Aquarius using you

She tried to introduce me to her friends 2 months ago when I last visited her, and she doesn't talk me about her love life but mentions her ex-es from time to time when describing an activity witch they have been involved because she remained friends with most of them. And she used to lisen my storyes with attention in the time we were togheter and she started to look intrest in the things i liked, especially gym... She liked me a lot and she is still wanting to talk to me and make move at her place just to be togheter... But after this much time separated she just acts somehow like is using me... She had a slutty past, but she lived all her life rejected by other girls in a toxic environment filled with boys, alchool and drugs... She needs love, I saw it clearly when we were togheter because she wanted to left all those things behind, but she camed back the old habits started that to appear again under the influence of old friends.

She definatley had feelings for me at some point... But some time passed by and the feelings becamed less stronger till this point. Idk what to belive.

@4fresh

And no, she had no snow bunny allure. She used to be shy when I was around.

every woman born under this sign is different. lol

this is more like me:

all i saw is hot and cold....

i wouldnt take that seriously. plus you said it's less strong, her feelings for you. i'd move on. but i know it's hard.

you can try and be her friend, even long distance, but if you still like her, that's torture for you and waste of your time if you want to find a girl who is into commitment long term.

Posted by DonJohnson
dat snow bunny allure is 2nd to none

heehee. you got a scary one, DJ.

I'd be scared if I were a guy! 😄

also, it sounds like you want to "SAVE" her or fix her up because of her slutty past and all the toxic environment you mentioned.

are you sure you want to involve yourself with this woman who is unstable??

you sound like you want to give her love, because that'll fix her up good and she'll change kind of thing. Imo, that doesn't work, as in my personal experience, with guys. so it's vice versa, same thing.

but in your case, you're NOT in a relationship with her; you just see her and it's long distance, so it's just unrequited longing at this point.

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Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by DonJohnson
dat snow bunny allure is 2nd to none

heehee. you got a scary one, DJ.

I'd be scared if I were a guy! 😄

haha nah. i'm good =)

how are things with you?

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😄 good too.

glad to hear you can handle that stuff.

@4fresh

Posted by lisabethur8
also, it sounds like you want to "SAVE" her or fix her up because of her slutty past and all the toxic environment you mentioned.

are you sure you want to involve yourself with this woman who is unstable??

you sound like you want to give her love, because that'll fix her up good and she'll change kind of thing.

I met her after she had a medical condition that afected her psihologically... And made her stay in bed for 6 months... She was a good and smart girl that was very confused about who she was... She was recovering after a period in wich she breaked contact with all the toxic people in her past, quited smoking, weed, alcohool and the other nasty stuff that she was raised with because the environment and the friends who putted pressure on her. She told me about her childhood in witch she was constantly rejected and humiliated by the girls of her age... She ended up in a circle of pierced rockers in witch she found herself accepted but, that nasty people taked advantage of her many times... She didn't told me about that, but scars remain in personality and I could figured out what she had been trough. She told me that she doesn't know what to do with her life and I told her that now she has a chance to start over again and be the person that she always wanted to be.

She falled in my arms so easy, and fell asleep in my arms after 3 days of courtship... I looked at her and I realised that the only thing that she ever wanted was a real friend. So I decided to make the effort to keep in touch with her and try to take care of her...

Her dad also passed away an year ago and her mom doesn't have more influence on her altough she love her. The only bad thing is the distance, because if I could stay with her I could introduced her in a healty environment with good people (she wanted to know my friends and be part of my group) but she remained alone, and after 2-3 months of alone time she started to see her old friends again, and come back slowly to her old lifestyle.

Altough, she doesnt want to break contact with me and call me every one or 2 weeks and she still want to find a way to see me often. I love her too... But idk what I could do...

Long distance relationships don't have any substance. I need face to face time to bond with my man.

- aquarius mars.

Just build the friendship and don't worry about the romance part. When you get to spend time in each other's presence, you can feel things out then.

Posted by lisabethur8
also, it sounds like you want to "SAVE" her or fix her up because of her slutty past and all the toxic environment you mentioned.

are you sure you want to involve yourself with this woman who is unstable??

you sound like you want to give her love, because that'll fix her up good and she'll change kind of thing. Imo, that doesn't work, as in my personal experience, with guys. so it's vice versa, same thing.

but in your case, you're NOT in a relationship with her; you just see her and it's long distance, so it's just unrequited longing at this point.

Wonder where his Mars is placed.

What you described sounds like a pisces mars - the knight in shining armor coming to rescue the damsel in distress. They like to "fix" people.

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Posted by lisabethur8
also, it sounds like you want to "SAVE" her or fix her up because of her slutty past and all the toxic environment you mentioned.

are you sure you want to involve yourself with this woman who is unstable??

you sound like you want to give her love, because that'll fix her up good and she'll change kind of thing. Imo, that doesn't work, as in my personal experience, with guys. so it's vice versa, same thing.

but in your case, you're NOT in a relationship with her; you just see her and it's long distance, so it's just unrequited longing at this point.

Wonder where his Mars is placed.

What you described sounds like a pisces mars - the knight in shining armor coming to rescue the damsel in distress. They like to "fix" people.

could be an aries sun too just as it is...

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True.

Aries sun male to the rescue!!!!

the ultimate Aries sun male!!! he made Iron man!!! 😄

he's gonna save the damsels in distress!! heehee.

@DwellingOnMove

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"Please explain me how this stuff works because if I am used this girl is out in the next second."

You are asking us to give a judgement? And becuase it potentially is a strong judgment, you'll decide for your life based on it? But we are not that wise, you know?

Generally you need to distinguish between different things:

1) if you enjoy helping someone, that does not obligue them to be your love of life.

2) if you fall in love with a queen, you'll have to pay high. or you go seek other kinds of girls.

3) starting a relationship is not the same as living in one for 40 years. It's just starting it.

4) if she has found a good friend in you, why should she give up on your friendship. Independently from the status of the relationship.

5) long distance R is complicated. but who knows? maybe you both could make it. Aqua and Aries make a strong bond.

6) if she had lots of difficulties in her childhood, are you strong for the case of a diagnosed "charater disorder"? I don't know your story. And I think if stronger people can carry such people for a while, they should do it. Not sure if one can carry damaged people for a long time. Maybe if one is a damaged on by himself?

@AceOfSpades

Posted by lisabethur8
the ultimate Aries sun male!!! he made Iron man!!! 😄

he's gonna save the damsels in distress!! heehee.

I can relate 100% to this. My favorite music, my favorite superhero and my favorite Marvel movie until now.

I realised something, she can be with any boy because when I will come to get her no one will stay in my way. Is a fact that she cant resist when I'm there with her... The first time I kissed her was so passionate, like a movie scene, in the rain, she almost fell of her feets there. I want to do that again and I ALWAYS get what I want.

Thanks for support guys, I guess I just needed someone to tell me that I can do it, because now I'm fire. I have to go to gym to lift something xD

@AceOfSpades

damn it, I have to log out on my bro account on pc, Is just messed up to post from 2 diffrent users... you get the idea anyway... thanks for your answers again 😄