Are aquarius men commitment phobes??

are aquarius guys commitment phobes?? my sis is dating one and everything was going great until he started acting all cold on her and doesnt call her as often as he used to...they are dating 3 months now and he hasnt said anything about a bf/gf title...so is this their behaviour??

Its pretty normal.
About the gf/bf...we dont like it and feel more comfortable without. Its got a bad connotation with us. Things only get complicated when it is used, the word comes with so much expectations you know?

Like the ladies said, if its not your sis' cup of tea nip in the butt right now or move.
(side note: we dont like being told what to do)

are aquarius guys commitment phobes?? my sis is dating one and everything was going great until he started acting all cold on her and doesnt call her as often as he used to...they are dating 3 months now and he hasnt said anything about a bf/gf title...so is this their behaviour??

how does one equal the other? only 3 months and exactly what sort of commitment are we talking here?

eitherway, your sis has to seek what she wants and not play to anyone's tune. Everyone has a completely different definition

and absence makes the heart grow fonder 🙂

And from what I see on these boards, the most popular relationships that end in a state of disrepair involve Aquarians.

So keep believing that familiarity breeds contempt and strictly adhering to absence as a relationship builder. And keep pushing away some of the most loving, loyal and devoted people you'll meet.

After all, you guys are always right and perfect and obviously inflexible, so everyone else must conform to you.

Self centered s!uts using freedom as an excuse to be promiscuous. Hmph!

Worse than a saltine cracker, wooh.

Lol! I am! That Aquarian man did a number on me you hear! Love the girls tho!

I hear ya sistah!

Stop!! Lol

🙂

In my experience, they keep it light until such time when they can trust you with their heart. Calling it a relationship opens up for hurt - and boy do they protect themselves against hurt. Why— Because deep down they hurt a lot in love. More than most I think.

So your sister, provided she's getting everything else she needs from the relationship should take it day by day. The best way to be in the beginning stages of a relationship with an Aqua is casual. He will act distant...it seems to be a regular trait with these men when they start feeling more than friendship (and trust me they can be sleeping with you and still only think of it as friendship). For them sex and love aren't necessarily one. Sex with love is better of course but not part of the criteria.

If she likes him enough she should just go with the flow...enjoy the time apart because if and when the shoe does finally drop he'll want her around 24/7.
It's not a selfish trait it's just his way of making 100% sure he wants to take it to the next level...he may he may not but pushing him and asking him why he's doing this ain't going to help. Just let him be.

and absence makes the heart grow fonder

but can sever emotional ties making the heart go cooler, on the other hand, no?

Why do people insist on being with their significant others soo extensively— No wonder some relationships end up in such a state of disrepair! You know what they say..."Familiariaty breeds contempt!"

It's not a selfish trait

It can be...

so is her wanting commitment

"are aquarius guys commitment phobes?? my sis is dating one and everything was going great until he started acting all cold on her and doesnt call her as often as he used to...they are dating 3 months now and he hasnt said anything about a bf/gf title...so is this their behaviour??"

Will your Aquarian use the L word with you after 3 weeks or 3 months of knowing you? NO. Will your Aquarian turn down something he's been waiting for for a long time? NO. In the beginning, Aquarians see no rush when it comes to a commitment b/c they take it very seriously. They are turned off more by those who seek love just for the sake of being able to say that they have love. They want things to be REAL first & if it's only been 3 months, don't take his "distance" as him not caring. He loves others on his OWN terms, not on others. And if others are rushing or seem TOO eager for something that has not yet been earned or proven (in his mind) then he will shy away from that person & assume that person needs or craves him for all the wrong reasons.

In the beginning, your Aquarian is observing you very closely. He's making sure that the two of you are intellectually connecting in the moment AND can possibly have the same connection long term. He's testing to see if the two of you have the same mindset & morals about things. He's making sure that what he's feeling is REAL & not just some rush of adrenaline OR lust that alot of women & men get when they first meet someone. Aquarian men believe that "what glitters is not always gold" & he will keep reminding himself of this every time he can sense his partner focusing on the "title" instead of just letting the relationship play itself out.. It's not that he's necessarily waiting on you to mess up, but instead he's making sure that he doesn't attach to something too quickly that he'll end up losing interest of 3 months down the road. He's actually doing you a favor by letting "time" tell the fate of your relationship so that just in case things don't work out, he can say that it didn't work out b/c HE personally didn't take things slow or do things right. When your Aquarian is observing all of these things, it takes alot of time. Even if he starts to fall for you, he'll still take a step back & make sure he still feels that way next week & he does this as just a reassurance that what the 2 of you have is just as real to HIM than it is to you.

Krys said it very well....there it is.

well we didn't really hear from the actual person in the relationship, so this is just one possible theory but sounds good eitherway...

my common theme with Aqua males is that the distance is used to pursue other things including dating others... your sis should make sure she seeks what she wants...

You're cool K7......you pretty much sum up what I write in my journal.

"my common theme with Aqua males is that the distance is used to pursue other things including dating others... your sis should make sure she seeks what she wants..."

True. But I mean there could also be 1 million other (innocent) reasons why he's acting this way too. I wrote my opinion with the assumption that he is being faithful to you. How Aquarian men act when they're being unfaithful (and distant) is almost completely different than how they act when they are being faithful (and distant). The answer to the question comes down to simple communication. If you guys can't atleast talk about this & if your Aqua can sense that you're not trying to connect to him even though you sense something is wrong or figure him out through direct & straight-forward communication, that could also be another reason for his behavior.

Some times Aquas just take a step back either b/c:
1. They noticed a flaw in their partner & need some time to figure out if he's going to be willing to overlook it or reject you for it.
2. They are testing your patience & are waiting on you to ask the simple question "what's wrong" & once that's asked, you'd be suprised at how open & flowing he becomes with his emotions
Or 3. Either he's falling too quick for you or he can sense that you're falling to quickly for him.

And in any of these 3 situations (if any apply & are the actual reason for his behavior), are the case, then I wouldn't take it as a personal rejection from him. He's taking a step BACK, not moving on completely. Him taking a step back means that you still have one foot in his door. If he didn't want you & if you did something OR didn't do something to the extreme that he felt he needed to cut you off, he would've cut out the middle man & cut you off completely. So be glad for that. I think if you'd just talk to him, you'd get your answer. It's so hard to come up with the right words & the right "delivery" but for the sake of the relationship/friendship & future with him, it's worth giving it a try.