Aquarius man & Capricorn woman?

I am Capricorn (Aqua/Moon), 5 months with my Aqua, who is the "best" ever I met. Actually, I was always soo attracted by Aquas (my first guy was one, several of my excellent friends was attracted to me because of my ability for endless serious and funny conversation...; 3 of my best friends are Aqua-women; my father, which I find the most interesting man is also Aqua and we have intense and deep relation...), and now I am together with one special. My love for someone never was so mature, so pure and so interesting. It is like my own growth and my own "self-discovering". But, at the same time, I am soo confused. I didn't use to experience this typical Aqua-detach, non-emotional behavior, this friend-and sex-manner, be-honest-but-be-mysterious at the same time, and so on...

Aquas, please your consideration and/or experience.

thanks!

From my experience ( i am an Aqua female ) the Capricorn and Aquarius relationship have a lot to offer each other. The 2 signs can learn so much from each other and i think it is that, that is the initial attraction. Such a special bond is developed especially if there are other compatible placements in your Natal charts. But remember that not all people (or signs) are created equally or better yet ... we have all been raised differently, inheriting different behavioral patterns.

You have enough Aqua influences in your life, i think you already know deep inside the answers to your current relationship. If he is receptive, i know you can draw the passion and emotion from him. (my Cappy did). But also, remember if he feels overwhelmed he will detach even further. (as i also did).

Caps & Aquas are another one of those things where the relationships between them are either really good or VERY horrible. Aquas love a Capricorn's sense of laid-backness & their ability to be straight foward & very logical in their affairs. Capricorns seem to have their emotions in check & seem to be great at giving conversations & even though they aren't ones to get as deep as their Aqua, they still will participate in the convo & admire this. So in these cases, Aquas notice that their Caps. aren't as deep, but won't take off points b/c atleast they know that you participate, are turned on by this & admire them more for this.

Capricorn is more amazed by their Aquas more than compatible. When Capricorns get with Aquas they are always suprised & feeling like they discovered a part of themselves that they didn't even know was there. It's like Aquas have the ability to either bring out the best in someone OR the worst. And in your case, I think he's bringing out the best in you. And it's a GREAT thing that you've had experience with other Aquas in your life (other than just in your love life) b/c it's alot easier for you to understand them & admire them for their "out of the norm" personality, versus try to change them or run from them. And trust me, he picked up on your easy ability to handle, atleast try to understand & keep up with his Aqua qualities.

If you notice that around the same time he opened up to you, shared with you something he normally wouldn't just tell anybody, it's usually around the same time that an Aqua detaches or becomes distant. And when they become distance at around the time when they've worn their hearts on their sleeves, you have NOTHING to worry about. The only time you should worry is when they become distant during bad times, or before they even opened up to you emotionally

There are a couple of reasons why Aquas suddenly detach:

1. They just opened up to you or shared with you something that they normally wouldn't have. And even though they don't regret doing this, they still are always fearing their partners will reject them, misunderstand or be turned off by this. So what will they do? They'll detach & distance themselves for a little while as a protection shield. This kind of detachment is only temporary though & will immediately go away the MINUTE his partner gives him the signal that even after he opened up, she still loves, cares & understands him MORE (not less).

2. They've seen something in you that turned them off & started to detach b/c it's their way of confirming their decision that whatever you said or did is something they are not willing to accept, adapt to or adjust to. And when an Aqua makes this decision, their decision is final & they WILL NOT feel bad for detaching (b/c of their believe that they have every right to walk away from something that turns them off). You'll notice this type of semi-permanent detachment happening right along the same time frame when things might've gone wrong or when you might've messed up and/or made them mad.

3. They're going through something very personal & deep & would rather NOT drag you down with their emotions. Aquas detach in this situation b/c they recognize that their emotions are so complex & that they may not be themselves during these times, thus they feel they are doing YOU a favor by detaching, so that their partner's won't be overwhelmed, confused or feel left-out. Instead of playing it cool like nothing is wrong (lying to you), they'd rather just cut the middle man altogether & leave. And in this case, depending on how serious the situation, they might comeback when the storm blows over OR they might not (b/c they know it'll be a lonnng time before the storm is over & would rather you move on & not have to suffer just b/c they are)

krysrenee7, you hit the nail on the head with Number 3 for me. I have done this very thing, not even knowing that was what i was doing until reading your comment. It makes a bit more sense to me. There are things i wish i could "take back" but i can't. Thanks for opening my eyes. Just when i think i am all "grown up", i realize yet again i have SO much to learn :-)

Thank you guys alot! Despite that I have understand my Aqua in every such a situation of detach, give him more understanding and love, he finally put me into position where I cannot explain him anymore or even more how I feel, how happy and cool I am, cause he admit that he cannot understand that. He would like to be with me only when he could understand me, he said. I am very confused with that, since we have great time together, lot of talks, doing things together, great sex etc... And I am very confused that he didn't approached to me like he wants to be friend with me first, but like a guy in love with me, and now all disappear, he just wants to be friends.Now he do not want even to touch me or kiss me just to have endless talks like he is doing with his other friends. As a woman, I find that so unpleasant and harmful. Will he ever again would like to have with me a great love relationship which we had since yesterday?

