Aqua's form of flirting

Out of curiosity...how do you guys flirt? Are you blunt and brazen or do the friendly buddy, buddy type of flirting by teasing and all that jazz.

I would appreciate any and all info.

Thank you all the lovely aquas out there in DXP land.

Posted by tbird
Out of curiosity...how do you guys flirt? Are you blunt and brazen or do the friendly buddy, buddy type of flirting by teasing and all that jazz.

I would appreciate any and all info.

Thank you all the lovely aquas out there in DXP land.

idk if the guys n girls r the same, but i do the more friendly buddy-buddy type. idk can't flirt so it's just easier to treat everyone as a friend lol. n since everyone gets treated the same u'd never know i like u haha. lame i know lol =P

fuk flirting its too tedious I search, seduce and destroy

yeh everytime i flirt they always end up being my friend :S

lol usually when i flirt i smile a lot and throw some witty comments out there

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
yeh everytime i flirt they always end up being my friend :S

Lol

I'd have to agree with aqua21. Its all about talking & being friendly, none of that eyelash batting, hair tossing bimbo act.

And being witty ofcoz, guys like that. It beats a short skirt & pouty lips every single time.

The one who liked me was very touchy-feely. He enjoyed hugging me and picking me up. The other one I knew was a sleaze. Very blunt with his flirting. They are sweet people who's flirting you can't miss

Sometimes I am very blunt, but most times I just stay friendly with light touches here and there with some eye jousting.

I do both. It depends on the person and how many drinks I have had before I get my flirt on! 😉

It depends on how relaxed I am around him and how comfortable he makes me feel (giving me the ok to be myself). Lots of smiles, lots of laughing. Little signs and comments that I care for them more than anything. Daily actions. Glances/Eye contact. Not just listening, but hearing them. Joking, teasing, occasional one liners. The conversational body language of touch when I muster up the courage to start subtly declaring how I feel. I only start to get blunt about my feelings when I am 100% positive they feel the same. I have trust and rejection issues.

Thank you guys I appreciate all of the info.

So if someone calls you adorable or cutie (if you've been talking for a while) or if someone out right flirts with you...lets say for instance you helped them with something major and the other blurts out I could just kiss you. Does that type of flirting make you uncomfortable if your used to the buddy, buddy type of flirting coming from the both of you? Does it make you want to withdrawl or are you alright with that? Do you guys just become quiet or do you reciprocate?

Also if your walking close to each other and the other grabs your hand...would you rather initiate that type of contact or is that welcome? Are random kisses welcome or unwanted? Of course these are all scenerios with you've been talking to a person for a while and have felt comfortable enough to tell them personal information about yourself, in almost every aspect of yourself.

Posted by tbird
Thank you guys I appreciate all of the info.

So if someone calls you adorable or cutie (if you've been talking for a while) or if someone out right flirts with you...lets say for instance you helped them with something major and the other blurts out I could just kiss you. Does that type of flirting make you uncomfortable if your used to the buddy, buddy type of flirting coming from the both of you? Does it make you want to withdrawl or are you alright with that? Do you guys just become quiet or do you reciprocate?

Also if your walking close to each other and the other grabs your hand...would you rather initiate that type of contact or is that welcome? Are random kisses welcome or unwanted? Of course these are all scenerios with you've been talking to a person for a while and have felt comfortable enough to tell them personal information about yourself, in almost every aspect of yourself.

Personally, I respect friendship and I have rejection issues. It depends if it's something I want too - with every essence of me. Like my friend now... If he said that, I'd say something like "what are you waiting for?" or "Then stop talking already". Granted, in the beginning, I would have blushed and shyed away. I think it's how much we've grown together that makes a difference. After remembering a bunch of things, my leo friend, early on, had said something like "Wow, you're great. I wouldn't know what I'd do without you. I love you." in mid-conversation. I made the mistake of saying "No you don't" and just continued with the prior chat. it's an auto defense so-to-speak. But, it was too early and we're just friends.

Being called "adorable" and "cutie" would give me self confidence - as long as the really mean it. Little things put me on a high.

As for initiating, I'm very old fashioned... that first physical move must come from him. After that, it's on.

Random kisses, I love them as long as the feeling is there with it. I can feel fake and whimpy.

Don't spill everything about you at once... keep being mysterious in that way. Example: big pile of leaves. Just fall back into them with all the confidence in the world that you will be safe. It shows a fun loving adventurous side of you without all the talk.

Be upfront and honest with day to day activities.

Thank you aquaquinn!! He does the buddy, buddy type of flirting. When I told him I could kiss him (we had already) I was at home and he wasn't with me. He did get really quiet and didn't text for a while. So I kind of was like oh I just about screwed up now didn't I. So I'm all about communication so I asked if I made him uncomfortable and/or embarrassed. He said I'm not embarrassed. So I was like ok maybe I should refrain for saying stuff like that. lol

As a pisces we have a huge fear of rejection so we usually don't put ourselves out there like that.

