Are they serious or just being sarcastic?

Just quick question out of curiosity.

I have noticed in the past that the aquas males I know are sarcastic especially when it comes to asking me questions or inviting me somewhere. When I thought they were inviting me somewhere they were just being sarcastic because they didn't want to go wherever they had plans to go to. So at first it was kind of a let down to know that I wasn't really being invited (though in their eyes i'm always welcome).

Then there have been times where I swear I was being invited but I didn't say anything so I'm not sure if it was an actual invite.

I know I could ask if it was an actual invite but it kind of was out of the blue and it kind of took me by surprise i didn't know what to say.

I don't know...it didn't seem like they were sitting/standing there waiting for me to react. It looked like a sincere invite but since in the past the past invitations were "sarcasm", I didn't react this most recent time with an answer I just said "I've always wanted to go, who's going?"

And they said oh just friends and family and then he changed the subject to something else so I don't know if it was a legitimate invite LOL.

Now that I thought about it i should have, but it happened so quick 😢.

I wish I was invited, it was for a place that I wanted to go to but my OWN friends didn't want to go.

Is it true that Aquas say whatever they say because they naturally think or don't understand that OTHER people prefer to keep things Politically correct.

I mean aquas are the only ones I know who are totally transparent and don't care what people think of them.

Well now I know next time I'll just ask directly, beats wondering lol.

Yeah sometimes the aquas say things that just should have been kept to themselves or when they find something funny and they keep laughing at it even though its something that the other person found embarrasing

My tolerance of dealing with ambiguity makes me brave 😄

Not the mystery so much, but the possibility of what the truth could be 😉

I'm a libra moon.

My chart is:

Sun Scorpio 23.42
Moon Libra 17.57
Mercury Sagittarius 1.46 R
Venus Sagittarius 15.10
Mars Leo 28.32
Jupiter Virgo 7.49
Saturn Virgo 24.45
Uranus Scorpio 21.27
Neptune Sagittarius 19.16
Pluto Libra 20.29
Lilith Virgo 14.27
Asc node Virgo 4.47


What I like about the aqua that I like is the fact that he's very direct in terms of he says whatever he feels like saying. He doesn't keep things private and if he does its usually things that normally would be private, but he's not above making fun of himself or others. I also like the fact that he's humble in the sense that he doesn't think he's attractive or at least he doesn't realize it. He also has a strong sense of responsibility and obligations. And he's intelligent and financially stable/knowledgable.

What I don't like about aquas and him is I don't know if he takes me seriously. I mean in terms of importance. Am I important to him or not, since aquas treat even aquaintances equal as much as their friends or loved ones. Also, I can't understand how sometimes he's so I don't know what to call it. But guarded. Like I'm sick and have been for the past week...it was super serious up until probably today, and everyone that we know has asked me at some point within the past week would check in with me to see how I'm doing, that they hope i feel better...but did this aqua? Nope. He didn't mention it ones. Even when someone is sad, he doesn't do anything. He always seems to act like he doesn't notice, even though he may casually bring it up. Almost as if you can't reach him.

Posted by feby
Almost as if he's there but he's not there?

I'm a libra moon too btw you know this. It's probably one of the reasons why I'm so comfy in our posts together.

My boyfriend teases me sometimes and calls me 'ms compassion.' What if you tried to talk to him about it? Not like to change him or anything but just an innocent convo about it and maybe it will get him to think....

Exactly! It's like the other post somewhere where he got me this baby Xmas tree with like 60 worth of gift cards expensive gift. It was the best gift i've ever gotten. But the way he gave it to me was like he was just throwin me a bone...like he was doing it just cause that's what people do...give gifts. He didn't talk about the gift, nor did he say anything at the get together. Basically acted like I wasn't there.

But yet he told my friend recently for this year's christmas he didn't know what to get me cause obviously i didn't like the tree. She was like WTF, why would you think she didn't like it. She loved it.

