are a person like that.

You cheated on him by going out with another man .... so, my only issue with you is that YOU are lying, while calling him a liar.

Hi P-Angel

Thank you for your advice.
I'm not sure if you read carefully and can really connecting thing. Though, I think you don't.

It's ok. You have your opinion. And, it's wasting time and energy to fight for such thing. In the end, I still don't know what is the point of making up stories. Maybe, you would know about that?

It's surprised me that you had to spend so much time to dig into all the posts available from me to try proving me a liar just because it seems not true for you.

I'm just a stranger to you. Though, I'd like to give you some input. For this moment in the world, there are hunger, sickness everywhere. We feel sorry, pity and guilt to have our own happiness while others have to suffer from pain. People use every second to fight for their lives. Use your time wisely. Maybe, help those people instead of digging around forum to find who's lying?

Love or hate someone is still using as much energy. It proves you care about me. Thank you for that, P-Angel 🙂