@tbird Yes I am sorry but that would cause me to retract too. It is almost like announcing a show of affection and I would not know how to respond to that since most of us go the friends first method.Though on the other hand holding hands sounds like an good idea to me something subtle to let him know your there.

ahh got it aqualad...so note to self don't announce things...just do it? Right or should I just leave that stuff be?

so would you retract because you don't know how to respond or because your uncomfortable with someone stating that?

@tbird just doing it sounds right, but thats just my opinion Venus in Aries makes me want to do things first. I think it's the not knowing how to respond aquas live conversation so if we do not know how to handle one we would not know what to do. It probably did not make him uncomfortable he just did not know what to say back probably because he was expecting you to want something back that is emotional.

@aquaj: lmfao yes he knows how to make a girl swoon! lol

Well hell your gorgeous hun! What guy would turn you down unless he's already in a relationship or not into girls. =)

@aqualad: thank you, thank you, thank you hun. If I knew you irl you would have an abundance of cookies and lemon bars waiting for you. You always break it down for me and help me understand aqua's better. That really made me feel a ton better luv. A million thanks and baked goods.

Posted by tbird
Thank you aquaquinn!! He does the buddy, buddy type of flirting. When I told him I could kiss him (we had already) I was at home and he wasn't with me. He did get really quiet and didn't text for a while. So I kind of was like oh I just about screwed up now didn't I. So I'm all about communication so I asked if I made him uncomfortable and/or embarrassed. He said I'm not embarrassed. So I was like ok maybe I should refrain for saying stuff like that. lol

As a pisces we have a huge fear of rejection so we usually don't put ourselves out there like that.

I supposedly have a Pisces moon. I always wear my heart on my sleeve... unfortunately it keeps getting broken.

aww aquaquinn...honey I hear you about that. Mine does too. I give it away to the wrong people. Either they keep it and break it or just plain ol don't want it. That's why I'm trying to be cautious with the aqua. He's a slippery slope, nice guy but I can't read him which kinda allures me and worries me at the same time. :/

Hahaha aquaj, u go girl!!

@tbird: I'm always here to help you know that. I do wish I could get those cookies and lemon bars though I freakin fancy those things. My mouth is tingling at the thought well I guess it's time to call that scorp sis of mine to seduce her in to making me baked goods. 🙂

@Watercup: 'ello there how's life been going lately.

Hey lad, see u've been doing great too. Lmao at your 'colourful' friend. Raibows are fun, dont be colour blind now. It must have been your aqua man hips that did it for Rainbowman. Ahahaha

@thehealer: You find that sexy? Oh I didn't know that. I'm always afraid it will be unwanted so if I muster up the courage to do it...I always do it shyly. I just softly grab his hand and look in the opposite direction and when he accepts it I look up at him and back down at the ground and just smile a bit. Then move on quickly to a conversation lol.

*blushes and swoops foot in a back and forth manner* goodness me your adorable. He gets quiet a lot especially after I randomly kiss him or anything a bit affectionate. I don't smother him with it and I only do it once in a while and I don't linger I do it then move onto my own corner. 🙂

Oh I only say it in texts because I don't want to make him uncomfortable and plus I can get pretty shy around him sometimes. But I always mean it and it's always from my heart. I'm not an arse kisser.

@Watercup: lol thanks first experience their I really do not know why guys are scared of the sort must not be very comfortable with their sexuallity who knows. Yes it probably was these hips my friend always says they taught shikira how to dance mabye a little bit of that rubbed off on me.

Aqua (Air) guys are great as friends .... upfront and direct, the WORLD is their friend(s). Emotionality connection(s) is questionable if you are a water or earth sign. I had a great friendship for 2 years with an Aqua .... he couldn't get past his former connection with a Leo female (Fire) He wanted to stay and keep in touch, needless to say, the inevitable Cancer .... SWITCH! Cancers can say "goodbye" in the blink of the eye.

Posted by tbird
Thank you guys I appreciate all of the info.

So if someone calls you adorable or cutie (if you've been talking for a while) or if someone out right flirts with you...lets say for instance you helped them with something major and the other blurts out I could just kiss you. Does that type of flirting make you uncomfortable if your used to the buddy, buddy type of flirting coming from the both of you? Does it make you want to withdrawl or are you alright with that? Do you guys just become quiet or do you reciprocate?