He thinks I didn't like it but I thought he didn't give a crap. Like he doesn't react, or acts like he isn't even paying attention, but obviously this week he knew I was sick because he eventually brought up the fact I was sick but the point was he didn't once act concerned I was sick or offer solutions like everyone else did. Makes people think aquas don't care LOL. That's what I hate about aquas.

We've talked about similar stuff before, all he does is just look at me and not say anything. LOL I don't want to even bother if I'm going to get the same result.

Maybe so LOL

But it never used to be like this! I only started being this way cause he started this crap first!!!!

😄

Posted by IAmMystified
Just quick question out of curiosity.

I have noticed in the past that the aquas males I know are sarcastic especially when it comes to asking me questions or inviting me somewhere. When I thought they were inviting me somewhere they were just being sarcastic because they didn't want to go wherever they had plans to go to. So at first it was kind of a let down to know that I wasn't really being invited (though in their eyes i'm always welcome).

Then there have been times where I swear I was being invited but I didn't say anything so I'm not sure if it was an actual invite.

I know I could ask if it was an actual invite but it kind of was out of the blue and it kind of took me by surprise i didn't know what to say.

Seems to me that your insecurity is your downfall.

Posted by IAmMystified
Well now I know next time I'll just ask directly, beats wondering lol.

Oh, come on mystified, you KNOW by now that aquas like people who are direct. Call them out on their crap and they will respect you.

Posted by feby

Posted by IAmMystified
My tolerance of dealing with ambiguity makes me brave 😄

Lol! It's the mystery that intrigues you perhaps?

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It intrigues me. 🙂

Posted by feby
Lol!!! Exactly! Haha.

I'll give you an example of something with me. My boyfriend got me a necklace and a bracelet with our birthstones and names engraved in it. I know I said thank you but I didn't say anything much after that. It's been bothering me on and off that I feel like he could think I don't like them because of my lack of enthusiasm.

Come to think of it you have inspired me to tell him that info appreciate it. I'll check in with him and make sure he knows. Because I know he took a lot of time to find these gifts for me and aquamarine and amethyst look so good together 🙂

I haven't taken either off though since Christmas. I have a hard time, like I'm
Awkward in situations where I'm expected to show emotions in the spotlight.

That's great you are going to tell him. We don't expect you guys to show emotions, its more like show some gradient of reaction. like even just saying "OMG thank you" the omg means something more than average reaction. Make sense?

Posted by feby
Yes yes. I will try to be more outwardly showing of my gratitude. I just feel so corny doing it sometimes.

Gratitude = corny?

Would never imagined showing appreciation would feel awkward or rather corny/cheesy

nothing wrong with showing appreciation, not sure why you all feel weird about it.

Posted by feby

Posted by IAmMystified
nothing wrong with showing appreciation, not sure why you all feel weird about it.

Well I'm not sure either. Probably not all of us are like this. Maybe it's relative to maturity / spiritual journey / life experience.
I'm a lot different now than I was 10 years ago.

Maybe in 10 years I won't be such a silly dumbo when it comes to stuff like that 🙂

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Maybe. At least for me, those things matter because as most people are a product of their environment which includes physical experiences they share with others but also verbal and non verbal communication. It's hard if not impossible to go through life without being given any some sort of feedback. If we don't, we form biases about that individual becuase that's all we have to go on.

I hope I make sense cause I don't think I do anymore lol.

You know what I don't get either.

They know and we all know they do things in a different way and react a different way to social situations (more logic).

At least with the aquas I know, they will freely admit that they don't know how to be in social situations other than the fake charisma or the "on" behavior as true cap says occasionally.

But if they see other poeple (other signs) reacting in social situations and get the results that aqua desire then why wouldn't they emulate them especially when they aren't getting the reactions they typically weren't wanting.

Posted by feby
So a mixture of enjoying trolling and stubbornness, at least for me 😄

So basically what you are saying is you guys do what you guys do regardless of what everyone else is doing and if you don't get the result youw ant then its a "who cares?" situation?

I'm just so confused as to why you guys do the things you do even though you know it makes everything worse!