Well just like women can be moody one day & the opposite the next, the same goes for Aqua men. One day they can be very affectionate & the next minute they'll dare you to even look like you want to touch them. Find out what this guy's moon & venus is in. Alot of Aquas in general aren't really affectionate 100% of the time. They may start off being affectionate b/c they know them NOT being this way could turn off potentially good partners. And these type of Aquas usually wait until they get in "good" with their partners & then all of the sudden stop being affectionate, b/c at that point, they went back to being themselves again, assuming their partners would understand & wouldn't point them for it.

And plus, when Aquas feel that the intellectual connection is slacking, they might stop putting energy into everything else & strictly test the intellectual chemistry just to make sure that it's still up to par (which could explain why it seems that now all of the sudden he's just interested in small talk). Some Aquas don't mind affectionate & all that mushy stuff but for the most part, all Aquas see intellectual chemistry as NUMBER ONE in importance;At the end of the day, an Aqua would pick conversation over hugs any day. So don't be so worried if you notice your Aqua wanting to put so much energy into that part of the relationship. I know it can be confusing & worrysome for the partner dating the Aqua, but if you know your Aqua well enough & have established good & efficient communication with them, then you should never worry.
IF ANYTHING, you should be worried if the affection AND conversation stops! That's a sure sign of trouble in paradise

Look at it this way: The one thing that matters the most to him (intellectual compatibility) is the one thing this Aqua guy is putting most of his energy into with you. Are you sure that's a bad thing? Sure, of course it's understandable that you kind of feel as if he has "teased" you with all the other stuff he can offer you (affection,etc.) but at the end of the day this guy wouldn't be putting so much energy into intellectual chemistry with you if he felt it was pointless or a dead end.

He might be testing you to see if the chemistry is still there, thus dropping all the other stuff that only half matters to him (e.i. affection) and/OR he might have only been affectionate with you in order for him to see the more soft & sensual side of you. And who knows, once he saw that you passed (made an A+) in that department, he might've decided to go back to being his normal Aqua self, being more interested in the art of conversation. If an Aqua still wants to have those deep conversations with you, that means there's still a chance. Hell, even when an Aqua detaches from you (for whatever reason), there's always less conversations & intellectual access & the very fact that he's still giving you that side of him tells me that everything is fine. Don't worry just b/c you don't understand. Try to understand FIRST. And if after understanding, you still are confused or aren't content, then move on b/c it'll then be a case of you two not meshing well with how the other functions or handles themselves in relationships

B/c alot of Aquas generally aren't the affectionate type, I'd advise you NOT to take it personal when they all of the sudden stop being affectionate. If anything, always know that Aquas show affection strictly because they want to & not always b/c their partners want them too. Either way, Aquas have more profound ways of SHOWING someone that they've lost intellectual interest in their partners.

Look at it like this: Women can have bad sex with a man and/or not have sex with him at all & yet still have and/or maintain her feelings for him. And Aquas are the same way. They don't need to hug you every 5 minutes just to prove to you or to themselves that they love you. Aquas show love in less conventional ways. If you don't understand his ways of showing someone love then it's no wonder you might mistake everything he DOESN'T do as him not being interested. Find out first how he shows his love & remember that everyone doesn't show love in the same ways & forms that you do. He might love you more than you love yourself but yet, not even kiss you for 5 days. Learn how to measure his love/like for you in other ways than just by how affectionate he is with you. If he stops the affection, don't be so worried b/c it's not like his lack of affection will last forever (Aquas are on & off sometimes & WE don't even understand why, so don't lose sleep over something the source doesn't even understand). If he stops the conversations & stops putting energy into the "communication" part of your relationship, THEN be worried b/c that's a serious sign of detachment. If he's going through something in his life & yet the only thing he's taken away is the affection, then don't take it personally. I know it sucks b/c you might be affectionate 24/7 but remember that you chose to be with a sign that functions outside of the norm, and that means occasionally dealing with odd or random & unpredictable behavior, & having the faith that everything is okay.

Plus, with you being a Capricorn, you are used to routine & don't like things that are unpredictable. You like & need assurance & stability all the time. And the minute something even gives 1% less than they did the day before, you get all hot & bothered & immediately start assuming that something is wrong.

The Capricorn in you doesn't like change & can never feel content if they are with a partner who doesn't play by the "routine" rules that you've set sub-consciously. The Aqua moon in you though is also stubborn to open up to the possibility of someone functioning differently than you do. The Aqua moon in you though is also what gave you the ability to immediately notice a slight change in him (even if it was a 1% chance that others wouldn't normally notice). This is why sometimes it's a nightmare or emotional suicide for 2 people who have Aqua moons or suns. Trying to understand something that is unpredictable or that has changed is an emotional wreck, not only for you but also for him.

krys, thank you. You're so freeharted to give me these explanations!
Beside this, he finally left me saying that yesterday evening to my friend at the phone, but not to me. Now I can see that he is on internet more than 2 hours and he didn't even send me "hi, how are you?" Everything ended in a second, like it never was. Nothing between us. He obviously finished all conversation with me not to even knows me better, cause we just start to acquaint eachother. Sad but true.