Also if your walking close to each other and the other grabs your hand...would you rather initiate that type of contact or is that welcome? Are random kisses welcome or unwanted? Of course these are all scenerios with you've been talking to a person for a while and have felt comfortable enough to tell them personal information about yourself, in almost every aspect of yourself.

im not good w/ too many compliments (makes sense leos r our polar opposites lol). i get shy, blush look down, won't kno wut to say, etc. but if someone initiated makin moves like kissing AND i liked them, yeeeah i wouldn't stop n would def go along haha. im just not good w/ mushy stuff so i never initiate things in the intimacy field. id rather let someone misread my motives than to ever get mushy. all my bf's were pretty much the aggressive ones so yeah lol.

if i like them ill let them hold my hand. that's a lil innocent. but too much cuddling, ill push them off after awhile cuz its too suffocating which can be misinterpreted so mayb its jst about personal preferences? n ill feel comfortable to tell someone about personal things about myself if i feel like they can be a potential close friend.

hope tht helped! 🙂

Posted by CrabTwinsFish
needless to say, the inevitable Cancer .... SWITCH! Cancers can say "goodbye" in the blink of the eye.

i can c that but dont cancers still linger afterwards? like they can say bye but they don't really cut ties "inside" w/ anyone. i cud b wrong but just wanted to kno if tht was true. ive seen past love interests + friends still pop up after time has gone by. is that true?

Posted by thehealer
if he likes you he goes quiet

Lol that's true for me. so funny cuz i feel like aquas can talk about anything n everything. but once the topic is about emotional stuff -- i have no words haha

@aquarius21: thanks for posting! Yes it did help. Thank you! I would say your right about the cancer. They will stay with the relationship even if it's destroyed because they know you as a person and rather rebuild than try to build up trust with another person. But this is with personal experience with one. He rather stay in comfortable warm waters.

He's SO like that. He can talk up a storm but he clams up sometimes outta no where or if I'll grab his hand or randomly smooch him. He will smile and just go really quiet. I'll think uh oh, but now I know that it's nothing to worry about. lol

@thehealer: aww your so freaking sweet. Well he isn't my bf...hopefully in time that will change but if he wants to keep it as friends I will adhere to his wishes and be content. I wouldn't cut him out of my life for that decision. He's too awesome. lol @ the little bunnies comment. That's good that your friend is safe.

lol not really flattering just calling it how I see it.

They are pretty blunt and use many witty lines too. It's the stare as well, weird and intense. I remember I hugged my Aqua's guy friend and forgot to hug him (at that time we were just friends), he'd look upset and said "can I have a hug too?" and then openned his arms wide! So cute!
They like to tease you alot too if they're Feb Aqua. The Jan Aqua are more reserved and try to be more helpful than teasing.My hubby loves to see me blush. I'd usually say "you made me blush" whenever he gave me compliments and then my cheeks looked quite red!He'd then stare at me quietly 🙂

Awww exam! You two are so freaking adorable.

I get teased A LOT. Doesn't bother me I'm used to that form of affection from my family.

Yep, Cancers can linger ONLY because we "don't burn bridges." NOT that a love interest still or does exist. I can "goodbye" or detach .... let a man go into his "cave" for day, weeks, OR months, whatever they might need, and then they might, or might not reappear. Accept it gracefully. Guys need that disconnect. I don't question ... inquire .... interrogate ... or other. I have given several the benefit of doubt .... have said "" take care of what you need to do for yourself." DO NOT CHASE him, question him, or appear desperate. John Gray wrote about this in his book "Men are from Mars .... Women are from Venus." Eventually, some men will reappear because they CAN'T share emotional feelings or personal circumstances with their guy friends ........... SO ... they reappear to TALK and VENT with the ONE woman they feel they can TRUST!!!!!!! (aka SECURITY) This is NOT new information for women to learn and understand. It's been out for YEARS!!!...........

@tbird: you're certainly braver than me. I'm quite shy and blush very easily. I'm pretty clumsy at showing affection too and it always backfire whenever I try. I just get more awkward when feeling involved 😄

@CrabTwinsFish: Do you mean you stopped being friend with the Aqua because he's still in contact with the Leo female? may I ask why? Did she do something bad to you? (quote)"Yep, Cancers can linger ONLY because we "don't burn bridges." NOT that a love interest still or does exist" . Uhm, how do you know the Leo female is still important to your Aqua friend? Maybe he's just like you, i.e. no need to burn bridges.

(quote) "John Gray wrote about this in his book "Men are from Mars .... Women are from Venus."
I actually disagree with this statement. I think we're from the Earth so we should be honest with one another about what we want. We might not be good at something the others are good at but it doesn't mean that we can't complement for one another.

(quote) "they reappear to TALK and VENT with the ONE woman they feel they can TRUST"
You're possibly right about that but the woman needs to keep in mind too that she might just be a "waste bin" for the guy to dump all his negative feeling since he can't find another who is as patient as her. I have a very good Leo guy friend and he always comes to me to speak about his trouble and then apologize afterwards. I always tell him "I'm your wastebin. Feel free to dump everything. I can take it" LOL! It's always nice to have someone listen to you. That's what friends are for 🙂

@exam: I dunno I'm not too brave. I'll imagine how I'm gonna do it on the drive there, ponder it while I'm there awaiting my opportunity and keep psyching myself out. When I finally do I'll go over to very quickly (I'm surprised I don't scare the shite out of him lol) It's like a flash of flesh out of no where then bam a kiss then flash back to me being away from him. 🙂

My heart beats out of my chest before and after and then the shyness kicks in full blown. I'll put my hands in my lap or go into the fetal position while sitting. He usually gives me a smile then gets quiet. He's probably thinking I'm a dork, but meh what can I say. That's what I am.

With the hand holding there is a ton of more apprehension to it. I don't want him to think I'm clinging. I mean a kiss can be fast well when I usually initiate it (only once there was an exception) but hand holding is lingering. I have that holy hell what if he's like just get the fudge away from me. 😢

@tbird: Lol,I know I've said this but I'll say again: you're so so cute!!! Your story intrigued me . Are you guys dating or still friends?

I think I have a different idea about hand holding. I actually find it very friendly (perhaps it's because I've held my best friend , a girl's hand for many years even when she had chicken box!) and alot of comfort in it. Just kind of like "I understand you. No need for more words". I remember the first time I held my Aqua husband's hand was after he climbed down a very tall tree in our university's library. I told him "you looked like a hero up there!" I then gave him a hug and said "Can I hold your hand?" We held hand and I started skipping along and he did it too. We were just so happy like "babies" who just knew how to walk the first time At that time, I just saw him like some kind of childhood friend. Do you ever get that feeling? Even though he wasn't but somehow he brought out my childlike side that I try to repress and hide from others for the sake of my mum. He reminded me of my childhood. Just very comfortable. Like a nice breeze in summer ( even though it was freaking cold that night!). He ,on the other hand, told me later that it gave him more courage to confess his feeling for me. It was a misunderstanding but it was the "best" misunderstanding. We might not match each other's pace due to our different nature but as we skipped along together, we feel like the pace has matched us (if that makes any sense)

*blushes* awww...thank you! So are you! 🙂 We are in the middle of the two right now. Kind of like in limbo land if that makes sense. lol It's a little more than friendship but not exclusive. Yeah he opened up to me and told me a lot of things about how he feels about us.

"Just kind of like "I understand you. No need for more words"."

AWWWWWwww that makes my heart squishy!

"I remember the first time I held my Aqua husband's hand was after he climbed down a very tall tree in our university's library. I told him "you looked like a hero up there!" I then gave him a hug and said "Can I hold your hand?" We held hand and I started skipping along and he did it too."

Exam....MY GOD! Ok I will share something with you luv. While reading this exact quote above I was listening a song called world sick by broken social scene. Now there's a break down part where everything crescendos and he says I get world sick, every time I take a stand, well I get world sick, my love is for my man. My goodness me. Moments such as these are where the greatest love stories are made and inspiration is drawn from. I teared up because when a pisces read description such as these we actually see it in our mind. We aren't reading we're watching a movie. Oh lord that made my heart so full, it could burst and produce confetti, sunshine and fluffy white bunnies. The combination of both your words and that music. *le sigh*

It makes perfect sense. Oh god...yes he makes me feel like a giddy school girl. I'm never that girl. One time when we were out at the zoo looking at the lights and we stopped at a trash can on fire for heat (yes they did the hobo heating system) I just looked at him and with the fire going reflecting thru his big ol' eyes and him giving me that aqua look. Oh man, just being around all the twittering lights and him talking about any and everything and then getting quiet and walking really close by, step in step, then noticing he's not looking at the lights he's been looking at me the entire time. I had to fight the urge of telling him please don't do that your going to make me fall. Yeah he gives me the sense of comfort and security like I had when I was a kid. *blushes* Darn it! *clenches fist* son of a biscuit eater.

@ Exam
Nope, my Aqua friend and I just didn't connect emotionally. I never met his former Leo girlfriend .. BUT he spoke and referred to her far too often when we spent time together. More often than I I was comfortable with, for our friendship? relationship? could go to another place. We never spoke about it, but eventually we grew apart, but I believe HE also knew that we were not for each other, although we cared for, and looked out for each other. It was bittersweet.

@ Exam
Nope, my Aqua friend and I just didn't connect emotionally. I never met his former Leo girlfriend .. BUT he spoke and referred to her far too often when we spent time together. More often than I I was comfortable with, for our friendship? relationship? could go to another place. We never spoke about it, but eventually we grew apart, but I believe HE also knew that we were not for each other, although we cared for, and looked out for each other. It was bittersweet.